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    Twizod Hmmmm ... sweet humming bird!! I am preening my feathers here Twizod! Have no news to report as yet - am truly a cool customer these days. Life is ok - extreme highs and lows seem to have dissipitated. Nothing fabulous or horrendous to report guys, however you shall be first to know!!! Hope that you are all well. G xx
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    Dragonlady ... this is in no way intended to flame you. But my oh my oh my, I could NOT LET THIS ONE GO. This phrase that 'everything happens for a reason' just does not sit right with me personally. [/b]What is the reason that millions of children starve in Africa? What is the reason that so many millions of Jews were denied the right to live in Germany? What is the reason for women, children (and men) being sexually and emotionally abused daily? What is the reason for people treating others with anything other than respect and kindness? I think if we are going to use the everything happens for a reasoncard, we can really justify any behaviour, no matter how heinous. Just my thoughts. G xx
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    Spatz I think that I have said this before: this site offers a great source of support in times of need for all of us, but it can also unintentionally offer support and hope where there is very little. I know that I can speak freely with you Spatz, and I think that this type of thread gives hope where there is none. It has been said again and again, tht the nuances of relationships are all individual. So it is almost irrelevant HOW OFTEN exes come back - does not mean that yours or mine will, or indeed whether we will want them to when and if they do. Questions like this can never be answered, and second-guessing them only holds us all back. Of course SOME exes will come back, and the relationships will flourish. SOME exes will not come back and both or either parties will flourish with someone else. SOME exes will come back and one or other of the parties will leave again. WHO KNOWS?!?! G xx
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    Surely this is the downside of getting the ex back. The balance of power shifts and we are constantly walking on egg-shells afraid that the smalles thing will have them running for the hills. Ok, there is an issue that she has just stopped smoking, so she may have been a little tetchy. That does not help. I think that you should give her some space to reflect on what has happened and the call her and try and find out what is going through her mind. You are going to need to talk. She has to realise that she cannot run at the first sign of trouble - too habit forming. Good luck. G xx
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    Rich For what it is worth, I think that you have definitely done the RIGHT thing - she has had long enough to come to some conclusions and seems not to have done so. You have got to move on now. Join the line, Rich, join the line - we are all getting to this stage now. Bring it on!!!! Was talking to chick friend of mine recently and saying how long, after we start dating, can we have sex and have some semblance of decency? Her reply: Immediately!!! If not before!!! G xx
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    SomethingFunny I do not want to be the voice of GLOOM, not at all. But I have been following your thread and know the heartache you have been through, along with many others here, self included. So what to do, what to do. The break to Paris has done you some good, you have made a move forward, just as you do that, the ex comes crashing back into your life. This can go one of two ways, really positively and forward, or youc ould stay exactly where you are. From my own point, I would need my ex to make a very VERY POSITIVE ACTION right now to take him back, and I would most definitely NOT have said that three months ago, two months ago, or even one month ago. I simply got tired of the mixed messages and the non-committal stance he was taking. This gave me hope, where there was little. And I got tired of it. Just take care with your heart, and don't undo the healing you have done. I hope that it works out for you and your ex. G xx
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    Rich I know that you are struggling. I know that it gets better. Am thinking of you. G xx
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    Twizod Yes, it is good not to think of ex on waking - very good. But had to go through shite to get to this stage. Am now off out with neither Dave, Dave, Dave or David. Ooooooh, the plot thickens!!!
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    Twizod I am glad that women are renowned for their intituition much more than men. At the moment, would not want the ex making contact. Really would not. I know Strong1 has talked about the anger stage. Because of this, I would not want to talk to my ex at the moment - have reached the anger stage. Chipper and optimistic have gone out of the window. Am now angry at the waste - but also slowly moving into the pity arena. Which also feels much better. Pity HIM for giving up on something good. Pity HIM for not know what he wants - he himself has said that he is unhappy. Pity HIM for letting me go, when he said that he still desires and wants me. PITY PITY PITY. So dating is sometimes good, sometimes tedious, sometimes frightful. And sometimes exciting. But whatever, there is always a surprise. G xx P.S. And at the risk of sound like SincerelyHurt, Twizod, you are wrong, there are actually FOUR men that I am currently talking to and considering meeting for drinks next week (although not at the same time!). This is fine, because I am looking to date, nothing serious. But has the potential to go alarmingly wrong, as the men involved are: Dave, Dave, Dave and David!! There has already been confusion where I sent off an email in response to one sent by one of the Daves, but sent it to the wrong Dave. So had to say oooops and explain the situation to Dave III, eventually saying, Perhaps I can calll you JAMES! As SincerelyHurt would, no doubt, say the world is sure spinning funny at the moment!
