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    Don't worry, it's not only you. A year and a half IS a long time. And 3 months is NOT that long. I was with someone for 6 months and its been 2 months and I know for a fact by 3 months I'll still be feeling like this. Thinking the exact things you do about your guy. I also feel it was easy for him, as he was my first but i wasn't his, etc. You're very strong for having kept no contact for all that time, a few days ago I spent a couple hours with my ex alone doing some college stuff (we go to the same college) and it was just like old times. I had this huge rush of happiness. But guess what? The aftermath was crappy; it was like getting over him all over again. So here I am...on the verge of tears...thinking I'll never get over him while he's around me. But on the other hand the thought of him being out of my life really depresses me too. So it's like a vicious cycle. I just don't know what to do. Everyone tells me I'll look back at this as something minor, and trivialises our relationship, which actually helps; we need reminding that there's more to life, a whole life can't be relyed on these chemicals within our systems that make us feel like this about someone. love is blind.
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    Thats exactly it; its an addition to his attention. I never thought of it in that way. I'll bear what you say in mind scout thank you for your advice And also annie lol I just read yours you guys open up my minds more its great so thanks !
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    That's so right. In my mind I KNOW he's not right for me. It's just so haaaaard!!! "nobody said it was easy"... thanks for again for advice!
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    lol but I can't! How?! I had this rush of happiness after spending so much time with him! So does this mean you think he actually has intentions with me? I mean, I'd take your advice into consideration though, like I wouldn't kiss him for the sake of my dignity And I just read kellbells response too thank you for your advice I'll try my best!
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    ~Since U been gone - Kelly Clarckson ~I WILL SURVIVE - gloria gaynor not metal or rock but lol i luv them.
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    GUYS! I broke NC in the most major way. I mean I can't really do NC anyway because me and this guy i had a "thing" with for about 5 months and go to the same college and unavoidably see each other everyday. He used to tell me about all these plans he had for us etc. and when he broke it off I was (am) DEVASTED and have been finding it the most painful thing in the world seeing him everyday, with him not caring anymore. ANYWAY, to the point, today (2 months later), I asked if he'd help me set up this thing in the drama studio because he's strong enough to move stuff around. We ended up spending an hour together doing this, and it was really sweet and fun and aaaaaahh it made me really happy. We talked about stuff, and I found out he just broke up with his girlfriend... there was a bit of physical contact, and he fake proposed to me (like preston and chantelle in BB lol) and it was like really cute and I kept thinking what I'm doing is SO bad for me...so why am I doing this...why doesn't it feel wrong...why aren't I upset? There must be a catch. There's an aftermath to this feeling isn't there? Any thoughts?
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    ok well I actually didn't read that ALL the way to the end, but i read most of it, and I wish I was feeling anger towards my ex because feeling angry is easier than feeling PURELY depressed. But he was just so sweet about everything. I wish he wasn't, I wish he said "You know, maybe I have been a jerk". Or at least broken up with me over the phone. Or in a text. Just SOMETHING so I can be like He's a jerk I don't need a jerk!!!!!!! You have that so this must be a LITTLE better because you can just be like I dont need that pyscho we didn't get on at ALL. Anyway good luck you shall get through this xx
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    Thanks for your response scout. I know. What you're saying is so right. It's just so hard ! its such a hard transition to go through. This guy is the most devious person ever and it frustrates me because I can't work out whether its on purpose or unintentionally. Today at college he mouthed I love you whilst giving me the evils and obvioulsy I didn't think anything of it because i know hes a * * * * but I'm just mentioning it to say why this is so hard for me! Its because he doesn't care but this weird and twisted personality of him projects all this FAKENESS which has messed me up so much over the past few months. I know I'll be hurt by break ups in the future no doubt, but none will be so weird because this guy isn't normal. All he does is messes with girls's heads. I'm so frustrated at my naivety in the past. But I have to keep reminding myself that this was something just to learn from. Anyway...thanks again for advice...
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    Ive seen this picture of his display picture online (and this is the first time he's ever signed online) and it is of this girl who is the complete opposite of me. She has this peroxide blonde GHD hair with a face COVERED in makeup, she looks pretty but a little tacky. She looks like someone out of a music video. And here's little old me I didn't say hi...but then a several times after he signed on I did and he said hi back, but didn't make anymore conversation the whole rest of time he was online! (half an hour!) HOW can someone be so into you...and then so not? I'm SO upset, its like nothing I will ever do will ever make him feel what he felt ever again.
