Ok, tell me what you think about this. Its sort of long, sorry.
I met this girl last year, and we fell in love pretty quickly. We spent every day and night together. You know, the usual. Anyway, a certain event was coming up that we weren't looking forward to. She was going to go to college in a town about 3 hours from here. I'm four years older than her so I have been in college for a while now so I couldn't just up and leave at that point and move.
In one sense I was lucky because it was definitely in driving distance on the weekends.
We originally started trading off weekends, and then it turned into weekends and Wednesdays. We kept becoming more and more dependent on seeing one another, and weekends and Wednesdays were soon not good enough for either one of us. I wanted her to move back, but the only problem was she has a scholarship where she goes and the school I was in wouldn't give her one.
She said that she wanted to get married and I knew the only way for me to advance our relationship to the next level was to just go ahead and move. We didn't have any friends where we were, but I felt it was a good opportunity to start a new life. This may have been a fatal mistake.
We lived together for about 3 months, and then this is where it all goes downhill. The first part is something I wasn't even aware of. There had been this guy that kept hitting on her at work, and when I found out about it, she told me he was stupid and she wanted him to leave her alone. The truth is that she was actually interested in him. On a day I was at school and she was at home, she had made plans to meet him. She changed her mind, but he got directions from a co-worker of hers and came over to my house. He began to harass her and try to get her to do things with him. You know what I'm talking about. He left after about 15 minutes. I got home from school early that day, he's lucky he didn't run into me. I still don't understand why she let him in or why she didn't tell him to leave. I feel terrible for her that this happened, but she never told me about it. I had to pry it out of her.
Then, the next week, she told me she wanted to go out and be alone for a while. I was slightly offended, but I offered by cell phone in case she got stuck (it had snowed). 2 hours later she gets back, and says she was "talking to her grandma." The truth was that she met up with the co-worker that gave the guy directions to my house and she cheated on me with him.
It never ceases to amaze me that not only would she betray me by making plans to meet some other guy, but 5 days later cheat on me with the guy who gave this jerk directions to my house. She's not seeing the big picture and I assume it's because of her age. It's actually pretty disturbing if you ask me. She has some mental problems about her family, which has obvioulsy given her some sort of attachment issue, and one the biggest avoidance personalities i have ever come accross.
Anyway, last week she moved out and then we broke up the next day. We have kept in touch a couple times, in fact she called me just the other night to tell me "goodnight." Then she called me yesterday and left a voicemail on my phone saying she wanted to ask a favor of me. I called back, but there was no answer.
So anyway, I'm pretty devastated about the whole ordeal. Its pretty disturbing that someone would tell you they want to marry you all the time and have kids and then the next thing turn around and cheat on you, then move out and break up. What do you all think about this?
Any comments would be appreciated..
