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I'm in my first year in college and it is a little crazy. There are a lot of good looking girls, it's overwhelming. On that note, I am having a problem mainly due to that. I notice a lot of girls stare at me or take long, multiple looks (which I do the same to them). Even walking down the street, I've passed groups of girls and I hear them saying, "That guy was hot." But my problem is I could never approach someone. In high school, I always was involved in something they were involved with so I got to know them and they got to know me. Here, it's very different. There are girls I see a few times a week that I would like to talk to but can't because I wouldn't know what to say or do. In addition, I would be too afraid of the, "Who was that and why was he over here?" I am not very confident in myself enough (though I should be). I don't consider myself very attractive but the girls I would like to see are very attractive so I figure they are "out of my league" (which I don't think I should because I always find them looking or glancing over every few minutes or whatnot). I am friends with some very attractive girls that I would like to go out with but they all have boyfriends of 1+ years so I'm still looking. Any tips would be appreciated. Thanks

He might have gotten scared. Girls have the image of their "perfect wedding" by the time of your age (or at least all of my friends had) and guys don't want to start thinking of it. He might have realized he's not ready for such a commitment and decided to enjoy what he has currently before he has to go into the "real world." A relationship is a huge part of someone life and some of the time, it takes up most of your time so you are unable to enjoy your friends or what not.

I had the same thing happen to me (sort of) and felt the same way as you did towards your boyfriend as I did for my girlfriend. I was leaving for college and she felt hurt that I was leaving and she wouldn't be able to see me often. She went on a trip and when she got back, she tried to distance herself from me to "not feel as hurt when I left for college" (but I felt that she met someone new since she wouldn't stop talking about some guy). We broke up a little while after that because she wanted me to "meet other girls and have fun in college." Well, I'm in college and haven't found anyone new. It seems as though whenever I meet someone I am attracted to and might like them more once I got to know them better, they end up having a boyfriend. I feel lonely and I still have a piece of my old girlfriend in my heart, which right now, I want to see if there's a possiblity to get back together. I talked to her for the first time in a couple months a few days ago and we're going to talk again in a few days. I hope everything works out the best for you because I know exactly what you're going through right now.

What would be the best way to ease back into it though? I'm not going to come straight out and tell her I want to try and get back together when we've only talked a couple times in two months. I want her to get used to me again and see that I'm the same person.

I want to get back into a relationship with her but if not, be friends. I would be honest but I don't know how she would react to it. I think if I were to be blunt, she could think of it as a relationship or nothing, but hopefully I'm wrong. She gives me signals whenever I see her or talk to her but whenever I talk to her best friend about it, she said she "doesn't like me like that anymore" (this was a month after we broke up). The one time I did talk to her about it (around the same time), we agreed to discuss it more later but when I called her (her best friend was over when I called), she changed her mind and she didn't need to talk about it anymore or something along that line.

I broke up with my ex in August. We basically broke up because I was going to college and she was still in high school. I didn't have any contact with her for about a month but I stopped by and talked to her the night before I left for college (I was planning on staying for 5 minutes but it turned into 2 hours). After that, we said we'd still talk when I'm at school but her brother ended up deflating my tires and told me never to talk to his sister again and that she doesn't want to see/talk to me again plus I had a grudge against them after that. I went 2 months without contact but one of her old friends said my she was saying that I'm still "bothering" her. I e-mailed her the next day asking her what's going on and telling her that we're both being stupid and would like it to end. She got online later that night, she hasn't been online in months (she isn't really into the computers or the internet) and I guess that night was the first time she has checked her e-mail in months and she said if she didn't check it that night, it would have been at least a month until she would have checked it, and told me that I'm not bothering her at all, so I guess her friend was lying to me. We talked for a little bit until we both had to leave and I asked her if it would be ok if I called her later and she said that was fine. It will probley be a few weeks until I will be able to call her but I want to see if there's a possibility that we could get back together. The problem is, I don't know what steps to take. I could wait until we get close again before we start dating but the only way I see that happening is if we spend time together, which is what I'm unsure about. What do I do? Ask if she wants to do something? To me, that's basically asking her out again, which I don't really want to do right off the bat. Any suggestions to how I could ease back into this would help. Thank you