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    There was one guy I was in love with, turned into a long distance relationship, I thought I'd never ever ever get over him. Anyway, after 2 years, I did because I started a new college and it was like part of me was a new person again, and it was strange because it August I still had very strong feelings of attachment towards him, and then in September I started falling for this new guy at college, and it just happened. It wasn't even a planned process. I didn't plan to go to college in order to re-new myself and forget, I only just realised that that's what happened when I look back at everything. I can't tell you to start a new job, or I don't know, do something like that, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you try too hard it's not going to happen. Things like this only happen when you least expect them e.g. my friend also came with me saying 'i really want a boyfriend here' and I came saying 'i don't care about a boyfriend and i'm so sure i won't be getting one'. I know you feel like it'll never happen but I promise you it will!!! You can't keep dwelling on your ex together, if it was meant to be then you'd be together, everything happens for a reason. Smile be happy, realise that you don't need a girl in your life, and then one will just come along one day and you'll laugh at your saying "I wont ever move on from this one person in my entire life"
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    ME fix my own heart??? How does that work? I was just waiting for another guy to come along that I fall in love with who loves me back - thought that might take a while, but I didn't think there was another way.
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    Oh yeah, so true. Thanks Faerie
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    Thanks avman for your response! I think it's probably because I literally have nothing to do all day but lie there and think to myself for HOURS. And really, there's nothing worse than that for someone who's trying to forget! Will hang in there, can't wait til I'm better again.
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    Hey guys… I don't know how many of you know my « story » ; was with guy at college, never been so happy in my life, makes all these plans for us, breaks up with me, see him everyday, flirts with me sometimes, has new girlfriend. Ok its been over 2 months and I'm getting on with my life, putting more effort into studies, having the ability to enjoy myself with accepting that there will just always be a hole in my heart until someone comes and fixes it some day. BUT I got ill, and I've been lying in bed all day awake, and running of things to think about, I thought of HIM. I shut my eyes, and went through the whole story, right from September when we first met, watching how everything developed… Then it got to the part were we had our first kiss and i remembered it extremely vividly, with all the incredible emotions that came with it, the few days that lead up to it, the water fight…and I had to cut off the story and I began to cry . I thought I was over everything, but clearly not !! The only reason I thought I was, was because I didn't reflect on what happened, what I lost, to such detail! But when I do, it's like a reality check. I don't think I'll EVER feel that happy ever again ! I know it sounds narrow minded but everything that happened between us was like the stuff you see in the movies - it was amazing ! Guys, I'm DEVASTED. All I'll ever do is think of those times with immense yearning for them. Anyway, I shut my eyes and carried on the story until the break up and discovering new girlfriend. It's been nearly 3 months…ok I just realised there's not THAT much point to this post, but just wondering if anyone has felt the same sort of thing recently… do reply
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    NC is 10 times harder in early days, but after like a week or two you adapt, plus lose hope that he will contact you because he hasn't done so for so long. I've never done NC before because I have to see my ex at college everyday, but I remember once over the holidays for a whole month he didn't contact me when everything was going really well. I was so confused!!!!!!!!!!!!! Everyone told me not to contact him so I didn't. I sent him a text. No reply. IT was driving me MAD!!!! I just wanted to smash my phone against the wall. But after the first week or two I stopped watching the phone waiting for it to ring. What did they do in the ancient times when there was no phone?!!?! Anyway, you'll get used to it. And it is much much much easier to move on. Out of sight, out of mind.
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    I would have thought he knows you like him. He wouldn't be flirting with someone who he thought didn't fancy him considering the extent to which he flirts with you. Also you flirt back. You don't need to tell him, actions speak louder than words. That's why I'm saying if he REALLY liked you he would have asked you out by now. You said you're not going to let go... it's up to you, but just keep reminding yourself what he's doing is an act, and all the cute things he does are fake. Don't tell him you take him seriously, you have to always make it seem like you don't care.
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    I know how you feel. Maybe something will come between you, but it isn't likely to be successful. With me, I didn't listen to anyone and kept on our flirty relationship incase one day he'd ask me out and we'd be together, and I didn't want to lose what might happen: Even though something DID happen between us, he ended it quickly, and had a girlfriend just a few days later. It really messed with my head. If I could, I would just take back all those times I gave in to him. You might think your guys different, but from your explanation...he seems the same. I suppose in a way it was an experience...but on the other hand i don't know if it was worth all that heart-ache dragging on. theres this quote "When I met you... I was afraid to like you. When I liked you... I was afraid to love you. When I loved you... I was afraid to lose you. When I lost you... I wish I never met you". It's so easy for you NOW to say "oh well it'll be worth it" but you won't be saying that later! You don't have to be distant, just be flirty with other guys too infront of him or something. Or just be distant/play hard to get for like one day and see how he reacts, you don't have to act like that permenantly.
