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hi there, well i see that you're 15, how old is he? A reason for this may be that he's just really nervous about it. Since there always seems to be so much hype about the "first kiss" maybe he's just really worried about it being just right. If you really want to kiss him then i say go for it!! Why can't the girl be the one to initiate the first move?? it is the year 2004 is it not? Good luck.

hi, 1) 11 years together 2) 3.5 yrs. since breakup 3) left me for someone else!!! (he's kicking himself now btw-he's miserable without me he says! Oh well, too bad, so sad!!) i've since moved on with my life. 4) female-31

hi there, yes i have had a similar experience recently. I had a friend whom i met at work about 5 yrs ago. We connected right away and became fast friends. Her husband works for the U.N. and has been posted to various countries over those last 5 yrs. She has sometimes gone with him, and sometimes not (due to safety reasons, sometimes he would get posted to very dangerous places) During the times that she was away with him, we always managed to keep in touch via e-mails, phone calls and letters. Then she moved back to Ottawa, (where we're both from) and it was like she was never gone. We just picked up where we left off the last time we were together. Anyways, out of the blue one day she stops taking my calls, doesn't return any messages that i sent her, wouldn't answer the door when i popped in one day (even though i knew she WAS home!!!) and then one day i just left her a message asking "WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?????" Like you, i left the ball in her court to contact me if she wanted to and NOTHING!!! Then one day a few weeks later, i get a message from her saying, "The reason i haven't been taking your calls, or answering your e-mails is simply because in the last few months i came to realize that we are just very different and i think it's for the best if we just not continue with this friendship. And please stop calling and e-mailing me, it's borderline harrasment!!" and that was it.?????? First off, i called her maybe 3 times over the course of a couple of weeks, i sent her ONE e-mail and popped in once!! Does that sound like borderline harrasment to you?? I think it's only human nature for someone to question what's up when one minute everything seemed fine, then the next minute your calls are going unanswered, messages not being returned, whatever. So, the way i've been looking at it is this way: She obviously has some issue(s) that she needs to deal with, i did everything in my power to maintain this friendship and she has chosen to throw it away. HER problem, NOT mine. As hard and as maddenig this may be for you, just move on. It and she are not worth your time and effort. Good luck.

It's simple really: just smile at them!!! Not a full on baring all your teeth kind of smile, but maybe a shy little smile. As for the whole breaking eye contact being a sign that someone's not interested , well, that may sometimes be the case, but not always. It's a well known flirting fact that if you make eye contact with someone you find cute, or sexy or whatever and then you slowly look away, just to look at them again is a great way to let them know that you're "into" them. You don't want to break eye contact immediately after making it, but you don't want a full on staring match either!!! A good trick to try is to make eye contact, then look at their mouth/lips and then back up to their eyes again, that clearly sends them a signal that you're not just being nice, but that you're inviting them to come over and say hi!! Good luck.

hi, just wanted to put my 2 cents in. I think that in 5 yrs. time they're will still be a demand for dental assistants/technicians, they are in high demand these days and i really don't think that's going to change. Also, i think that the demand for estheticians will be high. And a business that they're will always be clients for is a funeral home!! People will always die!! I heard that becoming an embalmer is always a good career choice but you have to be okay around dead bodies seeing that they are your client base!! It's a very technical course but apparently the $$$ is amazing!! Oh, and nurses are always needed too. Good luck.

k, first off, the teacher shouldn't have given you her number!!! it's not the teacher's place to do that. plus, i don't think they have the right to do that!!! but since you do have her #, my advice to you is to try calling her again, let her know how you obtained her #, but let her know that the only reason you did it that way was because you were too shy to ask her for it yourself!!! Do have something in mind to talk to her about because there's nothing worse that being on the phone with someone and there's nothing but silence on the other end!!! I know how you feel about being nervous to call her, there's always that fear of rejection, but you'll never know until you try! good luck.

ok, this is the scenario: this woman and i have been friends for about 5 yrs now, and during that time she has moved out of the country and then back again about 3 times. (her husband works for the U.N), we always kept in touch despite the distance, through phone calls and e-mails, then the last time she moved back, she calls me and tells me that she's back in Ottawa, (where i live) and that she would love to get together and catch up. So we do, and it's like it always was, we start hanging out again, everything is going fine, and then all of a sudden, she stops returning my calls!!??? I called her numerous times, leaving messages that go unanswered so i left another message this time asking if i said or did something that's upset her or that made her angry with me for some reason, ( i have absolutely no idea what could have happened) and she calls me back and leaves me a message saying that she's been "busy" and that she's not avoiding me, and that it almost seems like i'm obsessing about this, and that she'll call me when she "feels" like it!! ??? The thing is, i am not obsessing over it, the messages i left her were saying things like: "just calling to say hi, just wondering what you were up to, did you want to get together and do a movie or something, did you want to go out for dinner and drinks?" You know, the regular stuff friends do together.. My question is this: Is that being obsessive? Or is she being a little bit of a headcase?? Keep in mind that i have ABSOLUTELY no idea what i may have said or did that could have caused her to all of a sudden decide that she didn't want to be friends anymore. I have racked my brain, trying to figure this out but i keep coming up empty!!! I finally left her another message saying that i wasn't sure what was going on and then proceeded to let her know that i was sorry if i said or did something that upset her, but that if i did, i don't know what that was, and i told her that i was going to leave it up to her to call me if she wanted to, but that i wasn't going to call her anymore, because for whatever reason she has decided to not talk to me, and if she decided to let me know what was on her mind, that i was willing to listen, and then said that the ball was in her court, that i have done everything i can do to maintain this frienship, so it's now up to her. So... does anyone have any advice for me in regards to handling this situation?? Is there anything i could have done differently or have i done everything i can possibly do? thanks.

