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so ive been going crazy all day so i called her and was straight up and asked what do you want from me? after a 10 second pause she said she didnt know.. and then shes asked me if everything was alright and what got me thinking about it.. anyway.. she said she didnt know and that it was too early for her to know.. so imma give her some time to think and go from tehre

if possible id like to get another opinion

honestly.. i kinda felt like she was using me for the attention i give her.. i will step down i guess sucks because i really liked this girl and its the first one i just dont understand.

Women can be so complicated when they choose too.. im starting to get tired. let me explain theres this girl ive been really into for years and we always had a thing for each other. i met her over the internet about 2 years ago and we hit it off so well that we met each other 2 weeks later. At the time we were both in a relationship so we kept it as friends. Anyway time has passed and things have changed and we are both single now. Actualy thats not how it always was.. what happen is that im currently on pre deployment training to go overseas to afganistan in august. anyway when she found out about that she called me (first time in a blue moon) and all the sudden wanted to see me. At this time she was still with her b/f but was having problems with him. anyway we met up that night and hung out all night and she ended up kissing me and getting close to me. Its what ive always wanted i always really liked this girl but she was still with her b/f and it just couldnt be but i wanted it so badly. Anyway i left that same night but still kept in touch with her. 2-3 weeks later she tells me that she broke up with him. I come back on weekends to see her and when im back she doesnt make much of an effort to even try to see me, she says that she likes me alot and she hurts alot of guys... and she doesnt want to hurt me... she doesnt want me to be a rebound guy and stuff... i leave for 2 months and then come back back and i see her once in the whole 6 days ive been back and it was only for an hour.. i went to have lunch with her hardly kissed her and when i did.. she would somewhat pull back... i dunno if shes trying to tease me, if shes playing with me.. what her intensions are.the only place i ever get to really talk to her is over msn and i hate it so much.. and thats where she is saying how much she likes me and how amazing i am... she never ever calls.. and when she does im so shocked that i almost forget to pick up. I almost feel like giving up but ive come all this way i know i would come to regret it later on.. and i have such a hard time talking to her about all of this in person because when im with her none of this feels like it matters... please what can i do ?

im not after the ex.. im after the ex's friend. I wouldnt do that to my friend anyway i called her n im going out with her tomorrow night

alright thanks that made my mind

So alright, let me explain this little story My friends ex g/f's friend and I have been talking for awhile over msn ( my friend always keeps girls away from me because hes afraid that imma steal them). Anyway yesterday i met her for the first time finally along with my friends ex g/f and had alot of fun. I like this girl and im pretty sure she shares the same feelings.. my question is i dont wanna seem to desperate so should i stick with the 3 day rule and wait before calling her back or does that rule not apply anymore ?

well i dont know if you would actually consider it as a date.. but for me it was the one time that i felt like i was on a real date (even if i was with her for like 2 years). I brought her out for breakfast and then i brought her hiking, we went up this mountain and had a little picnic (and did other stuff and i surprised her afterwards and brought her sky diving for her very first time. After that we went to my chalet and spent the rest of the night with a couple of friends cooking some stuff over the fire and watched the reflection of the sunset on the lake then ended up going to bed and I remember falling asleep with her in my arms. Damn, that reminds me how much it sucks to be single And i thought she was the one OH WELL, things dont always turn out the way we hope them to, and when they dont we keep our heads up high and hope for the best.

i havent been on a date for more then 6 months now

Your a really strong person to still be here after this... One thing you should never lose is hope, hope for a better tomorrow and it will come

thank you all for your words of encouragement.. name calling never really did anything to me.. i just found it funny that she went to my dad... im really close with my dad but im not influenced by him, so no matter what she does or says.. it wont change my mind. I know it bugs her me not talking to her for this long, and knowing that makes me wanna keep NC. Im not out to hurt her.. im just out to keep myself not depressed. I can see myself in the future getting back being friends with her... but i still have alot of growing to do before that and still have quite some time before that... I just wanted to make sure that what i was doing is still right because sometimes people tend to get sidetracted.. but now i know im on the right track so ill keep on it.. thanks alot guys (and girls)

