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Just curious if anyone had the a similar experience.. My girlfriend broke up with me and the same night she started seeing another man and 2 days later she had sexual relations with him. Not to mention shes pregnant. Apparently he wasnt interested in her after he had sex with her so i guess she realized she "loved" me and came back. Shes also 5 months pregnant which what i think is mine. Im with her now but I cant seem to forget what she did. Anyone in a similar relationship????

^ thanks man. But I wasnt abusive. I was just an ahole. We'd fight and both say things we didnt mean. And I'd never take anything out on the baby. No matter what happens between us im gonna try to be in its life as much as possible

Heres the story in a nutshell. Ive been a real ahole to my ex. We broke up quite a few times and Ive got a big problem with jealousy. She is pregnant with my kid and a few months ago we moved in together. Her mom hates me. She hated me from the get-go (dont know why). Anyways one day we had a fight and she went to her mothers house. That night she called me up and said "this isnt going to work". So for that week I tried really hard to change her mind and she did! But she would always hang out with her family like every day without me. So one day I asked her if everything was ok between us and she finally said no. She said she lost her feelings towards me. That same night she went to the bar and hooked up with a friend (a guy) who was JUST a friend. That night she spent the night at his house and had intercourse with him. After that we decided we couldnt live together. I was really down and really tried to persuade her. She would let me spend the night and we did make love a few times. On the last night I seen her which was like 1 week ago she was asleep and the guy called. I snapped called him up and we decided to meet (which was for a fight). When we met we just talked and he said that he really likes her blah blah and I told him I dont care what happens just dont have sex with her until she has the baby. Since then I tried to send her a few text messages saying "lets just be neutral" blah blah. And I did kind of stalk her just to see if things were that serious with this guy. I just drove by her moms house (where she was staying) to see if her car was there. One of those nights I was really drunk and needed a ride home so I text messaged everyone on my phone for a ride. No one text messaged me back so I decided to park where her and I used to live since it was really close and just park and sober up. Well a cop stopped me and asked me what I was doing. So what do I say?? I told him I was just going to my girlfriends house and told him her name. He goes back to his car and comes back 20 minutes later. He says he called her up and she told him she wants nothing to do with me. AND she told him that I text messaged her asking for a ride because I was drunk. Well the cop let me go. The next day I texted her again and told her I just wanted to sober up by our old house. She never answered so I called her from one of my friends phone. She heard my voice and hung up. Then she sent me a text message saying if I try to contact her again or drive by her house she will contact the cops. 2 nights later I text messaged her again and just said "im not trying to stalk you or bother you but can you just please make sure our child doesnt hate me" she never replied. The next day she comes into my work with her mom (i work at walmart). I walked right passed her and she didnt say a single word to me. She just glanced at me with her head down and continued walking. After that.. I lost it. How can this woman with whom weve shared so many good memories AND not to mention shes carrying our child walk passed me and not say a single word?? anyways my question is this.. Im going to keep NC but I think she will text me or call me one of these days to tell me something. It might be her telling me she still has my stuff or her telling me what the sex of the baby is. How should I handle it? Should I act like I dont care?? Should I be mad?? I mean shes not letting me go to the doc app with her to find out the sex of our child AND to see it the first time in an ultrasound. I was a ahole to her but seriously not THAT bad. Ive never hit her or put her down really bad. I dont understand how someone can do this... any advice would help and I REALLY appreciate u guys reading this. It means ALOT to me.. I have no one to really talk to about this... thanks again!

lol dude I thought for sure u were going to fail!!! no offensive its just the way u wrote it. But congrats!!!!!!!!!!!

ouch so u dont think i have anymore chances?

