David83

"Take solice in knowing that you have loved and keep that feeling with you as a positive, knowing that when the time comes and she lets you know how she is doing, she will come back." and "If you do contact her, the healing will start all over again." Thanks for those kind words, thats what i keep feeling when i go to contact her, i keep thinking, if i send this, will it start everything over again, and will i have to wait another month!, and i am thinking positive, im always thinking positve about this, she is my life and i really want her back and i dont think pestering her with emails, txt messeges or phone calls will help at all, i cant wait to hear from her again, i just really thought i would have heard from her before now, but i know she is going through a tough time aswell, and she WILL contact me when she si ready so im gonna have to wait and see! And you seem like a very nice person too, i hope all is going well in your life, and thank you for helping me!, i'll keep you updated!

Its gonna be a month in 4 days time since i heard from her! well 3 weeks really because i kept calling her and contacting her in the first week!, i couldnt help myself, by now you probably all know that she wants time to think, and she said she will contact me when she is ready, but do you think i chould contact her? text message or even an email? or should i leave it and not show that i am weak? because i keep feeling that if i dont contact her she will start to think that i dont love her or miss her because im not trying to make contact? or am i doing the right thing by letting her do as she said?, i know deep down that she is missing me and still loves me, but what is stopping her do you think? why do you think she is holding back the contact, because when i keep telling all of my friends and family, they keep saying to me that everything will be fine, just wait and see, its gonna take time but you two willbe in each others arms again someday! and thi makes me smile alot, because i feel the same, Because i know her alot, and she is a very shy person, and i know she will not go with anyone else, and she said herself that she cant ever see herself with anyone else, and i believe her every word, because i trust her with my life, we have been through alot together, is this good news to hear? as i now alot of people who have broken up in long term relationships, and they have broken and have hated each other, and said that they do not love each other anymore when they broke up, but it didnt happen with us, it was very civilized and we said that we loved each other more than anything in the world, and we would always be soulmates, we just need some time to realise how much we do truly love and miss each other when we are apart, because we have never ever been apart for more than about 2 days before, so this is the longest time ive spent away from her in 2 1/2 years, and some people tell me that it is like a test!, so im hanging on with all the hopes and positive things we told each other on that fateful day, and its a great thing that she has still got her engadgement ring, because she said herself that she would love to wear it again! i would appreciate it if some of the questions i asked in this post could be answered, they may help me in my situation! i love her more than anything in the world, and i just want to hug her again!

Thanks for that sister, was a really nice thing to say, i dont believe in permenant goodbyes either, specially not in this situation, just hope everything goes good for us! i miss her like crazy though!

Thanks for the help Zoe, but i am not married??, i never said i was i said we were engadged, but to be honest ide love to be married to her, but i dunno if that will happen yet, well it may not happen at all but im keeping my hopes up for us, i feel that time is the best healer for this, and it will sort itself out over time, but not hearing from her for nearly a month now is killing me, i love and miss her so much is she scared to contact me do you think?

Yeah well it has been 3 weeks now, so im gonna wait another week, so that will make it a total of a month, and then i am gonna ask her if she would like to go somewhere, like i said cinema, meal e.t.c, so at the minute im not actually speaking to her, thats why i made this thread so people can give me some advice on what kind of things to talk about if she says yes to going out somwhere, because i havent got a clue about what to or what not to talk about, as ive never been in this situation before, e.g do i talk about us?, our relationship?, or do i just talk about general things about what she has been upto and how has work been e.t.c? because i dont wanna pressure her into anythng, thats the last thing i wanna do because i could ruin everything totally, and i am determined to try my best to get her back because ive never loved someone so much in my entire life, and i dont think i ever will either, but i dont wanna keep puting pressure on her or make it look like i am desperate to have her back, well i am but i dont wanna show it incase she thinks i will just be there for her to turn to if anything else fails, and i dont wanna be a back-up i want her ot be mine because she loves me and wants to be with me, but the thing is i know she loves me, but its hard not hearing it from her own mouth!

