HopelesslyLovely

Thanks for the advice, I think I'll follow it. (by the way, sorry if I came off as an * * * * * * * for mentioning her period)

So should I not mention it, and leave it up to her to make any advances? The only problem I see with this is that she's shy, and I don't think she would.

I'm pretty sure she had started it, applepie, because it seems around that time of the month, and I can see her skin become slightly paler during it. (though she tells me it's BS and that nobody else tells her that)

Yesterday my girlfriend and I were on the phone, and we started running out of things to say, so I suggested we play "Truth or Dare?" We did, and as the game progressed, we began giving each other increasingly sexual dares, saying that we'd do it the next day. Keep in mind that the first time we had even spoken sexually was the previous day, we were very open, but had our limits. She made up some rules for us to follow, but began to break them herself, saying it was okay for her to break them because she wanted to do those things (or have them done to her). We are in high school, and so after school we were leaving (as we always do) and I asked if we were going to go through with the dares. Shrugged, and said she didn't know, and that if we did, where would we do it. I said we'd find a place, and lightly insisted. She said we sohuld just do it some other time, but then I (we) found a perfect, private place. We started kissing, and I asked if it was okay if it was okay if I started doing the things (not completely sexual, but more than we'd ever done before. Stuff like pleasuring each other and touching each other, but always with clothes on!) She asked if I wanted to, and I said I did if she did, and she said okay. So we started to do those certain things, with the most being her grabbing my penis, pleasuring me. (at that point she was looking away, and I said it was okay for her to look. She took a peek, and we laughed about her shyness.) Then she said we should go, and after a minute or two more we did. My question/problem is this: She said that it was a one time thing, and when I asked if we'd never do it again, she said maybe in four or five more months. We also had a dare about her giving me a handjob later on in the week, but I said she didn't have to do anything she didn't want to, and she said she didn't want to do that. Now, it's pretty obvious that I should let it go and enjoy her, but she seemed incredibly open, willing, and excited to talk about doing those things on the phone. Also, she started her period today, so I don't know if she was just in a bad mood or if she was uncomfortable doing those things today. Your thoughts...?

This is a bit of a follow-up to a really long thread I started a few days ago; the replies were few, and I was disappointed (not with the responses but with the quantity of them) So there's this girl who I see all the time at school. She's been with this guy for around two weeks almost, and it doesn't seem to be going well; it seems that he likes her, but she's not so interested. Anyway, she and I have been flirting more and more, and in more obvious ways as days progress. For example, today we had a "student leaders'" meeting, and I sat accross from her. For the whole hour and a half we played with a bean, first me hiding it in one of my hands, and she guessing where it is, and then she doing it. The game wasn't so important, but we hardly took our eyes off each other the whole time. Then, when we started atracting attention we stopped, but played a game of "glance tag." My question is, is it okay to do this; or should I wait until they're broken up for sure? The problem with that is that I want to make it obvious that I'm interested. The original post is here:

As an update, I'd like to add that today she and her "boyfriend" were walking in front of me, and she noticed me. She then stopped, and went in the opposite direction for a second, but then continued in the original direction, now behind me. She made some comment to me, saying something like "Oh, you walk this way *_________*? I didn't know that!" Then I walked faster, trying to get some distance between them and I. After school, though, there was this "student leaders'" meeting. I sat accross from her, and we made faces at each other, and played with beans (yes, beans) the whole time. (along with some glance tag) Maybe I'm just on a little hopeful high right now, but I'm starting to really believe that she will break up with her boyfriend very soon for me. Your previous comments have said that I should move on because she has a boyfriend, but considering the circumstances, what would you advice?

If you're going to interview someone, why not have it be him?

If it's not mutual now, chances are it won't ever be, so don't be afraid to say no. (reminded me of an anti-drug commercial) If he really is hugging you, and it makes you uncomfortable I'd consider that sexual harrasment, and you should have a serious talk with him about it. Keep in mind that since he seems to be obsessed with you he might be very angry when you let him down, so keep a few guy friends near when you do so, and do so carefully. Or it might be a serious crush, who knows? If it doesn't fade in a week or two, you have a problem.

I've been trying to convince myself to just get over it, and her, and move on, but sometimes I just want to see her desperately. Since she and her boyfriend don't seem to be working out (they've only been together for around two weeks), would it be worth waiting? She's a very nice person, and I think she might be afraid to hurt him, since she already had before. Anyways, if I decide to wait or not, it always takes me a considerable amount of time before I can look at another girl. I realize this makes her sound promiscuous, but she really isn't; I think this is her second "boyfriend" ever.

Hmmm, this is a tough situation. What exactly was your boyfriend's response when you approached him about it, and what did you say? If no other option is left, then talk to her, and tell her that she needs to stop acting that way around your boyfriend, because it makes you uncomfortable (don't say jealous). It doesn't sound like your boyfriend has feelings for her, or worse. As long as you don't blatantly blurt it out in front of both of them I think you'll be okay.

I agree with southerngirl, have a serious talk with her about it. Be careful how you approach her about it, though. Make it so that she knows that you want to spend more time with her, and not so much that her friends are getting between you two. If that doesn't work then just ask her out before her friends do, that way even if they ask them to a rave or something, she'll already be busy.

Move out of Florida, change your phone number, and never see him again; EVER. You deserve much better, having been so commited to him, and giving him a chance when he asked for it. He didn't "mess up", he has a problem, and it should ruin his life, not yours.

I'm thinking, he was separated but not married, yet you still had a relationship. Does this relationship continue even now? It seems that you were unwise to engage in anything with him without an official divorce. So far I see no real problem, but I suspect that this isn't in "Abuse and Violence" for no reason.

For the most part I think they do it simply for the money. Consider prostitution; do you think they do it for pleasure, or to feel they're in control? They just need the money, and are willing to do anything it takes to get it. For others, not as blatant as to have sex on video, it may just be the rush. For example, girls who flash the camera get nothing of it, but a good laugh and some fun.

He probably just doesn't see you that way. The fact that he openly told you about another woman he's interested in shows that he's confident in his friendship with you, and that's probably all he's trying to pursue. If you feel that you really could just "be friends" then do so, but if you harvest hopes of him "coming around" you'll end up hurt. You seem to think that too, so it shouldn't be too far of a fall.