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you should go to him when you see him in class and ask him why he isnt talking to you. then you can just tell him how you feel and have it be over with, or continue
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Diary of a recovering exboyfriend
kariphyve replied to rionmccloud's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
That same questions often goes through my mind when reflecting back on my recent break up and even pas breaks ups......If had the answer to that one I'd package it and sell it! Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, when you've eexhausted all other options and avenues that's the only way. i think the answer is they just are following what makes them feel happy, whats happy for you isnt happy for everyone, sometimes we just have to deal. im not saying that its easy to deal. we all know that, but we have to let it all go sometimes and grow from what life gives us- 477 replies
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Can you make any sense from this
kariphyve replied to liasonred's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
as a person in a similar predicament, you are being bitter towards her. you may not want to admit it but your being harsh. hear her out, it will be good for you because you have things on your chest too the 'HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME' no maybe it wont be like hollywood and you two will ride off into the sunset leaving 'david' behind however, it will make amends and a definate end to things. if you guys dated for 6.5 years and she left you, maybe there is something that you actually missed along the way because people dont just get up and leave for no reason. try talking to her or send her an email apology, and offer to talk on the phone if in person is too much. but if you loved her for 6.5 years you can at least still be her friend.- 7 replies
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i wrote a post a long time ago about how my ex wanted to get back but it was just because he was jealous. well the time has come and he actually wants to get back together now. however, he has flip-flopped so many times with me that im afraid to trust him, and he has definitely changed from the person he was before however, his reliabilty has remained null and void. though we arent dating we are in the process of re-establishing a relationship, but he only calls me about once a month, and if i miss his call he doesnt call back for another 2 weeks, he lives in the next state over so most of our relationships have been heavy based on phone communication. i know what hes up to and i know that he is just enjoying his youth and partying and staying out. but it makes me feel subordinate to him and his life. which was one of the problems before, he is in no rush to make changes to his lifestyle for me, at least i think he's not. so i think its best to just end it once and for all. we have been going back and forth for almost 6 years now. it keeps me up at night to have to think about how im going to break it to him, and how much it hurts me that he is so irresponsible with my affections. though i do consider that now he definitely has a lot more love and affection for me, but for it to come once a month is just as bad as not giving it at all. we have talked about this so many times its just an old topic to bring up. im tired of being hurt and im scared to be hurt again.its been so much time wasted that i just feel like if he's going to hurt me again i just want to end it now.
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i dont know how to feel about this, i am only 19 and this summer i have gone from job to job trying to find a place that i like. finally i got a part time position at the local newspaper and i like it, however it may take two weeks or more for me to actually start working there. well, i told my other job (as well as another potential job) that i would be taking up another opportunity. my old job called because they thought i was staying, and i told them no i wasnt coming back, all i said was that i felt bad because i knew they needed a lot of help, after that i get laid on by relatives for being unresponsible. so ok i was happy for about .00002 seconds when my grandmother tells me that it was a bad decision and i should have stayed with my other job until i knew for sure when i started. i cant deal with the stress of feeling like ive made a terrible decision, all summer i was getting so depressed because i wasnt happy in my job and for once this summer i have felt at ease with myself for the decision i made. now this brings all of the stress back. now i just feel like a failure, i failed myself, and my old job, and now ive put stress on my family and now they look down on my decision making. i feel stupid and i feel like i should rush back to my old job, though i know i would be happier at the new one no matter how long it takes for me to start. what should i do????
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really depressed, probably never have sex again
kariphyve replied to kariphyve's topic in Sex and Romance
hey thanks guys, i went to a message board for sexual health and they told me what i have is like "rug burn". they said i have to be patient for it to heal and that im not getting sexual responses because its healing and also im very upset about it and that helps put a damper on things. however, if pain continues for a long time, cus sometimes it does hurt a little i will just have to suck it up and tell my doctor. though like others said. im scared to do that. -
so i was on another message board and i was reading tips for solo sex. this one lady who was a knitter said running a piece of yarn between her legs gave her pleasure. well im a knitter so i tried but unfortunately i rubbed to hard. it didnt hurt while it was happening but when i looked down after my clitoris hurt badly. then 2 hours later i started bleeding heavily. by the next morning i wasnt bleeding anymore, however now its been about three days later,i get no sensation from down there at all, i cant get wet, and if i rub to hard i get a burning feeling, more like pain then uncomfortable. so basically i think i broke myself, and i have been really depressed lately because this means i probably will never be able to have sex again! if there is any advice you can give me please let me know. btw: i know im stupid for trying it anyway. ive been so depressed about it lately i cant even think about anything else, and the idea of sex just makes me want to be sick on my stomach, i hate myself for what i did. and i cant bring myself to tell my boyfriend, i really need some help or support.
