keanxsoul

Ok, This is the best choice... I will cease all contact with her. Thanks to all of you have helped me.

Thanks Lita.... ( For the Happy Birthday) Lita, thanks for the precious advice... as i mentioned in my first post, i have left my job 2 weeks ago. I am now working for a start up company 15/30 minutes from where i live, I have been hearing that I would be promoted before I left my my resignation letter, but I left anyway.... Even though in my previous job, career wise it would have been really good, i left for me/this person/and my life. Seems that the fact that she did not really have a real job (even though she was giving some primary school student tutorials, during the after noon and teaching some old people during the night at her HOME and she was pretty much free during the day) and for these 4 and a half years before I started to work we were together almost everyday,this must have played a great deal in this break up. I know that I have to turn the page. But I have tried not to get in touch with her for 1 week... I eventually sent here some email about some business that I was dealing with her parents/her... information like logins and web sites that i created for them. No feelings in the mail nothing just the login and all. In all i sent her 2 emails... and the first reply was.... thanks why don't you sms me anymore i don't want you to stay away from me but if it too hard for you, no problem that was her reply and I replied I did not get away from you ( I am still alive, I still have the same phone number, I still live 15 mins from your place ). If you want to talk to me that's your choice. I will not phone you anymore. and at the end of the week.... she phoned me and told me that she wanted to hear my voice. This confused me even more... and I did not what to do... what to think of and on the same day she IMed me and asked me. and ask me what would i think if she is dating with someone ?!? and i answered ( Why i answered this I don't know ) I told her i was happy for her... and immediately after this came up from her r you sure... I don't understand anything.... does she really want to finish me off.

Thanks to you all that are replying to my post... i was really feeling depressed and did not have much people to talk with since everyone I know of that I can talk to is either really busy or unavailable... that really cheers me up that its not the end of the world as I used to think of those days... RC I don't really know about the guy that she is going out with. What she told was that she was dating a guy but nothing serious... I don't think that the guy may be the cause of that breakup... anyway... I will try my best to follow your precious advice and get some friends to go out and have some activities together... that the thing that i am really missing right now... interacting with people, i don't mean that interacting with you on this forum is not interaction but see and talking to people who are sitting just in front on you will have more effect I think.

Thanks for these few words.... I am trying really hard to forget about her, think about me what i want next... but it seems that i have been cut down by half... my personality has been torn apart to know that i will not be that person anymore. I can't do something without just thinking of her. I am so confused....

This is my first post on this forum, and i would like to get some advice, answers or anything that can take me out from where i am right now. here is my story. I have been going out with my (ex)girlfriend for 6 years now. She left me 3 weeks ago. Her reason for this breakup is that i did not really take care of her for some time and now she does not love me anymore. We had plans, we wanted to get married next year. She told me that i was working too much and that she did not see me very often, and that her love for me just vanished with time as she did not see me. And that now, even if i call/her come to see her or not she did not really care. I am today 22 years... we met when i was 16 years and she was nearly 18. She was my first girl friend. And my only for these 6 years we have been together. At the age of 20, I started working for an IT Consulting firm in my country. My first 6 month assignements were pretty light and not was located not so far from my home. We live very closely... (about 20 mins from each other and both at our parents home ). Her parents really liked me. But the last 8 month assignments that i got was at an International IT Consulting Firm Delivery Centre in my country. it was 2 hours from where i live.. that is 4 hours of my life just travelling to and fro my job workspace.... the work there was really demanding.. and during those 8 month I had about 6 month that i returned home pretty late i mean about 12-15 hours work daily and even on saturdays and sundays... this was really insane (for me at least). I tried to persuade myself that i can do it for the sake of our couple and the money i will get from it will help us a lot latter to build up our life together. but i was wrong she did not understand why i had to work so much and did not come to see her very often. even if i came to see her.. i was always very tired and stressed because on top of my job i was studying for a Post Graduate by Distance Learning. this was kind of tough i had assignment and exams preparation. Now she tells me that she does not love me anymore and that she will be going abroad to study and will probably not return. Even through she asked me to keep contact with her, be her friend and go out with other girls and that she did want me to get away from her, when i ask her to give it another try.. because i left my Job to be near her (She told me it was too late, she did not have any feelings for me). Yesterday I just phoned her and she told me that she had a new boyfriend nothing serious she said.... I know that i wrote a lot and my ideas are very confusing.... but please someone reply to this post... tell me what i should do...