David83

Hmm so you think it may work then? i might give it a try sometime, i love her more than anythng in the world, and im gonna try my damn hardest to get her back, but not to the point of letting her know that i am desperate if you know what i mean, i wanna do things that will surprise her! i will see what other people have to say too!, thanks!

I am basically in an identical situation! I was with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years we were engadged after 1 year, and i had the time of my life, i promised myself that i would only ever ask one person in my whole life if they would marry me and i though ong and hard and she was the one. We never really argued about anything, we had little tiffs but never nothing major, she is a very shy person, and i started going out with her when she was at college, she didnt have many friends, because i think she finds it hard to make friends, and in the end of college she only really had one close friend apart from me, and when she left college i was there for her, i am her best friend and she is mine, and then a couple of months atfer she finished college she got job in a theatre, and at first she was finding it ard because she didnt know anyone, and yet again i was always thee for her, i done everything a loving boyfriend could do, i treat her like a queen, always baught her little surprises and everything. I used to go over her house when she was at work, talk to her parents and be there for her when she got home from work, and i gave her massages and everything, because i loved her so much and she had been at work all day, then one day the girls at work asked her to go out with them on the night, i was fine with it because i trust her with my life, and she enjoyed herself, because i know that all she has ever wanted is to have friends and to have fun with them, she went out with her friends and i went out with mine at different places, all was going great. Then all of a sudden she says we need to talk about things, im coming over, so i was worried like you would be when your girlfriend says something like that, i asked her if she had met or seen someone else when she was out that she liked, and she s aid no, and she promised she hadnt, and i believe her because when we only make promises if we mean them, and she said that lately there has been somehting missing in our relationship, she said the "spark" of passion had gone, but i didnt think it had, we had great funt ogether and so on, i said to her that we have ben going ut for a long time now, you know how much i love you. and we agreed that we would give it a couple of month and see how it goes. But only after about 3 days she called again and said we need to talk, but this time i knew something major was wrong, we talked and we decided that we should break up, and that she needed some time to think things over, she said that she loved me more than anything, but we couldnt be together if the "spark" wasnt there anymore, because we are both not ready to be settling down yet, but i told her that it was still there and that i still think about her in those ways (you know and she took her ring off, this killed me!! because i promised ide only ask one person in my life that question as it is a big question and i want it to be a great memory for the both of us!. We both promised that when we go to university in september we will meet up and go out places, just as friends and then see what developes! but she said what shall i do with the ring, and i said keep it, and she said yes i will, because hopefully i would like to wear it again, and she said that she really thinks that we will be together again sometime! and that i am the best thing that has ever happened to her! But silly me though that we would be back together after a coupld of days, 1 month maximum, then a month had came she hadnt replied to any of my messages, so i plucked up the courage to call her after one month had passed, and i told her my feelings, i still love you and miss you e.t.c, and she told me that she THINKS that she loves me as a friend, but i dont believe this because why would she say THINKS?? if she loved me as a friend she would know for sure, but i was very surprised when she started to cry first on the phone, i was always the first to do that, and we decided to kep in touch and call each other when we want to, and i asked her if we could meet up when you have a day off work and she said yes! but just as friends and see how things go! im happy with this because at least i get to see her again, and i dont have to worry about contacting her. and at the end of the call i told her that i loved and missed her, and she replied and aid that she misses me and she loves me too! so thats a good sign i think. so at the minute im keeping my fingers crossed and i have a very strong feeling that we will be together again at some point! So as you can see i'm kind of in the same situation, so i agree with you, give her space, dont contact her, i know its hard, it was killing me when i had to do it, but believe me she will respect you for it, and leave it for a while, try a month like i did, and if she hasnt contacted you in this time, contact her and let her know that you are still there and that you still care for her and love her, let her know your feelings and see what she replies with, it killed me when she told me that she THINKS she loves me as a friend, but then i look back at it and i realised, why would she say thinks? you know, it is a very hard process not contacting, seeing or being with the obe person that you truly love, but i will tell you what people keep saying to me "If you are meant to be, then you will find each other again" that and "Time is the only healer", but do noy give up on her, just like i havent on mine, and it has been over a month, still part of me is missing, and it wont be back until we are together again, but keep youe high spirits, and think positive! thats what i am doing and it makes me happy!, i stil kiss her picture goodnight when i go to bed, i know it sounds pathetic but it helps me sleep, and i keep thinking to myself, is she doing the same on the other end!. I'l keep my fingers crossed for you and good luck!, and wish me luck and cross your fingers for me eh! we will get through this, if we love them as much as we say we do then we have nothing to worry about!

