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    Hmmmmm ... sometimes, MC, sometimes. But MC, remember lessons learned ... overconfidence does not get ANYONE ANYWHERE. Remember that!!!
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    Thanks Twizod - you made me LMAO!!! Thanks a lot - made my day!! I DO HAVE VERY LOW EXPECTATIONS THESE DAYS!!! (Message to ziggystar!!). G xx
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    Hmmmm .... MC Life surely is spinning funny at the moment, as SincerelyHurt would say! I am sorry for the pain that you, no doubt, are going through at the moment. I remember the agonies of your last nc. Believe me, I am finding it much much easier with every passing day. And I was never a fan of it. Now, my point is this, I notice that in an earlier post, you wrote about the merits of nc as a strategy for getting back your ex. I still, fundamentally believe that IT IS NOT!!! No ex will come back, if you ignore them, unless they want to. They may well start to doubt their decision, but it will not FORCE them to come back, out of curiosity of anything else. I do, however, now believe in nc as a strategy for getting yourself back together, an opportunity to slowly stop obsessing about the ex and when they will make a move. The other thing that I think that we have done wrong (and I am thinking of you, me and SincerelyHurt), is we thought that once the exes had initiated some kind of contact, some of kind of discussion about the relationship, about wanting to see us etc), we almost got overly confident and thought we were on the home straight. Now this has clearly not been the case FOR ANY ONE OF US. Given a reoccurrence of my past events, if my ex now initiated contact I would avoid it (as you did, as SincerelyHurt did), and I would start to make some demands of my own. I might not be ready, and I certainly would not be available, or so complacent. We all want to win. What we have to do is look at the long term gains from playing things very close to our chest. That means NO relationship talk, even when they initiate it, and definitely no talk about the FUTURE. Good luck with the latest round!! G xx
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    Good for you Kathyk ... we are delighted for you (and your new tits!!!) G xx
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    I am clearly in a contrary mood this week, because I always look at Ziggystar's posts and think hmmmmm ... great advice!!! However, I disagree with the last one. Rich, you know I am not a fan of nc - I certainly do not think that it is a strategy for luring back an ex. Definitely not! However, you have acknowledged that your ex is not coming back, and I think that nc will allow you to move on and heal faster than having intermittent contact with her. I think that contact with your ex now, while you are still emotionally raw, will give you false hope and the avenue to analyse everything that she says/does to the nth degree. My, oh my, aren't we all just EXPERTS at doing that now!!! Yes, of course, when you have both moved on, there is the potential for you to both be friends. I don't think that you have reached that stage yet. Good luck. G xx
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    Hi MarkyMark You are having a fabulously complicated life, and that is making us all smile slyly!!! I have gone back to your original post that caused me to start of the furore. AND I APOLOGISE UNRESERVEDLY! You are absolutely right, and I am absolutely wrong. I made the error of reading that you said that you had never loved your ex, and in fact you were questioning whether you had ever been happy with your ex. My mistake - I was wrong. However, and this is in no way to justify my error. I also believe that you were happy with her, happy enough to want her back until fairly recently, and but for the enforced separation, you would have continued to be happy with her. I am delighted for you that you have found NEW HAPPINESS. Delighted. But I think that you know that. I would not like for you to hurt anyone else or be hurt by anyone else, but you have made your situation very very clear to the women in your life, and so you have lessened the danger of this happening. G xx
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    Absolutely right Ziggystar. You know EXACTLY what to do. Good luck. G xx
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    Hmmmm ... Strong1 .... I am taking it that you, too, have had an epiphany!!!! G xx
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    Hi TrulyDee Well, I hold my hands up!!! In the past, I loved bad boys, and had no problem with using and abusing them and being used and abused by them. All part of the fun of being around a spontaneous and exciting bad boy!!! But then I grew up, and realised that I wanted to be in a committed and loving relationship. And I am glad for my epiphany. G xx
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    Sorry Kate, but I do not think that you are over the ex. However, as you know that he has moved on as have you to an extent, I think that ZiggyStar's advice is valuable. By contacting him at the moment, when you are still emotionally involved with him, I think that you are opening a whole can of worms, and you will potentially upset the balance of your relationship. I also think that you have wasted enough time on him already. Good luck.
