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This post is about my supervisor (not the one I like, but I'm kinda close to her too--as a friend). Anyways, I found out earlier that she's gonna be transfered to another branch; I was somewhat shocked by the news. She's gonna be replaced by someone who was hired by the replacement. Anyways, is it common when the BIG BOSS steps down, the REPLACEMENT promotes/hires someone new, just for the sake of having someone (in management level) loyal to her/him?

I'm in a dillema (it's not really a dillema...more of an akward situation) right now, I like to flirt (occasionally) with the opposite sex (my co-workers, basically); That's a part of my personality. It's more just a friendly flirting (if there's such a thing as that). Anyways, that's all my intention when I flirt, I just try to be nice and friendly with the other person (MOST OF MY CO-WORKERS ARE MARRIED). Somehow, a lot of them (my co-workers) picks it up as I like them more than a friend. One of them actually asked me if we could talk (I think you know what that means--she wanted me to be her boyfriend--I don't even know who she is back then!) Anyways, (I think) it creates some akward moments with me and my co-workers, I just can't seem to stop it. How can I flirt with the opposite sex without leading them on (and hurting their feelings)?

If you want to make sure, ask him directly (WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE?)... By the way you told the story, I think that he's just being a gentleman (making sure you were not hurt). But then I MIGHT be wrong.

I agree with segagirl. There's a possibility that this guy would break up with his girl because he has seen something greater in you, he might just be trying to see if you're worth it to replace his girl. Or there might be a possibility that he's just unhappy with his relationship right now.

As you might have read on my previous posts, I like this girl (my supervisor, not the BIG boss) a lot. And you have advised me or told me that dating someone who has control over you (in your workplace) is not good, I followed your advice and what I did is I decided that we're just friends (while I'm with the company, although I never told her that we are going to be friends, and I always keep my distance from her). Rescently, (I think) she reads my actions (towards her) as "we're just going to be buddy-buddy." And I'm beginning to think that I might lose her because of what I did. Should I tell her that until I'm with the company that she's just going to be my buddy (and we should try this later on)?

It might be that he hasn't learn to like you yet; He's just starting to realize that he likes you. Have patience, try flirting with him, if he responds then he likes you too, if he backs out then he's just playing games.

There's this girl who (I think) likes me, and I like her too. But the thing is, she was born here (English is her mother tongue) while I was born in another country (I'm an ESL--English is my 2nd language). There are instances that I find people, who are born here, intimidating to talk to (She's one of them, although she has a very nice personality). Anyways, I'm not shy, but everytime I have the chance to tell her my feelings, I get mind block, everything that I want to say is on the tip of my tongue and I can't say it (I'm not even nervous when approching her). So it ends up as a miss opportunity. What should I do to prevent having mind blocks?

How would you weigh the following factors when you are looking for a partner (1-IT DOESN'T MATTER, 5-MATTERS THE MOST)? > Looks (Physical Appearance, etc.) > Personality (Sense of Humor, etc.) > Education (Bachelor's Degree, etc.) > Career/Job (What kind of job the person has) > OTHER (Name other factor that you would consider, OPTIONAL)

I have this co-worker(Her name is Jessica Y.) before (I don't know what's with me and my co-workers--They seem to find me attractive-- ), she likes me (our supervisor had told me), and over the months we've worked together (We worked together for 6 months), I've learned to like her too. I never asked her out , cause I was moving to Arizona (I used to live in Canada) and I don't know if I could handle a long distance relationship. It's been 3 years since I moved to Arizona, we haven't had any contact since. I have searched for ways to contact her ( I found out her sister's email), but I am not getting any response, I can't convince her or her sister to reply to me. I don't know what to do, after 3 years she's still on my mind. Should I forget everything, and focus on my current "situation" (WITH MY OTHER HOPELESS CASE--look at my other posts)? Help me to try to convince her that I still like her.

Wish you luck! Did you give them your availability? (If not they might assume that this is going to be your only job) Did you fill-out an application form? Did you write your employment history on this form or on your resume? Did you include your job right now on your employment history? If you answered yes to the last question, you're gonna have to mention it. LET THEM ASK FIRST (They'll ask what are your biggest accomplishments in your previous jobs), DON'T SAY ANYTHING UNLESS THEY ASK FOR IT. Aside from that, your challenge is to sell to them that your other job WILL NOT INTERFERE with this job that you're trying to get into. If your answer is no, then UNLESS the situation requires you to mention anything about your other job, DO NOT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT IT.

Well, if you really wanna know if this guy is interested in you, ask him directly (You'll get what you want!)...if not, try asking his close friends. There's a probability that he likes you as well. He might be shy; try to give him some "obvious" signs that you're also interested in him. What I mean by "obvious signs" is be suggestive; show him you like him as well. THIS MIGHT HELP YOU: link removed

Help!!! I have known this great girl, we've (kinda) gotten (somewhat) close within the past 3 months. As I have said from my previous posts, (I think) she likes me too and I like her as well. The problem is I can't (am afraid to) take what we have to the next level because, I have a great respect for her. I'm also afraid of what's going to happen if things don't work out between us. What am I going to do?

Have you ever heard of the expression, "There are (still) many fish out there in the sea."? Meaning, there are many ladies out there, not just the "out of your league" women. Why don't you give these other women a try, I'm sure there's someone who's bound to like you. Believe me, I used to be like you; I only look for "supermodel-type" women, but, I'm getting the same treatment from them(pity-looks). I decided to give this other(average looking) women a try, and I look past their outside appearance, now I have lots of girl-friends.

