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  1. evyrew
    Revenge pollutes the heart like a burning junkyard. If you must take revenge... let it be the 'revenge' of forgiveness. I know that sounds weird, but be the better person. Return evil with good. Your soul will be at peace, and send him packing if he ever comes around again. Let him go... Wash your hands of his lies, wash your hands of his betrayal, and wash your hands of him... He is not the "one". Anyone who does those things doesn't deserve a wonderful person like you. You deserve to be happy and complete...
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    I handled that question like this. She still wants to be friends with me (even though she started dating another guy the same night she broke up with me). I told her that I could not be her friend. I still had feelings for her, and for us to be friends would be to deny those feelings. That is the recipe for a toxic relationship. I did, however, give her a promise to be there for her if she was ever in need. I also let her know that I needed time away from her, and I would contact her when I am ready (to get my things that are at her house still). To sum it up... I care, but we are separated from each other. We are not really friends, but someday she might need someone to talk to. I know it sounds a bit harsh, but giving yourself time to heal is very important.
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    The situation with your ex sounds familiar. Treated you badly, broke up, but wants to continue as friends as if nothing happened. I suggest that you not be mad at your friend, unless he starts dating her, then that would be cause for anger. But for them to be friends is not something that should upset you. Sometimes the "friend in the middle" situation can be stressful. I've seen relationships sour where the one in the middle has to choose sides... not a good thing.
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    I have vented to a close friend, my brother, and my father at different times. I tried to not burden each of them with all of the details. Each person has something different to say, but once they have given their advice and consolation... it is time to let it go. Don't let your burden become their burden. Instead, be an inspiration to them by healing, and becoming a better person.
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    wow, your story is definetly an inspiration. It been about a month since my breakup, and I am starting down your road... Self recovery, improvement, and a happiness to be me.
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    The only person that can make you happy, is you... I grief the loss of my ex, but since the breakup, I have been finding happiness on my own. Many people are looking for someone to make them happy. The real goal is to find someone that you can share your happiness with. Remember, there is nothing wrong with you. You have hopes and dreams; never lose sight of those things... and keep an eye out for someone that is just as purpose driven as yourself. I believe God created happiness for everyone, but we must search for it. That is why so many people are unhappy. They are unwilling to pursue it.
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    An honest person will proudly assert their integrity. But people who are hiding something will most often try to redirect the "blame". Trust is always the best policy for a successful relationship, you could express how you feel uneasy about the relationship... But do not blatetly call her a liar. If the conversation goes sour, remaln calm. You never know, the feelings that you are picking up may not be what you first thought they were.
  8. evyrew
    I suggest you try bowling. There is something gratifying about rolling a heavy ball at those hopeless pins. Try it, you might like it. Others tell me that golf is just as fun. You have a stick with a weight on the end of it for the purpose of knocking a tiny ball yards and yards away. I know that hobbies won't make the pain go away, but they can help. I've started going to the gym, and it helps to keep me from dwelling on the past for to long. Everytime my mind starts to wonder back to my heartaches, I run faster, I push more weight.. I become stronger. Small doses of healing is good for the soul.
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    I think that demeaning the dumpee is a way to make things easier emotionally for dumper. They don't really have to comprehend the gravity of their choices if they are continually hurling insults instead. It is childish, and shows that they are not ready to fully admit to their own shortcomings in the relationship.
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    Weekends are the worst. During the weekday I am perfectly normal. But I'm a bit of a trainwreck over the weekend. NC is the hardest at those times. We had our best times on Saturdays and Sundays. The spare time leaves a person alone to their own thoughts. Nope, you're not alone.
  11. evyrew
    Take time for yourself. Get into fitness, a hobby, or even schoolwork. I wouldn't suggest finding another girl just to distract you. If things don't work out there, then you will have two girls on your mind.
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    For her sake, I think that you should wait before you take it any further. She is still very young and impressionable. Three years is not that big of a deal, but the maturity level is very different at those ages. My advice is for you to wait awhile, and see where things go from there.
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