CoolGuy

There is one word for that man - sorry I dont want to end up like that and thats my - worry. Love is the most precious thing u can find for which u cannot pay in cash or kind though such a thing he did find he did not make the effort to make strong the bind! love ripens when the two partners understand and share else it would be like a desert barren and bare.... For all ye people out there who have found love those who know what it is love and be loved understand it is a gift sent by the almighty above a gift so priceless ......a gift called LOVE. Bye, CoolGuy

I have met a new fren ..hello cuu glad to know that u r afflicted by love too!! being apart from u r lover is difficult for sure this thing is one malady for which there is no cure. i am sure the cloud will clear and the sun will shine u r lover will soon come back to u and say "dear u r mine" that day will soon come and thats my view sorry i talked about this and u better not sue!!!!!!!!!!!! hi, cuu....nice to meet a fren who likes writing poems too..(i am a damn amateur though)..... keep posting ....and keep in touch Bye, CoolGuy

hi bzborow, i guess it wud be a little awkward to stop her and have a chat especially since u dont know her that well. u don't have her mail id or chat id or somethin'?? that wud be easy to get right?? then u can mail her introducing urself and that u got her mail id from so and so....and tell her that u r happy to chat with her or whatever. that shud break the ice. if u cant do that...then i think u take courage, stop her in her tracks and start a general discussion...that requires some talent and experience...ask some exp guy to help u deal with it...i am not the person who can advice u on that... Cheers, CoolGuy

hi scott, i agree with u completely...to love and not be loved is a big hurt and i fully understand u believe me!!! but let us put a few things into perspective now. how long has she been ur gf?? i am assuming it is arnd 2 yrs. if that is the case and she has personal problems...then who better than u her bf to discuss the problem??? this is crazy! if i know somebody very well and i trust them..i wud confide my problems with them but mind u.....there is a chance that she may be right and serious....there r chances of some things which cannot be said to u but she wud have to handle herself and for this she may need some time... so what u have to do now is: hope for the best and prepare for the worst. ur post said 'dont reply if ur asking me to leave her'...that's not a good approach. i know ur emotions at this moment but think clearly...if u r this obsessed with her and she comes and says 'we r done' u will be very hurt. what u do now...is think as if u r done with her....that solves the problem...as the earlier post said....time heals everything..so try to stop thinking abt her as ur partner....atleast try...and u will be amazed at the progress...in abt a month...believe me u will be thinking not much abt her. this helps in two ways that it give her the required space and u will get prepared for whatever she says. i hope she comes back to u and both get together in life....if she does that ..then u r fine. else dont worry. ur mind will be prepared by then....and u will find somebody else. follow the advice of the earlier post like. "chat a lot...with ur close frens family, get out and hang out etc..." i think that guy is experienced in this!!! like me . All the Best, CoolGuy

hi joyfulgirl, i think the guy u r speaking abt is not mentally focussed. by what i make out of it, he initially was interested in u but after some time he has lost interest i think. thats why he stopped talking to u etc.. dont go by false assumptions that having ur id's on his contact lists makes him interested in u. i have one gal's both id's and she has mine...but she isnt serious with me and we have talkd it over...so he may have that just to be frens with u some time in future.. my advice is: u have no reason to feel depressed right now. u were in touch with him for just arnd 2 months and thats not enuf to judge a person though u may have feelings for him. just accept the fact that he wasnt interested in u. u will definitely come accross someone who will be interested in whatever bit u do!!! Cheers, CoolGuy

hey!!! this sounds very similar except i was the guy with a "crush" on the girl. But, i don't call it 'crush' as i had real feelings for her but she called it a crush. the same thing happnd to me. i dropped her a mail saying i wanted to be her partner etc. but she didnt reply...finally when i told her abt my feelings..she said that she was serious with another guy and wanted to be frens with me and hence did not want to reply.... so i guess it may be the same for u. be prepared for NEGATIVE outcomes and wait to see what happens.. CoolGuy

i don't think looking at somebody shud be taken seriously. it is a natural human tendency to look,ogle or whatever u may say. Just by looking, u r not getting emotionally involved with that person....it is just ur physical instincts that get attracted to that person. but personally i feel that what u r feeling is good!!!.....it shows that u r completely committed to ur long distance partner.... so throw that doubt outta ur mind.....u r still committed to ur partner!!!!!!

As i have loved and lost.....i think it is better!!!! bcoz 'The test of fire makes good steel'. When u try to luv somebody and it doesn't go ur way..1) U understand what love is...it is mutual 2) u become stronger in life 3) V V Importantly, u get experience!!!!