Here it goes again. Ive posted my story about 2 times already! I met my ex about 11 months ago and from there we hit it off good. Now, I was mean to her (with jealousy and what not). We got into a lot of fights and broke up quite often and it seriously was my fault most of the time. One of the times we broke up she had a "date" with some dude and they kissed. About a week later we got back together and she stopped talking to him. Anyways she got pregnant in december so we decided to move in together. About a month ago we got into a fight and I said some things you DONT say to women let alone pregnant women. She decided she couldnt take it anymore and broke up with me. That same night she started talking to that guy again. A week went by and we got back together AGAIN! (after me crying and pleading daily). So a few days after that I noticed she was acting kind of different. Being less affectionate and what not. So I asked her about it and she finally said "I dont like you like that anymore" "ive lost those feelings". That same night she went to the bar with that guy and stayed over his house. She did have sex with him. From there I was hurt but I still tried to change her mind. She was moving out in a few days so we decided to spend those last days together like nothing happened. One of the nights I was drunk and while she was sleeping I noticed the dude calling her phone. So I picked up and decided to meet him somewhere (im not a macho alpha male I was just drunk and mad at this guy) so we meet and he talks to me tells me to stay out of their business and blah blah. After that I moved out and havent talked to her since. Its been 3 days of NC except last night when I text her for a ride because I was too drunk to drive. She didnt reply... Anyways my question is this, regardless of what happens I still want to be there for our child but she wont let me go to the doc apps. And I still love her very much so. You guys think If I did get a second chance with her I should take it or is what she did with that guy unforgivable? Thanks for spending your time reading this much appreciated!

I have been seeing my ex for about 9/10 months. We lived together at her place then eventually we got our own place. She is 4 months pregnant with what I hope is my baby. We fight alot. Mostly its my fault. Im a jealous bastard A few weeks ago we had a small fight and she left for her moms house. She said she cant deal with the fighting anymore. Eventually we got back together for like 3 days. I noticed she didnt want to kiss or show any affection at all. I asked her why and she said she doesnt like me like that anymore and her feelings for me have evaporated. That same night (i found this out later through her) she spent the night at a guys house (a guy she messed around with when we broke up a few months back). Then 2 days after that she stayed again at his house and slept with him. I mean sex.. begged and begged and what I got was 2 days. 2 days of acting like nothing happened. After those days I moved out. That was 2 days ago. Since then I've broke down and called her and snapped. I didnt really say anything bad but just asking how she could sleep with him. She finally had enough and said never to talk to her again. She wont let me go to the doctors appointments and she said if I want anything to do with the baby to talk to her in 6 months when its born. I wont know what sex it is and I wont have a say so in its name. But the worst thing is I wont have her. I am a huge mess.

just a recap.. theres no getting back together.. she had sex with some other guy the day she broke up with me.. while shes pregnant with my child none the less.. good luck to you all and redhook... stay strong man

^^ thanks man.. Id like to say Im in awe of how long its been for u and I hope things work out for u as well..But man with this NC thing and her already talkin to a dude who adores her I think NC will backfire and push her closer to that guy..and yes he is a scumbag he knows shes pregnant with my child.

yes im positive its mine.. I will get a dna test anyways.. But I seriously have no place to go. I figure i can live here and still do a sort of NC.. just stay out as long as possible and avoid seeing her..its going to be really hard.. but i'll have to manage it.. just right now she went to her car to talk to the dude.. it's hard already but I really appreciate the feedback.. it means alot to me

Heres the story again. I'm thinking it was erased because of some vulgar content. Anyways I started seeing my ex about 1 year ago. We had alot of fights and broke up quite a few times. Mostly it was my fault for being jealous and distant at times. During one of our break ups I caught her with another guy at a bar kissing him. After that we got back together and she cut it off with him. Fast forward a few more fights and months and we are living together and she is pregnant with my baby. Acouple of weeks ago we got into a fight and she realized she cant do it anymore. She said the "connection" wasnt there. Shes now talking to that guy again and she told me she might have feelings for him. I dont know if she just told me that so I dont pester her or what but since we are living together she wants to move out by the end of this month. I have no where to go so I have to try to beg her to do the roommate thing. My question is if we do end up living together how am I gonna even try to get back with her? From what i've been reading in this forum NC is the method of choice. Ive tried every and all romantic gesture I can think of to no avail. Alot of my friends say that it could be the hormones in her raging up and that she will feel connected to me greater when we find out the sex of the baby and she eventually has it. But this is the hardest thing for me. I love her with all of my heart and I do not want anyone else.. what do I do????