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When I talked to her in January, I just told her I wanted to be friends. Nothing more. All I wish is to one day be at the point where we can talk every once in a while or maybe hang out here and there. I know she has moved on and I have moved on. I highly doubt that I would get back with her but I still like her as a person and would like to be her friend. And she broke up with me. She's one that tends to overreact in situation and decided she couldn't handle having me away for 2+ weeks at a time, which is kinda sucks but oh well.

If she's very happy, I would let her go with it. I dont think she would be very happy if you tried to stop it or if he broke up with her. When I was a senior in high school, I dated a freshman and we had a great time. Never faught, etc. We just broke up because I was leaving for school.

Hi. My ex- and I have been in NC for about 5 months now. The last time we talked, she said she didn't want to be my friend because I have "changed too much and she didn't know me anymore". Well, I have changed a lot since I really talked to her last. I talk to her friends a lot since I'm still good friends with them but she's the only one that seems to think I've changed. Her friends have tried talking to her but no luck. I just got back from college and saw her once but neither of us said hi to each other. She's barely online but when she is, I just have the urge to just say hi. I'm not sure if she's still mad at me or what but I do want to talk to her again. Would saying "hi" to her be appropriate? Thank you

do you think it would be fine if i stop by her work and act like I don't really have time for anything but a simple "hi" and ask her if she is "free this weekend and wanted to catch up?" or is there another word I could use instead of "catch up"? Thanks

Hi. I was really good friends with a girl in my class last year and we both liked each other. I waited too long to ask her out and someone asked her out before I did and they started dating. I as well found someone else. I went to college and now I'm back and I would like to see her again and see if there's a chance that we could possibly date (or at least go on one date). Seeing her is not going to be a problem since I know where she works but I haven't seen her in about a year. I was wondering how many times (if more than 1 time is required) before I see if she would like to do something. In addition, I am wondering where a good place would be to take her. I want something fun but also some place where we can talk. I was thinking mini golf? Thank you

eh. Not calling back and a false number do the same damage to the heart.

I finished my first year college last week and now I'm starting to see everyone I knew from last year. I will be seeing some girls I liked last year, and I know had interest in me, but I never had a chance to ask them out or anything of that sort. I was just wondering how many times I should talk to them before I see if they would like to do anything (it has been a while since I last talked to them) and what kind of places could I take them to? I was thinking mini golf but I don't have any other ideas. Coffee houses are a little too formal in my opinion. Thanks

Girls tell me all the time that I'm a "good guy." I never know what to think of it either because when I like them, I get the feeling that they think of me more as a friend than someone they like. In my opinion, the song Nice Guys Finish Last is true.

I'm not sure about you guys but I wasn't in to coffee when I was 14 nor am I into coffee now. At 14, I would recommend mini-golf, go walking and talk, bowling, watching movies, anything fun. Coffee houses are in the future but I dont think that would be a "fun" date

of course you do. just try again and make sure she knows that you're being serious. good luck

I would have said (if i were in your situation), "I'll pick you up a 7:00." She would then know that you're serious and wouldn't really play games.

I'm just looking to be friends. We broke up because I was leaving for college and wanted to remain friends but I screwed it up by being stupid. E-mailing wouldn't really work because she checks her e-mail once every couple months (she's on really a "computer person"). By going through her friend, it's the only way I can try and set things up without calling her and being up front. I don't want to call her because I think it would be too awkward and I wouldn't really know what to say. If her friend is there, she would at least feel comfortable.

Hi. My ex and I haven't talked in about almost 3 months and the last time we talked, things didn't go too well. She didn't think she knew me anymore because I have changed too much. I talk to her best friend, lets call her amy, practically every day and she knows that I want to be friends with my ex- again. Amy has been talking to her and trying to convince her that I have changed back to how I was before I left for college (which in my opinion, I have). She said she would talk to me but that was a month ago. I'm not one approach and neither is she. Just recently, Amy was going to come to my alum. swim meet at the high school and I asked if she would bring my ex so she could see for herself that I have changed. Neither ended up showing up but I found out that Amy's sister tried to commit suicide so things were ruff around there. I have a month left of school until summer and I would like to be friends with my ex again. What could I do to achieve this? I would like to call her but I'm just not sure how she would react or what to say, etc. I would prefer to talk to her in person because phone doesn't "do that job" in my opinion. Any suggestions would help. Thanks

My girlfriend and I broke up in august because I was going to college and she was still going to be in high school. Things were going great and all of a sudden, it came to a complete stop. I'm trying to move on but I cant. I tried looking for a new girlfriend but no luck. This past week, I haven't been able to fall asleep until 4am because I think too much, I've had a lot of suicidal thoughts since the day we broke up but I'm too scared to try anything, I feel as though nothing is going good in my life at the moment. It seems as though my life is getting worse every day. I've stopped caring about some things that I've always enjoyed, etc. I just don't know what to do. Nothing seems to be helping my situation. I would like to go see a strink but I don't want anyone to know, which would be impossible. Is the anything I can try? antidepressants, etc?

I know my post wont help you but I am having the same problem. The only difference is that I have not been in a relationship since then. Unfortunately, I am still very depressed over the whole thing. I have tried to move on, forget about her but nothings working.