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    Rich You know my thoughts on this. You have done all that you can do, and with dignity. You should be proud of your achievements, by your own admission, you are a better person as a result of this. I know that it hurts toooo much - one day you might find the benefits this whole horrible process has brought both to your life and to you personally. Lots and lots of luck. G xx
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    Dikaia Short phone call to clear the air and say what you outlined in your post above. Twizod Sorry for this - but SHAME on you - using another woman to get back at the ex. I do not think that Dikaia's woman is a fool. What about other people's feelings - why are we acting as if people are commodities to be dangled in front of our exes faces, to lure them back. And for how long .....? G xx
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    Hoping&Praying I think that whether MarkyMark gets involved with any one of the women he is having a fabulous time with or not is largely irrelevant. Ultimately, at the rate that he is going, it is sod's law, that one of the women will get emotionally involved with him. Hence my concern, both for him, because I know that he does not want to hurt anyone, and for the women, because I know how that feels. MaryMark, as I see it, you are becoming a player!! As long as the women involved with you KNOW this and are happy with this, there is no problem. I have never intimated you should become a monk - NOT MY STYLE!!! All I am saying is, that in this healing process, there has to be time alone for reflection and development, and from your post I do not think that you are allowing for that. Again, only MY opinion. G xx
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    At the risk of being flamed by all the vengeful dumpees, and MarkyMark you know that I adore you, I actually disagree with the email that you sent. Merely MY opinion and I know that you have your reasons. And I disagree with Majord's vote of confidence for sending it. I completely understand that you are saying to the ex that you will NOT ALLOW her to have her cake and eat it and treat you as a security blanket. Completely agree with that. However, personally, I think that it is a poor show to tell someone that you have spent your entire adult life with, that 'you didn't really love them'. I do not think that that needed to be said. On the one hand, you have told her that she is your priority and remains so, on the other you have told her that you are done with her. Now .... who is delivering the mixed messages? MarkyMark, you have gone from SincerelyHurt to SincerelyHumping in a very, very short space of time. You have talked about how much fun you are having and we ALL APPLAUD THAT!!!! All of us. But I don't think that you can possibly know yourself any more now than you did three months ago, because by all accounts, you do not spend any time alone. You are radiant only in the company of others. Don't be angry with me, this is my opinion, and it would not be the first time if I was way of base and, indeed, way out of line. I emphasise, I am happy that you are moving on. However, don't make it at the expense of others. G xx
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    I hear what you are saying Scout. However, I, too played a dangerous game, and I have no regrets! G xx
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    Dikaia You're a big boy - no need for words - body language says it all!! G xx
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    MarkyMark I guess you are having another one of those days where the world just spins funny, where up is down, and white is black!!! It really does just get curiouser and curiouser. G xx
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    Oh yes Dikaia Go for it!!! G xx
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    ZiggyStar You give some great advice!! Really great!! G xx
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    I fear the tide is a-turning!!! Scorned women having their say!!! Bring it on!!! I am fast losing respect for these FREAKS!!! G xx
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    Good for you DaisyB - good for you. I completey agree - you should call him when you want, and be the person you are. This surely is a rocky road. G xx
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    Oh to swear!!!! And to swear a LOT!!! I am fast believing that these guys are F&CKING FREAKS!!!! FREAKS!! WTF!!! We are going to overcome this!! And our grass will look gorgeous and our houses will be polished. Now I need to get to work on the car!!! I am sorry Scout, am sure that you are feeling perfectly ghastly. Can't deny that I am glad you said it though. When I actually say what I think of MY GUY, I am going to enjoy it, and he will be justified in thinking that I AM a bunny-boiler!!!! G xx
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    S&D Thank for those lovely words, borrowed from your father. Fantastic stuff, and so damn accurate. We are all going to find our inner peace, we all know that it will come. Yours too. What a hideous journey, but imagine the rewards in the long term - with or without the ex, I am now thinking! G xx
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    Ok, obviously you know your situation better than any of us. I have no idea how great her life is. But you do. I am not sure how you move forward in terms of making the leap from friends to relationship. Dear lord - haven't reached the friendship stage yet!!! Good luck. G xx
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