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    Really good news for you Determined. I think that what Twizod says is absolutely correct. Enough comparisons. No relationship thoughts and see where this new journey takes you. G xx P.S. Oh, my lord how I laughed ..... when Determined was making the comparisons and said that the new girl had a tigher *beep*, I thought oooh she has a tighter *beep*, and then was talking to a male friend and he said oh no it could be that she has a tigher *beep*!!! Either way, no need to tell the ex this - CRUSHING!!!!
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    I have news!!! So I might have mentioned that tomorrow night I am going out on a date. Hmmmm... this guy has not read any rule-book!!! We have spoken on phone a number of times, and he divulges a LOT OF INFORMATION, and thinks that I MIGHT BE THE ONE, but we have never met. FREAKish or genuinely romantic?!?!?! I shall let you know. And then there is the Australian!!! Now the Australian has been MIA for the last ten days .... apparently something to do with a broken modem cable. Yeah .... right!!! But the Australian is waaaaay tooooo funny and cute to let a broken modem cable get in the way. And so here it is .... dinner tomorrow night with a very very intense man. And meeting the Australian for a wild night of clubbing in a couple of weeks. HOW BIZARRE!!!! G xx P.S. Every now and then I still think o f the ex, but that temporary loss of sanity is becoming more and more frequent!!! YAHAY!
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    Ziggystar Sometimes there is no thunderbolt, no epiphany and no revelation. But somehow or other the mist clears and you see what you have to do. Doing it is not easy. But you know that you have to do it. Good luck to you. G xx
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    Derek Why ..... why does EmptySoul sound more mature than 14? Because she is having sex, or because she is planning a way to seduce a potential lover? G xx
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    Raider Just wanted to APPLAUDE you on your thread. Not quite sure what Mahlina's problem is, but what a great debate!! G xx
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    Ziggystar I shall say it again .... I love your questions. Questions should be thought-provoking and yours always are. Is it worth it? Well ... of course, only you can answer that. Of course. I guess tho, in generic terms, it becomes more 'worth it' if you think that it is salvageable. Now that is the difficult thing. I would imagine that most of us on here who want our exes back have some kind of 'gut feeling' that this is the one, otherwise we would not invest the effort and emotional energy in trying to retrieve a lost lover. However, whether it is worth it or not, I think, depends on the outcome of these efforts. If we win the battle, then of course it is worth it, and at some point in the future we look back and 'laugh' at our 'lost weekend'. If we are not successful in our endeavours, inevitably, we shall meet another and the heartbreak of the break-up will be rationalised as 'meant to be'. So it is a little like WAR - your perception of whether it is worth it or not depends on whether you win or lose the battle. From a personal point of view. I no longer think it is worth it, at the moment anyway. I think that the damage is too great. But that is just my opinion, and it took me a while to get there!! G xx
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    Oh Scout, I wish, I wish, I wish - no definitely not down under with the Australian. However, I do have a little bit of news. Nothing too major I am afraid, and ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH THE EX. For some time, I have been coming to the conclusion (belatedly) that there is nothing we can do to win back our exes and keep them. Dear lord, I am too busy to be looking over my shoulder all the time, wondering when he will have another crisis that will force him back into his cave. I miss him and adore him, but I AM IN THE PRIME OF MY LIFE and pining will not bring him back. And so I have been a busy busy bee. I am going on a few dates, and these are dates to make you weep out in ecstasy rather than in agony if you remember my date of a couple of weeks back. Oh yes, I feel desire again and there is a twinkle in my eye again and I feel BETTER. I am not going to pretend that I do not have melancholy thoughts of the ex, but that searing pain has gone. And when I look in my inbox these days it is not for M, but rather an update from D. Now D (oh thank you Lord, has beautiful blue eyes - YESSSS!!!) Really, as miserable as it gets, and believe me, I was there, one has to accept sometimes that life is unfair, a b!tch in fact, and move onto the next stage. Maybe my ex will come back one day, and maybe he won't, and maybe he will and I will have a DO NOT DISTURB sign up. Hope you are all well. G xx
