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  1. drydupfob
    maybe try to loose the weight? I mean 150 is kind of a lot for a girl. I mean nothing to be ashamed about tho. I used to weight 240. I lost around 65lbs in almost 6 month. I mean its really not that hard if you are dedicated. And on the vain part. I mean We are young. So we obviously go for looks over personality at first. speaking for me, If a girl looks good that makes me want to go and talk to her and find out about her personalty. as oppose to a girl that dosen't look as good. good luck with everything. Hope that wasn't hurtful, i was just being honest.
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    But its been a while.... like almost a year.... I dono how long this rebound thing would last, but i dono one of my close friend said that i was becoming one of those guys...... I really need to change my ways.... but i really dont know how...
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    Not talking to her is ok. Like i could do all that, but I can't stop myself from not seeing her u know? Because we do eat at the same caffeteria and im bound to bump into her going to or back from classes. I dono if anyone has felt this before. Like you feel the need to hook up with random girls just to prove to yourself that you are over her? I dono i feel so horrible when I do it. But i really can't help myself
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    So, im a freshmen in college, my ex and I go to the same school. She broke up with me last March. I go to a pretty big school, but I sometimes bump into her. Its just so hard for me.... like I pretend like it doesn't bother me one bit. I always go up to her and just talk just to show her and my self that she means nothing to be anymore. Well the thing is, everytime i see her and her bf together. (one of my friends from highschool, Ya B#$ch move i know) i just get so upset. and usually I try to hook up with just some random girl who i think is sexually attractive. This has happened a couple of times now, I really dont know wat to do. Its like I feel nothing for those girls, but its like i just do it to prove to myself that im over my ex. I was wondering if there are any advices you guys can give me regarding that.... I really dont know wat to do.
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    See the thing is that I too am against one night stands.... but some how I did it just to make myself feel better... It has been a tough year for me. What I had gone through, i really dont wish up on anyone. I listened to other people's advise about working out and doing other things. but at the end of the day, i just feel so empty. O and one more thing, I'v been dating here and there. But the thing is that I Dont really let them get close to me. Or close enough to effect me. It feels like im really scared to let people into my world.... I wonder what i should be doing about this. btw working out has been paying off like no other, i have lost close to 60 lbs from the begginging of summer. I just hate it how she can still effect me. I hate it so much
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    Well, my first post in a long long time. I thought I had really healed from the break up that I had last march with my ex. Ever since college started I started to focus more on myself and the new friendships i was making and forgetting more and more about her. So Y am I back? because last weekend i went to ucla with a couple of buddies to drink, and just kick back. Unexpectedly we met up with some of our friends from highschool so we decided to all chill and party together. So while everyone was getting buzzed some girl made a comment about my ex.... and I just completely lost it. I really didn't know wether to rip her head off or start crying. It made me feel so bad, like I havn't had for so long. So due to my own stupidity and insecurities, I went out to look for a party and find a girl for a one night stand. unfortunately i found it and did my bussniess...... I Really don't know y I did it..... Or y is she still effecting me..... any comments for improvement would be nice. thx
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    Dear Choncy, I know it's been along time since we have spoken. I am sorry for not returning your calls; I really needed the time to heal myself. I hope you understand. And I think I have. I know now that I only miss the memories we have had, instead of missing you. I don't say that to be mean, but after assessing the situation from every angle I know that it would have not worked. And I am fine with that. I know that I had cold or bitter feelings towards you. But the longer I thought about it, the more I felt at peace with the whole break up. I guess it just wasn't meant to be. I guess what really bothered me was how easily you got over me. The fact that I was going through hell, and you seemed ok. But hey we all deal with loss in different ways right? I must admit when I first saw you and Johnny holding hands, I felt weak to the knees. Now I am a lot more content with it, I am glade that you found someone that makes you happy, in ways I could never have. He's a great guy, I have nothing but the best wishes for you two. There are some things that I wanted you to know. I appreciate everything you have done for me. All the sweet things you said, all the late night conversations that made me grow. I can honestly say that I cannot be the person I am today without you. And for that I am forever grateful. Even the pain I felt, was good for me. It made me grow into a stronger and more knowledgeable person. I seriously would not trade everything that's happened for anything. I have no regrets or bad feelings for the past. I also want you to know that when I said I loved you, I meant it. I know that you had trouble believing me because of your insecurities and the fact that you did not love yourself. But just know that you were the first person I had ever loved, and I will always have a special place in my heart for the times we shared. what do you guys think?
  8. drydupfob
    Like a letter for closer would not be good at all? I mean I am pretty much over her.... not over the break up, but over her.... like i know i would not want to go out with her again if she ever came back.....
