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At many universities and colleges they have dance lessons that don't require a partner. You just show, pay your money, and learn to dance and hold a girl. Hold her gently!!!!! Usually there are more girls than guys who sign up for dance lessons, so that will work in your favor as most girls don't want to be dancing with other girls. Also signing up for dance lessons at a college will help protect you from just all older people showing up, which often happens at non-school dances. No one will think you are a pervert just because you are 27. There are men in thier 40's at my universities taking classes and no one thinks they are perverts. Its drunk people and immature people of any age who are perverts. ANyway just sign up for some dance lessons at a college. Also, its great to see you are saving up for your own place. That will really make it easier to find girls because it shows you are independent. Look into maybe getting a no down payment mortgage (some banks do this if you have good credit and a stable job) so you can get into your own place quicker.

I know there are lots of food banks but it is very embarressing for people to use them. Thats why some people would rather go hungry than experience the shame of having to eat from a food banks. Sadly.

I talk to the most girls on the bus or in the university library. Why don't you start hanging out on a campus library. You should meet lots of girls there. And most are very friendly. Or take a class or two..>Hey some colleges offer dance classes on campus..try that out!!!! that a great way to meet girls.......

I was just wanting to know if there is anyone here who is or has been so poor that they have really had nothing to eat for a long time. I am sure there are some people like that, except its rarely talked about here all in other places. Is there anyone like that here?? Whats it like? What does continual hunger to do you? What can be done to help hungry people?

I am only 21 and I already very concerned about losing my hair and going bold. Almost all of the male ancestors in my family went bold quickly, and my hair line is already receding. My friends often comment on this when they see me (I tell them its not something I need to be reminded of). The thought of losing my hair really really bothers me. Like hair is sometime very intimate to me. Losing it would bother me soul for the rest of my life. Are any of the other guys here scared about losing thier hair and going bold? How do you deal with it? Do you know on any products that honestly do prevent hair loss?

I was just wondering, when you were with the 22 year old guy, what did you have in common that attracted you to him. For me, I couldn't imagine going out with a 14 year old girl (I am 21)...like what would we have in common?? It would be stupid. SO what exactly did you two see in each other? "The 22 year old and me never did anything, not even kiss. We just hung out"

just tell her face to face how much you really really like her and why

you sound passionate, but unfortunately these days you can be sued for doing something like that. Write her a poem or letter telling her how much she means to you instead. Otherwise you well intended passion might be mis interpreted as sexual harassment and you might get sued.

good for you Kaylum!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "I'm going to be 40 next year and I decided I'm not going to let myself go like so many women do at that age. I'm in better shape now than I ever was. Not that it seems to be making men any more interested in me, but at least I can be proud of myself "

--thats very right!!!! what is beautiful for one person is different to what is beautiful to another person. I remember in one of my English classes studying a tribe in South America where the guys all wear make up and nice clothes and then go out into the city to "have a night on the town" while the girls are all doing physically demanding labor and sweating away. LOL. Yes it can be very subjective. For some people what first attracts them to someone is their appearance, though thats not true for me. I really don't know why I am attracted to some girls and not to others. I remember one girl i really instantly liked and she had no beauty what so ever (atleast to me)....yet i was instantly attracted to her...i just felt she was very warm....very caring.....and i captivated and drawn in. I would for sure be willing to fall in love with a girl who I thought was not at all beautiful.....Would i date a girl i thought was unattractive...of course!!!!! and of course i would date an attractive girl too. There is no biological basis for being attracted only to people we find beautiful. Like some psychologists have suggested that we evolved a liking to attractive people because we believed they have better genes--but to date those same scientists have found NO relationship between attractiveness and health of offspring. thereforeee there is no biological basis for only liking people we find attactive. For me, I would have no problem dating someone i never found physically attractive. Some people have also suggested that its natural for men to sleep around but not women, because men need to "spread their genes." Having studied sociology and biology, I know this is nonsense. No species succeeds by males having offspring through numerous females and not being there to take care of them. The offspring of animals that reproduce like this are usually eaten by other animals, or simply die off. ITs not an adaptive reproductive strategy. The point is, that there is no biological basis for why men would be "studs" but women would be looked down upon........and thats why i think such a double standard doesn't exist. Of coures everyone has a right to thier opinion, and i hope i am showing respect for other people's opinions. I am sorry if i am not>..i really want everyone to have thier say..... "Also remember - physical beauty is very subjective. What may be beautiful to me, may not be beautiful to another person. The stereotypical, Hollywood-produced images of "what's beautiful" are not necessarily the prototypes to base your judgements on."

i am sure that daydreaming about a crush on a teacher is okay....but doing it YUCK!!!

Last night I watched the interview with Mary Kay Letourneau on 20 / 20 and she talked about how she started a romantic and sexual relationship with her 13 year old student when she was 32 or so. I thought that was really really sick. I could never imagine falling in love with one of my school teachers. But has anyone here fallen in love with a school teacher before? What makes such attractions possible?

Most people don't get many emails at all unless they send an email out to that person first. What I sometimes do is I write a base email, and then copy and paste it and sent it out to as many people I can. Of coures I change a few of the details in each email, so it doesn't look like a copied one. LOL.

