MissyJ

Do you really want someone back who has hurt you or could say those things to you?

I am very similar tho, if i like someone a lot all i want to do is spend all my time with them and i suppose i may come accross a little strong but to be fair i have never actually scared anyone off.

Just go for it. Depending where you are? If you are inthe middle of a supermarket then no, but if at home or somewhere romantic then defo.

I used to have braces and it never effected me once or the guy i was kissing for that matter. He wont even be able to tell. Just relax and enjoy the kiss and all worries and crappy thoughts will float away.

You need to get rid dude. She is messing with your head and like you said she is not worth it. You sound like a really lovely guy and you deserve someone who wants to put the same amount of effort in to a relationship as you. Let me know how you get on. x

I agree, its totally harmless and it is in no way a replacement. I used to use mine with my ex he loved it. And when i went solo i too was only thinking about him! Sometimes a girl just has to do it. If it would make you feel better you could ask her about it how she likes to use it and if maybe you could share the experience, but dont push it because you dont want to make her feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. Its totally natural. And very good fun!

I totally know where you are coming from, except my ex was cheating on me with this woman. Who he takes out in our town, takes her to our house sleeping with my guy in my bede, using my pillow. (God hurts so bad). I am totally doing the nc thing and it works until, i see on his website poems he has written about her and then things he has written about me which are not true. Anyway sorry for going on, i think you need to tell him to leave you alone. You dont want to know about his problems as they are not yours any more. You can be strong and you will get through this, im positive you will be happy again in no time. What doesnt kill us makes us stronger!

Hunny hunny hunny. Bless ya, you are having a hard time of it arent you?! Well my opinion is that if you really love this guy, let him be there for you and try not to get eaten up by these thought, i know is difficult (going through depression myself) but when a thought like that comes into your head, just think to yourself, 'this is not logical, he is always there for me he is loving and affectionate and he deserves my love in return, this is the depression making me paranoid and im not going to let it take over my life'. Think about it why would someone put themselves in a fairly difficult position just as a way to pass time, he must care about you an awful lot to be there for you. Most guys dont bother! Trust me on that one! Let me know how you are getting on, and if you ever need to talk its all good. x

See i think, after just being cheated on myself, my ex had a new number in his phone and it turns out he had been cheating on me with this woman for quite a while. And i also think you need to address the issue that you dont trust him... why did you spilt up in the first place.

Thank you romantic sweetheart and redsuede, i know you are right it just so hard to see through the fog that is pain at the moment. Redsuede, simons and my relationship didnt start until way after he was single, i didnteven know him when he was with his wife. Staceymay, i can see where you are coming from but there is never any excuse for cheating, if he was unhappy he should of talked to me first. Which he did not! I had no indication that anything was wrong, i felt and he made me believe that we were happy.

Well, not sure where to start but i suppose the beginning is a good place. Simon and i started dating a about a year and a half ago. He was married but his wife left him 3 weeks after they got married. I didnt come along until a while after that, but he was sorting a few things out with her. I supported him through this, even when after she had moved out of his house he came home one day to find her shagging someone in his kitchen. (messed up i know), but like i said i stood by him and helped him through it all. That was sorted and everything was great between us, were from the very beginning, sex was amazing, we had the same sense of humour everything i thought was perfect. He would say things to me like he wanted to have children in a couple of years but wanted to be married to me first etc so i thought he really loved me too. My family really liked him and i got on well with his family too. We moved in together after about 6 months because i was always round his anyway. This year we booked a holiday to Egypt and were both looking forward to it all year. We were having a stressful time both tired with work and lots of things on our minds and we started getting a bit grumpy with each other but it was always sorted before bedtime! We went on holiday and 2 days into it i found a picture of another woman on his phone... i asked who it was, he replied a woman from work, she work in a different area and he said he had only met her twice... ??? Only met her twice, why did he have a picture of her. Anyway we didnt really fall out about it i was just confused. Then he told me he wanted to split up??? What the hell? where did that come from? I asked if it had anything to do with her, he said no nothing he just felt we had drifted apart. Fine so we came back from the holiday a week early. As soon as we got home i packed my things and went back to my mum and dads. Simon told me he went out that afternoon and the following day with and old friend. I didnt believe him. He lied to me constantly about everything over the next couple of weeks. I then found out from his brother that the woman on his phone was from his previous job and he went to see her the day we got off the plane! I rung this woman at work to try and find out the truth. She hung up on me. So i rang back, i was not unpleasant i just said to her "look i dont care whats been going on, or whats going to happen, i just want to know woman to woman dont you think i deserve the truth? He had been seeing her for a while, im not totally sure how long but he was unfaithful. After Simon had been to see this woman before i found out about her he was trying to kiss me and hug me and touch my bum and stuff, i told him to get lost. Then i was away studying and he rang me to ask when and how was i going to start paying him back for the holiday? ARE YOU CRAZY? SInce he has asked me to be friends. I dont think so mate. How can i ever ever ever trust anyone again? After someone made everyone in our lives that he was head over heels in love with me and then be a complete evil man. I cant even begin to explain how hurt i am by this strangers behaviour. Can anyone shed any light on this, i just want to know im going to be ok in the end, i dont want him to cause an effect on my future relationships.

Do you think you are strong enough to just say hi and walk away and not mull over it when you get home, if so then yes go, but if you will go home and not stop thinking about how good she looks then maybe stay away. Also will she question why you have not replied to her? Are you prepared to handle questions?