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    Hey guys, I'v been visiting this forum for a while now. Ever since my ex and I broke up..... Its really been alot of help for me.... It helped me to see that there is so much more to life than one relationship, and I will find love again. So here is my question.... My ex and I have been broken up for about 6 month now... we first tried to be "best friends". basically bf/gf without the title for about 3 month after we broke up.... but I was just going through too much pain for that to happen. I basically called it off 3 month ago, and have not talked to her since... Last week my ex came over to drop off alot of the stuff I had at her house, since we are both heading to college she thought it would be nice to give eachother's stuff back.... seeing her truly brought all the memory's back into my head.... Now i am really confused about everything.... I really dont know if i miss her or just the memories we have shared together.... I want some kind of closure.... Since she is going to my school next year I thought it would be nice if I wrote her a letter about all the things that went on and how i truly feel.... not to get back with her but just to tell her that I am no longer angry to bitter.... i wish nothing but the best for her. and thx her for the times we have shared. Do you guys thing it is a good idea to do so? give me the pros and cons.... thx alot
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    I just had a question for all you college people out there, Im entering my freshmen year at UC riverside this year. And my ex is going to the same school. What are some of the things you guys do to avoid ur ex's. I know its a pretty big school (18,000) people. but i think the dorms are all pretty close...... I dono im just sorta worried about bumping into her.... thx
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    Im not talking about never falling in love again..... all im saying is that i gotta be sure.... u know? like before i give my heart up on a silver plater. Because I gave it up too easlily this time...... I know that relationship is all about emotions, but sometimes you just have to think rationally about things...... My biggest mistake is being overly emotional and it lead to a very bad end.... If i had just thought things through with my head instead of my heart, I would not have gone through all the misery that I endored..... just my take on things...
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    I see where u guys are coming from, me being young and stuff. But the fact is that I do not want to go and party and have meaningless sex with girls..... u know what i mean? I feel like people around me just needs to grow up and stop being kids...... I never got how u can have sex with someone that you do now love. I mean the passion, the closeness is just not there......... and about the many fishes out in the sea thing..... I do not want to go through what I had to go through for the past 6 month ever again..... it was such a dark chapter in my life that I feel like crying everytime I think about it.... thats y, the next time i fall in love im going to be absolutly sure...... thx for listening guys
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    weight loosing is a commitment that you have to stick with.... take me for example. im about 6 foot and i was around 235 at the begingin of summer..... i decided to change my body by working out and eating healthy.... I stoped eating unhealthy food, and went to the gym almost everyday for the summer, now im down to 195, and getting pretty ripped. so my advise for you is to stop with the fast food and and big meals..... try to have 4 - 5 small meals everyday instead of 3 big meals.... and keep an eye on the carbs.... too much of that is no good either....... and go to the gym and do cardio..... start out slow, lets say like a mile on the tredmill or eliptcal. and work ur way up. Now I run about 4 miles a day....... good luck
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    so yesterday my ex came by to give me back my stuff.... I had been doing th nc thing the whole summer and im well on my way to recovery. But i dono she came by, and i just started thinking about the memoires...... it kinda got me down, but than again i realized that it would have not worked out in the end..... so that really gave me confort..... Its just really frustrating these days when people are jumping in and out of relationships.... And its really sad that we let the fire burn out so easily..... I just think so many people these days take the easy way out of things. They dont try to work things out, but instead they break up and make up and than break up again..... Call me old fashion call me wateva, but I think that once you truly love someone, you can't just run away from the problems that is bound to have in the course of the relationship...... I just hope I can find someone that can commit as much as I am willing to.....
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    Can someone please enlighten me on why guys are fixated on getting their exes back? because when you are in love with a girl.... its like the greatest feeling on earth.... you feel like nothing can touch you, sort of immune to all the stuff that comes with life, because u know that you got someone that loves you for you and you love them for them....... and when people break up..... you fall from grace. That comfort is taken away..... that immunity is gone..... that is y we try so hard to get our ex's back..... but with the exception of a very low percentage..... it never accutally works out again..... you are never going to be able to get back to that zone with that person, because of all the pain she has infliced on you...... hope that cleared it up
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    I personally didn't tell my ex that i was doing no contact after being her "best friend" for 3 month..... i just woke up one day and said to myself, this girl is really hurting me..... so im not going to talk to her anymore...... Ya it was hard at the beginging, but you just have to tough it through..... It was tempting to pick up her calls, but it only prolongs your pain...... good luck
  17. drydupfob
    Purple, I think you are doing the right thing by not talking to him....... and not done what my ex did.... which is to give hope and crumble it over and over and over and over.... glade that you have ur decisions made....... but dont count on being friends with him anytime soon...... lets say over a year.... and he might end up hating you anyways..... but i commend you on what you are doing.... u are very kind.
