frustratedWithLife

Excellent poem! I also know how you feel, the endless loneliness and the hours of waiting for life to pass you by. For almost a year my idea of "social interaction" was going to the store to get groceries. It took me years of trying to change along with a 2000 mile move... If you're really feeling this way and you want to change it, there are some things you can do but it does take work. My best suggestion is the bar, not to drink but to learn. The bar is one of the biggest promoters of social interaction and by watching this interaction you'll start to learn and participate. Again, don't go to drink there, you won't learn doing that, just have a coke and sit back and watch. You'll see some pretty amazing things. Anyway, if you want to talk more about that just let me know. As far as a title for the poem, maybe something like "Someone to Wipe My Lonely Tears" or "Teardrop in the Puddle of Loneliness." Maybe even "A Lonely Tear's Plea."

Whoa! Physical and verbal abuse! Yes, get out and get out now. It doesn't matter who you are, you're better than this. Noone deserves any type of abuse and there are plenty of people out there that will treat you right.

You've made the right decision on moving on... I've just got out of a similar situation and decided that I couldn't worry about when to trust/open thy heart or if it were a rebound relationship. Things will happen as they will, don't try to control them too much. Go out have fun and when it's right you'll know it, even if it's not the ever ellusive "happily ever after." The down times in life define the up times, enjoy both of them. Life is what you make of it, make it the best you can!

Welcome to growing and learning! No, this doesn't specifically mean that something is wrong with your relationship. And no, you're not being selfish. If you really want to do this you need to talk with your bf and let him know how you feel. you'll need to come up with some sort of compromise. It takes alot of guts to get up and move to a new town/city, so both you and your bf need to understand why you want to go/stay. If you're not able to move to New York (or someplace satisfying) then it may help to find some sort of hobby that will keep your mind engaged and learning. I wish you luck!

Even for a shy person, when you love someone you will become more comfortable with time and accept the fact that they love you. You'll find that a shy person can become rather social with the person they love and through that may become more social in general. I myself have gone through this and have noticed that I am more comfortable with my gf than anyone I've ever been with previously. She even makes me more comfortable talking to her than if I were talking with my own family. I guess with this you caould also say that love is comfort...

SLIGHT amount of interest? On you're original post you mentioned that she got you talking about video games, something that she doesn't do because they bore her. She was interested to find out what your text message said. She's interested in where you're applying. As my original reply stated, she's interested in you. The only thing I'm warning against is the getting involved with co-workers but it sounds like both of you are going to be going to different companies anyway. Have fun with the lunch or coffee...

Hmmm... The difference between love and infactuation. Simple answer: Time. Time will show the difference, with infactuation you will lose interest, the small things will annoy you more, casual conversation will be harder to come by. With love your interest will only grow, the small things that annoy you, you'll find you can't live without and the casual conversations you have will grow and become a big part of your life. Then again, love just might be different for each person out there, can't wait to hear other's views.

If this guy is going to judge you on a skin condition you don't need to be with him. I've always believed that a beutiful person is seen from the inside, not the outside. I've talked to quite a few pretty(on the outside) women that I would never even consider being with because they are way to self absorbed with how they look on the outside. I would say that having this skin condition is a bit of an advantage to you, you'll be able to tell if the guy is shallow sooner than most.

Yes, this would still be considered cheating. My gf and I have actually talked about this as she has a curiosity in what it would be like to be with another woman. However, she does agree with me in that it would be cheating. To answer your question for yourself, turn it around and ask yourself if you would consider it cheating if your bf were involved with another man (I do realize that most women do not find this as attractive as most men find two women together to be)?

Sorry to hear about your recent misfortunes, hope things look up for you in the future!

She may just be trying to give you advice on not burning bridges at work. We all need an outsiders perspective on things that happen in our lives and maybe she's just trying to pass along a little wisdom. Does she know about the new job you hope to start? I wouldn't read too far into this, and that's why I suggested an informal "date" to start off with. It's possible she's interested in you but wants to start out as just friends. Or maybe she's worried about getting involved with someone who works for the same company. Don't get your hopes up to high, but don't give up either.

Why do you do this to yourself? Why does your heart melt with hope? Simple answer: LOVE! There's nothing wrong with your pride, love has a tendency to override rational thought. You know that he treats you like crap but because you love him there's always the thought that it could be different this time. You are making the right step in not taking ANY phone calls from him. The temptation of hope won't be as strong if you don't hear his voice. There are plenty of decent men out there, they may be a little harder to find, but just keep looking. Good luck!

My girlfriend confronted me on this a while back. I was doing the "window shopping" but I've never cheated on her. The thing is, I love my gf and I make sure to tell her so. To respect her I've had to make a consious effort to change my ways and not do the "window shopping" as much. I admit, I still do it, but I try to catch myself and stop. If you really feel disrespected when he looks at other women you need to talk to him about it. If he really cares he'll at least appologize and/or make an attempt at respecting your feelings (though subtle it may be). P.S. As a sde note, my gf is still the most beautiful woman I've laid eyes upon!

This is one of those "only time will tell" type of issues. If you really love her like you say you do this next part will be easy, you'll need alot of patience. If you haven't set a date for a wedding yet, that's probably a good thing. You'll both need time to get comfortable with the relationship. The big thing will be for her to feel secure in herself and the erlationship before marrige. If she doesn't feel secure that will just cause problems with the marrige (like trust issues). Hang in there and tread softly.

My thoughts... She's interested in you. My suggestion... Start with coffee or lunch, it's an informal way to get together and chat. You'll be able to find out more about her and at the same time it may shed some light on your question of if she likes you or not. Maybe while at lunch talk about an upcoming movie or event and if she seems interested make it a date.