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  1. pooh-bare
    Keep the focus on Yourself and all should be fine.
  2. pooh-bare
    is the "friend" trustworthy? is what you need to ask yourself.
  3. pooh-bare
    Sounds like you both need to do a bit of growing up.......... " * * * for tat" will get you no where.
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    You're not being stupid, but she is taken.........Move on.
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    Sorry, hun. But we can't change them..........You either have to accept him the way he is, or dump him! ...........Old saying "women marry men hoping they'll change, men marry women hoping they won't"........... I was married for a looooonnnnggggg time and continued to think he would "do better", he never did & I couldn't live with that. Divorce is tough and expensive! Think this one thru.......
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    You sound like a people pleaser. Not a good thing..........stand your ground with this guy. Only YOU know what's best for YOU........He sounds as if his self esteem is low, it's not your job to boost it.......Always be honest with him.
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    Knowing what we need to do and actually doing it is 2 totally different things........the good news, when we've had enough, we'll know it, and only then will we do something about it......Thankfully we live in an age where there is help when we're ready.
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    I have plenty of self respect. As for the sex part, well, that's a nice thought but I think a bit un-realistic.....I've been committed to me all of my life. I have both feet planted firmly on the ground, a home, a career with a 6 fig income, the best family ever. The only thing that's missing is the man I will spend the rest of my life with.......I was alone for years and wasn't looking............Now there's 2............still confused........
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    I've tried that one too.........I think the answer is to let go of them both. I have a fear that I will chose the wrong one! If I chose #1 will I wonder if I made a mistake and vice versa.......thank you all so much for the wonderful replies and insight you have given me......this a great place.........Keep posting.........I'll be checking back.........
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    Guess I'm not............My way is taking weekend trips now and then, eating out once in a while (he prefers home cooking) and him including me in his day to day life i.e. his family, his church, etc. I will check out that book right away.........thank you.
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    That is very possible..........I've considered the fact of "wanting what I can't have".
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    I agree. That's why I'm here. I've SEARCHED endlessly and everytime I think I've decided, something changes and I'm confused again........Maybe this will help; guy #1 has always told me he's not in love with me, and a year ago I moved on, here's where I met guy #2. So, guy 2 tells me he loves me but it's not the "forever kind of love", so we're just "dating". Guy #1 calls, bam! I can't stay away from him. Lust? He knows I'm seeing someone else, he rolls with it for a while, I tell him I want to get married, he says "no", we break up, I keep seeing guy 2. 5 weeks ago, guy 1 calls and says he's ready to try it my way. Guy 2 has all ready planned and paid for an 8 day vacation...........thought I'd end it after that, but I can't seem to do that either...........wrong? sure it is! I'm confused. I'm human.
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    Neither of them has wanted to make a real commitment so far, so honestly, I don't know. /Well, I don't really know, but it must be something........I genuinely care for them both and I'm sure there's plenty I do for them.
  14. pooh-bare
    I guess you're right, I am! My son goes to boarding school and doesn't know about either of them.
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    I've been seeing them both for over a year, it's tiresome, sometimes I must lie to them, and yes, I'm ready to get married again.........no, they don't know about each other and live in 2 different towns.
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    Thanks. That has crossed my mind.
  17. pooh-bare
    Amen to that!
  18. pooh-bare
    Sounds to me as if you 2 are growing apart.
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    and I can't decide between them....Please help me.....this is my first post, so I hope I put it in the right place. I'll give you some background and try not to make this too confusing or into a novel.......I'm in my early 40's, my youngest child is 16, and I've been divorced for 6 years. I think I'm "in love" with 2 men. 2 men who are completely opposite of each other, but each having something I am absolutely crazy about. One likes to stay home and just do hobbies and very rarely goes anywhere which bothers me sometimes and the other likes to travel and just get out but also can stay in and watch a movie or something. Both have good morals, values and are just all around great guys - the hard to find kind! I could see myself with one of these men for a lifetime. The main difference between the 2 is in the bedroom and I place a high value in that area. Guy 1 is awesome at pleasing me, he's adventerous and can go for an hour or 2, likes to lie in bed after, cuddle and have great conversation. Guy 2 will almost always get me off, but sometimes gets overly excited and can't wait till my turn is over and no matter the circumstances it's usually only missionary style and he always, always blows his load within 2-3 minutes, and when he's done, he's ready to go cut the grass or wash the car or run 5 miles or something, no lieing in bed afterwards and talking or cuddling...Guy #1 has begun to step up to the plate and has begun to take me more places and after 3.5yrs I finally met his mother.......Guy#2 took me on an 8 day vacation recently & it was great. And he does all the things I wish Guy#1 would do, i.e. rub my back, run that quick store errand, etc......Who would you choose and why? (please ask any questions you may need to and I'll answer as honestly as possible).
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