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Hey, don't beat yourself up so bad. I'm sure we don't need more jerks in the world! That is good you are a nice guy. There are plenty of nice guys out there that feel the same way as you do. I am a nice guy to, and I felt the same way you did! I just never gave up on who I am , and here i am in a strong relationship with a girl that is nice just like me. You just can't give up man, just live life the way you feel is the right life to live, and if you find someone that wants to pick up the broken pieces of your heart. Don't miss out on your chance.. Just be yourself and things will be okay! Goodluck.

So what are trying to say? You are just going to give up on relationships and be a non believer?

I been down that road plenty of times. You have to pick up the pieces of your broken heart and give them to someone that will repair it for you. Don't just pick any random girls man, go for a girl that really wants you in her life. There are so many girls in this world that you can choose from, and there are plenty of girls that are in your position right now. Just dont give up on you faith..

Do you remember when you were single and wondered is there anyone out there for you? Remember when you were treated wrong in relationships, and all you could do is cry because you thought that the person you were with was the one for you? Do you believe in Soul Mates? I used to didn't believe in having a soul mate. Infact, I didnt really believe in love even though I really wanted to until I found the girl of my dreams. I would listen to everyone tell me "Do not search for love". Love will come to you if you don't give up on your faith. I kept that faith after many relationships of being cheated on and lied to in every one of them. Sometimes you just gotta move on to bigger and better things. When you think of a Soul Mate, you think of someone that gives you everything you possibly need in a relationship with no hesitation of giving back to their needs. Strong communication, love, and happiness. All you do is think about him/her. The things he/she does to make you smile and more... If you really think about it, even if you are single right now and don't believe it, you must believe it and you shouldn't give up your faith. There is someone out there for everyone. Everyone has their own beliefs, but even people that didn't believe in soul mates at first...Now that they found that special person in their life. It has changed their view on all things. If you believe you have found your soul-mate. Don't treat him/her wrong. You dont want to mess up something that is special. You don't want to miss out your opportunity to someone else. When you believe you have found your soul-mate, don't let them go.

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hey, Im sorry to hear that. I can understand your pain because i have been through that before. Now, that you know the truth about things, you can now have the ability to move on with your life. Losing someone that you love will hurt, but you will find someone that will love you back later in life. Seek the future and keep your mind off of him. You will be fine because all your confusion is now understood and life will go on.. Just don't give up and think of it this way.....it was his lost, not yours.

Maybe the guy is shy around girls? It can be a high possibility lol. If i was in your position, and i was really feeling that person, i would go up to the person and continue talking to that person as a friend. You should also exchange phone numbers since you don't see him around school that much. Make him feel comfortable around you. If he is shy around you, the key is to make him unshy...and that is by being his friend! Anyways, to answer your question....If you found someone that you really like and you feel this person will treat you right, go for it!

i have been in depression for years now....i dont know how to get rid of it...i even tried to be a happy person, but it doesn't help. My life is just really bad, and sometimes a few tears come down each time i think about it which is almost all the time. The thing that helps me get by is that i always try. At home, my family barely cares about me, it is really sad. It hurts me so much how they treat me...how they call me names and say they hate me...always take my money when i barely have any. Instead of encouraging me to do well in life, all they do is put me down. I know that I'm 18 years old and I'm not their responsibility anymore, but why do this to one of your children? Better yet, why even say you hate your own son? My grades at school are alrite, but I'm not that good though. I guess some classes are better than the other. The problem is, i have a bad memory, so when the teacher ask me a question on what happened the other day, i dont know the answer to it and i get laughed at and people wonder how i got in that class because I'm stupid...I don't think I'm stupid...i just have trouble learning some things, and plus the courses are not easy to me...I go to a community college right now. I never planned to. I always wanted to be in a university because i feel that is where i belong....I didn't even try to get in one and that hurts me because i feel like I'm doing a 2nd chance at life here....sometimes i feel i should drop out...the only thing that keeps hope alive is that im under a scholarship. Relationship-wise, all i have is bad luck. I fall in love with the person and i end up getting cheated on and lied to about things which make things worst for me. I really don't know what to do when I'm in a relationship for someone to stay with me and like me for who i am. I'm really a nice guy and whenever i am in a relationship, they say im the best boyfriend they ever had or the best boyfriend in the world because i'm always there for them and make them feel special...the sad thing is, they dont do the same...they take my kindness for weakness and use me. Sooner or later, i get dumped for another guy. Sometimes, i feel that hope is loss.... As far as friends go, i dont have any. All i have is associates....i don't remember the last time i went out and had fun with people....I only go out by myself. I can't go out with my parents much because we would have a good time and then they will find something to argue with me about, and i dont want to hear it. I wish i had friends...someone to talk to....actually i do have one friend, i just hope she will never leave me and change like the others. Every job i get, i end up quitting because i can't stand it. First, i was a cashier, and i had to deal with alot of customers attitudes which will just mess up my day even worst and i couldnt deal with people taking their anger out on me because they had a bad day. Secondly, i got a job loading boxes and irregular objects that weigh a ton. It was a fast paced job and i got sick of looking at boxes come over and over again...it was very tedious and i worked over night. I quit the job recently and now i'm jobless. i do have enough money for little while until i find another job...if i find one. I hope i find one that i like and stay with them for awhile. I'm not going to stay there forever because im majoring in computer engineering at school. There are more things that i didnt mention because i didnt want to make it a really long thread because people wouldn't read it and try to help me....I also would like to state that i did almost commit suicide last week because of my life. It isn't that only time I've tried. It hurts me so bad that I'm like this...i dont even want to be like this...Sometimes i even wish I'm dead and pray at night that I will die soon....I'm a nice guy....why is God doing this to me?