A couple of months before me and my girlfriend broke up we decided to go to university, we have planned to go to the same uni, and we have noth got our student accommodation sorted out, although we are in different buildings, well you see we both promised each other when we broke up that we would definatly meet up at university and go out somewhere together on the nights and things, just as friends but then they may turn into dates! i hope this still stands! Well i was wondering, do you think i should do little things for her when we go to university in september?, i know her address and room number and things already, do you think i should occasionally post little notes through her door? and nice letters and poems?, and even flowers, ive never treid sending her flowers before because she always used to say that she didnt like the smell of them, but i think it may be beause she has never received flowers off anyone before?? is it a romantic thing to do sending someone flowers? ive never done it before, and do you think that litle things like this may work and keep reminding her that i am still there and that i love her? And even make a note saying meet me at so and so place at so and so time, love david? and go to this place and see if she turns up? and if she does show up then this will be proving that she still has feelings for me wont it?m but on the other hand i she doesnt turn up then i will be gutted!, but do you these little things may work?, i would appreciate some help on the matter and some replies from some females would be good and let me know what you think! thank you!

I myself dont really know if you can "make" someone love you, but i agree with you that the little things help and keep the relationship exciting for your partner, i used to buy my girlfriend little things all the time and surprise her with them, i used to basically soend all of my money on her, i used to give her massages and things like that, i always used to give her one before she went to bed and another one when she woke up in the morning, but now that we are apart i really do miss these little things that i used to do for her, and i love her more than anything now, even after over a month has passed since we were together, but hopefully time will take its course for us and we will find each other again soon, we still talk on the phone and via text messages and she has said that she loves me on thr phone, and we are meeting up again sometime soon, just as friends though just to see how things go! So i agree that the little things work, the only thing i never tried was flowers, because she always used to say that she doesnt really like the smell of flowers, but she has never received any from anyone before so that maybe why she says she doesnt like them, maybe i should try them sometime.

It definatly sounds to me like she likes you well she called your bestfriends house to see find where you were so you know for a fact that she isnt giving up when it comes to finding where you are! Why dont you invite her over to your house to study, and then see how it goes and if all goes well and you pluck up enough courage, ask her if she would like to go out somehwere with you?, because being in your own environment like your home will boost your courage alot, trust me! Anyways good luck!

Yeah my birthday is june 22nd 1983, but i am not Ken, im sorry, my name is David. I told her how i felt when i called her after a month, and she said that she THINKS that she just loves me as a friend, but i have a feeling that she is not showing her true feelings, and at the end of the call she told me she missed me and that she loves me, and friends dont say that they love each other at the end of a phone call do they!, we have always had the same feelings in the past and i have a very large feeling that she still loves me!, people keep telling me that time is the only answer to this and if you are both meant to be then you will find each other again, do you think this is true and does it ever happen? and do you think that the university thing will bring us closer again? i really love her and ive never fealt like this before in my life, ive been in a long term relationship before this one and i never ever fealt like this, and i have a feeling that we will be together again someday, because we have been through so much together, more good times than bed, and i am not going to give up on it, because i think that we both deserve a second chance, it may not be now but at some point, we owe it to each other! I was just wondering if there is anything i can do to make her realise how much i love her? there must be someone on here with some good ideas? does anyone knoe of any good love songs about missing someone and wanting them back? or maybe not a song but something nice that no female could resist! thanks