I know but she says that she needs some time to think, but i dont know how long she means, so i dont want to do anything to soon or it may ruin things completely, she said she would contact me when she is ready, but it has been 3 weeks now, and i havent heard from her at all yet, so i dont wanna rush into things, if we do go somewhere i will gladly listen to anything that she has got to say because i always have done, and i want her to know that am still here for her when she needs someone to talk to aswell. she said that i am her best friend and she loves me very much, but dont best friends talk to each other all the time about anything? If we go somewhere do you think i should mention how much i still love her and miss her or do you think this will put pressure on her?

Ive made a few threads here but i thought this would be best in a new thread, hope you dont mind all the thread making? well here we go... It has been 3 weeks yesterday since me and my fiancée broke up, and i still love her and miss her more than anything in the world, and i am going to leave it a while say till a month is up and if she hasnt contacted me then i am thinking about just emailing her, but in the email i am thinking about asking her if she would like to go somewhere, say to the cinema or for a meal or something, i dont know what her answer will be but i am hopeing that a month is long enough for her to think about things, or do you think she will need longer?? anyways if she saus yes to me asking her to go somewhere, i will be kind of in a prediciment as it will be the first time in my life that i will have been out somewhere with an ex girlfriend, because i have had two long relationships in my life the first we broke up and that was that, but with this, i have this feeling that there is a chance for us, because i think we both deserve another chance, specially after 2 1/2 years. If she says yes, and we go somewhere, what do i talk about? do i talk about us, our relationship? and do i mention about us trying again? or do i go with the flow and just be nice and ask how she is feeling and what she has been upto in the time we have been apart?, i definatly need help with this as it will be a first for me, and i dont know what to do, because if i talk about certain things she may get annoyed or she may not want to talk about, i want her to see me as the person she did when we first met, and hopefully she will realise what she is missing, well what we are both missing, and i really miss her family aswell, they are great people and i am very close to them also. i really do truly love this girl more than anything, she is my life and always has been since we first met, and i really think that i have found my soulmate, and i would like it to work between us. I'm sure there will be someone on here who has been in this situation, and your help would be apprecited! thanks again!

I will do, i'll keep you updated if i have anymore problems or need to get something off my chest, and i will definatly let you know if she contacts me! i hope she does soon, i miss her loads! Thanks for the help, until the next update

Yeah ive just read all of the posts, and i also would like to know if she actually moved out, because he said their was only 1 week to go in his last post?? i wonder if he is happy?

Well thanks for the help guys!, i wrote an email, but i sat and pondered about sending it, and in the end i didnt, because as you said i would only end up sitting there checking to see if she had replied, so im gonna be confident and controlled! well i will try, and i will see what happens, and just think about it as "If we are meant to be then we will be back together someday" that gives me a happy though to hold onto, i just wish she would hurry up the ballo is in her court now, so im just gonna have to wait and see what develops, just all keep your fingers crossed for us ok and thanks again!

The thing is, is that i kinda have this feeling that we will get back together again, but on the other hand i sometimes think that i am fooling myself, but the fact that we both know that we love each other and miss each other is still there for me to hang on to, and she has kept her engagement ring, because she said that hopefully she would love to wear it again, its just gonna take some time, and its not just her that needs time, its the both of us, to see what our true feelings are, so im kind of taking it as a test of how much we do love and miss each other, because we have never really been tested by anything, because we have never had a major argument or nothing, and we separated on good terms, but it doesnt mean that i dont miss her and love her more than ever, because i do, and i know she is missing me and does love me too, as i know her very well and i know what she is feeling, but hearing from her would definatly make me happy, just to hear that she misses me! even though i know she does, but just something inside of me needs proof of that from her!. But i was wondering, do you think that it would be wrong to even send her the odd email telling her about what is happening in my life? even though she has asked for space, and she will contact me in her own time? or do you think this is a bad idea?