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Only been one week. Chill, relax, and enjoy the relationship. Not alot of people like talking on the phone because they prefer talking in person instead. For me, it doesn't matter. I like talking on the phone and talking in person...I just talk alot lol. People do get tired after work, so you must support him when he calls it off early to go to sleep! Don't get mad at him!

hey! You will defiantely not make a fool out of yourself if you call him. So, take the shot. He is probably wondering if you are interested in him...You did say that you found out that he likes you....Maybe he is wondering if you like him to?? and by you not calling him in a week, he is probably thinking that you are not interested in him. I'm sure he will be happy when he receives your phone call...and at the end of the phone conversation, and you want to talk to him again...just be like..."I will call you tomorrow" and stay true to your word or tell him "Call me tomorrow". As I see in your post that you said, you have never been friends with him before. This is a great time to get to know each other better. Go out with each other to the movies etc. and have some fun. Goodluck and Take care

Well, all guys are different, and each person will have their own opinion on this subject. Be a good guy. This is what God wants you to be. God wants you to be a good person, but all people are different. Some people dont' believe in God, but that is your own problem! Basically, All I'm going to say is be yourself. Girls will come and go. Even then you shouldn't change who you are. Love yourself before you go inside a relationship. Be confident with the person you are with. Be with someone that you think you will have a future with. Have goals for yourself. Have a life outside your relationship. Be with the person for who they are and many more things where that come from. Don't just go with some random girl you don't even know! There is a girl for everyone. Only you can decide which one is right for you. You must realize that 99% of your relationships will not last!!! Goodluck

I'll put in my 2 cents! Well, to be honest, if i was you, i wouldnt want to be with someone that has cheated on her boyfriend! That type of stuff will effect your future with her...it will not just effect you, but it will also effect her to!! Let me break it down. As you two are together or whatever later on in the future, you will get these flashbacks of what happened in the past with her and that type of stuff will get you wondering man....Kind of stuff like "I just broke someone's longterm relationship with a guy she has built a relationship for 6 years...What kind of person am I???"...."She cheated on someone to be with me...how will i know if she will cheat on me??"

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Just be yourself and live life regularly. Girls will fall into place. Never try to search for love. It won't work. Just be yourself. You know what is right and what's wrong. Girls like a gentleman that will take care of them, but you must love yourself and care about yourself before you even consider a relationship. there is more where that come from, but I must go to class now.

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nah. Think of more things to talk about then just asking how each other's day went. If you can't find anything else to talk about, make a list of things that you want to talk about with her, or you can BOTH write a list of things you want to talk about with each other. In otherwords, There are many things you can do to get your communication back. It will require not giving up and the willing to both try. Also, don't assume things like if she is bored with you. Girls don't like to be assumed! If you are both going to get married soon, you both should be able to tell each other anything. So, if she has a problem, she will tell u and if u have a problem, u will tell her right?? In the mean time, think of ways to get the communication back. If you do find good ideas about how to get it back that will be awesome. Goodluck to you and I hope I helped!

but she doesn't answer my phone calls....

Me and my ex broke and and we are "supposively" friends now, but we just don't talk anymore. We haven't talked in like 3 weeks and I'm wondering if we are still friends or whatever, so i text messaged her cell phone cuz i didn't know if she wanted to talk to me or not on the phone and i asked her stuff about our status of the friendship and she never text messaged me back. Her birthday is coming up soon. I don't know if If she wants me saying Happy Birthday or not?? I dont even know if we are friends anymore. What u think I should do? Just don't talk to her no more either?

We split because we were arguing over small stupid things that isn't even worth breaking up over. We both got sick of it and just went our separate ways. We barely even talk anymore now.

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I am defiantely going to move on with my life. I'm 18 and she is turning 18 this upcoming month (August)

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yea it would defiantely bother me. You have to think about this though...Do you really want this long distance relationship? Long distance relationships are very hard to maintain because you have to trust the person 2x more than a short distance relationship. Talk to her about how you feel because that is the only way you can get answers and you can pretty much decide if you want to stay in the relationship or not.

She should've thought about the relationship before kissing the other guy. She knows she made a mistake, but you can't just go back into the relationship easily otherwise she can take advantage of you. Something like that will never be forgotten and it will always be in your mind. It will be in your mind everytime she goes on vacation. The question is, will you let it? It is really up to you if you want to take her back or not, but if you ask me for previous experience, the relationship is not going to go far just because of that. If she really love you like she said she do, she wouldn't kiss anyone else but you. Think about it.