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She Leaves Without even a word-Please respond
geyser92 replied to InTheCold's topic in Breaking Up Advice
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. My only idea would be this: maybe you ought to write her a letter. I would write a really clear, really honest description of everything that happened from the beginning of your problems with her, from your side of the story. Tell her exactly what you were feeling... kind of the way you wrote this post, except more descriptive. Tell her how much you love her (its clear to me that you really do), tell her that you don't know how you could have offended or alienated her, but that you apologize from the bottom of your heart for hurting her in any way. It's really important to be really humble when you write this. I really hope this works out for you, i just wish i could give you more advice... hang in there! -
I've been having a crush ( ) on this girl since mid-march. Originally, i called her up and asked if she wanted to hang out... but i think she took me to be asking her out, and she said no, because she had a boyfriend at the time (i obviously didnt know about it.) But she knows about my feelings for her, this i know for sure; and she also broke it off with her bf about two or three months ago. Recently i found out that i have a big chance to see her a lot over the summer... she's on my younger sister's swim team, and is a member of a community pool over here. i'm not really a member there, but i do go once in a while... every time i'm there, i see her hanging out with a group of kids our age, and it seems to me that i ought to try to be a part of that group if i want to get to know her better. It seems like a really good opportunity. The problem is that i get really shy about mixing with a new crowd. Even when i have friends introduce me to those people, i'm still shy... i could be sitting on the edge of the pool right with them all, but i wont say a word, because im just wayyyyyy tooooooooo shyyyyyyyy. So what i'm asking is, does anyone know a couple of hints to help me interact with this girl and her friends? any good ways to get in on their games? i feel kinda stupid asking these questions, because they seem so simple... but yet i'm having the most difficult time in the world dealing with this thing. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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he definitely DEFINITELY likes you a lot. All i have to say is, i wish to god that i was as comfortable as he is with a situation like that. But the point is, he definitely likes you, and i think everything is going great for you. If you want to step things up, i think it would work out fine. good luck... have a great summer!
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hi! well, i know what you mean about the online relationship thing. I have been in that situation countless times, and i guess i've been there more often than i've been in a situation with someone who lives nearby. The one difference between your situation and some of mine is that i met those people first. One girl, i met at a one-day workshop thing, we were really friendly to each other, exchanged screen names, and thus began my obsession for at least a year. i told her how i felt, and she responded well for a while, but eventually everything sort of died. I never got to see her again, but i still talk to her once in a while. To tell you the truth, i have given up on the long-distance internet relationships thing. I guess that i've decided that emails and instant messages simply dont compare to real live interaction. I can't seem to express myself in writing, especially lightning-quick IM's, as i can speaking. I also can't really get to know someone as well on the internet as i can by interacting with them. That's how i look at it. But i dont think that you should give up on this girl. I doubt that you have sufficiently freaked her out enough ( ) to make her get upset if you ask to see her. Either way, it is definitely worth a try. hehe, the nice thing about internet relationships is that if she does respond badly to you asking to meet her, it's not such a huge problem, since you probably won't ever see her again. The emotional impact on you will of course be great, but i am positive that in the long run everything will work out for you. I hope i've helped you out a bit... good luck!
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lol jose whut did i tell you!?!?!? ya man, dont worry about her friends... did u say hi to her @ school yet? later dude
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yeah, i agree with the last guy who posted. He explained what it's like perfectly. As for me, i'm finally getting a little bit better at not being shy...things are going good. But yes, i agree with the advice he gave you, and i stick with what i said before... i hope everything works out for you (if it hasnt already )
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lol... sounds like a man with a plan... good luck!! wish i had a girl that was as hot for me as she is for u
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i kind of felt like you do sometimes, until i started posting stuff on this board... i actually feel more important now. feel better!
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Darn it, you stole my idea!!!!! im with cheech, this place rocks. Everyone here rocks. Thanks so much everybody!
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hey! I feel like your story is more or less the carbon copy of twenty of mine. I never got anywhere with those experiences, though. But i would say that everyone else here is right. Try to talk to him on icq. Try to talk to him in church, of course its tough for us shy people , but think about it: do you really have much to lose? oh yeah, and the note thing is a really good idea!! If he is at all interested, he will definitely write back... i would! well anyways good luck...
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is this normal?
geyser92 replied to savagegerbil1607306442's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
hey buddy... i'm sure that i never really have gone through what you are going through right now, but i do think it's normal. Either you will get over it and meet someone new, or maybe you will even get back together eventually. All of us go through similar things after a breakup. Either way, i want to offer you my condolences... good luck in the future! -
i think he might like you! you should hang out with him more, alone even. He sounds like a very cool guy, and he definitely cares for you. So i would say, get to know him better, see what happens... unless of course you don't like him back. good luck...
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lol, i would help you, but it seems to me than you have gotten a lot farther than i ever have... hopefully somebody with some more knowledge will help u out. good luck!
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thanks everybody! im gonna make another attempt to call her today... thanks again folks! i'll let u know how it goes, in case i am in desperate need of more advice...
