diorama35

Thanks for all the advice you guys its good to get different peoples oppinions. And yeah i know that i am only 16, i know i have my whole life to look forward to but what if she was...is THE one?

Hay, i can completely understand were you are coming from. I am going through the same sort of thing with my ex girlfriend. She has a new boyfriend and that tears me up just thinking about it. All i can think of now is the great things we have done together. Like your guy my gal used to say that she could see us being together forever. I understand exactly how you feel, i feel the same. I dont really know what to suggest as i dont know what to do myself but just know that you are not alone.

I realise that it is over and that we have no relationship anymore. Trust me i dont want to feel like this but i do love her. And if i didnt think that she was the one for me then i would let go, but every day doesnt get easier instead it just seems to be getting harder... all the images i get of when we together and how much fun we used to have. I know i shouldnt live in the past, i should look to the future, better things will come, but still i am going to do what i can to bring her back. Sure if we r meant to be then we will be, and even if wee r not... i cant seem to accept that, i may be stupid i dont know but what i do know is that i am in love with this girl.

My ex and i had a conversation on the net last night. It started off fine, we asked how the other person was etc. Then she tells me that she is bringing all my stuff back on Saturday, fine except that her new boyfriend is coming with her. What should i say, how should i act? Back to the convo, after that she eventually asked me 'How do u feel now, without me in ur life', this stunned me. I didnt know what to say. Should i tell her the truth that i am still hurting and wanting her back, or do i tell her that i am fine? I went for the latter, as hard as it was not to tell her my true feelings. Either way i doubt that she believed me. What does everyone think...i should tell her my true feelings, or act strong and see where it leads me? I want to thank all the people that are leaving their advice. Maybe i should leave her and forget about her, but right now i still want to fight for her, i dont want to and cant let it go yet. Deep in my heart i know that this is the girl of my dreams, the girl that i want to be with for the rest of my life... so im not going to just pack my bags, im not gonna give up until i get her. I love her so much, i think that this relationship could still work, i know that she is happy at the moment, but that may fall through. I dont want her to be unhappy but i want us to be happy together you know. If i keep positive then positive things will happen to me. Thanks

Right alot has happened since i last posted on here. My ex girlfriend told me that she hated me and that she wanted me out of her life, i went along with it as i didnt care at that point. But then i kept having dreams about her... the kind that change you opinion on someone and i fell in love with her again (stupid i know). Well she apologised to me, saying that she didnt really hate me and if i could forgive her. I replyied saying that im just glad everything is good between us. We have had a few chats online, getting along quite well but then her new guy gets back from Egypt and she rambles on about him. *he is always texting me, he tells me that i am beautiful all the time something i never got from sam (me), he shows me that he cares*. So is she saying that during our 2 year relationship i didnt care? Of course i bloody well cared i wouldnt have continued to see her if i didnt care. I called her beautiful on the first day we were going out, i didnt say it every day thats just boring right? I thought that its better to tell your love that she is beautiful at cirtain times making it extra special and not just something you say like a reaction. Of course i cared i wouldnt have told her that i love her everyday if i didnt care. I wouldnt still feel like crap and want her back if i didnt care. I just want to turn around, give her a slap, not literally, and open her eyes. It just hurts that she thinks i never cared. I mean what should i do have a go at her, reason with her telling her that of course i cared or just leave it. My friend says that because im not showing her that i am jealous anymore she is trying to get my attention. I dont know and its times like this that i just wish she would grow up and see that 2 years down the line her new lad wont be calling her beautiful all the time and that he wont show that he cares as much... thats what happens in a relationship, i still loved her an i still do. It all still hurts and my mind is unwilling to move on. anyway sorry bout that but it just makes me bloody angry.

hay me again. Well as hard as it is i have'nt been talking to my ex unless she talks to me. But i keep reading things saying that i should show that i still care, but then i see other things that say to leave her for a while and show her that you are happy and dont need her then she will come back when she starts to miss me. What does everyone here think that i should do? Thanks for any help.

hay thank you for the advice. I just agreed with her because i thought that it would be easier on the both of us. She wanted the 2 weeks no contact so i just went along with it thinking that it would be good for the both of us. Its all very sureal. and even now i cant get the feeling that maybe she will come back to me. But only time will tell and i will be sure to let you know. Anyway thanks again

hello me again. In my last post i told you about how my girlfriend of two years left me and is now dating someone else and that i want her back. Well we were supposed to be haveing to weeks nc time but she messaged me on one of my websites so i politely replied. Now we keep having convos in messages and keep checking up and seeing how the other is doing (making sure to stay clear of any discussion about the relationship). but i'm confussed because it was her idea for the 2 weeks no contct period. Every night i have a dream that somehow involves her and whenever i wake up it feels terrible as i realise that i have lost her. But again she keeps talking to me so......... can anyone explain to me why she might be talking to me even though we agreed not to? Thanks

This may take time but i'll cut it as short as possible. 2 years ago i started dating this girl and we had a really great relationship, i admit that sometimes my heart wasnt always in it and i would sometimes neglect her and not pay her the right amount of attention. That is probably what drove her away, but i never thought that she would end it with me. I can remember times when she would say that she could see herself with me for the rest of her life. Now i have only just turned 16 so this scared me in a way. But recently i have felt that spending the rest of my life with her would be great, she is such a nice girl and i really love her. A few weeks ago she told me that she wanted to break up as she was no longer happy in the relationship, she said that she wanted to date other people. At the time i didnt say much, sure i was upset but we had broken up a few times before and i thought that we would probably be going back out in a few days once she had had time to think. Well a few days later we see each other again at school and we get along fine and she even hugs me which i thought was great. So i cheesily decide to make a visit to her house after one of my exams and buy her some flowers. She doesnt even say thanks for the flowers she is texting some guy that she likes and when i talk to her she was so confdent that we werent going to get back together. A few days later i find out that she is actually dating this other guy even though it had only been a few days since we had broken up. Now she seems to really like him and it tears me up to hear her talk about him. It is about 2 weeks later and i feel exactly the same, i want her back. We had quite an intimate relationship for two such young people and to think of her with this other guy is really painful. I tried to get her back and treid the whole begging thing 'oh come on we can make it work....' and that was a mistake ( i read about how i was just pushing her away and such) so now i have stopped and i act as if i am fine with everything. But she just acts as if nothing ever happened between us. I want her back more than anything and even though im oly 16 i know that i am in love with her. Anyone got any advice. I am giving her space and hoping that if i dont talk to her so much then she will regret her desicion and decide to give it another shot. But i dont know. I only talk to her when she talks to me now (even though it is so hard). I am not letting go yet, the relationship has gone through way too much for me to give up so easily. But i am thinking positive and know that things will come out okay but i want her back now in my arms. It as if i had to loose her to find out how much i really love her. anyway thanks for reading and any tips would be great cheeres