Most of you will know about my situation, so i wont post it all again, if you would like to know see any other topics made by me! well we have been apart for over a month now well 1 month and 14 days to be exact, and i still love her more than anything, and i miss her loads, i can't stop thinking about her, god ive tried, but i just can't do it, she was my life and a huge part of me is missing now she isnt in my life, i know she still loves me, but she will not show it, we have agreed to stay best friends for the time being and see what developes, but it is my birthday on the 22nd of june and of all of the times for her to go on holiday for a weekend with her friends it has to be on the weekend that my birthday is on, do you think i should tell her that if she valued my friendship as much as she says then she would go away on a different date and spend time with me (her so called best friend) on my birthday?? or would this ruin thngs that may possibly happen between us in the future? And do you think there is anything at all i can do for her to show just how much i still love her and care for her? anything at all without ruining friendship? i know she loves me because i told her that i loved her when i called her when a month had passed, and at the very end of the call just before she hung up she said i miss you and i love you!, i just really want her back in my life, im not the same without her, everyone can see this in my family and my friends, we shared a great 2 1/2 years together and it was the best time i have ever had in my life! and i know for a fact it was for her aswell, because she told me millions of times and the boyfriend she had before me messed her around, and i have never put a foot wrong, so if she cant be with someone who messes her around or be with someone who treat her like a queen, who can she be with?, she still has her engadgment ring though, she doesnt wear it but she kept it and said that hopefully she would love to wear it again someday, i know she isnt the kind of person who would go with anyone else, even though we are apart, because she is a very shy person and she would only think of me, same as i would only think of her, i really can't see myself or her being with anyone else, and i would really like to spend the rest of my life with her, just like we had planned when we were together!, so if anyone can help me out with some ideas i would be very happy! Oh and have any of you known of many cases where people who have been in long term relationships have broken up and then got back together again in the future or near future?, we are going off to the same university in september this year and we are noth gonna be living in the same town, so do you think this will help and should i just hold out till september because we both promised we would meet up when we got there and see how things went?, because it would be my dream just to go to university and go into a pub or a bar and just see her from the otherside of the room and then.. i think you know what i mean! im planning on getting her a really nice birthday present in august, something that i know she will love and has been after for years, do you think this is a good idea?, we are planning on meeting up soon also, but just as friends for the time being, so what do you think i should, do, iof someone could answer the questions i have asked then i would be greatfull, because i really do love her, its not juts a phase either, this is true love for me and ive never fealt like this before and its breaking my heart!

10-14 years time is a very long time and dot take this the wrong way but she will probably have settled down with someone in 10-14 years, may be with the boyfriend she has now or it could be someone else, because you can have about 5 or 6 long term relationships in 10-14 years! i say go and tell her now before its too late, specially if you say you like her so much, and chances are in 10-14 years time you will have moved on aswell!

Yeah i suppose your right!, but i cant just push her away!, i love her too much to do that! i really have a feeling deep down that we will be together again someday but i know its gonna take time and it wont happen overnight, but i was just wondering if there was anything i could do, like a sweet thing that a girl would like someone who they love to do for them? any ideas?

me and my g/f of 2 1/2 years broke up over a month ago, we never broke up in a bad way, we both said that we loved each other and everything, but she said that she needed time, we talk via phone and text messages, and i gave her some time, 1 month to be exact, and i called her, and i told her my feelings, told her that i still love her more than anything in the world, and she said that she THINKS that she loves me as a friend, but i dont thinkt hat she is so sure, and i think she may feel this because she has gone from seeing me everyday to not seeing me in over a month, i have strong feelings that we will be together again at some point, and she even said she does too, but this was when we first broke up, but i think she still feels the same because we always had the same kind of feelings. Anyway, do you think there is anything i can do to make her realise how much i love her and ned her in my life?, like sending little notes to her house and such things?, i dont really have many good ideas, and i dunno if they will work or turn things the wrong way? what do you think? any ideas?