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hey man... NO, dont ask her out already. Definitely not. The risk is too high that she'll just say no. If your a nice guy, and it sounds like you are, then definitely do the other thing... work your way into conversations, get to know her better, then eventually get to the point where you have conversations with JUST her, and even where you hang out with her a lot. Then, if it feels right, ask her out. In my experience, i've found that girls dont like to be rushed... lol, i know it seems much easier to just ask her out right now, i've been tempted to do that myself, but you're probably better off taking your time. good luck!
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i would like to help u out, but maybe could you leave some more details about whats going on w/ u? Stuff like, what she's like, what your impression is about what kind of guys she likes, what you're like and how well you fit into that kind of impression... have you ever interacted with her? i will definitely try to help you out if you leave some more info... good luck...
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oops, sorry, i posted it twice. stupid me...
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lol ok, so he knows its you. Thats good! Yeah, i would say that you should say hi to him sometime. You dont have to go up to him and be like, "h-h-h-h-h-h-HI!!!!! I'm so and so and I LIKE YOU!!!!" lol, no, you dont have to do that, nobody does that. He already knows you like him anyway! So if you pass him in the hall, just say hi or something. As for your friend introducing you, its up to you on that one. I know i wouldnt go for it, because i am wayyy too shy for that, and it would feel uncomfortable and forced to be introduced. But to tell you the truth, it probably will get you a lot farther if you do do that. I dont know. Try it out. The advantage probably would be that after being introduced, you would have more of a basis to start some random conversation with him. Good luck!
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lol ok, so he knows its you. Thats good! Yeah, i would say that you should say hi to him sometime. You dont have to go up to him and be like, "h-h-h-h-h-h-HI!!!!! I'm so and so and I LIKE YOU!!!!" lol, no, you dont have to do that, nobody does that. He already knows you like him anyway! So if you pass him in the hall, just say hi or something. As for your friend introducing you, its up to you on that one. I know i wouldnt go for it, because i am wayyy too shy for that, and it would feel uncomfortable and forced to be introduced. But to tell you the truth, it probably will get you a lot farther if you do do that. I dont know. Try it out. The advantage probably would be that after being introduced, you would have more of a basis to start some random conversation with him. Good luck!
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i havent a clue how to help you, because i have no experience with that, but i want to offer you my condolences. I really hope everything works out for you and for her.
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hey... i hear you about that kind of thing. My advice would be this: love means trust, right? Of course, i sound totally stereotipical and cliched, but listen: If she loves you, and you love her, then nothing can change that. However, if she begins to think that your jealous, she may begin to have mixed feelings about you. I would say, you should just not worry about it. Go hang out with her, her friends, and this guy. Maybe he's cool. Maybe you might even become friends with him. But i doubt that your gf isnt being loyal to you. The best way for you to prove that you really love her is to trust that she wouldnt do such a thing. Good luck!
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I totally agree with Eleanor Rigby (by the way, i love that song!!!!! way to go!). You should try to get to know the guy better. The other thing you might want to consider is telling that friend that it's ok for her to tell him that you like him. (I know, that sentence was bad. Sorry! ) Right, so what i meant was, maybe it's NOT such a bad thing if he finds out you like him. I know it stinks, it makes you get that crazy tingly feeling inside, but it could help you loads. If you're shy like me, like you said, and HE'S shy, then that might be a good way to break the ice. It may sound weiiiiird, but it worked for me. How about this? You try to make eye contact with him once in a while, smile (it works really great, trust me!) and then, once you've done that, have your friend tip him off about your feelings. That was more or less my experience, and so far its going ok. You might want to try it. Hope that helped you!
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hey. Listen, i hear you about the depression stuff. Its not something i really can explain. Do you get out enough? Getting out is good, it keeps life at least somewhat interesting. Do you listen to music? Listen to music, man, when i'm down it always helps me out. And as for the girl... Hey, if you want to marry her, whats stopping you? Is she married already? You should call her, ask her if she wants to go for cofee, or dinner, or a movie. If you're already doing that, and it has been a long time since you started, and it feels right, maybe you should propose. If you're totally at the other end, and she doesn't even know you, then try to figure out a way for her to start knowing you. I wish i could help you more, maybe if you leave more info about whats going on, i could try. Good luck, all the best
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if you like her, maybe you shouldn't try so hard at just guesswork. Ask her if she wants to hang out sometimes, or something. Im not saying a date. Just chill out with her, get to know her better. If that stuff goes well, then eventually you might want to ask her out. In the meantime, do your best to make her like you! Complement her (thats a big one), smile a lot, be friendly, you know. Looking straight into her eyes is also really really good. Even if she doesnt like you now, that's sure to attract her to you at least a little bit more. good luck!!
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hey man... it seems to me that she doesnt think you are a loser, especially if she turns around to see if you are looking at her in the halls. She might think you're cute! If that's true, then chances are that's what she's joking around about with her friends. I know what you mean about being shy. One thing that you can try to do, though, is try to lock eyes with her for a little longer than usual. Sometimes i find that easier than anything else, when i'm shy. Now, if you get to lock eyes, make sure you look deep, and SMILE!!!! its THE BEST THING IN THE WORLD!!! i have gotten more random girls by doing that than i ever thought possible. That's the first step... If you can do that, then great. Try it out. peace dude, good luck