Yes, i am STILL struggling to get over him. It seems to be mission impossible!! I wake up with thoughts of him running through my mind, i go to sleep with him in my thoughts, and every minute in between is spent thinking of him!! I have never felt this way about anyone before, not even the person i spent 10 1/2 yrs. of my life with!! I just know that if he gave "us" a chance, we could be so good together!! He definitely has issues he needs to deal with, (his aunt/my friend, strongly believes that.. they talk almost every day and what he tells her leads her to believe this) If only he would "deal" with those issues, then maybe, just maybe he'd see what was right in front of him this whole time!! As hard as it is for me to deal with, i AM trying to move on with my life. I am not going to spend my time pining away for someone or something that may never come to be. I am going to take this day by day and one day i may meet the love of my life. Who knows what the future holds, and who knows-- maybe one day it will be him. Until then though, i am going to try to stay strong and live life for me.

i'm sorry to hear that you're having problems with your family... as far as being a vegetarian, there's nothing wrong with that, it's a personal choice and people need to learn to respect that. I'm a vegetarian myself, and i too have gotten some strange responses from people, and i just tell them it's my choice and i have a right to NOT eat meat. I don't question them for eating meat so they shouldn't question my reason for not eating it... And as for your sister throwing your cat down the stairs and against walls.. WHAT???? that's animal cruelty!!!! she needs to be reported for it!!! That's the problem with the world today, people have lost all respect for life!!! whether it be human or animal!!! They feel pain just like we do!!!! Good luck!

ok, there's no rule saying that you need to wait a specific amount of time to call her back, if you like her call her!!! It's as simple as that. She won't think you're desperate or anything, she'll be flattered that you called. There's nothing worse than waiting for that phone to ring, and it doesn't!!! Don't leave her wondering, just call.

It's very simple, if he's married, drop his ass!!! Married people are off limits to everyone but their spouses. Regardless if it's an unhappy marriage, until the divorce papers are signed, they are not available!!! Don't buy his crap, that's all it is!!! If he respected you, he wouldn't be cheating with you!! If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you!!! and the same goes for women who cheat. Cheating is wrong!!! Plain and simple!! Don't make it easy for them to do it by being the one they're cheating with!!! that's all i've got to say on this subject.

well, since you go to the same school, you might try and ask her what her schedule is like and then if you have a break in schedule at the same time, maybe try and arrange to meet up with her then? tell her you enjoyed chatting with her, and would like to continue it soon. that way you're not "pushing" yourself on her too soon, and you can get to know each other over time. that's my 2 cents, do with it what you will. good luck

ok, i'll put my 2 cents in here, being someone who started "seeing someone", and realized with time that i was really starting to like them as more than a "friend", i asked him where he was at with this, (probably a mistake, but i felt i needed to know, for my own peace of mind). anyhoo, this guy then proceeded to tell me that he really liked me, that i was a great girl,but he didn't "feel that way" about me... He said that although i am someone he should want to be with, he just wasn't "feeling it that way". He also said that he doesn't think he's ready for a relationship, not just with me, but with anyone. As much as this hurt me to hear, because i do really like him, i have to respect his decision. If he's not feeling that way about me, then there's nothing i can do to change that. I need to accept it and move on. We've decided to remain friends, because we do genuinely enjoy each other's company. As hard as it is for me to know that someone i really like doesn't feel the same way, i'm glad i found out now, rather than 6 months down the road. I know you probably worry about hurting this girl's feelings, but if you really don't think you're ready to give her what you think she's looking for, tell her. It will only hurt her more in the end if you prolong it. Good luck.

well, first of all, he/she shouldn't have cheated in the first place!!! whether or not they were "in love" , the fact of the matter is he/she was in a relationship!!!! There is NO excuse for cheating!!! whether it be a "moment of weakness" whether it" just happened", whether it "meant nothing", or whatever, cheating is wrong!!!! I feel that he/she should tell their significant other the truth and let them decide if they will forgive them for it. Coming from someone who has been cheated on in the past, it's probably one of the worst hurts that a person can experience and if he/she chooses not to reveal the truth and their significant other somehow finds out, (because the truth ALWAYS comes out in the end), they will be devastated!!! Knowing that the person who claims to love them did that, and then proceeded to keep that from them, it will crush them!!! Because they will believe that the time they did spend together was based all on a lie!!! My advice is to tell your friend to tell the truth, as hard as it may be, the other person involved needs to know so they can make their own decision on whether or not they still want to be in that relationship. It's only fair. A relationship based on a lie is no relationship at all!!! Regardless of how sorry, or regretful the offending party is!!! their significant other deserves the truth!!!

okay, first off, what is this "Donkey Punch"?? am i too old to know what that is???