  18. drydupfob
    hey.... sorry to hear about ur situation, i was in it about 3 month ago..... me and my girl of a year and half broke up in march.... She was going through issues and asked me to be her best friend..... so i did..... but we did things "best friends" should not have done..... like all the time.... and than the next day she'd act all weird.... finally i got sick of it and decided to end whatever contact I have with her..... because it wasn't healthy for me to go through that. my advise to u is to do what I did, just give her an all or nothing call. Like either u guys get back together or not speak to her until you are over it. You need to teach this girl she can't have the best of both worlds..... If she wants the love and saftey of a relationship than she needs to be able to put in the time and comminitment that is nessasarry..... best of luck to you
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    I dono dude.... You can't treat her like you two are still together when you ask her back out again...... You should make sure she wants it too u know? Not say o this is usually when couples get back together...... Have you really thought about what separated you guys in the first place? I think you need to go deeper than doing something romantic to ask her out again..... pluse i dont think things are going to ever be the same..... because after a couple breaks up.... there is always a scare in the relationship. well good luck
  20. drydupfob
    Are you guys really ready to be friends? Are you ready for him to call you by ur real name instead of the pet name he had for you? Are you ready to hear his voice with no love or care in it? Think about it? and mabye that is why he's not talking to you.... mabye despite the fact that he dose not want to be pined down, he is still hurt by the sight of you. I dont know the details of your relationship but if you need some one to talk to feel free to pm or aim me. best of luck to you
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    well... i just got out of highschool this year.... and to be honest with you, it was probabaly the best time I have ever had...... I guess i was really luck to have a group of really tyte friends that were there for me through all the drama, fakness..... My first two years were not that good... cause i was still trying to be someone that i wasn't... i was trying to be cool and hip and do what everyone thought the cool thing was at the time.... but after a while it just got boring..... I had a really great relationship in highschool which lasted for a year and half.... it was a really great learning experence.... You just really learn to be true to urself.... and others around you..... after a while, u just seem to be above the fakness, the whole popularity thing, and you start to be you... O and about football... played for a year... it wasn't that fun, the players on the team were extremely stuipd... so i felt no connection with them, there for i quit...... The best advise i could give you is: "If you want friendship, give friendship." YOu might know really know what that means right now but one day it'll hit u.
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    there are alot of differnet ways to loose weight but this is one way where i found to be most effective...... I have lost 35 bls this summer through this and alot of work outs.... so anywho.... find a track, like at your school or what not..... if u can't find a track than find a circle or stretch of area where u can run at that is about 1/4 mile. So u go there in the morning before you eat anything and sprint a lab.... when i say sprint, i mean everything you'v got..... like when u come back from that lab u wana die...... so after one lap wait 5 minits... than do another lap... and so on.... start out at like 3 laps... and eventually move your way up..... I think this is the best cardio work out that i have found...... and if u just hate running in general..... try to elliptical at the gym those are very nice and easy to run and but they dont hurt at all and burn the same amount of fat as tredmill. good luck with ur training.... o and if u are really serious about getting into shape..... u need to watch what you eat..... im pretty much on a strict protien diet where i eat mostly all protien based products like eggs, tuna, beans... stuff like that..... always run and an empty stomach tho... it works so much better.... best wishes.. nan
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    thx for the input trueheart....... I dono, i'v just been thinking about her again lately for some reason.... I had almost gotten over her (OR i thought ) during the summer and was having a really good time with alot of friends. The thing is, ever since i saw her with another guy..... all the old feeling started to come back as they had never left..... I always thought of her as my territory or mine...... I know i dont have any control over it but i just dont really know wat to do now..... I dont want her back or even have anything to do with her after what she has done to hurt me..... but some how i just can't get her out of my head........ I keep thinking about all the things she'd done with me...... and now doing with my friend..... or "friend" god I am just so sick of people taking the easy way out of things....... Is there anyone out there that can truly commite themselfs and try to work through problems.... or are people my age only about fun.....
  24. drydupfob
    thx guys for the replys, its accually just like what you guys said.... it was more of a shock than anything else.... i went out today to the beach and had a blast.... I still think about it a little bit but I think i'll be ok in the end. thx
  25. drydupfob
    insert your tonge into his mouth while you guys kiss... and gentally message his tonge with urs. thats basically it....
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