In middle school, I was stupid and got real mad when my "girlfriend" talked to any other guy. In high school, I eased up a lot but I still have some. I had a problem involving jealousy with my last girlfriend; we broke up because she "wanted me to meet new girls and have fun in college." We were great in the first two months until she went on a trip for a week. She came back and I guess she had gotten real close with one of her friends (she had a crush on him before she had a crush on me). She never stopped talking about him for awhile after she got back and when we went out to an art fair, she thought that she saw his car. We went to dinner and see kept looking out the window at the people passing by. I felt as though she was looking for him. Later on, I heard that she danced with him, hung out with him and always hugged him (I was a little jealous because we never did anything like dance or what not). I was pretty annoyed but I didn't let it bug me. A month later or so, she went to band camp. I guess there they always hung out alone together and she held his instrument and what not. During the week, I found out that she tried to "stop liking me" because she didn't want to feel heart broken when I leave. We broke up when she got back from camp. Thinking about what I heard, I did not trust her and thought she could have been cheating. Anyone else have an opinion?

I don't think it is cheating. In my opinion, I think he has taken you for granted.

Thanks for taking the time to read and respond to my post. The situation between us when she was gone the second time wasn't good. I told her that it felt like our relationship was lop sided and that's when she told me that she tried to distance herself (stop liking me). When I heard that, I was completely shocked and basically didn't know what to do. I left a message on her phone a few hours after thinking and told her we should seriously think about if we should really stay together when I leave for college. I guess we were both a reck that week, she was crying and didn't know what to do and I was very depressed and didn't know what to do aswell. We were going to see what happens when we see each other again but I surprised her a day before we were going to do something and that's when she broke up with me. My college is only 1 hour away so there really isn't a distance between us. I told her that I would be home during the weekends about every two weeks for either my birthday or my brothers birthday or labor day or homecoming or ..... I was my girlfriends first serious relationship so she's new to all of this. I'm a little new but not as much as she is; I've had relationships in the past. One part of my brain tells me that I should move on and let her move on but another part of my brain still wants to be with her. When I talked to her on the phone thursday night, the part of my brain that wants her to move on was helping her find/deal with another guy. I know that it's not something I should really be doing but we are great together whether we have a relationship or not. I want to help her if she has a problem, which is what I was doing there. She is doing the samething that I am doing. When she asked if I found someone new and I told her that I had met 2 other girls and spent sometime with them, she sounded positive. She said that maybe a relationship can come from it but I told her that I doubt anything will happen considering I would probley never see them again due to the campus having over 35,000 people. Like I said, when I talked to her best friend, she made it sound like my ex- hated me. I thought that I should give my ex- some space because it sounded like she didn't want to see me but I said screw it and called her up and she was happy that I did. After we talked and I was saying bye, she told me to call her anytime and/or send e-mails and/or etc. When I called her thursday, she said taht she was wondering how everything was going and was happy that I called. From my perspective, it seems to me that she still likes and cares about me but I'm too much of a wimp to flat out ask her. I'm thinking about calling her up this weekend, while I'm home, and seeing if we can meet to have a talk and see what's going on. I just want some closure to this; basically a yes or a no.

One thing that I dont understand is when she told me to call her whenever I come home, does that mean she wants to do something? The reason why I called her up a couple nights ago was because I was coming home and I called her up to tell her that. I didn't ask if she wanted to do anything because I think it would be weird since we're not together anymore. I asked her what she meant by saying "call me whenever you come home" and she said it was basically to call her to talk. It's confusing me because when someone says "call me whenever you come home", I think of that as if they want to do something but when I asked her what she meant by it, it seemed as though she didn't want to do anything.

