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Thanks Raingate! I can't believe what the government will approve! They shouldn't be selling it. I just read somewhere that of 1000 women tested that were taking the drug when they became pregnant 800 of them gave birth to severely deformed babies... why are they still prescribing it. Very scary. I was given a topical gel called eurycene but it's not working. I have just ordered some Proactiv which is supposed to be great and has that benzyl peroxide in it so fingers crossed that helps. Mine are cystic too but no-one in my family has ever has a single pimple so it can't be genetic. I never realized how much it shatters your self-confidence. when i was in my early 20's i was doing catwalk modelling and phtographic work, approaching 30 i was very comfortable with my appearance (even though i am a little rounder these days), but now i feel like a troll. I'll have to find a good dermatologist and just try everything available. Something has to work eventually. Thanks for your responses.

The carmen electra fit to strip is quite good. Although the first time you watch it it seems like they are just tiny little routines that won't do any good, trust me.... you can feel it the next day. I wouldn't say it is high on the cardio but it is great for the legs and butt. I don't like many of the other DVD's, would prefer to go do a class somewhere. Bellydancing or salsa are great for everything!

In my opinion your sisters action constitutes abuse. She manipulated you into doing something you were not comfortable with. Being the older one she was way out of line and i think you should discuss this with an older relative (or a counsellor at school if you're not comfortable mentioning it to family at the moment). Especially if she is talking about wanting to do this again. If you were both really young and inexperienced and just wanted to make sure you were not a terrible kisser before starting to date maybe you could let it slide just once, but she is in her 20's, it was wrong for her to put you in that situation. I would talk to her about it first, make it clear that you are not comfortable with it and that you felt manipulated. If she persists then definitely talk to a relative.

I have had microderm-abrasion facials in the past when i had clear skin (it is supposed to be great to refine the pores etc) but i have quite sensitive skin so it made my face quite red and you need at least 8 treatments at $120 each so its a bit expensive. It is just so frustrating as no-one in my family has ever had skin trouble and i am the only one in my family and my social network that has developed it. The doctor can't give me any reason other than that it is common in women and it is usually hormonal. I heard about something called accutane but the side effects sound a little too scary for me! i've gone from feeling good about myself most of the time and only hating my thighs... to feeling like a troll and trying to hide myself in public. It doesn't help that i am single and 30 and wanting to settle down eventually.... i kind of need my normal face back to get the husband

I am almost 30 and have never had a single pimple in my entire life. My flawless skin was the only part of me that i could always count on to look good and i always felt good about my skin. About 8 weeks ago i started getting really big red pimples on my throat, they never get a white or black head in them they just get this big round lump under the skin that will not go away. I still have the ones that appeared 8 weeks ago and now i am getting more and more of them on my jaw and now a couple on my cheeks. My doctor says it is adult acne and it is quite common but i don't know anyone with adult acne and the topical gel prescribed does nothing . I have tried all the natural remedies (tea tree, witchhazel, lime oil, honey, garlic), i have tried increasing certain vitamins like zinc etc to boost my body internally. Nothing is working. Does anyone have any tips on getting rid of these big cyst type acne pimples without ending up with little mounds of scar tissue everywhere on my face?? It is getting to the point now where i don't want to leave the house anymore and i almost end up in tears everytime i look in the mirror. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, wear make-up (other than mascara) and i don't eat fast food or anything high in saturated fats so i don't know how i can get this all of a sudden for no reason. It is really frustrating. I am about to spend money i don't have on proactiv but i really hate using chemical/synthetic cleansers.... almost everything i use is organic. I even went back on the contraceptive pill because i was told that can help clear the skin but it is just getting worse. Dont know what to do anymore! Any ideas from fellow sufferers?

A little confused as to what to do about this situation. After coming out of a serious committed relationship (i.,e. engagement) all my friends were telling me that I should just go out and have a fling with someone that I like, even if it was only one night…… their idea of moving on I have only ever been in 2 long term serious relationships and didn't really date in-between, and have never casually dated. But I hooked up with someone I had known for 5 years and who knew my relationship style. I don't know whether it happened because I was at a vulnerable stage right after my break-up and he used it to his advantage or if it was my friends idea of moving on that let me go down that road, but it was only one night and then I decided not to pursue it any further and write it off as a mistake. i have never done anything like that before and probably never will again. I figured that because I had known this guy for years and been friends and work colleagues in the past that he would have the decency and respect to be discreet…. But I just heard from someone at my old office (who I still have business dealings with) that there is a rumour flying around about me and this guy and now a bunch of guys from the office are asking me out (obviously because they think I'm some kind of easy target). I don't know the specifics of the rumour and I tried to call the guy once to ask his side but he didn't respond to the call. I am furious because I still have contact with all these people that are hearing the rumour and laughing at it (and most likely passing it on at the water cooler to everyone else). Not only is this damaging to my reputation which was squeaky clean up til now but it could potentially damage my future business dealings as I will not want to deal with this firm in the future or regain employment there. My gut instinct is to just ignore this and tell people that if they believe what gets said then bollocks to them but I also have a fear that the rumour is negative or more detailed than I would like (or god forbid secretly taped or something awful like that). The fact that someone I knew betrayed and disrespected me is bad enough but how do I deal with all my business associates (including some that are personal friends and some that know my ex-partner) buying into all of this gossip and laughing behind my back. I've never been good with embarrassment (I'd prefer to move to another country) but as much as I'd like to rip someone's head off over this I am unsure what the best course of action is, if any. Any advice?? Anyone else out there experienced something similar??