Thanks. yeah i think she does have the same feelings for me as i have for her, but as i said i think that she is hiding them at the moment, all of myfriends and family think that we will be together again because of how happy we were when we were together, just sadly the break happened, but at least we parted on good terms and did not and have not argued yet, and we still talk to each other, ive phoned her once and we had a long chat and we contact each other by text messages and she said that she will see me soon, so hopefully we will get to see each other again soon, so we can talk, not really about us, because i dont wanna bring it up, i want it to happen between us again naturally, she said that i am the best thing that has ever happened to her too, and she even said that if she cant have me then she doesnt want anyone at all, so thats a good sign i suppose, but im not expecting anything to happen over night or on the first time of meeting up, it will take time for us to grow together again like we were before, but do you know when you have a strong feeling about something, well i have a really strong feeling that we will be together again someday, hopefully sooner more than later! and when we were going out we both decided that we were going to go to university in september, and we both have our rooms sorted and things, and i am just awaiting my results from college to see if i get in, but we both promised each other when we broke up that we would definatly see each other at university, and she even said herself that she really thinks that we will be together again and that she will get to wear her ring again, but i just hope that this promise still stands after a month of being apart, but in the past when we promise something to each other we really do mean it, otherwise we never promise it, just like we both promised that we loved each other more than anything! and that still stands! i just hope everything works out for us over time, because i really do believe that she is my soulmate, and i believe that people only ever have one soulmate in their life, and i have found mine, and its just gonna take time for us! Maybe its the time apart that we need, so we realise just how much we truly do love each other, kind of as a test? because love needs to be tested at some point between two people and ours has never been tested before! I myself believe that true love never dies, when you love someone so much, then you should never let it go, so thats what im gonna do, im not gonna give up, because everyone deserves a second chance, then at least we will definatly know for sure if we are meant to be, what do you guys think? people keep saying to me "If you are meant to be, then you will both find each other again and be together again", i just hope this happens because she is my life, and part of my is missing when she is not in my life and i miss her terribly!

I was just wondering, if two people truly love each other and believe that they are soul-mates, yet there relationship breaks up, do you still think that if they truly do love each other that they will always love each other even though they are apart? and even get back together again in the future because of it? Because me and my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up over a month ago, we were engadged and were very very close and we loved each other more than anything in the world, and both said that we were soul-mates and that we would never even think of being with anyone else because we love each other so much, and even though we are apart now, she is still the most amazing thing to have ever happened to me, and i have never realised till now how much i really do love her and need her in my life, and i have a feeliung that she feels the same, even though i think she is hiding it, and i have a feeling deep down that we will be together again at some point. i have seen this happen to people in the past and now they are closer than ever, my sister and her boyfriend for example. so do you think that true love is ever finished or will both people always feel something for the other person even though they are apart? because i really hope that we will be together again someday, i know it wont happen over night but at some point, we alwayshad the same feelings for each other and i know we do now so if i love her more than ever then hopefully she will too? Thanks for your time!

I cant really sum it up because the whole thing has questions in it, it wont take that long to read, 5-10 mins max depending on how slow you read! i thought the whole point in this place was to post your problems for people to read, and they try and answer your questions to help you out, but if people cant even be "Bugged" to read what the person's problem and questions then what is the point in them being a member here??? just wondered! All i want is some advice, people have bothered to answer my questions in the past and i thank them for it, but if people are taking the time to come and visit the site *~Points at self~* and post their problems, the least people can do is reply to them with the advice they are asking for! but thats for at least looking at it!

it doesnt take that long, im a pretty fast typer, did you actually read it all? the whole point of me typing it all on here is for advice!, where is it!?? am i wasting my time here!