My girlfriend and I broke up after a little more then 3 months about a month ago. I'm now at college while she's still in high school which is the reason why we broke up. She went on a trip this summer for a week and during that week, she basically tried to distance herself from me so when I left for college, she wouldn't feel heart broken. I didn't know that she tried to do this and when she got back, it was like everything was normal. She went on another trip for a week and during that week, she told me over the phone that she tried to distance herself (stop liking me) so she wouldn't feel heart broken but she realised that she couldn't stop liking me. When she got back and we saw each other, she broke up with me because she wanted me to "have fun and meet other girls at college." I took this pretty hard because I was in love with her and it was all over. We didn't really talk for about 2 weeks until we talked online. I told her best friend that I still had feelings for my ex- and her best friend told my ex- this. My ex- asked me online if I still liked her. I told her that I did and I missed her. She told me to forget about her because she "hurt me too much." I tried to get details out of her about why she felt this way but she had to leave. When we were talking, she said that she still had some feelings but she didn't know how to get what she felt into words or something along that line (it was a little while ago so I forget what exactly she said). I asked her if she wanted to talk about this later and she said yes. It seemed as though she still liked me but nothing would happen because I was about to leave for college. I called her up a few days later and asked if she wanted to talk about it and she said "no" and that she's "fine now." She was with her best friend when I called her and I feel as though her best friend wants me to stay away from her and she tries whatever she can to try and do that by telling lies to me and her and etc. From what her bestfriend told me, it seemed as though my ex- hated me. The night before I left for college, I called my ex- up to see if I could come over and say "bye" before I left. I thought it was going to be a quick 10 minute stop but it turned into 2 hours. We walked around and talked about everything that happened in our lives during the 3 weeks that we didn't talk. When I had to leave to go home and pack, we hugged and while we were hugging, she said that she was "really going to miss" me and that she wanted me to call her whenever I was home. The way she was acting and the things she said, I felt as though she still likes me. I talked to her a couple nights ago to check in and see how everything was going. We talked for about an hour and everything was great but when I talked to her again, I started to think about her and how much I missed her. Right after I talked to her, her bestfriend IM'ed me and we got to talking. I told her that I had just gotten off the phone with my ex- (i'm trying not to use any names. sorry if it's confusing) and my ex-'s bestfriend started wondering why I would talk to her and etc. I think she called my ex- up to see what we talked about and crap hit the fan and all in all, I never want to speak to my ex-'s bestfriend again because she didn't like that I called my ex- and didn't like somethings that we talked about and was basically criticising me about everything. I asked my ex- if she has found any new guys and she said "there's a guy that likes me but other then that, not really." She asked me if I found anyone new and told her about the 2 girls I had met, at that time it was only 2 girls. I was helping my ex- with the guy who likes her and her bestfriend called me a "loser" because I was her ex and I was helping her with other guys. She also said that I was going to fail out of college and I was immature and irresponseable because I had gotten with 2 girls and I got drunk a couple of times. While drunk last night, I talked to one of my friends girlfriend about it and she told me to call my ex- to check in every once and a while and make sure she still knew that I liked her. After that, while still drunk, I left a long message on my ex-'s voicemail that told her how I felt about her. I can't really remember what I said but I know the basic ideas of what I said. I haven't talked to her since then and I know that she hasn't gotten my voicemail yet because she rarely checks her phone messages. I know that some people might say, "you're in college and there are plenty of other girls out there" but I dont feel that way right now. I've been with 3 girls while at college and they don't even compare to my ex- even though I had great nights with those girls and I had a lot in common with all of them. I don't know what I should do. I really want to date my ex- again but I dont want to ask her about it because I don't know exactly how she feels and I would feel stupid if I ask and she says no or something.

I'm not sure if this is where I should post this but I was just wondering whether I should see my ex-girlfriend before I leave for college? I talked to her best friend for advice and to see if it is a good or a bad idea but her friend said that she's "weird on the subject" (subject is seeing me). I honestly don't know what's going on between us at the moment considering I think she still likes me a little but at other times, it seems like she hates me. Anyone have any suggestions?

Also, this is her first serious relationship as well as mine but i've dated more then she had

