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Feeling Guilty and Pessimistic About Dating My Future
waffle replied to Indiana_Rizzler's topic in Dating Advice
False. I've done it. And more than once. In fact, the (admittedly few) times I was instantly attracted to someone, it was very short-lived and burned out quickly. -
What could possibly go wrong?
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Feeling Guilty and Pessimistic About Dating My Future
waffle replied to Indiana_Rizzler's topic in Dating Advice
Virtually everyone does. If you watch enough movies you'll soon find out nothing is more important than attraction. -
You did things in the wrong order. Marriage first, then house. You can get out of it though . . . houses are sold all the time. You can sell yours.
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My friend has a hot girlfriend while I am all alone. (M20)
waffle replied to Bene20's topic in Dating Advice
Or bigger. -
My friend has a hot girlfriend while I am all alone. (M20)
waffle replied to Bene20's topic in Dating Advice
Anxiously waiting by my inbox. -
My friend has a hot girlfriend while I am all alone. (M20)
waffle replied to Bene20's topic in Dating Advice
Can you please post a pic? Because I have never in my whole life seen a perfect man and I would like to see one before I die. -
Gen X here. But we can still be trolled I suppose.
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What movie?
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My partner impregnated 3 women while we were on a break!!
waffle replied to Asma's topic in Relationship Advice
This man is in his 50s though? Is he stupid? Going around sleeping with everything that moves, knocking up women, come on now (of course I question the judgment of the women too). -
My partner impregnated 3 women while we were on a break!!
waffle replied to Asma's topic in Relationship Advice
That's how I got my third kid. -
Modern Dating: The Evolution of Courtship for Men and Women
waffle replied to yogacat's topic in Dating Advice
Let's get back to looking down on people whose bodies aren't what we think they should be. -
I don't know if this trend towards sexting is normal, but it's certainly common. 😐 I remember talking to a guy several years ago (real life friend, sort of. We are no longer in contact) who was getting a divorce. One of the first things he did was take multiple pictures of his package because he'd need them for when he did online dating. He wanted to have them ready to send. He really thought this was part of his prep work, sort of like running copies of the agenda for a business meeting you're attending--it's just what you do. I said nothing. Let him find out on his own. (He did get remarried last I heard. So maybe said package was/is more impressive than I was imagining)
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Is it wrong to make intimacy a priority in your relationship?
waffle replied to Alittlehelpplz's topic in Relationship Advice
By "intimacy" I assume you mean "sex." Those terms are not interchangeable but the vast majority of people use them that way. -
Your rules, while not uncommon in situations like this, are unenforceable. How do you legislate someone else's feelings? You can't. You also have no control over someone else's condom use. I'm not saying don't keep the lines of communication open. But recognize the risks. Sort of reminds me of that '70s song "Fooled Around and Fell In Love."
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The only relationship reading I ever did that actually resonated with me was Why Men Love B!tc#3s.
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I found out my boyfriend hid his felony charge from me
waffle replied to Minipic132's topic in Relationship Advice
I don't think I asked this yet but . . . Are these charges or convictions? Although at this point it may not really matter in relationship terms as this guy is clearly not a good choice for a partner. -
I found out my boyfriend hid his felony charge from me
waffle replied to Minipic132's topic in Relationship Advice
What's the felony for? -
OLD ain't a Disney movie. Far from it.
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This is one of the many reasons why OLD is unsuccessful for most. It's easy to become desensitized to it all and adopt the "abundance mindset" which encourages daters to treat the profiles and the people behind them as simply numbers (hence the "it's a numbers game" statement we read here a lot) and not view them as individuals or even humans. They're just an object to evaluate. Many claim the whole process is dehumanizing and this is why. If you don't instantly feel . . . something (even if that something is temporary and deceptive). . . then it's super easy to just dispose of them and put them back into the pile and start swiping again looking for fresh meat before you even leave the parking lot. Because there are hundreds if not thousands more where this one came from. Not that you will or should be compatible with most that you meet, because you won't be, but that "meh" feeling should perhaps be taken as a warning sign that your approach and your expectations could use some adjusting and/or your criteria is flawed.
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The spark will burn out, as evidenced by OP's failed past relationships. I wonder how different things would be if we focused on compatibility instead and let attraction build.
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For me, the "spark" or "attraction" is/are only useful in ONS situations.
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Ummmm . . . ?? 🙄
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My xH in the final years we were married had a phone (we're talking flip phones at this point) but refused to text at all even when it really could have been beneficial. I would sometimes ask "why didn't you text/call me when such and such happened?" and he would say "I don't know your number." I would try to give it to him and he didn't' want it. He would also always keep his phone off so I couldn't' reach him. But he was anti-communication in general so this was no big surprise.
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I would say neither. I think it's an inevitable result of being online on dating sites where the mode of communication is email/messaging. Couple that with people who, as I said, are more concerned with getting attention than they are dating, and digital mode(s) of communication become ultra-important because it's how they gauge their own desirability. I had sort of hoped that with communication being typed out instead of spoken, that peoples' spelling would become better. For example, people would pay more attention to what they're writing and take care to use the correct forms of to, too and two, or your and you're, etc. I didn't find that to be true during my brief stint on dating sites, much to my chagrin.