Are there any other locations than a coffee house? I am not a fan of coffee

In high school, I got to know girls in school, which turned into dating them before we actually went on a first date. Now, I'm in college and the scene is completely different. What would be a place to go on a first date with someone when you don't know them too well? Also, how far would you take it with them? Would you hold hands from the start or whatnot?

From what I found, people usually start asking about a month in advance.

The drunk phones calls weren't bad. I just told her that I still had feelings for her and etc (I made those right after we broke up). She just didn't like that fact that i was drinking. As for her friend talking to her, after I originally called her to be friends again during winter break, I told her that I was sorry for everything. She told me she didn't respect me and I left it as that and I'll give her what she wants. I didn't pressure her or even talk to her friend to have her friend talk to her. She did it all herself. I remained friends with her best friend after we broke up and I talk to her daily. I was surprised when she told me about this because I thought it was over and that was it. I didn't even mention my ex- for the past couple months to anyone. If it's anyone who wants to be friends again, it's her and her friend.

My ex- and I broke up awhile ago. I tried to be friends with her but things went down hill after some drunk phone calls. After a few months of NC, I called her during winter break to see if we could be friends again. She said that she didn't want to be friends with me because she didn't have respect for me as a person. That was a couple months ago. I talk to her best friend every day and a few days ago, her friend asked me, "so u wouldnt be weirded out if [ex-] talked to u?" I was wondering why she would talk to me after she told me she didn't want to speak to me and etc. Her best friend has been trying to convince her for a while that I've changed since those drunk phone calls and just now she "convinced her." From what I hear, her and her current boyfriend are about to break up. (But i dont think any of this is connected). I fell in love with my ex- when we were going out but we broke up because I was going to college and she was still in high school. I still had feelings for her during break but I really wanted to move on. Now with this coming about, I don't want those feelings to come back but I do want to be friends with her. When I never spoke about her, those feelings were gone. When I talk about her, those feelings come back. Basically, I'm not sure if I should speak to her or not. I think that if I talk to her, I would want her back but if I don't talk to her, I wouldn't want her back.

While you're making out, just put your tongue in her mouth and touch her tongue. She'll get the idea and do that same. My old girlfriend had never done it before and that's how I got her to do it.

I try to do things that will keep her off my mind but those only work for the period of time at which I am doing those activities. I am respecting her decision but I think it's pretty stupid (and her best friend thinks so as well (her best friend wanted us to become friends again in the first place)). We didn't talk for about 2 months or so until I called her about what was on in my mind. I was up until 5am every morning during my winter break thinking about her. What caused all of this was when I watched the Linkin Park/Jay-Z DVD and I started to cry. Attending a Linkin Park concert was the last thing my ex- and I did together. I try to be friends with everyone. I like having friends and people to talk to and what not. She broke up with me because I was going to college and she wanted me to "have fun and meet other girls and not worry about her." That was completely out of the blue (we never had a disagreement, etc and it broke my heart. I didn't get any closer and that's why I'm having this problem now. I talked to her once a month after we broke up and we acted like we were still dating. We were only going to talk for 5 minutes just to say "bye" before I left for school but that turned into 2 hours. It just seems like we had something good going and what happened was the wrong move.

I am having trouble getting over my ex-. We broke up in August and we went out for about 4 months. She has moved on and found a new boyfriend (which i'm glad she did) but at the same time, i'm ~~~ about it. I have only told 3 people in my life that I love them; 2 being my parents, the other being her. I meant it 100% and she claimed that she also loved me. I'm trying to move on by finding new girls but when i'm not with any of them, I always think of her. I try and think of how she treated me during our relationship (not calling me back when i call her, lied to me, being immature, etc) but the good memories still keep coming back. I thought it would help if we became friends again but she doesn't want to be friends with me. How can i forget about her? please help

Her best friend seems to think we could be friends again as do I. Last time I talked to her, she said she wasn't comfortable talking to me and that she didn't know me anymore (that was about a month and a half ago). We broke up a few months ago and I have tried to move on. I have a new girlfriend and I thought I had forgotten about my ex- until I saw something that reminded me of her and I started crying. Since then, I haven't been able to sleep (not falling asleep until 4:30 or 5:00am) and I have even thrown up because of the stress. I talked to her best friend about it and I guess my ex- is having a really hard time as well. When I talked to my ex- online for a brief moment, she said, "I really want/need to talk to you but I can't right now." (she had to study and had homework to do). I want to tell her I'm sorry about how I have been acting and etc. It would help me a lot if I know what she was going to say. She said she didn't want to talk to me over a month ago but now she wants to talk. Any ideas of what she might be thinking? Thank you

I would suggest you try talking to him. I would find out his intentions. Maybe he would like a second chance, that is if you would give him one. Has he talked to any of your friends and maybe they know something? I've always believed that people can change and everyone deserves a second chance. Also, how severe did he cheat on you? Just a kiss or did he have sex with someone else? I'm assuming that's why you broke up with him or was there another reason? I'm sorry that your mom is saying all that about you. Deep down she doesn't mean it. If she really meant it, I think you would be another child called "it" but thank god your not. Things will pick up for you, everyone has their down points.