Thanks for the help!, i doknow that she loves me, and i know she loves me alot, because she told me before she left, and i phoned her a few times within the first week we broke up and at the end of the call she still said that she loved me, but she just needs time alone to see how she truly feels, and she kept her engadgement ring, becayse she said that she truly thinks that we will be together again someday and that she would love to wear it again, i just hope that this does happen, because i love her more than anything in the world, she is my life, and i am hers, so if we truly are meant to be then we will be back together at some point yes? and if we dont then it was never meant to be, thats what people keep telling me, and people keep telling me that if i leave her alone for a while she will contact me when she is ready, just like she said, but i cant help thinking about what she is feeling, i know that the only person who will truly know what she is feeling right now is her, i just wish she would let me know. The last time i contacted her was over a week ago, and in the call she said that me calling her all the time wasnt helping, because it is not giving her time to miss me, because calling her all the time was starting the process over again, and the last thing i want to do is make her mad, because if i do that then i will definatly blow all chances of us ever getting back together, i just hope that the next time we see each other, we both realise what we are missing!, so i'm gonna have to be strong and let time take its course, because thats all i can really do, because i dont want to contact her again in fear of her resenting me for it.!

I was just wondering, me and my girlfriend broke up over 2 weeks ago, and i havent heard from her since, i know i probably wont for a while, because she wants some time to think and she will contact me when she is ready, we broke up over nothing really, just saying that something wasnt there anymore and we need some time apart to realise how much we actually do love each other and how much we love being together, we both told each other that we loved each other more than anything in the world and we even had a big kiss before she drove away in her car, but i am missing her more than ever now, and i know that we are perfect for each other, but we arent together So i was wondering, when i watch the TV, and a programme comes on that we used to watch, all i can do is think aout her and the times when we used to watch it, and when i hear a song that we both used to listen to, all i can do is think about her, and i get upset, same with stupid things like adverts on TV that she used to sing along to, and all of this gets me very upset, and i was wondering, do you think that when she watches these programmes, listens to the music, and even sees an advertisement on TV, do you think that she will be feeling the same as me? and will she be thinking about me?, we were goin out for almost 2 1/2 years and we were engadged, so surely she must think about me right?, considering that she said that she love me more than anything in the world? does this happen very often, and do people often get back together after things like this?, because i've never realised until now, how much i actually do love her and miss her!, i think i love her more now than i ever did when we were together, it just seems to grow stronger the longer we are apart!, if she has asked for time do you think it would be a bad idea to contact her? considering she said she would contact me when she is ready? your help would be very much appreciated, i dont understand how two people can love each other so much and not be together, to me this seems wrong, i know its only been two weeks, and she did say that there is still hope that we will be together again, it will just take time, to sort itself out. my sister broke up with her boyfriend for a month and they used to hate each other and send each other hate mail tellling each other how much they hated each other, and then the next time they saw each other, they remembered how good they were together, and now they have been together for 5 years. i just really hope that next time we see each other we also remember how good we were together and how much we miss it! its just hard not seeing or hearing from here for over 2 weeks, when we used to see or contact each other everyday for nearly 2 1/2 years!

I don't know if i can actually help you in the situation but, to me from what you have said it seems that he has something that he needs to tell you, or something that he is ashamed about? have you asked him if he has ever been with anyone while you two were an item? i know this may be hard to ask him considering he wont really talk to you, and if you do ask him this question, he may think that you dont trust him, but it definatly sounds to me like he does still love you, but he is trying to hide it, but telling you he loved you and kissed you is definatly going the wrong way from trying to hide it. Hope this may help you, and i wish you all the luck in the world! and i hope everything goes well between you! good luck!

So did you get back with your ex after he called you? if yes, did it make you both stronger?, because ive never been in this position before, i was in another 2 year relationship before this one, and i never fealt nothing like this when we broke up, because i knew then that their was no chance of getting back together but do you know when you get that feeling that somehting will become of something?, ive just got this feeling that this is not the end of us, but as people keep saying to me, if you are meant to be together and you truly are soulmates, you will be back together at some point, and if not then it was never meant to be, but i try and forget about the last part! All i would like to know is what she is feeling!! if she is missing me and if she still loves me, but as i said before ive got this feeling that she feeling exactly the same way as me!, i dont think she has changed i just think that she just needs some time to think things over a bit, what do you think?

