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For me, I thought that using something moist is the way to make a clean finish. I use baby wipes when I am at home. Matter of fact, I leave them in the bathroom by the toilet and no one says anything. EVER! Personally, I don't like seeing skid marks in my panties. I would rather clean and go. However, dipping it in the toilet is a bit much. (I have never done that and probably won't ever do that) But, I have moisten a paper towel when in public. So...its cool everyone else just likes skid marks...I guess

Ummm. ..I haven't been in a relationship like that exactly, but similar. So, what I can tell you is cover your tracks. Th reason I say this is because you don't know who ALL she is sleeping with and for that matter does she??? So, PLEASE don't not have unprotected sex unless she gets tested. Also regarding your feelings....ask yourself "Do I really want to be with her?" If you can honestly say that you don't then LEAVE. If you want to then you need to learn how to completely forgive her. Otherwise you will never let her live what happened down or yourself. But, if you don't know...try some seperation and see what your hearts begins to tell you. AND WATCH HER ACTIONS!! In that small time frame watch what she does. That will really tell you a lot about her character. Hope this helps!! Good Luck

Well, MY FIRST ? WOULD BE WHAT KIND OF STD!!! There are a lot of different ones and if it was one that could kill me. I WOULD BE PISSED!!! I don't care if the person knew or not. However, if it was curable, then I wouldn't be as mad. BUT we would both have to go to the doctor HANDnHAND to make sure this doesn't happen again. So, other than that things would be cool *wink

If both parties are putting forth effort...THEN THERE NEVER IS TOO MUCH EFFORT. The fact that you guys are both willing to change and put forth the efforts says a lot about the feelings you guys share for each other. However, what type of efforts are you guys putting into? Since this is your first serious relationship you need to evaluate what you want and your partner needs to find out what they want. From there you guys need to see how you can attain what each other wants. If you look at the list and realize you cannot comply then it is time for you to move on. Same for you partner. Also, look and see if you guys are a match meaning: future dreams, finances, children, family, but most of all spirituality. If all these match and you guys are willing to continue to put forth effort...I then say start taking it day by day and setting short term goals for your relationship. Hope this helps!

From what I know counseling is expensive...however we have talked about it. So, I can say we considered it but, there has not been any serious talk about it....

I believe she does misses you. Most of time when women are not getting the attention and appreciate that they needed they go looking for it elsewhere. Sadly, your wife thought she found it in her date. However, later on once she realized that she doesn't love her date....she is trying to give you subtle hints that she is still interested. I would wait a little while longer to see what she does.....you my friend should not spill your guts to her just yet because you want her to know fully that she wants YOU!!! You have a lot at stake and I wouldn't want you to put everything out there and she rejects it. So, if you are smooth enough to try to get it out of her without letting her know that you are fully interested that is the route I would go.....Take care and remember of everything else use wisdom.

Thanks for the responses. It really just feels good getting this stuff off my chest. I can't say that Bert, Ernie & I are friends anymore. Bert and I were never friends in the first place. I just met him through Ernie one night and he expressed interest about 1 year ago. On the other hand Ernie and I have known each other for about 13 years. So, to end the friendship would be hard, and why is was so easy for me to trust him to come back to my house on Friday night. However, Mrocza I have been serious with my bf for over six years. And frankly I had just gotten fed up with him putting me off. And, our intimacy had disappeared and part of me just wanted to feel wanted. Which is why I did what I did. I know it was the wrong type of attention and I felt a little slutty afterwards, but in the heat of the moment it felt good. I know it is unfair to him, but sometimes he is unfair to me. Yes, I want to marry my bf. No, he won't find out becuase he doesn't know Bert or Ernie and probably would never meet them. This is my first time ever cheating on my bf and I feel horrible; so no it can NEVER happen again. Guilt and I don't get along.

My story is horrible and I don't know what to do about. There is no one to talk to about it. I am a good person always has been. Everyone thinks I give the best advice and they always lay there problems on me. So hopefully someone can now help me. I have been in a relationship for a couple of years and I really love him and he loves me. It is just right now is not a good time for us to get married. Well, I got upset on Friday night (we had a huge fight) and I went out with my girls. While out with my girls, we met up with some friends and two of the guys there liked me. BUT, the frustrating part is that the two that liked me are best friends. Now, one of them we will call Bert. Bert is nice and says that because he doesn't live in the same city we can't be together, and he has tried to have (you know the thing) with me several times. We have only gotten so far as kissing. Now, Ernie on the other hand is a friend of the family and has been around for years. Only after his friend expressed interest in me did he say anything about liking me. He doesn't want to be in a want to be in a relationship with me either...he just wants to do the do and be friends. Well, Friday...I kissed both guys in the same house and then later on that evening Ernie went home with me. Things got pretty heated, but things got cut short because I started feeling to guilty. We ended up not doing anything. The next couple of days my boyfriend and I ended making up and now he says he is falling in love all over again.....The problem is I have cheated and feel guilty, but I don't feel guilty enough to tell him. My boyfriend thinks that we probably won't be able to get married until the end of 2008. SO.......in the meanwhile what should I do.....

Don't mess up your friendship....if you think that is what you are doing (leading him on) then you probably are. So STOP! Tell him everything....be honest.....and move on...he is a man and he can take it....if he can't tak it then he just might be a slightly weak man...but he will get over it.

Starting over is hard, but possible. To answer your question, NO! It is not wrong for you not to want to talk to her. If you really don't want to talk to her....then DON'T it is that simple. Call and talk to your son but all of the small talk is for the birds. (at least for now) It sounds like you need a little more time to get her out of your system. Being friends is a luxury that she can't afford right now. So, don't allow her to have everything she wants. However, becoming a better person is hard....but just start slow....Have you ever tried writing down in your PERSONAL JOURNAL everything you are feeling and everything you want out of life? I would suggest that you set yourself some short term goals and work your butt of to make her see everything she is missing out in YOU . Fill up your time with constructive things that will build you up as MAN! Hope this helps

Sweetheart, don't take this the wrong way....but most of the time when a woman can not have what she wants; she makes that person suffer. So, it seems like that is what she is doing. What she wanted in the first place was your attention. Right? Before you were not giving it to her. But, now that she sleeping with this guy and she has your undivided attention. Get it? It sounds like it is a plan.....but you need to be smarter than that. If you love her...and you really in your heart want to be with her. Then you need to out smart her....Sounds terrible I know. But, if in your heart you don't want to be with some so manipulative and mean....LEAVE HER and stop giving her attention. More likely than not she will then she will start calling you a lot more but don't fall for it. As far as the other man....PLEASE....that is a copout. She probably didn't sleep with him that much....but that is my opinion. Hope this helps

Breaking up is hard to do, but you must start to looking at this situation in a different light. Otherwise you are going to drive yourself crazy. Since it seems that she has moved on then you need to get out there and MOVE ON TOO! You may have loved her with all of your heart...but what you don't realize is how big your heart really is. Your heart is capable of mending itself and finding someone else to love. If you are a junior then that means you need have a lot of things you need to start considering about yourself. Start now preparing yourself for the woman you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Trust me there is a lot of things you can start to fill your time up with that will make u a better man. Then after that you can look her in the face and say....this is what you had and you didn't know what to do with it. Then walk off laughing.....and that is who gets the finally laugh... Hope this helps