Anamarie89

Was he right or wrong to ask for the kiss? I had my first boyfriend over summer break at summer camp, and I'll have you know that I have never been kissed before. And I told him that. So what happens is about 30 hours (he asked me out around 3 pm the previous day) after he asked me out, we were at a summer camp nighttime activity and he said "Let's sneak away..." so I did, not having any experiance in this sort of thing, not knowing he was thinking of a kiss. Then we found a 'secluded' spot and we started talking and here is how the conversation went. "So, um, one of the girl's in your cabin said that you said you wouldn't mind kissing me..." I blush deeply. Good thing it's dark, but it still shows in my voice. I had told that to my friend as a Truth for Truth or Dare... "Yeah..." I reply nervously. "Well, do you wanna?" He acts a little embarrassed too, but in retrospect, it could have been just an act. he's usually really outgoing. "Yeah, but sort of... I mean, I dunno what to do." I'm trying to avoid the topic here. In my experiance, you are supposed to wait a little longer than 30 hours to get to the kiss. And I don't even know what it feels like, so I have this idea of next-step-is-sex-little-girl-bwhaha-right-to-hell-with-you. "Well, what do you think of when you think of a kiss..?" Yeah right, I'm gonn tell THAT! "Um, I dunno." I sound like an idiot. "What do you mean?" He pauses and snorts, embarrassed. I know i sound like a third grader, thanks for rubbing it in! "Well, like do you think of it as um.... a kiss like *makes tiny kissing sound* or like making out?" "Um..." I know exactly what he is talking about, but I don't want to say it out loud. Don't ask me why. I just say. "Well, whats the difference?" "Well..." he is so embarrassed now. I like the power, but I know it isn't getting anywhere. "Making out is like... slower, and with tongues... wagging back and forth..." he waggles his fingers to demonstrate. "I dunno, what do you want me to say." The waggling is so laughably funny. He's treating me like a second grader. Oh god, this is so embarrassing! I can't say that out loud, though. "Well, I could teach you... If you want, I mean." I nearly throw up. Is this the way I want it to be? Isn't the first kiss supposed to be special? Aren't you just supposed to lean forward and it magically happens? I'm sooooo confused! "Um..." Just then somebody discovers us. He swears loudly and profanely. I'm secretly relieved. My face is redder than a tomato. He breaks up with me the next day. So, guys, anybody? What was going on in his mind! I really did want to kiss him, but I had no idea what it would be like! What did I do wrong???

LOL. LOL. LOL. So now you know the secret, i gave advice to you, and i really shouldn't have. lol. lol. lol. much love. don't follow my advice, it probly sucks, considering my other post that you replied to, where i said that i'd never had any guys as friends. LOL. Pirate of the Caribbean rocks. Jack Sparrow (not Johnny Depp! There is a difference!!!) is my future hubby "I'm dishonest. And you can always trust a dishonest man to be dishonest." ---------------------- "You are without doubt the worst pirate I've ever heard of." pause "But you have heard of me." ---------------------- "One question about your business, boy, or there's no use going. This girl, how far are you willing to go to save her?" "I'd die for her." "Oh good. No worries then." ---------------------- Scarlet slaps him. Jack: "Not sure I deserved that." Giselle slaps him. "I may have deserved that." Later, Anamaria slaps him. Will: "And I suppose you didn't deserve that one either?" Jack: "No, that one I deserved." ---------------------- Will: "We're going to steal a ship? That ship?" Jack: "Commandeer. We're going to commandeer that ship. Nautical term." ---------------------- Will: "You cheated." Jack: "Pirate." ---------------------- Elizabeth: "So that's it, then? That's the big secret, the grand adventure of the infamous Jack Sparrow? You spent three days lying on a beach drinking rum?" Jack: "Welcome to the Caribbean, love." ---------------------- "And really bad eggs. Drink up, me hearties, yo ho!" ---------------------- "A wedding? I love weddings! Drinks all around!"

wow. I wish I was you. you are the best position EVER. You are already a little weird, and outgoing, so it will fit with your personality (i'd love to do that but it would not fit with my personality, i am so unpopular and there aren't any guys looking at me. i also have 0 friends that are guys) and if he says no, who cares? it isn't like he is going to brag to the whole school, because he's shy AND mature!!! so just ask, but make sure it is in a pretty private setting, or at least it is so loud no one is listening to you anyway. "Hey, Grant, I was wondering if we could go do something sometime?" He smiles. "Sure, I guess, what'd you have in mind?" "Well, i was thinking we could go see a movie or maybe go to disneyland... just the two of us..." *wink* ----------------- "Hey, Grant, I was wondering if we could go do something sometime?" He grimaces. He obviously doesn't want to hurt your feelings. "Sorry, I'm sort of busy." This is your cue to say, "Sure, cool, see you later!" and split like a banana. He isn't interested in you. --------- either way you don't come off as a loser. and you probably didn't come off as a loser the first time, he probably really wants to know what you were going to say, and went home that day writing in his diary "does she like me? she was going to talk to me but then she ran away. am i just too ugly for her?" lol i know i have an overactive imagination. also, being weird is super fun, i wish i had the courage to let out my inner weirdness *sigh*. can we trade lives?