This is going ot be a very long thread, i hope you dont mind and i would apprecite it greatly if you read it and laft osme feedback, for people who dont know my situation visit these first if you would like to follow what has happened: Now for the update: Well we have been apart for a little over a month now, with no contact at all because she said she would like time to think and stuff, so i think a month is a long time to be apart from someone who you love so much, specially with not hearing her voice or seeing her for a month, when you have been so used to them being part of your life for 2 1/2 years, and when a month had passed, i decided to call her and ask if she would like to meet up and go somewhere so we can talk about things, just general things, i think it went good, but we ended up talking about alot more than just seeing if we could meet up sometime. We talked for ages, and we decided to meet up sometime, i dont know when yet, becahse is really busy with work and doesnt know when her next day off is yet, and we decided to meet up just as friends, because at the minute thats all we are, even though it kills me not having her as anything more. In the call i told her my feelings about nthe situation, i told her that it has been the hardest month of my life, not hearing or seeing you, and i told her how much i still loved her and miss her more than anything, and that a part of me has just gone, people on here wont be be able to see the change in me, but my friends and family can tell. Then she told me that she THINKS that she just loves me as friend now, but for some reason im not so sure, because she only thinks she loves me as a friend and does not know for sure, but i think this is because she hasnt seen me for a month ans i classing me as a friend, my sister thinkgs that she will probably only be saying this because she hasnt seen me in ages, and doesnt know what else to think. So at least now i know her feelings and she knows mine, which was what i have been wanting to know, and now i know them i can then work on them, like when we meet up to do something, i wont mention us and just talk about general things, like what have you been upto and how are you and stuff like this, and then tell her ive had a great time, and then do the same the next time we meet up and see how things go. My sister and her boyfriend broke up, and her boyfriend said that "he can only love her as a friend and cannot give you the love you want", and they kept meeting up and seeing each other and being JUST friends, and then after a while, it came back to them why they were together in the first place, and he had always loved her but could not show it at the time. So i am kind of in the same situation, im sure you will all agree, so coming from my point of view, her agreeing to meet up with me and saying that it is ok to call her and send her text messages whenever i want, is a good sign?, it will take time but im gonna give it all ive got and try my best for us to work, because from the call i made today ive realised some positive things, which i keep a hold of, and she wouldnt have agreed to meet up with me and say we can contact each other anytime we want if she didnt have feelings for me?? well thats what i think. And it makes me happy knowing i am going to definatly see her again soon and i can call her and she can call me when we want! Oh and to top it off, at the end of the phone call i told her that i missed her loads and i loved her loads, and she replied with "I miss you loads too and i love you" now she would not have said these things if she didnt meant it! so now i am alot happier because know how she is feeling and i know that i can contact her and see her again, and hopefully *~Fingers crossed~* when we see each other again a few times, we will realise just like my sister and her boyfriend and just like alot of other people just why we loved each other so much in the first place!, so im gonna think positive, and look forward to when we see each other next! She sent me a text message on the same day, it was night time, she said thank you for calling me, it was nice to hear your voice again, and i miss talking to you, love lisa xx. I replied to this saying ti was great to hear your voice also, and i miss talking to her also, and i told her to be carefull when driving to work because the weather has been bad lately, just to show her that i cared about her. and i put love you always, David xx at the end. Then a few days had passed and i was thinking about her so i decided to text her, because we agreed that we would stay in touch and contact each other when we want to, so i sent her a message saying "I was thinking about you, so i thought ide ask how you are today? and i hope you have a day off work soon, ide love to see you, take care, love always, David xx" She didnt reply on the same day, i wasnt expecting her too because she is busy with work and she sometimes works alot of hours, She replied the next day, which was yesterday (22nd), she said "Hi, sorry i didnt reply earlier, i was at work late and i was really tired, hope you have a good day, see you soon xx", and i replied with "Hi lisa, i hope you have a good day at work today, say hello to your ma n da for me, hopefully see you soon! love always David xx" that was yesterday also. I think she is going out with her friends from work tonight, so i am thinking about texting her and saying "Hi, hope you have a good time tonight, be thinking of you, see you soon, love always David xx", do you think this is a good idea?? to let her know that i am thinking about her? So from what you have heard above, do you agree with me that there are alot of good signs happening? like: *when she started to cry first on the phone? does this show she is upset about the situation? and is maybe hiding her feelings? *When she told me that she loved me and missed me at the end of the phone call? i know she wouldnt have said these things if she didnt mean than, not in this situation anyway! *When she texted me on the night i called her? doesnt this mean that she was thinking about me before she went to bed? *And when she replied to my message and said "Sorry i didnt reply earlier" she didnt have to say sorry because i wasnt expecting her to reply straight away, and does her saying sorry not show that she was feeling guilty about not replying so soon? Please let me know what you think, because i think these are good signs, and alot of people i have told think they are good too, and so does my sister because she has been in a very similar experience when her boyfriend said that he could only love her as a friend, but loook where they are now, together for 5 years and still going strong! Thanks for listning, i know its been long, but if you have took the time to read it then i appreciate it and thank you!

Of course im not gonna say move on, i dont like to say move on to anyone because i myself can't move on either, i was with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years and we were engadged, we have been apart for over a month now, but i am not gonna move on no matter what people say, the main reason being, is that i still love her more than anything in the world, and i myself feel like i cant move on and be close to anyone like that again, so i am taking my time, giving her space, and stuff and seeing what develops in time. As for you, i think it would be a good idea if you are both really good friends, talk to her about her past experiences and find out what hurt her in past relationships, and i feel this way she will have got it out in the open, and you can do the total opposite to the things that have hurt her in the past, i know you will though because it sounds like you really love her, or why not try doing things to show her that you care, like if you see that she is feeling down, cheer her up and say that you are there for her to talk to, if you go out anywhere with your friends ask her if she would like to come along, if you know her address, send her a card or something every now and again saying hello or that you love her, im sure one of these ideas will work or a combination of them all. Keep us updated on what happens and good luck!

