Cotton89 Posted February 15, 2017 Share Posted February 15, 2017 My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, going on 7, and I feel as if we are never going to get married or get a move on in life. We are going to both be 28 this year. He keeps telling me that he wants to marry me, if he didn't see a future with me he wouldn't be with me. We both live with our parents currently. He says he wants to get a house together first before he will propose. All of last year, I tried to find a house for us that we could afford within our budget. It was like pulling teeth. Every house we went to see, he found something wrong with it. I know he wants us to be in a more stable position financially (because I have student loans, he has zero debt) but people move in together with loans and can still make a house payment and bills. I still have a considerable amount of money left every month from my checks which I have been putting back. On top of that, he wants me to lose weight. He admitted that he was going to break up with me if I didn't, and even told me at the beginning of November I had to lose 10lbs by the end of November otherwise he was going to dump me. We've talked about it since then. He still wants me to lose the weight but says he's going to break up with me over it. I've started dieting and getting up at 5am to go to the gym before work. I asked him if I was going to do this, he needed to build muscle. He's super skinny/thin. He went one day so far to the gym and hasn't gone back because he says he hurt himself. In the entirety of our relationship, he has never done anything to surprise me romantically, even on holidays such as valentine's day. I have never gotten chocolates or flowers for any occassion. He doesn't view holidays as special, but just as any other ordinary day. There are some Christmas days where we haven't even exchanged gifts. He's says that he's never going to make plans for dates because his plans always get ruined somehow if he does. I usually go to his parents house when we see eachother because it's five minutes from my workplace. I told him I hate it though because I have to remember to bring a change of clothes and shoes every day, plus I'm the one who has to drive home at night. I also hate how he never listens to me. If he doesn't know what to do in a situation, instead of handling it himself or taking my advice, he always calls his mom. Him and his mom are very close. I feel he is a momma's boy. Whenever we get in an argument, he always says he does so much for me, that I don't even realize how much he does/sacrifices he makes, etc. And I should be more appreciative. I do things for him all the time as well to help him as best I can because that's what you do in a relationship. But he always feels like he does more. I also hate how he always turns things back to him. I'll be upset about something, and he always manages to bring it back to him and how he's the victim, even when the topic has nothing to do with him at all. Lately I just feel lonely in this relationship. I'm tired of it going nowhere, but at the same time there are a lot of things I still enjoy doing with him. We have a lot of the same interests, and we have a lot of fun together. He has helped me out financially when I was in a pinch, and does help me out in other situations as well. He's a good guy. He tells me he loves me and wants to be with me. But I feel trapped and as if I am wasting away my youth with him. It's not that I don't love him, and the idea of hurting him breaks my heart, but I just don't know what to do for my own stability and health. Any advice on how to get him to commit or move the relationship forward? Or should I cut ties and move on? Link to comment
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