Size of ex partners

[MamaEm14]

My current boyfriend now expects me to know the sizes of ex partners from many years ago. I honestly do not even remember what they look like it’s been so many years ago, so much has happened in my life, I cannot remember that. I do not remember the size or what it looks like. I can remember my thoughts from the past like what I considered people like small, average or big. But that’s it. Is this all women? Or should we be able to remember that? 

[Batya33]

Why in the world would you be discussing such personal details about exes with a new partner?

[Kwothe28]

And why would your boyfriend care about the details of the size? Is he closeted gay or just wants to know if his member is bigger?

[Wiseman2]

Please don't discuss your sex life with partners and especially don't be explicit about unnecessary details.

Is this the same man?:

 

[lostandhurt]

Seriously?  Tell him you don't remember but you are willing to hit them up and go measure their length  and girth so he will know.  See how dumb this is?

This guy sounds like an insecure jerk.

Lost

[HeartGoesOn]

Don't stoop to his level by offering a reply.  Better yet, tell this Bozo to take a hike.

[Wiseman2]

On 7/18/2023 at 12:39 AM, MamaEm14 said:

Well we have decided to end things and move on. 

Did you start seeing him again? Hopefully you're not still worried about his ridiculous request that you "prove" your ex's size. 

2 hours ago, MamaEm14 said:

My current boyfriend now expects me to know the sizes of ex partners 

 

[MissCanuck]

7 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Please don't discuss your sex life with partners and especially don't be explicit about unnecessary details.

Is this the same man?:

 

Ugh, this guy again, OP?

Maybe he secretly likes men and gets off on this for some twisted reason. 

[Capricorn3]

OP, in your previous thread you said you have ended it with him.  So, are you saying just ten days later you have a new boyfriend who is also wanting to know about your ex partners sizes? Where do you find these guys?

[MamaEm14]

No. This was the same guy. I’m just trying to figure out, are we as women expected to remember that stuff? Because I do not and I feel like I shouldn’t. And I don’t. So I was just trying to figure out if I was wrong on this situation. 

[boltnrun]

Your boyfriend has a weird obsession with penises.

I don't understand why you reconciled with him when he continues to demand penis size reports from you. 

[MissCanuck]

1 hour ago, MamaEm14 said:

are we as women expected to remember that stuff?  

No, and no normal man would be asking you this. 

You are in a very strange and rather disturbing relationship. 

[lostandhurt]

Stop living in the past and trying to figure out why he was that way.

Trying to make sense of nonsense is a waste of time and energy.

Lost

[smackie9]

No, as women we are expected to not put up with insecure jerks like your BF. 

[Jibralta]

Just tell him that all women date in penis-size order, from smallest to largest.

[shouldhavelearned]

He doesn't sound like a boyfriend 

[MrMan1983]

Say to him small has always been your type and that's why you're attracted to him.

[catfeeder]

Oh, please, and no, this isn’t something women tend to remember or discuss. Smart women don’t even discuss past partners at all. If a man ever asked me this he’d be history, on the spot. There is something wrong with him.

[tattoobunnie]

Does he remember how big each vagina was, and can tell you all about it?  Why are you still with this clown?

[waffle]

1 hour ago, tattoobunnie said:

Does he remember how big each vagina was, and can tell you all about it?  

Sadly this type usually does remember --vividly--and will eagerly discuss it (probably already has).  And what he doesn't know he'll make up.  OP, do not ask him.

[NighttimeNightmare]

10 hours ago, MissCanuck said:

Ugh, this guy again, OP?

Maybe he secretly likes men and gets off on this for some twisted reason.

I honestly don’t even believe this is a woman writing this stuff. 
 

I think it’s a guy making us all puppets to some weird fetish story he’s imposing on us. 

[boltnrun]

1 hour ago, NighttimeNightmare said:

I honestly don’t even believe this is a woman writing this stuff. 
 

I think it’s a guy making us all puppets to some weird fetish story he’s imposing on us. 

I've unfortunately dated a few men who wanted to know they were "better" than the other men I'd dated. Apparently with some men it's a competition.

[TacticalLinguine]

To some of the women responding to this.. Are you being genuine when you say you don’t remember? 
 

I’m a woman too, I can’t imagine actually forgetting, I mean goodness sake, I was intimate with the guys. It doesn’t mean I spend my time thinking about it, not at all. But you don’t just forget it?.. Or do you?! O.o

[boltnrun]

Regardless of whether or not I remember, I certainly will not discuss it with my partner.  It has zero relevance.

[tattoobunnie]

16 hours ago, TacticalLinguine said:

To some of the women responding to this.. Are you being genuine when you say you don’t remember? 
 

I’m a woman too, I can’t imagine actually forgetting, I mean goodness sake, I was intimate with the guys. It doesn’t mean I spend my time thinking about it, not at all. But you don’t just forget it?.. Or do you?! O.o

I remember all of my Bfs penises.  But I have never dated a man who once asked me the size of others.  Your boyfriend is so beyond creepy and insecure.  Don't waste your time trying to fix him.  Figure out why you need to be with someone this insecure.