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    Not exactly a love quote - from a song - but always touches me to the quick. delicate - lyrics by damien rice it's not that we're scared it's just that it's delicate cannonball - lyrics by damien rice there's still a little bit of your taste in my mouth there's still a little bit of you laced with my doubt it's still a little hard to say what's going on silent night – lyrics by lisa hannigan silent night broken night all is fallen when you take your flight i found some hate for you just for show you found some love for me thinking i'd go don't keep me from crying to sleep sleep in heavenly peace silent night moonlit night nothing's changed nothing is right i should be stronger than weeping alone you should be weaker than sending me home i can't stop you fighting to sleep sleep in heavely peace G xx
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    Dikaia Thinking too much, there, buddy. Stop torturing yourself. For now, you have no answers. None whatsoever. This is a bad day for you, it will pass. Know that. Time will help all of us. Be positive, focus on the light, not the dark, believe that all will be good. And Dikaia, all will be good. Thinking of you today. G xx
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    I am sorry, Dikaia, that this is not the anniversary that you were hoping for. Thinking of you. G xx
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    Quite simply, my ex intoxicates me like no other. I am a better person with him. And I wanted to grow and experience what a life with him had to offer. G xx
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    Feels good MarkyMark, feels good. Sun is shining and all is good. Going to look at your update, so that I can LMAO!! G xx
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    Hmmmm ... good question ShockedandDismayed, but not one that any of us can really answer. I think that this can go one of two ways if you get back together, it will make your love stronger - you have overcome so much and are determined to stay together, or it will make your love more fragile - you will trust her less and be more cautious. G xx
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    Crushed, thanks for your PM. I feel bad for you, because you are actually suffering for your exes exes transgressions. It appears that you have done nothing wrong. You have shown commitment to your ex, moving house, changing religion. She could not ask any more of you. And yet ... for some reason, this is not enough for her. So what to do, what to do. If you have read my previous posts, you will see that I am not entirely a fan of nc - especially not as a tool for getting back your ex. I agree that nc would simply be a way for your ex to move on quietly with her life and not question any further what is stopping her from making a commitment to you. I would think that you are going to have to go down the action speak louder than words route. Keep in contact with your ex, maybe suggest to her that you know that she has a lot to think about, but that you would like to remain in contact with her, and see her on occasion. When you do see and talk to her, you need to keep the conversations as light and friendly as possible. Remind her of the man that she fell in love with, without pressuring her in any way. Pressure will surely drive her heading for the hills. Build up more positive memories in her mind. Maybe even say to her, hey I think that this is a good idea, this time out, gives us both time to reflect on where we are going and and how we are getting there. Let her know that you are there and available to her. Do not question her about another relationship. Knowing whether she is dating anyone else will not help your cause at the moment. Goi on the premise that she is not dating anyone. No need to delve further into that. Keep contact with her light and perhaps in a week or so suggest that the two of you get together for a coffee or a drink. If that comes about, still no relationship talk. I am sorry, I think that this is going to be a long process for you. For some reason, your ex does not trust you enough to take the relationship further. You are, somehow or other going to have to build her trust up, show her through your actions that you are not her ex. That you are a man of integrity, better than him. I hope that you have patience, because you are going to have to exercise a lot of it. Feel free to PM again, if you think that I can help. Good luck. G xx
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    Wow Ziggystar!!! Great story about the friend. Guess I should not cancel my subscription to Weddings R Us just yet then!!!! G xx
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    ziggystar Don't beat yourself for your feelings. You feel glad for your friend and sad for yourself. This is the worst time for you to be attending a wedding. Your time will come! G xx
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