lovekitty

heehee funny topic name...im in a loving relationship,or at least it has been,its coming up to our 1st anniversary of being together and things seem dull,boring,irritatable and weird,hes not being as romantic as usual,but this is because we havent been doing anything together because we both cant drive!! and we both dont have a clue what to do with ourselves! i'm kind of getting worried too because whilst we are apart i feel so in love with him,i look at his picture and i melt and i cant get him off my mind all day,but when he comes over,i give off the wrong impression,something like i didnt smile all that much when i answered the door and he will ask me whats wrong and i dont look very pleased to see him,then i get irritated with him because hes constantly asking whats up! so i go quiet on him feeling hes changed and dont love me as much and hes asking whats wrong im telling him i get depressed easily n iv not been myself,he tells me i need to see my mates or have some kidn of hobbie going on in my life,which is true but that sort of hurt me cos it never seemed to matter at the start,then he admits hes not been himself,and hes been bored,he doesnt want the sex to get boring and this ans that,i felt relived knowing this,but im still worried about how i feel and the atmosphere there is when we are together. it used to be very good we were very romantic,i dont want things to fizz out,i love him so much,hes a rarity cos hes such a romantic and so right for me,i feel as if im nothign without him,i just want to know what to do how to sort things out,i want to stop the way things are feeling between us,seeing as its almost been a year,its not surprising im desperate for help in this matter,does anybody know what im to do to bring back the love and fun? we dont seem to of had much for a while please help!

the fact is she tries to be better than me,im not jealous of her im a nice girl that never treats anyone nastily and she is a bitch

this subject is driving me mad and i need someones advice before i say or do something ridiculous.I have a step sister and shes a year younger than me,weve always been close but had our downs more than ups,shes always been a patronising twofaced cow and when it came to lads she out did me everytime,even when i had a boyfriend would she try to cutesy talk with them n make her seem better than me,and when it was over between me whoever it was they would start confessin they like her and it riles me to hell ...but anyway to date i hardly see her anymor,she lives with her boyfriend and goes to the same college as him but goes to same one as my current boyfriend.now me and my boyfriend are madly in love but i feel so insecure about him meetin my step sister that i never bothered n avoided them ever seein eye to eye,it was great,she ddint have a clue what he looked like,he didnt come from round anywer she knew,he doesnt know anyone she does,unlike all my ex boyfriends and i was in heaven i felt like i could b at peace at last.now my step sister is for life as our parents are now married so she is an important person not just a friend or anything,but a relative.one day i was out with my boyfriend suddenly i heard my name shouted and i thought 'oh dear' it was her she was running up to say hello,i felt scared,weird i know but i felt insecure n scared.she put on the little charm of hers tryin to be funny and manipulative as usual and i was thinkin 'yeh yeh just p**s off please! she had a good glance at my boyfriend as she sed goodbye so now she has an idea what he looks like n she saw photos of him whe she came round later that week.suddenly one day my boyfriend comes round and goes 'oh i saw your sister today,she was just talking to me' i was fuming,i hadnt even introduced them both!!! i let it drop though,i thought i'd let it pass as a rare event.But now i'm finding out they speak whenevr they see each other,i hear only from my step sister,'oh i saw your (name) today,hes at work now though' im like how the hell do u know that? thats personal information wouldnt any of u agree? thats stuff i would know,hed tell me how much hes dredin work,it made me feel so bitter inside,then she was sayin she saw him an they had a chat about 'stuff' i was like what was u sayin? she goes 'oh jus askin about u and talkin about college' i got so angry and upset with it i finsihed the conversation as quickly as anything and slammed the phone down.I tried tellin my boyfriend how shes been nasty n patronising in the past but i feel like im bein the *****y one,i really dont like the fact they have a little chat whenever eyes meet,i know i shouldnt even be bothered but im scared she is doin this to annoy me,she knows she hardly knows the guy but she says she oblivious as to why she does speak to him she just does as she says.i burst into tears about it when it springs to mind,it just hurts me and i dont know why,it hurts even more to the fact that he didnt even tell me that they spoke that day.i dont want them talking,is ther anyway i can put him off it? i know i cant control him and say what goes but this is emotionally depressing me and i need advice before i seem a bunny boiler by confronting my boyfriend with total anger.

well flippin hell there aint NO helping you then,if your not goin to compromise with our help and just reply with negatives all the time then your just going to get no where!!! stop it now! remember,no body is perfect and the only way your goin to become the posotive person your wishing to be your goin to have to start from the inside,do u feel hapy inside? dont ever let your thoughts take over,thats the worst way...all i can say is BE PATIENT despite a horrid experience,i had a mate like u,he was shy,didnt like himself called himself fat got used got taken for a ride girls would string him along but then he found a girl he fell in love with n fell in love with him back! so its not impossible.mayb where ur goin wrong is showin your vulnerable side,the fact u dont love yourself lookin for someone to fill in that part of your life,i suggest u DO start with urself! i cant say anymor cos i doubt u will accept this advice but im only tellin u for ur own good....take care.

