Frost271

My ex broke it off in April after 4 years. We both kind of grew apart and it ended up happening and she ended up with another guy a few days after the breakup and we havent talked since. Yesterday my cousin tried to kill herself and she called my ex and my ex called me and we ended up spending the day together with my cousin. After the cousin thing blew over we spent some time together at her friends house as well as at my apartment just chillin and talking until about four in the morning. Half the day the conversation was about her being upset and pissed about the guy she was currently with, how they fight all the time, breakup every other day, how much he is a loser, no future, etc... We also did talk about the past but really didnt feel comfortable going their. We both had a really great time and everything just clicked. She didnt hint at us getting back together but that is all thats been in my head all day. MY problem is is that I'm going to see her again tonight. Now that we seem to be friends and ok to hang out, I just want to make sure that I wouldnt be crossing the line mentioning something about us giving it another round. I want to tell her how I still have alot of feelings towards her and that I'm still in love with her but I dont want to lose the fact that were friends again and on talking terms, so I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for me. Is this something I should hold off on until the time might be right or should it be now or never?

If they were hot and genuinely seemed interested id take em out. I dont know how old you are but go to a club or to a bar for a few drinks and convo. Also, I dont know about this whole playing chess in the mall thing but apparently it works ! ;0

It hurts. It really does. My gf broke up with me last month after 4 years. I have that nasty feeling in my stomach almost everyday and all day. I still cant eat right. I still dream about her and think about her 24/7. Its very painful and life plain sux. You'll here this again and again but it takes time to get over them. I suggest you also read Super Daves post in the other forum about things NOT TO DO in regards to reconciling with your ex.

man that sucks dude! I mean you get laid, you expect to get back together, and BAM she plays you. Thats not right at all. I agree with the above poster. Confront her about it and figure out what she wants. Otherwise shes just going to continue mind-fu*king you and your going to keep being the one with the broken heart.

Im sorry to hear about your situation. me and my girl broke off after a 4 year relationship and its been the hardest thing in the world for me. I found out that two days later she was already with a new guy and calling him bf. Its very very hard, especially after such a long period of time. It seems like she broke it off with you emotionally a long time ago and was waiting on someone new to grab on too so that she wont be as broken up about it as you are now. This is whats happened to me and its the most horrible thing. Im on day 30 and its been very very hard. Apparently, with time, its supposed to go away. I know these words arnt too encouraging, but the people in this forum know what you've experienced and understand what your going through and realize your not alone.

I understand what your going through. A month ago my gf of 4 years broke up with me and was sleeping with another guy 2 days later who she now calls bf. Its hard, very very hard. Mentally and emotionally. Im on day 30 and it still hurts. Apparently with time this * * * *s supposed to go away and hopefully it will...

I texted her a Happy Birthday and she text back a thank you. Im doing ok.

I wanted to thank each every person that sits here and gives advice to people. I went through a horrible breakup and by reading peoples' experiences and reading and implenting your advice, it has really made things alot easier for me. I have grown mentally and emotionally because of this and I attribute alot of that to this simple forum. Ive gone to other sites, such as myspace, and all I have to say is that the people here are very much more mature and understanding than almost any other site out there. I will definitely be here reading and giving my 2 cents to people who need advice and help. Again, thank you.

ty for the advice... will stick with NC.

Girl dumped me. 3 weeks of hardcore NC from her. I know its NO CONTACT but her birthday is in two days. Should I call or send a text and wish a happy birthday? Im thinking thats a classy thing to do but im not sure... any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

Heres my take on the "sensitive" comments. From what I understand, a cut guy feels less because the head is exposed 24/7 (i.e rubs against pants, etc...) and the nerve endings arn't as sensitive and theres less feeling. On an uncut guy, the head is only exposed during erection. The foreskin keeps the head "protected" and hence theres more feeling during sex when exposed. This kinda makes sense?

Im sure this has been posted before but i scanned thru countless pages and couldnt find anything so here we are... From experience, do you ladies prefer guys to be circumcised or not? I just broke up with my long time gf and she loved me being uncut, but fact is im a european guy living in america. America is the only country that still cuts (down to about 30% of new born males now). Problem Im afraid of facing is that since all the ladies are used to cut males, I'm kind of hesistant to "mess around." Any tips? Please no flaming and no stupid comments I'd love to hear some experiences from a female aspect on this topic.

I cried when I broke up with my ex.

It really depends... 4 months... you just never know. Maybe she regrets what she did or maybe she truly wants to just be a friend and catch up. You obviously arnt over her so I think it boils down to how you guys ended up breaking it off. Was it bad, mutual, she cheated, etc...? You might feel one way and she might feel another, so if your willing to risk going back to day one of the break up, than I say go for it.

