redrose85 Posted November 9, 2011 Author Share Posted November 9, 2011 Oh I hate this cold! It’s one of the worst ones I’ve had. It seems like it has a gazillion stages to it and I’m just waiting for it to be over. I was all gung ho to go to the gym, but I’m all coughy and snotty and ugh. I don’t want to spread my germs around there. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 Day two of “diet" was a success and I learned that I love sunomuno salad. I’m also learning not to sweat the small stuff. Had a minor crisis at the paper today but it will all work out! Link to comment
hers Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 What is sunomuno salad? Is it similar to botato salad? Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 That made me think of Bort. LOL. Sunomuno salad is a combination of rice noodles (vermicelli style), sweet vinegar, vegetables, and some sort of protein. The one I had today was tiny-- it had 2 slices of cucumber and 2 prawns, but it was satisfying. Here’s an example link removed Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 I bought an orange and a bannana to try to see if I like them tonight - worth a shot. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 The recipe I posted is not... disregard that haha. It’s loaded with sodium. But yes, it is good. The texture of food is what I enjoy the most. It’s why pasta is such a weakness. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 Disappointing paycheque. I was expecting at least $100 more. Oh well, we are still okay and my Nav cheque is late (again!) so that’s another couple hundred. I’m excited that we have some savings. In my head it goes towards the wedding LOL. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 I have never heard of that type of salad but the picture looked delish! Having disposable income that you can throw into savings is such a great feeling! I hope to feel it again, lol! How are the wedding plans going? Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 We’re not planning anything yet. I figure it all depends on how my job search goes after grad this spring He won’t be comfortable with planning until we have a bunch of money in savings, so I’m working on that. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 I can understand his point but idk.... I couldn't have planned without making a budget but I couldn't make a budget without knowing what I want first. It'll come soon though! Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 We know what we want, minus all of the little details. Just don’t have the money for it yet. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 True. Nothing wrong with going that route though. I paid as I went from month to month but that was mostly because the stuff I needed to buy to make things was seasonal and at certain times on sale. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 Got a few hours free before work Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Share Posted November 11, 2011 Should I just give up any hope of Alex being helpful around the house? This is pathetic. Link to comment
Firiel Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 Oh gosh, I don't know what to do about non-helpful boys either. B's been trying somewhat since we talked about it, and I do appreciate that. Buuut... objectively, his additional effort is a little pathetic and usually involves actually taking his dishes to the sink or pulling up the cover on the bed. I've seriously considered talking about a chore chart, even though it just seems obnoxiously like college roommates to me. Do you think Alex would be up for something like that? Or you could just go on strike... Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 Oh gosh, I don't know what to do about non-helpful boys either. B's been trying somewhat since we talked about it, and I do appreciate that. Buuut... objectively, his additional effort is a little pathetic and usually involves actually taking his dishes to the sink or pulling up the cover on the bed. I've seriously considered talking about a chore chart, even though it just seems obnoxiously like college roommates to me. Do you think Alex would be up for something like that? Or you could just go on strike... L and I will have something like this. Maybe not on paper but at least verbalize it. Like I hate washing dishes so it'll be his chore to do those and he isn't a fan of vacuming and I love to vacume. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 I would definitely have a talk about it and then if that doesn't work maybe then break out the chart. My husband and I have an agreement that because he isn't working presently he has all the day to day stuff- laundry and dishes etc. But I do the big cleaning like vaccuming and dusting. He does do the bathroom though which I love because he knows I have a hard time bending over to scrub stuff. When he is working again it'll be split he'll do the dishes because I hate them and I'll do the laundry because he hates folding so it works out in the end. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Share Posted November 11, 2011 We had a talk last night. I stayed calm and rational (mostly) and whenever he got defensive, I reassured him and did my best to diffuse the situation. What I didn’t accept was “I’m sorry, I’ll try harder.” I said, no, you need to set a goal and have something tangible in mind. So we divvied up chores amongst ourselves. His chores (which I am not to do) are garbage, recycling, the cat box, and vacumning. Mine are laundry and dishes and general tidiness (dusting, etc...) He is going to get his chores done his way and I am going to get mine done my way. He KNOWS how unhappy it makes me to feel like a maid and he knows how much I end up resenting him when he slips back into lazy mode. The end result is basically, he does more, he gets more sex because I am happier and have more time/less stress and everyone is happy. Link to comment
hers Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 Oh god I so wish guys would realize that. More cleaning=less nagging=happier women=more sex. It's common sense! Jared and I have it worked out that I do the laundry, he puts it away. Don't let dishes pile up in the sink when the dishwasher is right there. One cooks, the other does dishes. Etc. Sounds harmonious but if one of us doesn't do our part, resentment happens. Now that he's out of work, he's doing much more around the house, which I'm grateful for. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 I think L has it pretty easy to be honest. I'm not the most tidiest person - even though I'm a house keeper - and although I have my quriks (if you empty the toilet roll put it back ON the roll, not the sink) we are pretty much the same. i'll let things build up a little and then my OCD kicks in and I do a mass clean and the process repeats itself. Link to comment
hers Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 I just hate clutter on the floors...can't stand anything to be on the floors (except a few dog toys, like right now). So I like shoes put up, no clothes on it, etc. I am pretty uncaring about the toilets and such, but I have become noticeably more organized and clean freak since moving into our new place b/c it's actually a nice place and I've got a lot of pride here, unlike the other places. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 Yeah, I tend to throw stuff were it lands but after a few days it starts making me stwitch and I have to pick it up, lol. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Share Posted November 12, 2011 Ah yes, clutter stresses me out. We’ve been hit by the tail end of the Alaskan Hurricane. Crazy winds, hail, snow, rain, power outages, you name it. That’s definitely arctic air blowing around out there. I’m really glad the power didn’t go out at work Before work, I shopped with a friend. We got ourselves some new lingerie. Love mine. It’s not as out there or daring as what I had in mind but it fit perfectly and is super flattering. I’ll get something more risque when my body looks better Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Share Posted November 12, 2011 Hehe so after getting a few comments about why Alex waited so long to decide to fully commit to me, I was feeling a bit insecure. So I asked. Obviously it’s not a money thing anymore, because we’re still not exactly loaded... He said he’s known since the first year and that he has always been fully committed to me and to us. I never knew that he felt that way so early on. He was only 20! I wasn’t sure in the first year... I just knew I was deliriously happy. Link to comment
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