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    I have the right answer. I have naturally wavy hair and I know that straight hair tends to make me prettier because people always comment when I straighten it. But why? Not because straight hair is sexier, but because its a rare occurrence for people to see my hair like that, so when they DO see it like they like the change. I also have a friend who always has straight hair, and one day she curled it and everyone commented, saying it looked good. As a result, I have curly hair for the majority of the time, and sometimes I straighten it, especially if there's a special occasion. Curly hair saves me time AND it still looks nice anyway if you're proud of it
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    Hmmm...I've been in that situation before. Advice other people gave me was stuff like its unfortunate that you've given this guy the upper hand and allowed him to act like your boyfriend when he wants to, even though he's made it clear you're not going out with each other or anything. I know exactly what you mean about the dilema of him wanting to stop it, but on the other hand you liking it. It's really tough but these guys = complications and trouble, and if you keep looking forward to this when you don't have it anymore you will be heart-broken. I had to learn this the hard way. People told me to leave it, and be a little distant from him etc. but I just couldn't because I liked him so much. Eventually we kissed and it was amazing for ME, and he made me believe I was really special and that we'd go out with each other, and he kept stringing me along, but a couple months after that he told me we're better as just friends. I WISHED I just left it earlier because it would have been MUCH less painful. This is what PLAYERS DO. They lie like rugs. If he really liked you, don't you think he would have asked you out by now? You deserve better; he's SAID he's playing you and your STILL allowing him to do that. I think you should not reciprocate for a bit, and see what happens; normally when you ignore them they come running back like squirrels. Or you could flirt with other guys to test the waters, and see if he gets jealous and think he's in danger of losing you if he DID like you. Otherwise, he may just see you as a flirt buddy/ego boost, and if its the case there's not a lot you can do. It's a complex situation which is not easy to be in, but lots and lots of us have been there... good luck
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    Just don't be nice to him. Be polite, but thats IT. I don't think you should get back with this guy because he doesn't seem to value you, and its not a good idea to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't feel as much as you do. You're letting him string you along if you keep your hopes up over him changing his mind. If he did REALLY LIKE YOU he wouldn't have broken your relationship and risk losing you by saying "maybe it June". It's all rubbish, don't fall for it. I had to learn this the hard way.
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    Don't let him have his cake and eat it. Tell him you can't just be messed around and that once a relationship is broken, its broken, so he can't leave and come back, and if he really loved you he wouldn't feel the urge to date other people. Tell him straight that that's what its like. Don't give in to him having you being strung along.
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    Sleeping and staying in bed will only make you worse. I know you really can't be bothered, but in the morning I find it really hard especially, but whenever I get up immediately I realise its a much better idea. Exercise is also good. Do things, if I were to stay in bed all day I'd be crazy right now!
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    I'm really sorry you have to go through this right now My situation isn't quite the same, but I feel a little of what you feel. I was with a guy, we weren't 100% OFFICIAL but he was my first love and we were 'together' for about 5 months. He broke my heart in the worst way, because he told me about all these plans he has for us, etc. etc. and then suddenly one day he stated that we should be 'just friends'. Only a few days later he had a GIRLFRIEND. It was like another stab in the heart. It literally KILLS, but he does care about you and he doesn't want to watch you be hurt, but because you are just feeling SO hurt right now you feel he's to blame and doesn't care about you. HE DOES care about you still and you haven't lost a best friend. I think you just need to recover from the trauma of finding out you guys aren't boyfriend and girlfriend and that he's moved on in THAT sense. It is hard, but it happens to everyone, or else there wouldn't be so many songs about broken hearts. I suggest you do NC for a while so you can get over him in THAT way, and then after that, you can be close friends again.
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    Thanks. I don't know, I'm having like another really quite insignficant dilema too. I have just recently become really close to this guy friend and we talk for AGES online, meet up at the gym, hang out and school, and talk about ANYTHING. We never run out of conversation... and I don't know if it's normal but sometimes I wonder what it would be like if it went further. But the thing is, he's MAJORLY in "friend zone" so its so weird, like he doesn't give me butterflies. I've never gone out with someone I'm SUCH good friends with. Maybe its just a silly little thought and he doesn't think of us that way at all, and we'll probably ALWAYS be just friends, but hmmm. I'll probably post this as a new thread if it comes back onto my mind later but anyway thank you so much for you advice
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    Your right Scout. I just had to learn that the hard way. I supposed most of us do though I'm trying my extreme hardest not to hate. The only thing that I can think of as a nice thing is him at least being honest with me when he did break it off, and not stringing me along anymore than he already did. Other than that...nothing else I respect him for. I wish he was the same person I met a few months ago, just simple, lovely. I am nice to him and everything I keep telling myself he's a good friend to have and that I shouldn't hate him. Hate is too strong anyway. I think I'm just pushing the my blame onto him, because I blame myself for letting this happen. You might tell me not to blame myself, but I shouldn't have been so naive, but now I know and thats how I learnt my lesson. Why do bad things have to happen to us for us to learn things?! Its tres sad... Why is he trying to hide his girlfriend from me?
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