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  1. tiff8434
    Thank you so much for those words, you are exaclty right. I know I dont have the answers and I know I will be happier if I stop trying.
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    I wish I knew if he missed me or evern thought of me. I think that is the main thing that is driving me mad is not knowing. I am trying to have patients and I am working on my personal self as well. Does anyone have any insight that has been in his shoes? Why the silent treatment, how come it seems that he can completley just forget I ever exsisted when I am sitting at home at night crying. I go out but its the times I lay in bed my emotions and thoughts run wild and I want nothing more then to talk to him. Does anyone think there is hop even after two months and not even speaking right now. I cant thinking love will bring us through but every day that passes my heart grows weaker and weaker.
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    It is scary to see how much your situation relates to mine. I think that you do know if he or she is the one and I also think that if they are not instead of forcing yourself to accept that they may not be it is better to let God change your heart if ti is meant to be. We cannot get rid of feelings that we have towards someone. Just one day at a time.
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    I wish I could help or make the pain go away but I cant. I dont really have any advice on this but take it one day at a time and see what the good Lord throws your way.
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    I have a question to everyone. If he is just scared what if he dates others in a casual manner. Thats what has happened in my situation thatis very similar. We even picked out rings and now we have been broke up two months and he is dating others and there is no sign that we were ever together. Our relationship was full of love much like your situation and we never faught either. Any insight?
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    I dont really have any advice but I do want to offer encouragment that you are not alone. I am going through the same thing and I am 22, it dosent matter your age when you love and that loves is snatched away from you it hurts at any age. I wish I could tell you when the pain would stop but I dont know. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers though!
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    This is beginning to physically effect me. My chest is tight and I am having trouble breathing. I am starting to feel that I am loosing my touch with reality. I thought I was stronger then this. Am I crazy?
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    He does have a birthday in september. Mine is in July. He still also has my belongings and before no contact started I tried to get them back and keep getting excuses. I am trying to move on but I feel that he is the one for me and I cant get past that. I hate this.
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    Another week has went by with NO CONTACT, I am so worried that he will not call. tomorrow will be two months since thebreak up. I am still madly in love with him and desperatley want him back. I think that he is daitng "casually" and it breaks my heart. I know that know one knows the future but am I being stupid for thinking we may get back together. I really feel that he is the one for me but he just has had alot of school and work stress on him. He is not being himself at all. I am very sad over all of this and want the man I fell in love, back. I know he is still there. Someone please help me!
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    I feel that there has been years gone by and in actulaity it has only been to months. I really want him back. This is driving me crazy!
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    If you have been broken up with someone for two months and htey are "dating" other people. Is it possible to get back with that person? If yes, then how can I do this. Right now we are not on good terms he is being cold and bitter and very immature. But yet I love him and am willing to work through it. If he can change because I know the sweet gentle spirit I met and fell in love with is still there. At the breakup he said he was just twisted and he needed some time to figure stuff out but he still loved me. I dont know if that is true anymore and I am very scared. I miss him so much and want nothing more to be with him. So is there hope?
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    As the story unfolds with my ex and I the truth is beginning to come out. I found out that he is dating someone else even though he has been telling me that he hasent. I am so heart broken and do not know what to do with myself. I thought th at he was the one for me. He has been mean about this situation now. I have so many questions. Even after all this I think that I still want him back. I am going crazy someone please help me.
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    Ok, so I have decided after like a month and a half I have not called him or talked to him. We had decided that we we try and be friends. Well, much to be surprise on Thursday he called my cell phone while I was at work and I actually answered. He seemed freaked out because I answered and when I ask him if he needed anything he said he was just calling to leave me a message saying hello. So my question is do I try to pursue a friendship? Or do I continue to only talk to him when he contacts me. I am still in love with him and really want him back. What to do!
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    well, with that being said should I hold ot hope that maybe one day that we will get back together? I know he still oves me but he just has issues right now. Am I being nieve?
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    I am so sad. It has been like a month and a half and it dosent seem that me and my ex are getting back together any time soon. We dated two years, and spoke of marriage. Then he says he has to go find himself. I talked with him the other night,(when he called me) and he seemed really stressed out about school and work. I want to be there for him but I dont really know where I should draw the line. I love him so much and I dont want to see him struggle. However, in a conversation before this past one he told me that he did miss me and that he would give me my stuff back after the semster is over. The semster thing dosent make much sense. He lives in the same town that I do. I even told him that I would come get it if he didnt have time. I don't know if he is trying to hold on to my stuff so I am still part of his life or if that is just what I want to think. Shouldn't I be getting over some of this by now? It isnot going away through it all I still think that he is my "soul mate". I want him back but I also dont want to be run over. What am I supposed to do? Hopelessly desperate!
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    thanks for the advice I know that it is true. I just hate being someone I am not to the people I love the most. I am not a mean person, I like to encourage people and be there for people, but I know it is time to "flip the script" thanks for the encoragment.