Just out of curiosity (A question for both gals and guys)... Gals: Let's say, a shy guy likes you and you like him too. But he hesitates to ask you out. Would you make the first move, or wait for the guy to have courage and ask you? Guys: Do you like it when gals make the first move on you (Gals asking you out on a date)? Or do you still prefer the the old times (You're asking a gal out on date)?

There's a possibility that this girl likes you...If you really want to find out, ask her directly... Based on your post, the fact that she smiles back when you talk or greet her could also mean that she's just being nice to you (and could mean nothing more than that). You also know that she stares at you (or at your direction); This might just be a coincidence(depending on how many times you have seen her doing this), or it might also mean that she was looking for something/someone at your vicinity/direction. And she smiles laughs a lot when you tell a joke; you might be good on telling jokes. I had this experience with a girl who, I thought, likes me; she did the same thing as what you said. I asked her out, but she wants me as a friend, nothing more. Your other choices if you really want to find out (without asking her) if she likes you or not are: -- FLIRT WITH HER (if she flirts back, there might be something there). -- TELL A LAME JOKE (if she likes you, she'll find all your jokes--even lame ones, funny).

I completely agree with "garymax"... PLUS... Lose your VIRGINITY...NOT EVERYONE WILL THINK you're COOL!.. The same way, you think EVERYONE is thinking about you right now... Have you heard of Charles Stanley? (He's a pastor/TV Evangelist)...He said, "I don't know what the formula for success is, but I know the formula for failure; TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYBODY." If you're going to do something (having sex...for the sake of it) with the intention of PLEASING EVERYONE YOU KNOW, you'll FAIL BIG TIME...that's for sure. Why? because EACH one of us has different POINT OF VIEW of RIGHT from WRONG. If you need the strength to get you through this (And your friends are not around to help you), there's always JESUS. Trust me, my friends were not there when I needed them, BUT JESUS never left me. He carried my burden for me. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS HAVE FAITH, PRAY AND BELIEVE that JESUS WILL GIVE YOU STRENGTH, AND HE WILL GIVE IT TO YOU.

errr, I don't think that her mom hates you. She might have been upeset with someone (probably this girl)/something (she might have forgotten to do something), and her anger might have been "carried over" to her "ettiquette" on the phone.

Would you still LIKE/GO OUT WITH someone, who you DO NOT FIND physically attractive (NOT GOOD LOOKING, NOT SEXY), but has GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR, ETC...In short, someone who has the INNER BEAUTY, not the OUTSIDE?

This is a question for both ladies and gents: (Hypothetically speaking...)You are madly in love with someone, who you think is THE ONE for you (he/she is perfect in every way you want). The only problem is, your friends, co-workers, parents, etc...blah, blah, blah...does not approve of your relationship with your partner. WILL YOU DEFEND YOUR RELATIONSHIP? WHAT WILL YOU DO, IF YOU"RE IN THIS SITUATION?

How can I tell if a girl likes me? Well, I had someone gave me a sign that she likes me... or sometimes I notice how a girl acts (when she's talking to me), if she can't look you straight in the eye(combined with blushing, and being tongue-tied), I regard that as she is interested in me. If you want to send a sign to someone telling him you like him.

I agree with both bzborow1, and segagirl. Speaking for myself, I'd also wanna include having brains, with confidence and a nice smile. I'm attracted to the women with intelligence.

I (used to--?) have this feeling for my supervisor. As far as I know, she is also interested in me (she's sending signals that she is at least interested in me. I've read so many articles on "how to tell if she likes you", and I can tell you she falls on 80% of those signs that I read!). The thing is, I have worked so hard on my reputation, to be one of the best associate in our company. I don't want to ruin our friendship and trust that we have as fellow associates--plus my reputation as well. I have asked for opinion before, and most people told me, that dating a supervisor is a bad thing, especially if you care about your job, and if it doesn't work out? One of you has to quit. This is what keeps me from dating her. Basically, "We met at the right place, at the wrong time." I finally decided to get her out of my heart and mind (or so I thought). See, everytime I see her flirting with someone else, I always feel some jealousy over her, and to who ever she's flirting with. Some people say, when you think of that (special) person('s well being) first, before yourself, then it's got to be love. That's the situation I find myself in, if she needs help with something, I'm always there for her. Since this job is just temporary for me, the thought of leaving this job and looking for another, has always crossed my mind, just for the sake of seeing her. THE QUESTION: I'm confused on my feelings about her, I don't know if it's REAL LOVE or I just have CRUSH on her. Would it be worth it to lose/quit my job, over her? Would it be worth it to lose her, over my job?

Have you had the experience of meeting (and liking) someone at the "right place, at the wrong time"? i.e: You met someone you really liked, and that someone likes you back, but due to circumstances, you cannot be together (ie. you're attached, that someone is attached). Ala Romeo and Juliet scenario.

If you like your CO-WORKER, and you found she/he has the same feelings for you. Would you date your co-worker? AND If you found out that your SUPERVISOR likes you, and you like him/her too. But, your intimidated by his/her status with the company. Would you risk your reputation, and ask him/her out?

As what I've said, it really depends on the person deciding what age, and who is right. People have different level of maturity; some are young at age but act mature, some are older but are childish. I mean, I'd still like someone three or four years younger than me, but she has to be mature enough for me. I'm also turned off by someone who is 3-4 years older than me, but acts like 5 years younger.