Nah, love cant just end, if it is true love then it will never ever fade, me and my girlfriend broke up over a month ago, and i still love her more than anything and i possibly love her more now than i ever did, so hopefully, she will feel the same and we will be otgether again! hopefully soon, but im prepared to wait because she is the one for me and i feel that we are made for each other!. So love cant just end like that in an instant! and if you and your girlfriend love each other, then you have nothing to worry about mate! good luck to the both of you!

This is gonna be quite long so thanks for baring with me! Well we have been apart for a little over a month now, with no contact at all because she said she would like time to think and stuff, so i think a month is a long time to be apart from someone who you love so much, specially with not hearing her voice or seeing her for a month, when you have been so used to them being part of your life for 2 1/2 years, and when a month had passed, i decided to call her and ask if she would like to meet up and go somewhere so we can talk about things, just general things, i think it went good, but we ended up talking about alot more than just seeing if we could meet up sometime. We talked for ages, and we decided to meet up sometime, i dont know when yet, becahse is really busy with work and doesnt know when her next day off is yet, and we decided to meet up just as friends, because at the minute thats all we are, even though it kills me not having her as anything more. In the call i told her my feelings about nthe situation, i told her that it has been the hardest month of my life, not hearing or seeing you, and i told her how much i still loved her and miss her more than anything, and that a part of me has just gone, people on here wont be be able to see the change in me, but my friends and family can tell. Then she told me that she THINKS that she just loves me as friend now, but for some reason im not so sure, because she only thinks she loves me as a friend and does not know for sure, but i think this is because she hasnt seen me for a month ans i classing me as a friend, my sister thinkgs that she will probably only be saying this because she hasnt seen me in ages, and doesnt know what else to think. So at least now i know her feelings and she knows mine, which was what i have been wanting to know, and now i know them i can then work on them, like when we meet up to do something, i wont mention us and just talk about general things, like what have you been upto and how are you and stuff like this, and then tell her ive had a great time, and then do the same the next time we meet up and see how things go. My sister and her boyfriend broke up, and her boyfriend said that "he can only love her as a friend and cannot give you the love you want", and they kept meeting up and seeing each other and being JUST friends, and then after a while, it came back to them why they were together in the first place, and he had always loved her but could not show it at the time. So i am kind of in the same situation, im sure you will all agree, so coming from my point of view, her agreeing to meet up with me and saying that it is ok to call her and send her text messages whenever i want, is a good sign?, it will take time but im gonna give it all ive got and try my best for us to work, because from the call i made today ive realised some positive things, which i keep a hold of, and she wouldnt have agreed to meet up with me and say we can contact each other anytime we want if she didnt have feelings for me?? well thats what i think. And it makes me happy knowing i am going to definatly see her again soon and i can call her and she can call me when we want! Oh and to top it off, at the end of the phone call i told her that i missed her loads and i loved her loads, and she replied with "I miss you loads too and i love you" now she would not have said these things if she didnt meant it! so now i am alot happier because know how she is feeling and i know that i can contact her and see her again, and hopefully *~Fingers crossed~* when we see each other again a few times, we will realise just like my sister and her boyfriend and just like alot of other people just why we loved each other so much in the first place!, so im gonna think positive, and look forward to when we see each other next! She sent me a text message on the same day, it was night time, she said thank you for calling me, it was nice to hear your voice again, and i miss talking to you, love lisa xx. I replied to this saying ti was great to hear your voice also, and i miss talking to her also, and i told her to be carefull when driving to work because the weather has been bad lately, just to show her that i cared about her. and i put love you always, David xx at the end. Then a few days had passed and i was thinking about her so i decided to text her, because we agreed that we would stay in touch and contact each other when we want to, so i sent her a message saying "I was thinking about you, so i thought ide ask how you are today? and i hope you have a day off work soon, ide love to see you, take care, love always, David xx" She didnt reply on the same day, i wasnt expecting her too because she is busy with work and she sometimes works alot of hours, She replied the next day, which was yesterday (22nd), she said "Hi, sorry i didnt reply earlier, i was at work late and i was really tired, hope you have a good day, see you soon xx", and i replied with "Hi lisa, i hope you have a good day at work today, say hello to your ma n da for me, hopefully see you soon! love always David xx" that was yesterday also. I think she is going out with her friends from work tonight, so i am thinking about texting her and saying "Hi, hope you have a good time tonight, be thinking of you, see you soon, love always David xx", do you think this is a good idea?? to let her know that i am thinking about her? So from what you have heard above, do you agree with me that there are alot of good signs happening? like: *when she started to cry first on the phone? does this show she is upset about the situation? and is maybe hiding her feelings? *When she told me that she loved me and missed me at the end of the phone call? i know she wouldnt have said these things if she didnt mean than, not in this situation anyway! *When she texted me on the night i called her? doesnt this mean that she was thinking about me before she went to bed? *And when she replied to my message and said "Sorry i didnt reply earlier" she didnt have to say sorry because i wasnt expecting her to reply straight away, and does her saying sorry not show that she was feeling guilty about not replying so soon? Please let me know what you think, because i think these are good signs, and alot of people i have told think they are good too, and so does my sister because she has been in a very similar experience when her boyfriend said that he could only love her as a friend, but loook where they are now, together for 5 years and still going strong! Thanks for listning, i know its been long, but if you have took the time to read it then i appreciate it and thank you!