My two cents on this: You dont sound like your over him. You got broken up with and it seems like you MIGHT possibly be looking for something thats not there. Your risking the chance of resurfacing old feelings towards him and that could lead to possible emotional trouble. On the other hand, Im in the same boat right now that you are. I was broken up with after a 4 yr relationship and being "friends" has turned into complete NC. It seems that your still connected after a few short months and in your mind waiting longer (NC) could disconnect you forever and we dont want to lose our best friends forever.. I would like to hear more from others on this?

I took my GF for granted and she left me. We were together for 4 years and got VERY VERY comfortable with each other and there was really not much to worry about. Same shiat, new day. We did communicate alot less than before so I agree that communcation is a major factor whether you go at it like rabbits the first few months of your relationship all the way to the possible years ahead. Some guy rolled up, said things to her that I wasnt saying (stuff you pretty much SHOULD say all the time, but most of us leave it at year one). Anyways, thats my two cents on this. I realized this fact a bit too late and I encourage everyone not to make the same mistake.

Thanks guys for the advice I really appreciate it. Actually I went on my first post-break up date last night following advice of some of my friends. Took the girl to a comedy club and dinnner. Had a blast. Shes beautiful and nice... but ... I dont know. I sat their looking at this girl accross the table and I felt like I was doing something wrong. I was thinking to myself "this just doesnt seem right." I think my friends just wanted me to get laid, which i know I could have easily done, but thats just not what I'm looking for. The guy in me says to go out and f*ck like a rabbit, but another part of me just wont let that happen because it just doesnt seem right. I think I jumped into that date boat alot sooner than I should have. I know my ex is already with another guy but mentally and emotionally I just cant seem to get over whats happened. Even after getting the worst part of the stick possible with a breakup phone call and a new guy and complete NC from her, a part of me is having a hard time letting go. I know its natural but I'm learning as I go along. This has truly been the first "real" breakup in my life. This NC thing is soooo hard. I just feel like I have so much to say and I cant say it because it will make me look like I'm some crazy ex that cant move on. I pass by her work everyday on my way to my work and I see her car and I just want to go inside and make up or at least talk. The crappyy thing about this is that I know she doesnt feel the same way but I really wish she did. OH, and thanks to the date, another sleepless night wondering about what COULD have been =**(.

I've been with this girl for 4 years. We had our bumps but we've always been able to work things out. We were each others "first" everything. She calls me up late one night and tells me she wants to break it off. The jerk that I am didnt believe her and I blew it off because I thought I had this girl wrapped around my finger, I mean after 4 years who really wouldnt. Boy was I wrong. I tried calling her the following days and she never answered or picked up... one of her good friends later told me that shes been with another guy all week. This completely shattered my heart. I confronted her the next week and she seemed completely "ok." I mean, after 4 years, she dropped me like a bad habit. We've always talked about getting married after college and having kids but last couple months we became "distant" and all we did was smoke and have sex. I played around with breaking up with her in my head numerous times but I never did it because I loved her too much. I've realized my wrongs and I've grown so close to people around me over this breakup that I've learned more in the last 3 weeks than I have in the 23 years of my life about relationships. I messed up and I cant get over the fact that at one point just 3 weeks ago she was telling how much she loved me and than one day POOF, shes gone. My problem has been communication and I think that in 3 weeks I have grown and am MORE than willing to try to fix things and "talk" about stuff more. I got too comfortable with her and I figured nothing could go possibly wrong. Im a great guy, I took her out, paid for everything, been with her forever, etc... but we simply stopped talking. This new guy works with her, is trailer trash (literally), and has a kid. Shes completely disconnected from me in every way possibly. No text, calls, emails, nothing. I poured my heart out to her twice since the breakup and both times she blew me off. First time was the new guy confrontation, and the 2nd time was a couple days ago when I picked up all my stuff from her house. I mean, as I think about it, since we became so distant the last couple months this was inevitable, but being with someone for so long, how do you not get to a point where your just "comfortable" with them in every possibly way. She told me she couldnt say anything to me because I would have just blown it off (probably true), but shouldnt she have at least tried? I know I've been a jerk for the past 2 months, but I thought If you truly loved someone, regardless of their flaws or bumps in the road, you at least try it again and give another chance. Should I move on already? Shes been with this other guy since day one of our breakup 3 weeks ago and kicked me to the curb... that means after 4 years were done? This new guy a rebound? What should I expect? IM the one freaking out. Cant sleep or eat... very depressed.... Thanks to everyone who reads this and replies... I know its long but its making me feel better inside since im writing this and letting it "all out."