I have been together with my girlfriend for 3 and a half months. We have a great relationship. We agree on almost everything. We never disagree and always get along except for what I'm about to say. She tells me she wants to do something and see me but sometimes she says that she can't do anything when it comes time to do something. When she tells me that she can't, it's always too late. It leaves me out to dry due to it being too late to make any plans with my friends without being up too late; I have to wake up for work at 5:30am. I don't fault her but I just can't help feeling sad when this happens. It bugs me a lot whenever she says she can't do anything or tells me that she'll call me but doesn't. Also, when I tell her I love her and she tells me that she loves me but I always have to be the first one to say it or else it is never said. She is the only thing that makes me happy in my life right now so when I feel sad from her, basically my whole life is sad; nothing makes me happy except talking to her when I feel sad. Every time we make plans now, I always think they won't happen because it has happened in the past. She says she's sorry and I know she is but I can't help but feel mad/sad. Last night, she wanted to see me and do something with me before she leaves for a week. She said she'll call me about it but when she called me, it was late. I knew it wasn't going to happen based on what time she called me since she usually has to be home early. She had to go to a friends house because her parents were leaving for a trip while she was going to camp. I know that it's not her fault but I felt bad. I felt pissed that she waited to call me and tell me later then I wanted her and that also she couldn't do anything. When she called me and said she couldn't do anything, I was pissed and didn't feel like talking to her so I kind of blew her off. She told me she wanted to call me the next night and that she wanted to call me during camp but I left a message after we talked telling her not to because I need time to think and needed to hang out with my friends since I have basically alienated them from my life since I started dating her. She tells me to hang out with my friends instead of seeing her but I would much rather see her. I don't know how I can get over this feeling sad or whatnot every time she can't do anything or doesn't call. It makes me think that she doesn't care but I know she does. This is tearing me apart inside. Please help me or at least give advice on how to make myself stop feeling bad whenever something like this happens or another alternative. Thank you and sorry for being long.

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wow tiger, never heard taht one before. lol. I always thought of it as: 1st = kissing 2nd = feeling/ felt up 3rd = oral home plate = sex

She has been saying she doesn't care what we do since I started dating her. I have talked to her friends about it and they said that even they have talked to her about it and that she really doesn't care about what we do. I talked to her alittle bit about future plans since I'll be heading to college and she'll be in high school. She wants to stay together as do I. We have never had a fight before. This is the first time that it seems like we're indifferent about something. She seems to enjoy the things that we do currently but I'm starting to get bored of them so I've been trying to think of new things we can do. We kinda have a "to do" list but we haven't done anything on that list; we've had it for about a month and a half. I made sure that she knew she could come talk to me if anything "not right" or whatnot. I trust that she would do that. I'll talk to her more but it might take a few days.

I am heading to college in about a month and would like to spend the time together before I leave for about 7 months. I have been using this time to hang out with my other friends. Also, I thought things might have been getting alittle dall, we watched movies a lot since there really isn't anythign to do around time, that's why i've been trying finding new things to do. The problem is, she has the "anything is fine with me" attitude. I try to get her input but she always "doesn't care" what we do. I told her that I would like more input on what to do but that didn't give me any input.

My girlfriend and I used to go out about everyother day; we've been dating for 3 months. Now it's been a week and a half since I've seen her and it's pissing me off. She's going out with her friends every night or has something going on. I like that she's going out with her friends but it seems like she's shutting me out. She won't tell me anything when I ask if anything is wrong or whatnot. I just don't know what's going on. Help?!

I have the same fear. I thought that sex would ruin my relationship with my girlfriend and I still think it might though she has told me that she wants to try it out. I'm still wondering what I should do.

Drink your milk. Wear platform shoes. Get some pills for more testosterone. j/k. Look at your parents. What height are they? You'll be around your dad's height. I am 5'10" and know I probley wont grow anymore though usually you will grow alittle more during college then you're finished. Your biggest growth time is during middle school. I grew 6 inches in 8th grade. Then a few more during high school. Now i'll be starting college and most likely grow one or two then i'm done. My dad is 5'11", one brother 5'11", and another brother that's 6'. I will be 5'11"/6'. Why would you want to get taller? 6'/6'1" is good. No reason to get taller unless you swim or play basketball. But if you want to grow for basketball, look for 6'9". Any less would take talent to make it in basketball.

lol. that has to be the best place i've ever heard. ^^ But wouldn't people notice that you hadn't come out when she walked in or something? btw...in my bed

I like being "bald" since it takes more time to grow back to where i would have to shave it again. It takes a long time and i'm too lazy. Besides, I dont think you know (or maybe you do, i could be wrong) how hard it is to cut around the sack. gotta take is slow and you dont always have the time. btw...i bought a cheap trimmer that has a side burns attachment to it which seems to work. The coil doesn't really work though.