MsMe

First, I would say that she needs to find another therapist to deal with her exhibitionism. My fear is that she is going to show too much at the wrong time and get herself into trouble. It's one thing to face your fears, something totally different to parade about completely naked in front of a family. Regardless of what her body looks like, her behavior is inappropriate and needs to be addressed. Preferrably by an objective, professional person who can help her balance what she's going through.

I should have been more clear. She should go to the doctor but when SHE decides to go. She is not obligated to go because her mom made the appointment. At the same time, she should find her own doctor-one she is comfortable with so these issues with her mom are not a factor.

Here's an idea. If you're really that uncomfortable with going to the gyno, cancel the appointment. Your mom can't make you go if you don't want to. The choice is yours- not hers.

It sounds to me as if she's interested. The only thing that is a "red flag" in my mind is the amount of time she spends talking with you. Even when your co-worker says (jokingly) "Leave him alone", could it be her constant talking is bothering them? Talking approximately 2 hours a day at work is a bit excessive. I have co-workers that I speak to. I try to keep the conversations down to about 10 minutes and I don't talk to them every day. I would suggest gently but firmly setting some boundaries with her just incase upper management takes notice.

Ok..this is a strange question but I had to ask. I was talking to this guy who seems to be flirting with me for sometime. Anyway, towards the end of our conversation he bends his elbow with his forearm straight up and with his other hand he's stroking his forearm up and down with a clenched fist. Honestly, it looked phallic to me. I don't know if it was a suggestive gesture or if he was subconsciously telling me to blank off. He was making dead eye contact with me as he was doing it. Not sure if he was trying to send a good message, bad one or nothing at all.

I think a crush is liking the person physically, wanting to be around them and just feeling good spending time with them. At the same time you hope for at least some level of attraction. It might go somewhere, it might not, but overall there is a feeling of attraction and a "feel good" kind of feeling.

There are some people who have an intoxicating effect on us. It could give us the most incredible high. But when something goes wrong, we go crashing back down to earth. It's good that you recognize that its becoming exhausting. You know that mentally its gone too far. What I would do is start to slowly take control back. It's ok to think of him "sometimes", but not all the time. Make those "sometimes" less and less frequent. Get into other activities and focus on things that you like to do. There are a lot of other people and things besides this one person. Try to explore them, you might be pleasantly surprised !

Ok, I'm looking for some imput to help settle a debate. I'm very friendly with my coworker and we've been talking quite steadily recently (about 20 minutes or so each week). Anyway, he's having some problems with finances and he's told me about it. I've given him some hints that I've found helpful and we talk about money and our bonuses/comissions etc. I've showed him some of my financial statements and he's shown me his bonus report. Here, the problem. My friend says we're getting too close and it isn't appropriate to disclose so much information. We've been talking for about eight months now and I just see it as giving advice and learning from each other. He has told me that he's taken my advice on streamlining his household expenses. What I really want to know is how close is too close?

I don't know if I'm posting this in the right area. I'm just looking for ideas or reasons behind a person's behavior. In conversation, I notice that a guy I speak to frequently has started to mimmic my style of speaking and voice inflections. This usually happens when its a serious conversation. He also imitates my body language. Should I find this insulting or flattering? The problem is that I no longer feel as if I'm speaking to an individual. I feel like I'm speaking to a mirror image of myself. Anyone encounter something similiar?

I completely agree. If you can contact him with an open mind, then fine. If you're looking for something in particular from him and your emotions are too high, then don't.

I agree that she should be punished in some way. I wouldn't say jail time, but at least a fine of some sort. She should also be required to get counseling. It's hard to say. She lied to the police, gave a description of kidnapers that didn't exist. This story could have been more messy than it was if two innocent people were taken in for questioning. Maybe jail should be in order. It's difficult to decide.

No Terry Schiavo, No Pope John Paul II, they needed to grab onto something.

I've been to a lot of big weddings but 14 bridesmaids and groomsmen?! That is crazy ! Did Lady Di have that many in 1981? Anyway, she did not handle this in a mature, rational manner. I can't understand a grown woman saying "I didn't think it would turn into this" or something to that effect. She put her parents through agony and I agree she needs counseling. I feel badly for the fiance who was suspected of murder. This will take a long time to sort out and a longer time to come to terms with.

Could it be he has a hearing impairment?

I think NC is one of the hardest things to do. After all, it was a negative experience that brought you to this point (most likely) and now you have to fight a very strong urge to start over. It's a constant mental and emotional tug of war. At least for me, NC was a lot of trail and error. If I failed, I tried not to beat myself up over it. That would accomplish nothing. I try to tell myself that if I did the best I could and acted reasonably and appropriately, then I had no reason to doubt myself after that. If the person hurt me intentionally, then I had to factor that in and question if I would allow myself to let that happen again. At the same time, I separated what I could and could not control. NC is hard, but at times its necessary. Here's a tip: think of what your life was like before that person entered it. Think of the good times you had and ask yourself the old question. Am I better off with or without him/her? I wish you all the best.