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I had something similar happen to me recently too. (Props to the girl for saying it was wrong straight away btw) Anyways, when I confronted my boyfriend he was beyond sorry and was so upset with himself for hurting me when he didn't mean to (don't get how he could not know telling someone else they are hot would hurt me but that's beside the point...). I think you're totally right in expecting your boyfriend to be going above and beyond to make this up to you. Him avoiding the whole thing shows he doesn't respect you enough to care about your feelings. He knows he hurt you. He should be showing how sorry he is. I say demand more and if no response, move on!

Way more people in college go for help outside of class than you think. In a lot of cases, it is necessary to get extra help to do well. If your school has free tutoring DO IT! Trust me, it's not worth the stress of trying to struggle on your own if you can go and have someone else explain it to you. Not all professors are good at teaching and the more places you can get information from the better. Don't give up! Sequences and series and all that junk in calc II is confusing and a lot of memorization. I hated it and I love math and want to become a math teacher later in life! Don't let it get you down.

Wow I am in almost the exact situation you are. Only difference is I like where I am living now but have no place to live next year... haha Looking forward to hearing the responses!

Maybe you should think about why the first thing you thought of was that she cheated on you... Do you have any reasons other than her breasts being sore to think this? Sounds like quite a jump...

Like other people have mentioned, it's different for everyone. Some people might know they want to spend the rest of their lives together very quickly but wait for the engagement. I think it also depends on the age of the people when they meet. I know my boyfriend is the one I want to marry but I can't see us getting engaged until we are out of school for awhile.

If your feet look normal then I seriously doubt it's frostbite. My guess (and I am not a medical professional at all) would be that your feet reacted and swelled up with the drastic heat difference between outside and the hot bath. Hopefully, the pain will go away and if not, maybe you should see a doctor. You can always call your doctor (tho you'll probably only get to talk to a nurse) and explain. See what they say. Good luck and don't worry

I know exactly how your girlfriend feels. I get very stressed with all of the things going on in my life with school and stuff. My boyfriend is amazing at making me feel better. All he has to do is show up at my door and hug me and I feel hundreds times better. There's really nothing you can do for her to help her out but you just have to be there. Try and surprise her with little sweet things to take her mind of everything. A nice long hug goes a long way...

It sounds like you definitely want to go back to school at some point. If you're not ready yet tho, that's fine. The high paying job sounds really nice and if you hate it then quit and go back to school. Otherwise, I think it sounds like a great idea to save up and get more settled then head back and work towards your dream career. Just do what you feel comfortable with right now. Best of luck to you!

Great advice from both of you. Thank you so much! I am feeling really hurt and have no one to talk to so it helps a lot to hear such sympathetic words. I do know this girl and they do hang out occasionally (not recently actually tho). I know they are just friends but the way they talk is eating me up inside. I really do trust him because I know he would be so upset with himself if he knew he was hurting me. That's another reason I hesitate to bring this up to him. I know that he would feel absolutely horrible that I'm this upset over something he probably doesn't see anything wrong with. But then again I feel like I need to let him know that I don't think this kind of talk is okay... I know snooping was a horrible thing to do but I just can't see myself getting over this without talking to him about it. If I try to bottle these emotions up I know I'll just be miserable later. He's also the only person who I can talk to about how I feel and he always makes me feel better. I think I need to talk to him about this. How should I bring it up?

I don't really have any reason to suspect my boyfriend of cheating on me and I don't really. However, he talks to this one girl a lot on instant messenger and I get very jealous... So I snooped... I know it's horrible but I just can't help wanting to know what they talk about! And to make matters worse I basically set it up so I could snoop. This wasn't like he happened to leave the IM window up and I read it... I set it up so AIM would log all his conversations! I know this makes it look like an a horrible and insecure person but what I found really hurt me... It's all in the way he talks to this girl. He tells her she reminds him of these celebrities and then is like "I just saw a movie with her and she was soooo hot!". And then there was a point in the conversation where he mentioned that I was hanging out with my other friend's tonight and thereforeeee wasn't around but then he goes "just because _____ (me) is hanging out elsewhere tonight does NOT mean i can come hang out with you...make sure i know that". What the hell? And then the real kicker was when he was telling her that his friend's were all joking around about how "he gets some on the side"! I mean I really don't think he's cheating on me with this girl (yes call me an idiot but I'm with him or know where he is most of the time) but to me this kind of talk just isn't appropriate when you have a girlfriend who you say you wanna spend the rest of your life with! (PS all these tidbits came from convos in a time frame of only one day...) I guess I just need advice... Can I confront him about how this hurts my feelings when I basically set him up? Am I right in feeling really hurt by this kind of talk? Would I be justified in asking him to stop talking to her? I just really don't know what to do and I'm so hurt:sad: HELP

Do you know that going to the bathroom shortly after sex can greatly reduce your risk of getting UTI's? Just thought you might need a reminder since you mentioned getting your first UTI after losing your virginity. About everything else... You definitely need to go see a doctor. There are many things that could be causing your sickness.

I loooooove the smell of Axe. It's not too overpowering (as long as you don't use too much) and it lasts forever. I always tell my boyfriend I wish they made Axe in girl smells so I could use it haha

Proactiv is for mild acne. Not for severe acne where there are open sores and painful blisters, etc. Using a scrub on severe acne isn't a good idea as it will aggravate the sores. A scrub is good for mild acne and can remove dead skin cells that clog pores and cause acne. I wouldn't suggest a scrub in this case! She has a very severe case and needs to see a dermatologist.

I agree that the best thing to do is go to the dermatologist. I had horrible acne like you described as well. It's painful, physically and emotionally. If your mother won't take you to the doctor's is there any way you could do that yourself? You'll have to pay for the appointment as it usually isn't covered by insurance and any medication they give you should be covered. Don't let them tell you it's not because you are over 18. There are many generic meds you can get that are covered. But the best advice I can give you is to see a doctor and make sure you know that it takes SEVERAL months for acne to go away and that's only if you get the medication right the first thing around. It often takes tries at a few different medications before you'll get clear. But don't lose hope because the dermatologist won't give up!

Family can be the greatest asset in life but when you have a family like yours...you don't need them. There are plently of kinds of families out there. Many people never speak to their biological families and create their own family of friends. As long as you have at least one person in your life who supports you and loves you, you will be fine. Don't force yourself to try and incorporate these people into your life because you feel like you have to. Get on with your life and concentrate on people who show you respect and affection. You'll be just fine!