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i believe that im starting to realize that im dealing with depression. i dont like to believe that i ever let anything get to me but i just cant take it anymore. im so unhappy with myself at the moment that it is getting to the point of hating myself. i have always had a high level of self esteem and i feel like i still carry part of that but slowly but surely i realize that i am starting to have a self loathing. i im over joyed and happy to be a part of this planet and be alive and have the chances and all those happy things you should be grateful for but telling myself this is not becoming enough anymore. im becoming unreasonably lonely and im having other problems as well like anxiety and insomnia. i just dont think i cant tell myself im fine anymore. the loneliness is what kills me the most. but generally i really do like myself, i just dont know what it is that i hate.
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i have a strange fear. i have a fear of the supernatural. when i was little i believe that i experienced some supernatural happenings when i was younger. though of course it has been years since i still feel the same fear that i felt when i was a little girl. now though i am still young and now in college, living in dorm life i felt i had gotten away from the supernatural happenings that i believed i had frequently experienced. however, i heard many stories and rumors about certain buildings on my campus that may have supposedly been 'inhabited' by 'spirits'. apparently, my current dorm was one of these buildings. now i know that it is very childish of me to worry about these things, but i have become paranoid over the idea that supernatural occurrences have happened in my building. its gotten to the point where i was shaking violently and refused to go to my room or to the bathrooms by myself. i know its rediculous to believe in such things but my actions are getting the best of me. i keep looking over my shoulder when im in the hall and if i am in my room by myself its impossible for me to sleep because i force my eyes open and i cant sleep. its been 3 weeks now and i cant deal with the lack of sleep. i do have a roommate and i do feel more at ease when she is in the room but in honesty it doesnt help much because i still feel the need to have to force myself awake. the shaking has stopped but i keep looking over my shoulder and i feel like i am going crazy. i have made an appointment to speak to the counseling services available on campus but i just wanted to talk to others about it. but i when i went to the appointment there was some kind of party being held in the office and when i walked in everyone looked at me like i didnt belong there and i felt so out of place and stupid that i just left without talking to anyone. i hope im really not going insane.
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recently my ex and i were thinking of possibly getting into some kind of relationship but the only thing we managed to have were a few nightly phone calls, and then he finally admitted that he wasnt in love with me but was just afraid of losing me to someone else. i stayed around after a while because i felt that he must have at least cared enough if he felt a jealousy towards other men, but then i realized that, that was all it was a jealousy. but even now though i understand that there was nothing between us and probably will never be again, it hurts and im really hurting.
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i have a problem...my ex boyfriend and i though we broke bonds a while ago, about 8 months after being apart we found each other again and re-declared our love for each other. however, we did not get back into a new relationship for fear of what might possibly happen. so we stayed "friends" but we continued to have a romantic relationship. this is making me feel lonely because i am deeply in love with him, however because we have not claimed each other we both are up for anyone else. someone new has come into my life and i am not necissarily interested in them but they insist that we get to know each other and "try to make it work", but i cannot tear away from my ex because i feel so in love with him even though i know inside me that if i confront him about my situation he will not change his state of mind about our present relationship. i dont know what to do... i dont want to leave my ex because i am in love with him but i also dont want feel this odd sort of rejectment. i also dont want to pass up the opportunity to possibly be with someone who will show me affection. im so confused and need some advice.
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i am interested in finding love online but i find it just as hard to find people online as it is in the outside world! i hate those online personals ads (mostly because they always pop up when im reading something) but since dating in the real world hasnt added up to much i have turned my eyes to a different way of meeting people, only to find its not that easy. any advice?
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my father recently disowned me, and although i have tons of family and friends behind me i still feel like i was tossed to the side of the road. i feel as if i have no one who cares or loves me becuase of it. my father is a very controling man and dislikes for people to step out of his control sphere and i repeatedly broke this rule and thereforeeee i suffered the consequences. at first it was fine for me to deal with but now it has been a week and i am starting to feel the pain. i am not angry at him, but i just feel so low and dont know what to do about this odd feeling i have- like i am sad but fine at the same time. i am so confused!
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i was once in a similar situation, and i hate to say it, but if she wont see you now there is very little chance that the situation will clear up. a lot of people like to have fun misleading people over the internet, and im sorry to hear about your case. i hate when people just have no consideration for the other person!
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she might be a little doubtful of you over that fact that you got really drunk. sometimes us girls are a little touchy like that. try asking her what she thinks about drinking habits, she might just be surprised at your actions because she may not drink as much as you like to. either way, try to be nice even when you see she is acting distant, because a little charm always goes a long way, and she might get over it before you know it.