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  1. ilios69
    absolutely,positively,NOT..the only thing there is no excuse for..i would never be able to lay next to her again..
  2. ilios69
    hello,i went through the same thing,which is how i found this website.i was like you i hung on hoping things would change but they never did.you need to move on its gonna hurt for a little while but you will start healing and not feeling that feeling you feel when you dont get the love your giving back.i was hanging on for all the wrong reasons.but when i finally realised things were never going to be the same i started getting closure in my life.there are plenty of people out there that are willing to give back the love you have to offer to them....good luck to you....
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    i dont mean short term relationships,i was talking about long term relationships.one that has been going on for years,what causes these changes how could you be happy with someone for 4 yrs and in a couple of months it turns to crap.
  4. ilios69
    good for u lisa glad to see your getting stronger
  5. ilios69
    hey im sorry for your situation,but i must tell you as someone that went through the same thing.being friends with someone you still have feelings for is impossible.because as soon as you see or hear about there new significant other you just reopen the wounds.and i feel like i was getting strung along for the ride till she met someone new.and i had lost all trust in her.which like someone said when you dont have trust in this person how can you be friends.good luck to you
  6. ilios69
    your a little to young to be dealing with situations like this(no offence)i think just give her all the space she wants i have to agree with vitalcoaching if you get to clingy and needy that will just turn her off even more.
  7. ilios69
    hello all can someone explain to me how a beutiful relationship,from dreaming about spending the rest of your life with someone,to wanting to start a family with this person,turns into a horrible relationship to not being able to stand the person anymore.how does this happen i was just curious if anyone had the answer to this.
  8. ilios69
    as hard as this is to hear Cecilius is absolutely right
  9. ilios69
    hey man i know what your going through,if you have lost trust in her than just pack your bags and hit the road.because now it is time for her to gain your trust back.i wasted another year and a half into a 4 yr relationship with a women that i should of dumped the first time she lied to me.because now every time your not with her your going to wonder if she is with trevor.do yourself a favor and dont do anything stupid to her or to him.there just not worth it.your just going to drive yourself crazy and constantly accuse her and question her.shes going to tell you that your crazy and just never admit to it anyway unless you just catch her in the act.sorry to be so harsh but thats the way it is.how can a relationship work if there is no trust?
  10. ilios69
    hey lisa you sound so sad,i truly am sorry for the pain you are going through.today i saw my ex in court,she came with her new boyfriend,i will not lie to you i was raging mad,and i felt hurt and betrayed yhat she found someone to fill my shoes so fast.I have been on a couple of dates with other women but i catch myself comparing them to my ex.You need to get him out of your head and the sooner you do that the sooner you will start your healing.talk to friends and family dont feel like you are boring them because these are the people that truly love you.if i can help you in anyway feel free to ask,or you can pm me if you want to know something private.start today as your first day of healing.take care for now...G
  11. ilios69
    Dear lisaria,my closure took about 4 months of constant agony and pain.I kept holding on. we were friends and we were still sleeping together,that was the first mistake i made.i should of just stopped all communication with her maybe it would not of been so painful.as murrayfaces said,everytime i went back and we had another fight the wounds would just get reopened.so i decided to get on with my life and just totally have nothing to do with this women anymore.the day i decided to do that this heavy load that was on my back just lifted right off,and i felt like i havent felt in months,i honestly had a great nights sleep and woke up relaxed and feeling great.i feel the no contact rule really wasnt working and i used that as an excuse to still feel that there might be a chance for us to work it out.but our situation always ended up to be the same.so whatever issues everybody has with there ex-es will always be there and if you feel you cant live with these issues then its time to move on and you will get your closure.
  12. ilios69
    hello all my friends who are in pain like i have been for the last couple of months.I just want to tell you all that time heals all wounds.I know your all sick of hearing that but trust me it is true.what gave me closure was something someone on this website had said to me in one of my posts.she told me that sometimes it takes a shock of something the other person does to help you get over them.now i look back and realize how stupid i was for running home to check my messages to see if she had called or calling my cell phone during the day to see if she left me a message
  13. ilios69
    i just want to thank everyone for there advice...even you pepsimix...LOL...it was good getting a womens advice...anymore?...G
  14. ilios69
    First off im sorry for what your going through,im pretty much in the same situation,just like everyone here.But i think if your doing all the hurting you should do whats best for you.you can do the no contact and see how you feel and how she feels.after all she dumped you and expects you to always be around for her. she might realize what she had and the 2 of you can work it out.best of luck to you
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    Hello all,about a month ago my girlfriend of 4yrs.and i broke up.Mostly her decision but i knew it was right because of the constant fighting.Anyway thursday i called her and of course i turned into a fight.Because i asked her if she was still on birth control,and she said yes.i asked her if she is seeing someone else she told me no..But why would a women stay on birth control if she wasnt sleeping with someone else.She also told me she still wants to be friends.I just missed her so much i knew i shouldnt of called her,but i did.I thought by now i would be over her but i still think about her every day.But the thought of her with someone else is turning my stomach.I really dont know what to do anymore other than just leave her alone,and let her call me.But she knows how i am and if we ever get back together she will never tell me if she slept with someone else.Am i going to wonder that forever because thats just going to put us back to the beging which caused the break up in the first place.......Any advice will be greatly appreciated....G
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