wild_flower

I understand where you are coming from, I was in the same situation as you are. We flirted for the longest time. I thought it was all fun and nothing would ever come of it, well I was wrong. One day at work I was leaving and he pulled me close to him and gave me a kiss and within a week or two we were intimate. I agree that if you continue with the flirtation it will lead you down a path that you may or may not want to go down, you need to think about that. You may be just experiencing the excitement of someone new paying attention to you and the fact that he does flirt with you. You need to examine your true feelings for your BF and if you find that there are no feelings for him then he deserves to be let go and be free to find someone who will love him. If you do love him than you need to stop all contact with your co worker and focus on "flirting" with your bf. Yes, I agree the flirtation is fun but the aftermath is not. Just take care of you and be careful, cause it is not just your personal life but your professional life as well, it could lead to you losing your job. I hope this helps.

No he is not my bf. He is a really good friend who has done this to his S.O.. I don't agree with it and I have talked to him about it, and he said that it has only happened once. I told him he is suppose to love and adore her but his actions with the other person are "saying" something else. I really don't know his S.O., have only met her a couple of times. I just don't understand how guys and I know girls do this as well, can do this to someone they "love". I figure I have done my part about talking to him about it and I don't agree with what he is doing or has done. I guess me talking to him is all I can do.

Ok maybe someone can explain this to me......how can someone say that you make them complete and you are the love of my life, blah,blah,blah and then go out and flirt with other people, kiss and basically cheat. Either they are lying and don't know the meaning of love or seriously have something wrong with them. Any thoughts???

I have a question for guys.....when you guys asks a girl if she has a boyfriend, does it mean that you are generally interested in the girl or is there some other motive?

I'm really confused about a friend of mine. We have been frineds for a long time, well about a month ago (new years eve) he gave me a quick kiss on the lips, and about a week or so after that we made out. We were talking and everything was fine, but then he said he felt guilty, coz he is with someone else. I told him that was fine coz I don't want to ruin our friendship or his relationship with this girl. I like him but friendship is more important to me. Well anyway, since then we still "flirt" with each other and he sort of keeps me posted on where he is going and things like that. Earlier this week we were talking on-line and I told him I had to get up really early in the morning, well the next morning he texted me and said good morning baby, are you awake. He was being nice. My question is does he like me more than a friend or just being nice to a friend? Don't know how guys act when it comes to a friend who is a girl. Guys opinions would be great!!!

He has told me that I am a nice person and he will take up for me if I need him to, 'cause he has told me that if anyone says anything to me, then they can come talk to him. He is a really nice guy, so I don't know if he is just being nice or he feels like he needs to protect me.

Maybe he did have somethings going on in his life and maybe he felt like he would be "cheatin" you out of 100 % of his time and attention when he was with you. If it was something really heavy going on in his life, maybe he felt like having a gf would only add more stress to the relationship and to the problems he was having. If you still have feelings for him why not take it slow and see where it goes? You don't have to committ to him or anything, that is your call, but seeing where it would lead could be interesting.

Maybe some one can help me out with this. Me and this guy have been friends for a while now, we laugh and have fun, email to each other every week. Well he has not been the type of guy who has let me know when he has gone on vacation or even where he goes to. However, recently he has given me the info. We do a small amount of flirting but nothing too serious. He is the type to keep his feeling to himself, he doesn't let a lot of people get close to him. There have been times when I have caught him staring at me and he won't turn away, but then at other times he does turn away when I catch him. Is he acting this was 'cause he likes me or something else. I just don't want to take things the wrong way. Why would a guy all of a sudden inform a girl of his plans to go away on a vacation or trip?

It is not easy to ignore your heart. It is not good when you see each other every day. Maybe finding another job would be the best thing for you. But then again the feelings will be there. I have been in the same situation, me and my co-worker have not been intimate but we could just look at each other and at that moment everything was fine. My co-worker has found another position in the company and has moved out of the area, but we still keep in touch via e-mail and when "my friend" comes to town for meetings we talk, but not outside work. That would lead us down a very dangerous road. The only advice I can give you is to be strong and continue to work on your marriage. The feelings may change in time but it will take a lot of strength on your part not to give in to your feelings. Good Luck.

I am hoping that someone can help me with this problem I have with a friend of mine. Let me start with how this all started. About a year and half ago, I was having problems @ my job w/ one of my supervisors. I went to our boss and had a talk about the problems I was having with this person. Well everything was taken care by our boss, but that was when I believed things changed between me and my boss (not the supervisor). About a week after our talk, he thought that I was mad at him, so he tried to call me at home one night, when he couldn't get intouch with me at home that evening he came into work very early the next morning (when my shift started) we did talk that day but it was different. Anyway, over the months I could tell that we were very comfortable with each other, I would catch him staring at me and when we were in a group of other co-workers, he would always look at me while he was talking. He is not the type to open up to everyone, only a few people. There were times when we would talk about nothing, just so we could talk. About a year ago he got a transfer within the company, however we email every week and when he comes into town for meetings he will come over to me almost the instance he gets into my building. The next email I get from him is, him telling me how nice it was to see me. Last week he told me that he was going on vacation and where he was going. (which he has not done up until now.) I have grown to have feelings for him but I am unsure if he has them for me. I don't want to ruin a really good friendship and make things strange between us if I am wrong. So my question is, does he think of me as more than a friend or not. I know that I should talk to him about this but I want to see what other people think before putting our friendship on the line.