My g/f broke up with me about 5-6 months ago and ive been have NC for about 3-4 months and ever since ive started the NC ive been starting to feel ALOT better... so much better that I hardly ever think of her anymore. She is dating my best friends brother who lives about 500meters from my house which happens to be on my way to work every morning and i have to admit.. i DO usualy get a sick feeling in my gut when i pass by the house but lately the feeling has been down to about nothing. Anyway, shes been sending me emails, texts messages, tried calling, messaged me on my myspance and i have been ignoring all of the messages and i havent sent her ANYTHING. Anyway, just yesterday i went for lunch with my father since i havent seen im in awhile and my father said that he spoke to her and she told him to tell me that its been long enough now and that i should unblock her from everywhere and stop ignoring her and stop being a big baby. I was her best friend and she was my best friend when we were in our relationship... we did everything and told everything to each other so she wants to go back to being my friend.... i honestly dont think i can have a friendship with her.... its just that i loved her so much and ive been through SO much pain and after everything she is dating my best friends brother !?! What do you guys think i should do ?

the problem is that im not a type of guy who will just go up to a random woman. Im not shy or anything.. more like a fear of getting rejected.. so even if i did go to bookstores or coffeshops its not really a place where i enjoy being. I guess i just have to wait longer..

I like to think i have a great sense of humour. It feels really good and apparently is really healthy to laugh. There are just some places/people/times when you need to be serious. You just gotta know it

I try not to say sorry just by itself because its just to easly said. What i do is i mix both words with actions. So if im really sorry for something, i will make it up to them 2-3 times better then what they imagined it in the first place and then I say im sorry. After all, Actions speak louder then words

lol i was going to post that.... maybe you should use your tongue but even then after awhile it will start to get sore for her. Let me try to compare it to something us man can relate to. Its like after you had sex and you have cumed, and you try to go for a round two right away sometimes it can hurt us more then it actualy feels good. I think its kind of the same thing with a chick although she doesnt have to cum first. There are other ways of pleasuring a woman other then licking or rubbing her clit, so when it starts to hurt her.. move elsewhere

wow thats hot hannah I had a g/f like you and i dont know why but it turned me on so much. I couldnt take off my shirt around people because i had scratches all over my back where she would digg her nails in. Alot like your b/f i didnt want to be to rough on her because i didnt want to hurt her. Things i did do though was bite her especialy the nec (not super hard but hard enough to her turned on) and pin her down. Its different for a woman.. i mean if she would have gone back home with straches and hickeys and bruises everywhere on her body.. i wouldnt made it look like i was an abusive b/f. But for a guy.. having a fat lip or black eye isnt THAT bad (for some). Maybe you and your b/f should talk about how much you want to be "hurt" so there is a set limit where he knows what is and isnt acceptable. Anyway, once he gets to know the limits of what he can do to you im sure he will be abit more rough with you Anyway Hannah, things will work out for the better Have fun!

Hey Allie, maybe he realised after he left you how much you actualy ment to him. You dont know what youve had until you lost it right ? Well maybe he regrets it and it somewhat hurts him seeing you happy with another man so he wants to make you jealous by going out with someone might seem better then you but who really isnt(to him anyway). If i could have a choice between having the most beautiful woman on earth or just simply having an average woman who i know i would be able to love and trust.. i would definitly go with choice #2. Anyway so the reason why i think he is a jerk towards you is because he is hurting from seeing you happy with another man. This might sound bad but im kind of a jerk towards my ex g/f. I loved her more then anything in the world and she left me because she wanted to have "fun" with other guys and she didnt want to be in a relationship anymore. She talked me every day over msn after we broke up and acted like everything was normal. Then a week later i find out that she is dating my best friends (since kindergarden) brother. This hurt me SO much yet she kept talking to me on msn and talking to me like i was her friend but it was just making me so depressed. I tried to be nice but it just hurt so much and it felt like she was playing with my head so in return i started to be a jerk towards her.. told her things so she would stop talking to me but she still kept talking to me on msn.. So i basically blocked her n deleted her from msn and ever since then i was able to start getting better. Dont get me wrong, not only did i lose the love of my life but i also lost my best friend which is really what gets to me, and i know that there will be no other man that will ever love her as much as i did and i will never love anyone as much as i loved her which what makes me sad. Anyway, im sorry for going abit off topic but i hope you understand my point.