I think the only way to get a true answer from her is to get her alone as i said and ask her out on a date, because as you said, if you tell her your going somehwere to eat, would you like to come along, she may think its a friend thing, but if you ask her to say the movies or something, she will know its for real and not a friend thing, but remember, if she is already a pretty good friend, you may risk her friendship by asking her out, it could make things awkward, but just think positive, and dont get yourself down if she says no ok mate! And as for getting her alone, just ask her as a friend if she would like to come over your house to study, and then you will both be alone, and what bette rplace to ask someone out, than in your own house, because if you are in your own house, it will boost your confidence alot, because you are in your own teritory. Be strong and good luck!

That is a serious matter, and i feel strongly that she should have told you at the time, and then at least she woulnt be putting you at risk, if she had told you earlier you could have decided to use protection. But i also feel for her a little bit, because it proves she loves you alot, and did not want to risk losing you, because of it, but on the other hand, she should know that you love her no matter what happens right? would you have kept the relationship going if she told you about it at the start? I think you both need to sit down and have a serious talk about it, and if she fails to co-operate, then i dont think there is anything you can do about it, you cant force her to talk about things, but if she loved you then she would be willing to talk to you about everything and not be worried by what you may say, a situation can not be solved by one member of a relationship, it needs to be solved by both of you together, otherwisd it will never be solved, and i feel that if she doesnt talk about then she is being very selfish about the matter. I hope this helps, good luck in whatever you choose to do about the situation, keep us posted ok!

It sounds to me like she doesnt want to date other people, but she wants you to think she is, so she can see your true feelings for her, either this ir she is doing it to get back at you for the mistakes you made in your relationship, or infact she may just want to move on in life. But i dont agree with her saying "Im in college and i want to date other guys", because that is a pathetic excuse, i am in college, and i have just brok up with my girlfriend, doesnt mean i want to go and date other girls just because i am in college. it sounds like a friends problem, does she have any friends at college? and are they single or are they dating different people all the time? because she may think she is missing out on something and want to do what her friends are doing, and her friends may be saying "you dont want to be in a long term relationship, you want to have fun and meet lots of new guys", this happened to a friend of mine at my college, and he called her and asked to talk to her alone, and they met up and talked about their problems and about their relaionship, and he said to her "Whats more important, your friends who will more than likely leave you when you leave college or me, who will be there for you all through college and all through your life if you let me" and they talked some more, and now they are together and very happy, infact the problem they had and the conversation they had braught them closer together!. I hope this helps and good luck! i'll keep my fingers crossed for you, and you keep them crossed for me! deal?