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    My heart cries out and the emotions consume me. After two years of a good relationship this guy is treating me like I dont exsist. He will not return my phone calls to give me my stuff back. He is hanging out every night at bars when he said he never had time to do anything. Why is he being this way. I dont think that he ever loved me. I am hurting so much because of the betrayed trust and feelings I have. What I am to do? I cant just get over it I am worried about him. Even with him acting like a jerk to me I am worried about him. He is going down a path that is not going to be positive in the end. Please someone help me I am desperate and hurting so much!
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    The exboyfrinend of a little over a month does need see the need to contact me back after numerous phone calls to try and get my things back. It is true I am no where near being over him and probly want be for a long time. However that is irrevlant to be wanting my keys to my car and apartment and some other odds and end things back. I have no clue what the issue is with giving me the stuff back. I dont know if it that he dosent want a confertation or if he dosent want to let go. We never fought and I still love him, I dont know if the feeling is the same but I do know right now he just needs his space. I cant give him that space until I get my stuff back. Any clues on what to do. I dont want to have to be mean becasue I do love him and do hope we get back together one day. Please help!
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    The details are we dated 2 years, he took me to pick out engagment rings talked marriage and I thought everything was great then in like the last month he got really depressed and appeared to be very burdened by life. I am really worried. Thanks for the advice though.
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    I have been broke up from my boyfriend for a little of a month now, and he is all that I can think about. I am staying busy and trying to keep my mind occupied. I think of him always. People tell me stuff about him and I am constantly worried about him. He is going down a path right now that is going to lead to trouble. There is nothing that I can do and I hate feeling helpless. I still think that he is my one true soul mate and that is why this hurts so bad. Why can I do? Talking to him about it all is not a option he is bitter towards me and I dont know why. He is the one that broke up with me to "find himself" Please help me somebody!
  21. tiff8434
    I am with odyessus, on this one. Why break up just try it. As far as prom goes why not go? Would you honeslty want to share that experience with anyone else?
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    For those of you who have followed any of my entries, the drama continues with my ex. Saturday night about 3:30 in the morning he drunk dials me. He is asking me questions about where I am and what I am doing. Well, needless to say that conversations was very shallow. Well, I have to call him on sunday with information about our cell phone bills so he can put his money in my account. I call and leave him a message. Next thing I know he is calling back and was like "Did you call me"? I said yes but I left you a message with my account # and the amount owed so you can deposit the money. He has a hughe attitude, so I asked him if he even rememebred calling me and he said "yes" and he had an attitude and said so, your were at breakfast at 3:30 in the morning and I said yes. The rest of the conversation went downhill from there. He has a huge wall up towards me and I dont know why. I have not done or said any thing for him to act this way towards me. I dont know if that is his way of masking any feelings he has for me or it just makes him that mad talk to me. He got mad becasue I wtold him to take care of himself beforfe I got off the phone and he told me not to say that, so I ask why? He said well you never said it before, so I asked him what would you like me to say? He said say" Talk to you later", "See you later" so I said ok. I don't know how to handle this. I do love him or atleast I love the person he used to be I dont' really know who he is now. I am trying to move on but things keep happening regarding him that makes it impossible. Please help. Any insight from a guys perspective would be great, because I am clueless.
  23. tiff8434
    As a female it is real refreshing to see a guy that knows that women need emotional support from a partener. As far as she goes, that is tricky I think that sometimes we realize our mistakes only after it is to late. But one thing you can do is grow from what you have learned and don't make the same mistake with another. It is really hard to date someone that is holding their feelings back from you, you get really burned out quick because you are giving it 110% and holding nothing back. I hope that it works out for you, maybe she will see the change in you! It may not be now but who knows what the future holds.
  24. tiff8434
    I dont know what the next step should be. He will not return my phone calls and I left messages letting him know that I wanted to exchange stuff. He knows I want him back but I heard a song that was truly inspirational called "Dont want you back" I think that the sooner I can clean break this and start the "NO COntact" rule the better off I will be. What should I do at this point to collect my things. He has to realize he cant have his cake and eat it to. I want this to become a reality, so maybe he will see what he is missing. "Lets Hope"
  25. tiff8434
    There is no pain like the pain of a broken heart. It sucks bad! I wish I could tell you that all the tears and pain and thoughts and the feeling of solitude would soon fade, but they will not. You are not going to be able to move on until your heart is ready. I know it sounds cliche but God is in control and I have to tell myself that everyday. Take it one day at a time and if that is to much then take it an hour at a time. It is not going to be easy but what dosent kill us makes us stronger. Just a side not from experience at the point when I decide that all is well again in my life and I am ok with being me and ok with the situation, things usually happen. Either the ex comes back or you start to see others in a different light or someone shows intrest in you. Good luck and my prayers are with you. I know it hurts I am dealing with it now.
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