I met my girlfriend 2 1/2 years ago, and i love her more than anything in the world, we got engadged a year into our relationship, and just over 2 weeks ago, we bith started to talk about our relationship, and we both decided that their just wasnt something their between us anymore, and i agree, because when we first met we were kissing and doing stuff all the time, but in relationships that always seems to die down abit when you have been together for so long, it doesnt mean you dont love each other any less, so we dicided that their was no how do i put this hmmm.. passion in our relationship, even though we still done stuff, but we seemed to have started to bicker a little bit more lately! she started a new job in a theatre and she was at work all most everyday, and i didnt get to see her much, but i didnt mind this because the time we shared together when she wasnt off work meant more to me! when she was at college she has some trouble with friends so she didnt have many friends at college so i was her best frend and still am, but now she has started work she has met new female friends and she started to go out places with them on the night, and all of a sudden we seem to have broke up, the week after she was out with her friends on the night, so i thought, she had been upto something hen she was out, but i made her promise with all her heart if she had done anything with anyone, and she said no, and i believe her too because we never lie to each other ever, and i get on very well with her mam so i asked her aswell because she tells her mam everything, and she said no she hasnt too. We always have great cionversations, and we get aloing well, we love the same things, same music and everything, so i dont understand what happened, So we talked 2 weeks ago, and we both decided that we should break up, and she says she needs some time to think about things! We said that we loved each other more than anything in the world, and we always will, because i truly think we are meant to be together, she asked what she would like to do with her ring, and i told her to keep it, because i would love ger to wear it again one day, and she said that she definatly thinks that we will be together again, we just need some time apart to realise how mcuh we actually do love and miss each other! For the first week when we broke up i was either phoning her, emailing her or sending her text messages, and it was always me contacting her, and she said that it wasnt helping because she needs time alone, so now i havent contacted her until now over a weeks later, this has been a very good achivement for me, because i am very upset and heart broken, and i miss her soo....... much, i just want her back, but i know that if i phone her she will start to get mad, because she is asking for space and i will not be giving her it, and if i dont give her what she wants she will start to resent me for it so its been over 2 weeks since we broke up now, and i just keep sitting with my phone beside me, kowing that she will not be contacting me yet, but i dont understand why she isnt??? i dont understand how if two people love each other so much, why they cant be together, and now im am beginning to get scared that she is starting to not love me anymore, and that she doesnt miss me, but another part of me knows that she loves me and misses me, but not contacting me is her way of dealing with things!, my sister and her boyfriend have been going out for nearly 5 years now, and they have broken up 3 times, one of the times it was for a month, and they got back together, and when they did it made them even closer than they were before!, i hope this happens with me!, because i miss her so much, and i get very upset, i just want to know how she is feeling, even if she sent me a message saying 'hi' ide be very happy then ide know she was thinking of me! Can onyone on here help me, and give me some tips on what i can do, without her getting mad? do you think that leaving her to contact me when she is ready is the best thing to do? i know its hard for me to do but im gonna have to be strong arent i?? and is the saying true that absense makes the heart grow fonder?? and are their any people on here who have broken up with their gf's/bf's and got back together again?? if so does it really bring you closer? i hope it does, we are both going to university ini september, we both agreed when we broke up, we will definatly contact each other when we get their and meet each other and see how things go!, but i dont think i can wait till september to see her again!, i just want her back really bad, i cant watch some programs on the tv that we used to watch without getting upset, i cant listen to our favourite bands without getting upset, so as you can tell i am pretty heart boken, and not knowing how she is feeling is making it worse! sorry this was so long, but i wouls appreciate your help! thank you oh and i forgot to say that i am 19 and she is 18, 20 and 19 this year! I'm David and her name is Lisa!, i hope someone can help me or at least give me hope!