ive been told this SO many times, and you know by who ? always by people who are double my age. It makes me feel that im going to have to wait a long time before i can find a woman mature enough to understand how i am and why i do the things i do. Afterall there are always a reason being everything someone does.. Anyway, ive come to a point where I dont need to have someone to be happy, although sometimes i get thinking about the experience of having a lover and i can see myself being even happier then what i am now... and I kinda miss having someone to be intimate with.

i work for an advertisement company and well im usualy all day in my office. the youngest person after myself is 34 years old and everyone after that is between 40-55 so i spend alot of time with alot of older people. Alot of my friends work in the food industry and retail and 98% of the staff is around their age group and i sometimes wonder if i should get a second job (on weekends) working for one of those places so i can meet new people.

Where do women like yourself hang out ?? im curious because they are really hard to find.. im 19 and ive been looking for a girl that is at the same level of maturity as myself... theres a saying that says that women are usualy more mature then men.. but lately i kinda find that hard to believe. If you two are really into each other, age gap shoudnt be the reason why someone doesnt want to be with someone. I was with a girl that was 3 years younger then me and everything said "oh shes to young" but the thing that they didnt understand was that she acted more mature then all of them. She also looked older then all of them also. Anyway, conclusion is, if two people love each other... something like an age gap shouldnt be something that stops you. (unless hes 60 and shes 12 type of thing)

I know for a fact that she loved me alot... we just loved each other at different times. She loved me at the starting and i loved her at the end.... we both really loved each other.. we just didnt have the right timing

like i said .. i dont go to school anymore so its hard for me to meet woman my age if i dont go out.. I am not really into women that are older then me but i noticed that women between 35-50 just love me and always say stuff like... i bet you all the girls are after you,... your so handsome... if i were younger i would steal you from everyone.... I am not really into women that old lol but they seem to find that im everything a woman is looking for.... I hang around people my age 18-20 but its hard for me to meet newer people. Im not someone who just looks to sleep with any random women.. i always told myself that its the quality and not the quantity. It can be hard sometimes....

Hey guys, I havent posted a new thread in awhile but i have a certain something that im not sure about. Here it goes. Im 19 years old and well... I think im to old/ mature for my age and well.. there arent to many people my age that are at all like this. I never really had a childhood.. i started working with my father at the age of 5 but not because i was forced to but because i liked to work. Unlike many of my friends, right after i finished high school i started working.. i have a very good job in a company and make enough to support a family and kids. To technicly i am ready to settle down but when i think about it.. i never did ever do many of the things alot of the people i know do. Alot of the girls i meet my age just want to always go out and party/drink and get smashed.. I have an important possition at work and well i cant get up at 2pm in the afternoon like alot of them do. Im a very calm and relax person, I actualy rather just go out on a one and one night with someone i love and care for then just go out and get drunk/plastered. Can anyone suggest something i can do ? Thanks all

buddy, i know exacly how you are feeling because im just getting out of it. Seemed like you really loved someone and then something happened that you wish didnt. Theres just a couple things i could tell you which helped me alot. Here it is. #1. Just remember that your better then that #2. Dont EVER lose hope, that was the biggest problem i had but the second i got hope back i started to get better. #3. Your still young, you have so many years to find someone.. and i mean someone better ( even if you think there isnt better ) #4. Life is too short to ever get sad/depressed One more thing i want you to do for me, I want you to think of something that makes you happy... it can be anything in the world. Think about this real hard and trust me you will feel better.. everytime you feel yourself started to get down just think of something that makes you happy... if it feels bad when your thinking of it.. chances are your thinking of the wrong thing. Dont expect to get better over night, ill be honest with you sometimes it takes more then what we would like but you will become a better person and a stronger person after its passed. Time can heal the deepest wounds, just stop thinking of things that make you sad/depressed and then you wont. Makes sense no ? You will find someone and if dont.. they will find you Take care buddy, remember, your better then this