Hi everyone I would love to hear from anyone who has or has had meniere's or long term vertigo... anyone who has had long term dizziness. I have had severe dizziness for 2 years (undiagnosed for a long time now diagnosed as meniere's with a touch of CFS thrown in). I would like to hear from people that have had something similar and find out how others have dealt with this and managed it to maintain their independance. I had a corporate job and a busy life before this and now i cant work and feel like i'm a little kid dependant on others again. So hate that! It is always helpful to her others stories that relate in someway and hear about their journey. Thank you and good health and happiness to you all.

smallworld is spot on. writing is a great outlet. It is really tough to let go of all the dreams you created with that person in mind. I just spent 4 years with a guy i've known for 8 years, we were shopping for engagement rings and out of the blue he sends me a text message to say he's leaving me and refused to say why, then in the space of a week changed his number, moved house, changed his job and has not considered anyones feelings other than his own. Just like yours he was mr sweetheart all the way through up to the last day we were together, no indication that there was any problems at all. It is very confusing i know. Especially when you know that they are a jerk but still get cut when you see them with another girl. It definitely takes time to fall out of love with someone but there will come a time when you couldn't care less what he is doing or who he is dating. It is a slow process but smallworlds idea is great, write it all down. when you're feeling sad about it all just think of all the cruel things that were said or done. In time you will look back and realise that he didn't deserve you and you can and will have a better future.

I wasn't in a real relationship until i was 22. i started actively looking at 19 but that old saying is true, you end up meeting someone when you're not looking for anyone. I was just focused on my life and what i enjoyed doing. I don't smoke or drink or go clubbing and although that can be a little limiting socially, there is no point in being someone that you're not in order to find someone. I concentrated on work and study and my friends, did yoga and kickboxing, went swimming at the beach and then i met someone out of the blue while ordering dinner at a takeaway on my way home from work. He was the chef there and every time i went back he talked to me and after a month or so we started dating. It all happens when you least expect it. Try to find things that you enjoy doing alone and you might meet someone there that has similar interests. you can meet people in the most unlikely places sometimes.

I've tried most of them. Natural, Standard Bikini Wax, Brazillian Bikini Wax, Hollywood wax and post-hollywood wax. Personally i find brazillian the most comfortable for me, my partner doesn't care which i have as long as it's clean & tidy. Definitely prefer to wax (even though more costly) as shaving doesn't last long, gets itchy, more prone to razor burn etc...

Some guys don't care about it, others are completely grossed out by it. It is never a good idea on the first few days as it is always much heavier (maybe just have shower sessions during this time), but when the flow is lighter there is nothing wrong with it at all. Perhaps just put a towel down though as you can end up with some unattractive stains on the bedsheets otherwise. I think it's perfectly fine as long as both parties are comfortable.

Night school would be a good place to start. But i think before you decide on an exact career area to focus on you should maybe go and do a weeks work experience in the field so you can get a feel for it and be sure it's what you're interested in. There's nothing worse than going through all the schooling and starting the job and realising its not what you really expected. I think it is a great idea to work with teens in any capacity especially if you have had a troubled upbringing because then you can relate to what the kids are going through and be better equipped to help them in dealing with their problems. It would probably give you a lot more passion for the job aswell. It would most likely pay less than the average job (as all jobs that involve helping others do), but i think the emotional reward would be enough to compensate. Do some research on the areas you are interested in and what you need to achieve your objective. There are lots of positions that involve this type of work - school counsellor, youth services worker, case workers with social services child division etc... Find out what you're passionate about and go for it. It is never too late.

I think it depends on the ex and the reason for breaking up. I know that there is absolutely no way i could get back together with my last ex-boyfriend because there would be no trust between us, it would never ever work. But i am currently with an ex from 7 years ago and our relationship now is better than it ever was back then. Although it was sad to break up with him before, it wasn't over something horrible like infidelity or a massive blow-up of an argument, i didn't want to break up the first time but i understood why we had to.... he was not ready to grow up and i was, he still wanted to go and party hard and be young and irresponsible. Now after 7 years, a couple of relationships and a child on his side he is a lot more mature and settled and we find that we have much more in common now and get along much better. We have been together for over a year now and, apart from some minor hiccups recently, all has been going very well. You have to assess whether you are truly over what happened to cause the break-up and whether things have changed enough to move forward. I think there is always residual emotions and desires for exes so it is easy to feel attracted and close to someone you were once intimate with. Just guard yourself and be sure you want it to progress for the right reasons. There is no reason not to have hope as anything can happen in life. Good Luck! I hope it all works out well for you.

I know what you mean! It always seems to work out that way. Maybe it's because when we are with someone we don't notice all the other men because we're too wrapped up in the one we have. Then the one you want/have tears your heart out and you feel you have nothing to give anyone and don't want any men in your life... that's when we notice all the others that were probably there all along. Very annoying! My partner says it's usually the other way around for him and his friends. No girls approach them or seem interested until they are in a good stable relationship with someone they care about then they have women throwing themselves at them and giving out their number weird!

Every woman is unique and will feel pleasure in different ways. This is a new level of intimacy for you both in your relationship and it may take a little while to be truly relaxed and comfortable with eachother. Things will progress naturally and you will, in time, find which positions are most pleasurable for you. You may find that this position does become more pleasurable over time as you gain confidence in yourself and feel more relaxed with your partner. It all comes naturally and every person has their own style and rhythm. Just relax and enjoy, you will know what you enjoy as time progresses. Congrats on getting to this stage with your partner. Good luck!