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  1. EnglishSilver
    Hi, why don't you try posting this in the LGBT section? You don't say how old you are, or give details on same sex crushes. These could be a temporary thing, or the beginning of something deeper. Try not to worry about it too much, lots of teenagers have same sex crushes, and if it turns out to be more than that, its great being gay - honest!!
  2. EnglishSilver
    Hi, I'm not really ready for dating yet, still hurting from being left by my ex, but i filled in one of these online things to support a friend of mine who was trying straight internet dating. I paid my subscription (approx £25.00 british money). As I said I'm not really looking for a date, but have now made email contact with a very nice woman, who I'm hoping will turn out to be a good friend, so from my perspective, probably worth parting with your cash for !
  3. EnglishSilver
    Having met quite a few lesbians who have only realised their orientation a bit later on (age range approx 20 - 40) this is very similar to what they say! you don't need a label unless you want one, enjoy these wonderful feelings! It's a bit of a surprise for you at the moment, time will tell you if you ever want to be with a man again. (Sometimes its hard to imagine not being with a man if you've spent your whole previous life thinking thats what you're supposed to do, but then after time spent with women you cant imagine going back to men as it just wouldn't feel right.) Your friend sounds wonderful! Good luck xx
  4. EnglishSilver
    Great news, hope it continues to go well! Just thought I'd share with you that I recently met a lesbian couple in their 90's who have been together since the second world war! hope for all of us yet.xx
  5. EnglishSilver
    Wow, big alarm bells! that would put me right off too.
  6. EnglishSilver
    You might find a woman who is looking for the same as you initially, but there are so many ways it could all go pear shaped even if you're totally honest and one or both of you could get badly hurt. Just an idea - a friend of mine has started internet and agency dating (she's straight but the principles the same). It does take away the spontenaiety out of meeting someone, but you do get the chance to say what you're looking for, and bypass profiles of people who aren't looking for the same as you. It doesn't guarentee the chemistry will be there but its a step in the right direction if you're both looking for the same sort of relationship.
  7. EnglishSilver
    Everyone has some sort of preference for body type, but for a lot of people its not important enough to affect the way you feel about someone you care for. I think he is insecure, and its not just that more other men might fancy you, its about you having an increased confidence and sense of your own attractiveness that might make you realise you have a wider choice!! not saying you would think like that, but he might think you do! Give him plenty of reassurance, but what you do with your body is entirely up to you.
  8. EnglishSilver
    That would be absolutely lovely, and as a parent it is the way I would be with my kids no matter what they told me, unfortunately not all parents love their children unconditionally. Your g/f shouldn't be putting you under this sort of pressure. She is very lucky that she has loving support and acceptance from her family, but she has got to understand that it wouldn't be the same for you, and at present your education and future depends on their financial support. Just what does she think your relationship would be like if you had no money or home?! That said, I have a friend who's g/f wont publicly acknowledge their relationship at all even though we all mix with a very gay friendly crowd (they're all fine with me- know I'm gay) and this makes my friend feel a bit insecure. Maybe if you can show her in other ways, depending on your circumstances occasionally holding her hand in public, telling a trusted friend or something like that, your g/f will know that you aren't ashamed of her or your sexuality. Don't give in to pressure to tell your family though - thats your choice if and when you do so, and now is definitely not the time.xx
  9. EnglishSilver
    Hi to you, I would in general say to anyone that hiding your sexuality gives people more fuel to gossip, however it sounds as though you are living in a particularly gay-unfriendly situation, and you would have to weigh up the possibility of getting picked on more if you were caught flirting with this lad (cos thats what both of you have been doing !). Is there any chance you could move back with your mum? I don't mean that to sound negative, just a suggestion. From what you describe, this guy sounds as attracted to you as you are to him. If you want to take it a step further, I'd suggest getting to know him a little better as a person. Start talking to him, you could use the class you take together as a starting point to conversation, then find out if you have anything in common. If you find you share any interests, maybe you could suggest getting together out of school, then the focus would be on your activity rather than your attraction to each other - less pressure!!, and away from the prying eyes of the rest of your school. Good luck!
  10. EnglishSilver
    Hi to you both, please don't tie yourselves up in knots trying to give yourselves labels. I know its very confusing, and I wish when I was your age I could have relaxed and allowed my sexuality to develop naturally. It doesn't matter if you're gay/bi/straight, just do what feels right for you, so long as you aren't making your choices to conform to what you think other people want. I agree with a post above, try to seek out gay/bi groups who can give you information and support. If you feel more comfortable with the idea of being bi/gay then you will be better able to listen to what your inner person is telling you. Not sure if i'm explaining this very well!xxxx
  11. EnglishSilver
    What an excellent idea! Its a recent film that lots of people are talking about, so wouldn't seem like a totally contrived topic of conversation. From what you say Foxlocke, I'm almost sure he's gay - my gaydars going off all the way over here in England! how many straight guys would talk about pretty hair? It doesn't sound like he's having too much trouble trying to stay in the closet, if you are quite openly pro-gay even if you don't actually declare yourself, I bet theres even a good chace he'll make the first move in the right situation. Enjoy this flirtation, cos it sounds like there's a good chance of it going somewhere! Good luck. xx
  12. EnglishSilver
    Yes, just tell her! If she's a couple of years older than you she'll understand that your sexuality is just emerging and you simply didn't realise how you felt before. Good luck!xx
  13. EnglishSilver
    I'd have to disagree with this, lots of people are gay but not openly displaying it. Even if you are comfortable with your sexuality which a lot of teenagers aren't, its hard to be "out" in school. It takes a lot of confidence to be publicly gay in a straight environment. Thats not to say this lad is gay at all, lots of people are shy for lots of reasons, so just try being friendly to him, start with a smile and a hello. At the very least you make him feel his class is more pleasant, and it never hurts to make a new friend.
  14. EnglishSilver
    My gaydars pretty good, I'd say about 95% accurate! and once when I thought I was wrong, it turned out that the person was gay, but in denial at the time. I think its down to being good at reading people and picking up on little subtleties. My ex doesn't have a gaydar at all, but isn't generally very observant of whats around her.
  15. EnglishSilver
    Sorry, posted above before i read your next message about how difficult it is for you to find others like yourself at the moment! It may be worth thinking about moving to somewhere where you'll have more a more fruitful social life if you can afford it in the future, but keep your eyes and ears open for any opportunities that arise in the meantime!
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