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  1. BeatleJon
    I talked to my Psychologist about this. She said to concentrate on yourself before dating. She said to me "you have a crater in your heart and filling that crater with another girl would be pointless". You have to improve yourself before seeing anyone else. She actually said to me that it would be better to go out and do things with the same sex people.....not being gay or anything. Jon N.
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    The way I see it if you wanna get back together with anybody......PATIENCE is the key. If the person really loves you, he or she will eventually call.....If not, then get on with your life. This is what I am trying to do but, it is still VERY VERY hard to deal with (especially since I was involved with my ex g/f for over 3 yrs). Don't contact them..........let them contact you. Jon N.
  3. BeatleJon
    Thanks for your reply's guys and gals.
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    I was with my girfriend for 3 years and 4 months. She said her biggest fear was to lose me and guess what...........She ended it. I just don't want to live everyday like this. I cant take it. I talked to her severl times and she has seemed very nice and she still has me on her aol instant messager. I really just want her to say "We can work on this together" or "dont call me anymore". She is not giving me any answers. Thank you, Jon N.
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    I've been without my girlfriend for about 3 months and I've now come to the conclusion I can not heal. I've tried NC but, I think that only works for people that have friends. I dont have any friends and I'm all alone in this battle. I am going to a Psycologist soon to see if I can get some help and some happy pills. I've never been so depressed in my life....this is a new low for me. I can not be happy. I just wrote her a long email telling her everything I feel. If I don't get a response, I am burning everything and being by myself for the rest of my life. I couldn't take another break-up.
  6. BeatleJon
    AMEN to that. Good luck.
  7. BeatleJon
    Thats great!!! Congrats!!!! I hope it works for me too!!
  8. BeatleJon
    I hear ya. I've been doing LC and its killing me. I'm going to try NC for a while but, I don't think it will work for me either. I think it would be a little different if I has some friends to hang out with but, I really dont have anyone.
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    She broke up with me. I begged and cryed for the first few weeks and went to mostly NC. I talked to her a couple times and she seemed very cool so, hopefully, the night will go smooth. Thanks for the advise, Jon N.
  10. BeatleJon
    Haha! Michael Myers would kick the Predator's butt! Haha! We might go see "Click"...the new Adam Sandler movie.
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    Welp, I broke down and called my ex-girlfriend after about 2 months. We MAY go see a movie tonight and I was wanting some advise on how to get things started off to a good start? Any advise would be swell! Thanks, Jon N.
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    I too am having this problem. I constantly check my email/cell phone. I keep on listening to The Beatles song "We Can Work It Out" but, so far....its no luck! It's really bad because I dont have anybody to share the 4th of July holiday with this year...I've been with her for the past 3 1/2 years. Jon N.
  13. BeatleJon
    No Contact and Limited Contact.
  14. BeatleJon
    So, did she get in contact with you or did you contact her?
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    I am pretty much going through the same thing....you are not alone. My girlfriend of 3 years and 4 months dumped me because she doesn't think I have a future either (but I'm going to prove her wrong). I've cryed, constantly called, and cryed some more. I have be doing LC for the past month and its helped just a little bit. I still feel as if a piece of me is gone. All I can say is try to stay busy and TRY not to think too much about it, even though it's VERY hard. I still think about her everyday but, you kinda just gotta give them the space they need for a while to let them miss you and realise what kind of mistake they have made. My prayers are with you and everyone on this board with broken hearts. All the best, Jon N.
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    For those of you that dont know my story, here's a link... It's been a little over 3 weeks for NC for me so, I decided to call her. I was very nice and said nothing about the break-up. She seemed happy to hear from me and she really didn't want to let me go...we talk for about an hour and a half. She has kept all of the emails I have sent and she still has her screen name and email address...."Jonsgrlfrnd". So, I think things are starting to look up (I hope so, anyway). Jon N.
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    I was browsing the internet and I came accross this article. There are alot of helpful hints in it I thought everyone would enjoy reading....link removed I know after I read this article, it made me think more about what to do besides the No Contact rule. Enjoy, Jon N.
  18. BeatleJon
    Amen to that!!
  19. BeatleJon
    Thats great! Congrats!!