Hi kittykat, From what i make out, it is better that u forget that guy. He was the never the one suited for ur sensitive and soft nature. All he wanted was some fun and a sex fling with a girl....and he got it and left. Don't bother a lot about ur virginity now.....its ok.. Don't lose heart bcoz he left u...try to cheer up and look ahead in life...U will meet THE person for u who will understand u and love u for the way u are. As far as this *beep* guy is considered....forget abt him!!!! Bye, CoolGuy

hi drukin33, its nice to know that she is close to somebody for the first time.that almost solves half the problem. when both of u like each other's company...there will be no question of getting bored...believe me. i cud chat hours and hours with my gf abt whatever on earth. but have a few things in mind. know her likes and dislikes well, this will help u a lot when talking to her or taking her out. when u talk..keep her amused...make her laugh...she will find u a really interesting person then..above all..ACT NATURAL and things will surely be rosy for ya bye, COOLGUY

First of all, i wud like u to change ur mentality that u wont take no for an answer ( i think u were joking in ur post!!!). Artificiality in expressing is a real turn-off. When u really like somebody...just show that u like him and if u want to express it...express it naturally like some nice greeting card...etc... If he agrees....then CONGRATS and have a good time!!! if he does not...then he was not the one for u....there is a more special person coming ur way....i am abs sure So go ahead and make that move..... Bye CoolGuy

hi kittykat, I understand ur feelings right now....and u must be really feeling down and low. All i can say is that it was very bad and harsh of ur partner to leave u high and dry like this. lemme get this....did he say that he wants a breather??? if that is the case...why shud he find someone else?? have both of u understood the other completely bcoz u said that there were bumps along ur relationships....??? see...if he said that he just needed a breather and then looked for someone else....he is cheating. then, it is obvious that u did not appeal to his mind as the 'one'. i feel that u r really a sensitive person and dedicated to him..its really hurting u. just tell what u r feeling right now...directly to him. ask him whether this is the end of our relationship and ask him why he sought after another girl after asking for a breather...maybe he will understand ur sensitivity and will feel sorry!!! Bye and keep posting!! CoolGuy

Hi enchanter, It is difficult to judge from what u have specified as to what may be the reason he wants ur number.....it is nice that u have a crush on him...but what abt his feelings????? if u cud tell something abt what he talked or how he acted while asking ur no and before on ur meetings...we can discuss abt it better... Keep posting, Bye, CoolGuy

Hi LordDude, I don't think u have done anything wrong!!! so....why does she behave this way???? beats me!!! By what u explain abt holding hands, being physically close...etc...i can make out for sure that both of u are attracted..no doubt abt it...but dont judge abt relationships now itself.....that is completely different.....For that u have to know ur mate very very well.....i mean u have to know her good/bad everything and like her for that....and she has to feel the same way!!! thats important!!!! Now.... coming back....u be the good guy!!! just try contacting and meeting her and ask her something like..."Why were u dull and hurt that day my dear??? Was i the reason for it??" it is a nice gentlemanly way of asking and females like sweet guys ;-). if u were the reason for something u dont know.....then be the first to apologize and ask her to forgive u....else drop it there and tell her that u have forgotten it!!!! that shud put both of u back on track..... All the Best... Bye. CoolGuy

Hi CamaroJoe, Nice to hear from u again mate!!! i think i can tell u abt this as i have gone thru the same thing and shut the case up!!! Let us face reality..... there r only 2 possible things. 1) She likes u somewhat(not deeply!!!! mind u...those feelings r different...when u deeply like somebody...u JUST CANT HESITATE IN SHOWING THEM) and wud like to be frens with u for now.....later...she may be thinking of deciding. 2) She doesnt reciprocate the feelings that u have towards her(hey!! that isnt ur mistake....just that u dont come to her mind as a partner..) but is feeling somewhat awkward to say that. (In my case..it was the second one as she had a very close guy abt which i didnt know....so i asked her abt it and now...we have decided to be just frens....anyways....thats different!!) See, if it is the first case....then u will have to wait....and watch if her feelings towards u get any stronger. But...be prepared for NEGATIVES....thats very important!!!!! U judge for urself....it shows quite naturally u know.......(it is hard to explain...but when u r talking closely with someone...u can judge what they feel). If u feel that it is CASE1 then u tell ur feelings and ask her to take her time to decide....thats a nice way of putting it...u r in effect telling her that u r liking her and would be happy if she decided to be ur gf...... If it is CASE2 according to ur judgement....then u have some tough decisions to take mate!!! but u will have to do it...... Just think about this.....u will wait for some more time and ur feelings abt her might get very strong( i am assuming that u r in love with her...)...later if she says NO, it will be very very hard on u mate!!!! i dont like that to happen to u mate!!! u will take a long long time to heal that...ok so what do u do if u judge it is CASE2.....just meet her once in a nice quite place...where both of u can think clearly...ok. then u tell her abt ur feelings openly....(it is not wrong to like someone....everybody understands that!!) and ask her why she seems to be not ready....be careful and tell her that u r prepared for any answer and show that u have the maturity to deal with even harsh answers...tell her 'Please tell me very very frankly as this is a question of my love life.' if she really has some feeling....she will ask u to wait or somethin...then back to CASE1...else if she says she doesnt see u in that way.....it is actually good for u though it is harsh..u can try to forget this and be frens with her. See, the fact is u cannot force anybody to love u....it is mutual...and natural...so even though she pities u and stuff...it will NEVER be true love and u will suffer later although it may cool things now.... So, get ur mind working....and start up!!! keep me posted mate!!! and ALL THE BEST......i wish she has REAL FEELINGS for ya!!!! Bye CoolGuy