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  1. One Kind Bud
    As a single mother of 15 month old twins, I can tell you what an absolute joy they are. A ton of fun that is for sure! I would be a little cautious about his past, just don't jump into anything too quickly. I think that is wonderful he adores his children. He should.
  2. One Kind Bud
    My XH and I are currently going through a divorce after being married for 6.5 yrs. . We've been separated for almost 2 months now and he has had a girlfriend since 3 days after he left. So anyway, he has told me that he wants to uh, you know, have sex. Also, he knows I have been talking to other guys and am planning to date real soon, so I think that may play a role in why he wants to do this. He has said that he still loves me but we just can't ever get along being married, blah blah, blah. He would rather me sleep with him until I find the right guy. WHATEVER! I just don't understand him. Is this normal for ex-boyfriend or husbands wanting to sleep with their ex's again? ? Can anyone relate? I will admit, the first time he tried something with me (3 weeks ago), I did give into him. I am afraid I will again and I honestly cannot say WHY I would do that. It gives me some sort of satisfaction I guess, knowing that his GF must not really matter much if he's doing that. I dunno. I told him he can't have his cake and eat it too but he thinks he is doing some kind of favor by this "service" he is providing me. Sorry, but I can get that "service" elsewhere. THe thing is, by doing this with him, I do not have any false hope of us getting back together or anything because of it. I know it is OVER. DONE.
  3. One Kind Bud
    I am sorry you are hurting right now. I am just getting out of a 7 year marriage and it has been very hard at times. I lost 15 lbs the first month after my XH left, from not eating properly. I know it was from all the stress I was under. There are children and another girl involved so it's a mess to say the least. I really hope you are able to quit smoking. Is there any way your Dr. might prescribe you some xanax or anti-depressant while you get through this? It may help some. Good luck.
  4. One Kind Bud
    Short. Most definitely.
  5. One Kind Bud
    Thank you all so much for your replies and great advice, even though some of it is not what I wanted to hear. I have decided to go ahead and take the boys over to XH's mom's to be with him. The time away will be nice. Gawd knows I need it!
  6. One Kind Bud
    I know, it's horrible. Today is the first day in a LONG time that I have gone without calling him on the phone about something (we have kids and share finances still, so I have to call him about stuff)! Try to find some new hobbies or something to take your mind off him.
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    I sure as heck hope so! I know for A FACT that my next SO will be a ton better than my XH. I am the dumpee but I know that it is for the best and am looking forward to the future. I am sorry to hear about your break-up. Losing your girl to your BF must be pretty rough. Hang in there.
  8. One Kind Bud
    Usually when I stare at someone it is because I am checking them out and am liking what I see. Most of them time I try to make it not so obvious though.
  9. One Kind Bud
    Well, I am definitely not ready to get involved with anything serious. I am just looking for some companionship. Anyway, he called me this morning and we talked for 1.5 hours. Mostly about our ex's. He just broke up with his fiance at the beginning of summer so I guess we both have some baggage. Not sure if that's good or not but I think it will help me during this healing process.
  10. One Kind Bud
    You are probably right Melrich and it pisses me off! That is basically what my attorney said. Unless the girl has a criminal background or whatever, then I will most likely not have any say on who lives with my XH, as long as the kids have their own room and beds. I just know, for me personally, I do not plan to be bringing different men around my boys. They need stability, not all these different folks coming in and out of their life. It sucks and I think the lack of control over it is what bothers me most, as I am sure it does you, WILDR.
  11. One Kind Bud
    I can understand your frustration with this as I am going through a divorce w/2 kids as well. XH has a live-in girlfriend, yada, yada, yada. Is there any way you can get it put in the Divorce Decree that she cannot have overnight visitations when her children are present? Or at least until after a certain timeframe? Like a year of dating? Do you have joint custody? I would really like to get this stuff put into my decree but my darn attorney keeps acting like it's not gonna fly. So many people have told me that it is possible though so I don't know!
  12. One Kind Bud
    Okay, so my divorce isn't even finalized but gosh darn't, I'm lonely! My XH already had a new girlfriend that he lives with. Anyway, so a mutal friend of ours was telling me that he was calling her several times to get my number. Of course she had to talk to me first and I told her to give me his #. I didn't think of it as a big deal at first because we have hung out a few times in the past, just as accquaintances, really. When it came down to calling, I got so nervous though. I felt like I was in highschool again or something!LOL This is just so new to me. Anyway, he didn't even answer and I left a message saying "Hi, this is ******, so-n-so gave me your # so I thought I'd call and see how you were. Call me when you get a chance, my # is *******. hope you're doing well. Bye!". So I feel really stupid for some reason. How do you guys feel when a girl calls you?
  13. One Kind Bud
    OMG, I am laughing right now because today was my very FIRST day of college (yes, I'm 24) and it was PSYCHOLOGY!! I noticed there was A LOT of young men like you (right out of highschool). I hope you get to know this girl better and sparks fly. I would take things slow and just be friends at first.
  14. One Kind Bud
    Do you all think there is any truth to that? My XH and I were married 6.5 years (together for 7) when he decided he wanted a divorce. It seems like a lot of couples go through a rough spot during this period. I wonder what contributes to that? Just a thought.
  15. One Kind Bud
    After hearing about his poor work ethics and drug habit, he sounds like he is very unmotivatin and unwilling to do his part. Have you mentioned Divorce to him? That may be a wake up call to him that he needs to change ASAP.
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