oh dear,it seems you have been turned down....badly.it's more of a obvious reply than anything,he's blocked you and thats just not fair he could at least be nice about it but he's not he's ignoring you,im very sorry for how its turned out and u must feel awful..even humiliated,but you shouldnt worry,because hes showing you just how 'special' he is,he seems a total loser hun and my advice is to forget about it here and now he aint worth it and i hope u realise this,some guy out there IS worth a chance with you..too bad its some loser that cant be nice to save his life,you'll get through it just as long as you keep your head held high and itll blow over in no time x hope i helped?

the best thing i can come up with is to be patient,if theres any girl out there worthy enough for you she is worth waiting for,as the saying goes,''good things come to those who wait''..you havent exactly said anything about your qualities or if your good looking,could this be the problem or is it just lack of self confidence? some girls like shy guys,me myself would rather approach a decent shy guy up for a good time rather than a big headed cocky sod that only wants one thing,and to me it seems your the percect guy for some perfect girl,and she's probably wondering where you are! mayb your not looking hard enough,if you open your eyes and search into a girls soul to see what shes really like you will find her,if shes givin u interest she definatley will b decent for you.go get a new job,take up an interest you dont need to go to lengths like the internet that might just end up with sour results,dont worry you will find a girl and i give u all my good luck and remember stop bein unconfident! girls prefer respectful guys !!!

for years now iv been sufferin from depression in some kind of way no matter what,even if family lifes going great,friends are surrounding me and i have a loving boyfriend i still feel empty inside.well at the moment in my life i feel empty despite having the boyfriend of my dreams who is in love with me and a lovin mother and father,yet i hav no mates and i find it hard balancing my social life with other activities because i dont have it..neither do i have the confidence to hold down a friend or make a new one...and i bet anyone that replies would normally say ...go out n make a friend n then ur life will b solved but what im sayin is this IS one aspect of my life but the main one is ruining my reputation. every now and then i get this depressing wave of thoughts overpowering the good,i'll be fine one minute havin a laugh and bein all smiles and then i suddenly become depressed,feeling paranoid that evryone is better than me and worried that sum girl on tv will seem more appealin to my bf than me,sometimes when we watch tv i get in a mood because it would be a comedy show n the girls in it will seem hilarious n so perfect,or then adverts come on and i think eevryone will know that knowadays all u see on tv is sex sex sex,and its advertising for only one type of person and thats men,ther will b gorgeous women on tv and adverts that treat women as objects and they hav a laugh about it,which my bloke finds funny yet hes not like this in character may i make a point.but i feel so insecure about it,call it paranoia...thats one problem i have.but ther are moments i get up and leave the room in a storm and mope about,yet i had no intension to do so cos i know that once i do that i will have to explain myself n my bf will b wonderin wat hes done,but when i realise what iv done its like i havent even done it,like sum demon inside has pushed me to act so immaturley...call me weird but i dont even understand it myself,im tryin to explain it but all i can put it down to is attention seeking.for no aparnt reason though,i dont even want to be so obvious cos i know the end result will be my bf bein totally annoyed with me instead of bein sympathetic,sometimes i cant even explain myself and i just say im fed up with my life at the moment.i really cant understand myself never mind my bf not being able to,but its losing me self respect and mayb other ppls im acting totally out of character and i dont know wat to do,i need advice asap,its so scared of losing my bf,im not bein myself and i dont want him to end up thinkin this is really what im like.

it all seems very confusing to me,he seems to be backing off a little..but why? he might of said he would be there for you to make you feel better..like lads do when you split up,they tend to say they will remain your friend but usually they just can't! maybe he's tellin your friend your 'mates' because he wants to avoid being made to look a bastard? thats what it seems like to me,you could ask your friend to ask him why he's not been there for you? hope iv helped you see it more clearly

well he does include me,he wants me to socialise and go out,but like wen he goes out alone i get fed up,and it all comes down to one subject,girls! i keep bein annoying with not tellin him wats up wen ther is anything but do u think its too late to change?

well basically u are only 13 and there will be plenty of more relationships to come in the nearby future,my advice to u wud b not to get too caught up in the whole reltaionship deal at your age,you start off at an early age and you will get so caught up in it that you will start to forget about what you really love doing.this might not b the case but i say you just forget about him and try and find someone else to fancy cos i think makin urself believe that u love him without actually feelin it cud cause a lot of emotional trauma. hope that helped

i'd like to know if it's possible to break an annoying habit? iv been with my bf for a very long time now and things seem to be perfect, we hav so much in common & i think he's the one.But with being so insecure i'm forever tryin to find out if he feels the same way so i end up being clingy and needy wantin to see him wanting to talk about our feelings with him, which is something every relationship needs really - to be assured.but i need TOO much re-assurence,he tells me he loves me and im his perfect girl but then things start gettin out of hand when i start gettin jealous of him going out and worryin he'll find somebody much better- whish really annoys him (i can tell) so we hav awkward silences and then i end up hating myself because i'm not being all happy and a good girlfriend cos im just moaning about him having a life (which i dont really have) i dont want to lose him because wer so right together and everything would be perfect if i just kept my insecuritys out of it and stop being annoyin instead of the perfect lovely girl he truly likes.i'm scared of pushin him away,and i know that id hav to stop sayin things to ruin it but how do i do that??