(----> This was actually my message that I sent him today.) Hey, I love you, and good morning when you read this. I've changed my mind on not bringing this up again, and I'm instead going to need a few days to process this news. It's not the fact that you're a felon that is the issue here. In fact, I believe people change all the time. The Garret I know is someone who upholds virtues like respect, candor & forgiveness & is a morally-just person. I'm upset with the fact that you weren't upfront with me about it and potentially would've never brought this up at all. Especially after I told you my history with my ex. I need a few days to sort out how I feel. I most likely will ask you more questions, and though I understand you're rightfully not wanting to sit on a topic that was such a dark time for you, I am owed an explanation of at least why you decided to not tell me? Is it because letting people know beforehand went wrong? Did previous exes know/not know about this? Out of consideration for you and your reaction tonight, please just write this on a text. I feel this would be the least triggering option for you, but if you'd like to answer in another way feel free to.. IRL, I'd still like to carry on our normal routine and trust that you will reply in your own time, hopefully by Valentines day...( I just want to celebrate the holiday in peace with you) But this is important to me. I am also not wanting to be stuck on where you were and not trying to see you for who you are now and to where you want to be in the future. The crud you went through shaped you into the man you are today, and if that part of your life is over, you need to be upfront with it, particularly when it concerns someone who will be directly impacted like me down the line. At one point, I had to find out that my exes rival was out for me in my last relationship and that I was in danger, and so a question of saftey comes up. What if a family member of the guy you shot decides to get revenge on you (and by association, me) down the line? That's really reaching, I know, but seriously, you should have told me from the get-go. Is this something I should be concerned about? And practicals like would this mean you & I would be unable to get a mortgage in the future? Travel? adopt? etc?