  20. BeatleJon
    Thanks for the advise guys. I'm really too shocked to do any of this right now. I still believe there is a chance for us. It's horrible to say but, it seems like dealing with a death is easier to do than a long term break up. When someone is dead....there are no questions...they are gone. When someone breaks it off with you, you are constantly thinking..."What are they doing?"...."Are they thinking of me". But, I can see her side of the story too, she wants to be taken care of and I don't blame her. I get to go to college for free (because my mom is an instructor) and I have most of the my general education classes done so, it would be kinda dumb not to go back and get a degree and start my life. I haven't told her I'm going back to school yet. I still may call in a month (if she dosen't call) to tell her the news and see whats up. I don't think she is looking for anyone else. I know her very well...but then again, I didn't think this would ever happen!
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    Ok, its been about 1 week of No Contact. She hasn't contacted me and I haven't contacted her. She hasn't changed her AIM screen name or her profile.....even though I told her to. I was JUST about to send her an email but, I came here instead. I was thinking about calling her in about a month to see how things are going for her. Not to ask her out or say anything about the relationship.....would this be a good idea to contact her after a month just to see how things are going?? I wish I would have found out about this place a month ago.](*,) Thanks, Jon N.
  22. BeatleJon
    I really dont know what the hell to do??? I'm going to try the No Contact method to see if it works. If she starts to miss me and really cares about me, she will call. If not, I am never looking for any girls again. I've been dumped 4 times and I've had it! I am a very good person....I've never done anything bad in my life and this is the thanks I get. She's making this sound like I've done something very bad??!! To me, this is not that big of a deal. A couple should be able to work things like this out if they really care about each other. We've been together too long and we have done too any things to just throw it all away. This sucks SO bad. Jon
  23. BeatleJon
    I believe she just wants reassurance that I can support her later in life if we decided to get married....and I can't blame her. If I stayed with the same job, making the same money, there is no way I could. Here is a reply email she sent to me around Easter time.... ""Hi, Happy Easter to you too! Jon I really think you are missing the point.I know reality might be hitting you right now... or you wouldn't be emailing and calling me. I think you are just lonely or completely bored out of your mind. I know how it would be if we got back together. It would be fun with a lot of promises.... but I can't see the promises ever taking effect. We would end up the way we were. I agree that we have had some fun times, but sitting on the couch all day and watching 5 movies in one night is in no way fun. I have to have some excitement in my life and I feel like I wasn't getting any. Yes I AM SPOILED! But you are too if you think about it. You have always had you parents treat you like a 7 year old. You don't do much for yourself and you are not showing me a future. I hate to say it but you need to grow up. Stop living like your dad. I need some reassurance. You went all winter without a job and I know you just got your old one back.... I am happy for you. But that time not working, isn't working with me.... you could have got a job if you wanted one. You can't say there wasn't any available.... you just did want the ones that were out there. Sometime you have to do what you don't want to do. I want to see you be a go-getter."" Let me know what you guys think about this email..... Jon
  24. BeatleJon
    Very, very, very, good point. She would have left a long time ago if it was about money because I never did make alot. I believe she is trying to make myself be a go getter. I am 23 and she is 20 years old. She is a very smart girl and I believe she just wants me to try harder and think of our future and I can't blame her. I'm making $8 per hour and thats not near enough to start a family on. She told me she wants me to prove myself and that is what I'm going to do. I'm not doing it for her, I'm doing it for myself. I believe I will wait for about a month to call her to see what she's been up to.......or should I call? I know she is not interested in anyone else. I believe she still loves me and she knows I love her. I still think about her everyday and I'm praying every night that we'll get back together. Thanks, Jon N.
  25. BeatleJon
    Thanks for the advise. I'm still hoping for this to turn out good. Her screen name is "JonsGrlfrnd" and the last time I talked to her, I told her to change it since she is not with me anymore. And she also said how much she loves me in her profile. So far, she hasn't changed any of the info or the screen name, I think there still may be a chance for us. I'm not going to get my hopes up on this though. EVERY person I've known who has been in a relationship and broke up has gotten back together..........eventually.....it just takes time. Thanks alot for all of your comments guys and gals. Jon N.
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