I like this guy who waved at me, i mean waved as in screamed out my name and enthusiastically waved. doesn't mean he likes me, he is just comfortable around girls. i am not comfortable around guys. I waved back but i want to talk more... how? what do i say? if you are a guy then what would you want me to say? what would you expect me to say? he's a crazy, should i act crazy too? im so confsued, and its just a wave! argh! he doesn't like me, like me though i know that much, i think he just wants to be friends and that is all i want as well! the root prob is i do not know how to be "just friends" with guys! but the waving thing is cool too... i gave him a thumbs up... thats not very cool is it? argh! torture!

well, even if there wasn't ANY proof in the WHOLE world and cough syrup was made out of health food, it's obviously harmful to you, and your body, because it is affecting your natural bodily functions! It might not me harmful to anyone else and so thereforeeeee there would be no proof, but it's messing with you so you should priortize. Natural bodily functions, or temporary high?

if your brother doesn't want it, it could make probs. huge probs. it wouldn't be worth it. if i were you i'd look somewhere else

Think of how your dad will feel. If you die, he'll feel horrible, even more so that he wasn't there to help. And don't say that he doesn't care, because he does. Even if he doesn't know how to show it. When your friends died, you didn't feel like peaches and cream, didja? WHY would you want to make other people feel that way? Also, in case you are wondering how I could be so sure about this, one of my friends died in a car crash down the street a month ago. Her body was split in half. There was so much grief at my school, even people who didn't know her all that well, that I promised myself I'd never do that to anyone. Also, call me crazy, stand in front of the mirror and just smile at yourself. Smile and smile until your face is all stretched out and it just looks funny. Now raise your eyebrows and practice smirking. Keep them raised and try to frown. See! It doesn't work!!! You look like you're about to laugh! Go to school with your eyebrows raised a little higher than normal (not too much, of course) and your facial expression will affect the rest of your attitude.

he doesn't sound like a person that would be WORTH dating! Sure, you might like him, but if he doesn't think you are worth a call, then he is isn't worth you. Make sense? Sort of? and whats the point of having the time limit of a week imposed on you right from the start? Long and short: move on, and pick someone who doesn't ignore you.

I have MAJOR probs talking to guys. Situation Biology: There is a guy in this class who is friends with some of my friends, and he doesn't ignore me (he knows my name, and uses it, and he is **DEFINITELY** not shy around girls) HOWEVER, I ignore him. Not purposefully, but my best friend is in this class, and I'd rather chat with her than him (duh, even though all we talk about is him). She is one of the people I feel really comfortable around. I'd be able to talk to him if he approached me and initiated the conversation (I respond wonderfully when approached or asked a direct question), but because I sort of ignore him, he most likely thinks I'm not interested. How do I initiate a conversation with him (or ANY guy, truthfully) without being too direct, too quiet (my voice is naturally soft), or giggling incessantly and agreeing with every single thing he/she says? Also, any guys out there? (Doubtful, this is a girls forum...) If so, what would like a girl a to say to you? Would you prefer to be appreached or to do the approaching?

if he asked you out, say yes! if you get the chance, try it for a while and if it doesn't work, you have to take the initiative and let him down gently. also, keep your eyes opn for other guys, dont obsess over jsut one

he's popular? at my school, all that means is that he is confident. be confident right back, and go to his soccor game, and memorize everything that happened (take notes, lol) and then talk to him after and be like wow! great game! great save! and judge on his reaction. his reaction should be a pretty good indicator. Also, a good indicator, does he try and get away from you as fast as he can? if so , respect it and move on to the guy who does have a crush on you, after all, your weird, and weird people usually attract the attention of at least ONE guy, right? its the laws of statistics!!

wow, you are LUCKY. Look on the bright side, he still loves you and you still love him, even though you're having probs. So, If I were you, I'd try and make a new connection, something you can talk about. go to a weird thing (like a elementary school carnival, thats just an example) and just hang out, and then you'll find all of a sudden at the carbival (or w.e) there are a lot of things to talk about (omg, look at that little girl eating the ice cream! omg lets play this game. laugh. laughing is the key to a fun relatiosnhip) ok, i'm spewing weird things again. i hope you get my drift? g' luck talking to him, and even if it doesn't work out and you break up, you will always be able t look back at the carnival (or whatever) and say, i really shouldn't have gotten cotton candy in his hair.