Hmm a toughy! I have found from past experience that you have to pluck up the courage to ask someone out then you will then have experience and then you will have no problems doing it again, I think you should go for it, if you like her alot and have for a long time, then prolonging the situation will not help you, try and get her when she is alone and ask her the question, just say something like "I have liked you for a long time now, and i was wondeing if you would like to go out sometime?", but be prepared for any answer, it could be yes, and i hope it is, but be prepared for rejection aswell, because this somtimes happens, but if she does say no then dont show that you are upset by it, just say "Ok, then, i will see you around or something, maybe we can call each other sometime during the summer". But remember ask her when she is alone, because you will get a honest answer from her, if you ask her when her friends are there she will more than likely, look at her friends and see what they say and she will more than likely go with what they are saying, which could be no, even though she may want to say yes, alot of people go by what there friends think and not themselves! I hope this helps and good luck, i wish you all the best!, if you ask her report back to us what her answer was ok!

I think that love starts and grows in time, and i dont thnk that you can do anything to make love happen for someone, love will grow over time, and when you are together you will know that you love someone, because of the little things you do together, e.g. have fun and you can both make each other laugh and you can talk about things that you would have never talked about with anyone else, but i suppose that little things could help her love grow if you try them, like the flower thing, i dont know one girl who doent like flowers, and litle surprises help to, like when you go out and she sees something she would love to buy, say something like "I wont bother buying it, it doesnt look like it is worth the money" and when she si not around, buy it for her and surprise her with it, this way she will know that you care about things she likes, i done it many times with my girlfriend, sadly we are not together anymore, but ive still got my fingers crossed about us though I hope this helped and good luck with this girl!, keep us posted ok!

Yeah ive just gotta think positive, and thinking positive is helping so far, because im not giving up hope, i think we both deserve another chance, i dont believe that something can be completely over without a second chance, everyone deserves one no matter what the problem, im going out with my friends tomorrow night so that should take my mind of things for a while, well i will still be thinking about her, but being with friends helpe you get through things, they all say just giver a few weeks and she'll call you! i just hope they are right! the funny thing is, i miss her more than ever but i also miss her family too, i was very close to her parents too, and not being able to talk to them is hard aswell, because i used to talk to her mam if we ever had a problem or if i was worried about something. it just doesnt make sense to me how two people can love each other so much but not be together, thanks for the advice you have really helped me, thank you, if she contacts me i'll be sure to let you know!

I am in basically the same situation, i was with my girlfriend for nearl 2 1/2 years, and we were engadged also, after the first year, she is my life and i love her more than anything in the world, and she has asked for time and she says she will contact me when she is ready, but now it has almost been a month since we broke up, and i havent heard a word from her, and i too keep thinking "Should i call her or contact her in some way to let her know that i am still here and that i miss and love her loads" because i to keep thinking she will forget about me if i dont do these things, but ive been holding back, it has been very hard for me, and i do think she wil contact me when she is ready, but it is kiling me not knowing how long this will be, because deep down inside i know wehave a chance together, she has kept her engadgment ring, which is a good thing, and we shared a very nice kiss before she left, that was the last time i saw her, and it kills me not hearing or seeing her. But i feel that the worse thing i can do at the miute is contact her, because it could start her "wanting time to think and caontancting me when is ready" time over again. So be strong phaze, and you will be fine, just keep thinking positive, and i dont know how long she needs to think, because i myself as still waiting and its been nearly a 1 month, so you think your hurting after a couple of days, just wait till a month comes to pass, but i wish you luck and i hope she contacts you. I am the same age as you and my girlfriend was 18 also, im guesing it must be a strange time for realtionships at the minute for us 19 year old guys huh! but as i said keep thinking positive, and remember the good times, and if you are meant to be, then you will be together, i just hope the same can go for me too, because i love her and miss her more than anything ever, and ive never reaslised till now just how much i need her, and hopefully she needs me too, but i feel the ball is in her court right now. But i think that the worst thing you can do right now is keep contacting her, calling her will not help, if she needs time, then supply her with it, she will thank you for it, dont show that you are weak, like me i called her none stop for the first week and it didnt help, so be strong, i know it is hard, but i think that if you spend time apart, then when you see each other next you will realise what you have noth been missing and how much you need each other, because i am determined not to give up in my sitiuation. So i will keep my fingers crossed for you and you for me eh, and we will both get through this, keep us posted on what happens ok, i have some threads in the Love forum, about my situation, click on the links below: link removed link removed link removed It helps to talk about things and get them off your chest, this site has helped me alot, and im gonna keep on using it until i am back with her, because i know it will happen one day, time is the best healer, thats what people keep telling me, and there are some geat people here who have helped me specially sisterlynch thank you! Good luck!