I am friends with a girl and she in the same position as you. She desparately loved this guy. She would always think about him, care for him, and she she would do anything for him. Except he liked another girl, and wanted to be with her. She was so broken by this. She wanted him desparately. She often cried. Eventually I think she just gave up on him. It wasn't easy, but she realized she couldn't have what was closest to her heart. I don't know about what is best for you. Sadly, no matter how much we love someone, they may not love you back. But maybe try and find out why he is interested in this other girl, and then see if you can do anything to win him back.

actually yes I can. But firstly, most bartenders are not hot, and even if they were, its the personality that matters. Looks are meaningless. This is what would make me proud. WOrking hard so I can provide for my future wife and children. That is the biggest ego boost. And being able to take care of my wife, love her, comfort her, learn how to dance with her, and communicate with her. Those things would boost my ego too. "However, can you think of a greater ego boost than to nail the hot bartender"

I know exactly how you feel. There have been soooooooo many times i have looked hard for love, and gone to extraordinary lengths to find someone, but have come back empty handed. But of course, the harder you try, the more it shows your level of commitment. If someone enters a relationship after trying very very hard to find someone, they tend to value that person more, because they know what it was like when they didn't have them. Its true that being desparate can be a turn off, but showing passion can be very admirable also. Be passionate, not desparate. A desparate person despairs that they can't find love, but a passionate person knows that every failure is just another step on the path to success. What ever you do, don't lose your passion. I know you will truly value the person you find and love, however you find them.

---hahaha...of course I wouldn't lecture any of my friends (regardless of thier sex) if they told me they 'nailed some hot girl', but I would not be too pleased either. I guess I am just very romantic and i think that having sex without love (without being in a committed relationship) isn't really worth it. IT breaks my heart when anyone is so concerned with sex that they have no time for romance or commitment or true love. "but don't tell me that you're going to sit down and give your male friend a lecture when he tells you how he nailed some hot girl that he picked up at a bar, lol "

---never in my entire life have a ever heard of a guy who sleeps around being called a "stud" or any other related term. I have never heard of any being seen as more popular or greater because he sleeps around. I have only heard of guys, like girls, being looked down upon because they sleep around. NO ONE actually becomes popular or well liked by sleeping around. "The first and most obvious double-standard: Man sleeps around = STUD. Woman sleeps around = promiscuous or trampy"

I don't judge people who cheat. Its just that it bothers me that if people learn to cheat on thier homework, then they learn to cheat on thier boyfriend / girlfriend, then thier spouse, and then everything goes downhill!!!!!! I wonder if there is any relationship between cheating in high school and cheating in marriage??? Maybe there isn't because there are different things. But i don't know. I just don't want to cheat my future wife. Cheating in high school isn't too bad, but it can lead to things that are much worse. Thats what scares me.

This was a great statement!!!!! I agree completely. Firstly, guys DON"T tell girls they love them when they don't. I don't know why any guy would to that. When a guy tells a girl he loves her, it means that he can't stop thinking about her, every time he does think about her his heart is warm, that an image of her face seems to appear in his mind no matter where he is looking, he dreams about her, he day dreams about her, he tells all his friends how lucky he is to have her, he shelters her, he cares for her, he takes care of her when she is tired or sick, he goes to visit her even if means walking through mud and rain, he buys he gifts, he compliments her, he tells her that she is the most beautiful girl in the world and really means it, he wants to cuddle her, he her dreams to succeed, he is strong to protect her, he is close to her, he want to spend the rest of her life with her "2. If I say "I love you" to a girl this is what it means to me, I cant spend even 5 minutes without thinking about you. It hurts to be away from you. I would rather die than spend another minute alive without you in my life. When you dont even think about sex first, your first priority is just to be with her."

Just call the police right away!!!!!!!! They can help him, and force him to get help he needs. THere is no penalty for calling the police, because this is a real emergency.

When I was in high school, and now in college, I have never ever cheated once, plagarized once, or copied someone's homework. I never did these things because I am assumed that virtually everyone else didn't cheat either. BUt now more and more I am hearing about people cheating and plagarizing, and people say that everybody (or almost everybody) does it some time or another. Is this true?? I don't know... my confidence in the honestly of human kind is diminishing?? Am i the only non cheater??

There are many reasons why you shouldn't end your life, and here are some of the things you will miss out on if you do end it: 1. Having a girlfriend, being in love, getting married. 2. Having children 3. Having grandchildren 4. Enjoying a great career 5. Travelling the world 6. Being with friends 7. Learning new things 8. Becoming famous 9. Helping poor people 10. Experiencing true love I am sure you can make a list longer than I can. Remember what you will be LOSING, and not gaining, if you choose to take your life. Its a choice you DON'T want to make!!!

I don't believe any double standard exists. I believe everybody is equal.

There are lots of great guys your own age and it would be better if you took time to get to know them. I think that even when you turn 18, this whole relationship probably won't succeed (because of the great age difference). Its doomed to fail. So try talking to guys your own age. YOu don't have to date them--Just makes lot of friends and get to know guy and have them get to know you and appreciate you. Also, even at age 18 you might still not be ready to start a relationship because you will be busy with university and work and all sorts of responsiblilities (trust me...i know..i am always swamped with things to do). So just forget about this guy, even if he truly caring and not perverse, because there are lots and lots of other guys who will care for you. I know you are mature enough to think ahead, so consider where exactly this relationship is going, and then consider getting to know people your own age.