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help asap~ Possibly going out soon with my recent g/f if the weather holds up - I want to go out somewhere with her but, can't spend any money right now - I've got nothing until I get a job sometime during the school year, and theres like not many places to go... so boring

lol, yeah basically what the other people said - touch/talk/eye contact

like.. so im getting kind mixed responses here =\ what should i do?

This is kind of venting but.. anyways - I think it fits under here. Alright, so heres the story; my g/f and I haven't seen each other for three weeks, because for the first 2 weeks, she was off on a 2-week trip for sports. So I tell her to have fun and call me when she gets back. 2 weeks later, shes back - she calls me that night - we have a little chat lasting about 5 minutes, see whats up - I tell her I'd call her on tuesday-ish (today). So I called today, I asked her what she was up to the past week/end - she told me that all weekend she was out with her friends; and work here and there during those last week - shes been doing this since we got together (about 2 months now) - HOW MANY TIMES HAVE WE BEEN TOGETHER WITHIN THOSE MONTHS? about 4times. Yes I know ?' So in the phone call, she tells me that there were times when she would have called me, but there is nothing to do in our town. Sometimes it gets to the point where she doesn't think of me as a priority in her life (considering Im' her b/f). I askmyself, isn't a relationship two people working together? I see myself trying to get her together with me, but I don't really see much of her to that or trying to at least get some time in with me. So once again, I ask her if shes got anything planned this weekend; what does she tell me? Shes got work and plans with friends. She had wrote on her blog "I am sorry (name) I am a horrible girl friend! if i were you, Idve walked away a long time ago, but its great that you arent mad at me for being so busy!" it's like she only wants the status of being not single I'm kinda giving up day by day and breakign down piece by piece

My g/f and I most of the time always run out of things to say. She recently game back from a trip, and so I asked her "how was it?" g/f: explanation under 3 minutes "cool, ni~ce, so what'cha doin for the weekend?" g/f: tells me her plans under a minute "got your weekend planned out eh?" g/f: confirms and I've out the whole weekend as well - but the thing is, we stay on phone 10 minutes tops, and when we're together - I just don't know what to say anymore. before it was fine but now it's just "??????" help?

I think you should keep yourself busy with someone else, like one of your good friend(s); doing something together - hangin out. You say she is focusing on her studies, then let her - and no, you should NOT hide your feelings; those things get bunched up inside and eventually explode and you become miserable when that happens. Just talk/hang out with her every so often - not TOO much, not TOO little, just casually. P.S. do you mind if I ask you some stuff about the whole air force thing? I've been considering Air force or something like that, pilot, ya know? Good luck and thanks

Some don't - just by going off occasionaly with their friend rather then staying with their guy T__T

I dont; know, just like.. holding her - having her beside me Maybe I'm just too overreacting over this

I don't know weather my g/f of 2~3 weeks is just playing hard to get or pulling away.. No clue. My friend told me that she'll come around; but I really don't know - this is killing me. I KNOW you people will say talk to g/f and solve things out - but I am shy when it comes to these things, and so is she; her friends told me to make the first move and such because she is shy and junk. But the thing is - she is having a good time; while I sit back and watch her have so much fun with other people (especially her 2 best friends). I really want to be with her more; hold her, touch her, have her in my arms but her friends are always around and always going off with them when I try to do something... She seems to be hanging out with other people; and well.. this song basically describes my feelings (8/10 of the song) Pls download and listen or something Hoobastank - What happened to us? I thought it was too good to be true I found somebody who understands me Someone who would help me to get through and fill an emptiness I had inside me but you kept inside and I just denied somethings that we should have both said I knew it was too good to be true 'cause i'm the only one who understands me... [Chorus]: What happened to us? we used to be so perfect, now I'm lost in loneliness what happened to us? and deep inside i wonder, did i lose my only? remember they thought we were too young to really know what it takes to make it but we had survived off what we had done so we could show them all that they're mistaken but who could have known, the lies that would grow, until we could see right through them remember they knew we were too young we still dont know what it takes to make it... What happened to us? we used to be so perfect, now I'm lost in loneliness what happened to us? and deep inside i wonder, did i lose my only one? We could have made it work, we could have found a way We shoud of have done our best to see another day but we kept it all inside until it was too late and now we're both alone, the consequence we pay for throwing it all away, for throwing it all away... What happened to us? we used to be so perfect, now we're lost and lonely what happened to us? and deep inside i wonder, did i lose my only? What happened to us? (x4) God this is killing me, I don't know what to talk about these days with her now. I used to be able to make her laugh everytime and such; but it's like I've totally forgotten everything.

stand up for your friend; tell him whats going on - do the right thing

Yeah I'm goign to have to lean towards the trashing it; I don't want to be reminded of her - I mean.. I'm completely over her and I'm happy with my new g/f, but I just don't want to be reminded of her; just by looking up and at a picture.

LOL wow, what you said there really made me laugh - alright.. so what about the other pictures of my ex? I'm already in another relationship currently and both really happy.

MY ex and I broke up about 3.5 months ago; things didn't end really as good; I started NC alot after and when I see her - I don't really talk to her; only when I have to or something. But anyways the question is; when we were together, she gave me a picture frame + a bunch of pictures of herself so I can set her picture somewhere. It's taken down now and in a bag or something. I'm moving in about a week and I don't know what to do with it. I was thinking of just trashing it because thing didn't end so pretty. Suggestions?

The best I can tell you is to just ignore what the drill seargent says - I mean, yes listen to him but don't take it to your heart. From what you say you are very sensitive, but try not to take the whole yelling thing too seriously. And yes your teacher is right; Drill seargent is not a bad guy - it's just pressuring soldiers(in military) so they get the drills they need in order to keep fit and healthy. It's tough work but its worth it in the end for the soldiers.

Different girls like different guys

What you mean challanges? you mean being hard to get? It's kinda different for every guy really

Everyone is different - you have your own method/ways, so really; theres your boundary for "coming on too strong"

Alright - thanks for the feedback everyone

I dont' know if this goes in the friend section but I think it does. My g/f invited me to her friends house on sunday, where it'd be the three of us - I donno weather I should go or not; maybe I'm just afriad of whats going to happen (nothing inmind) just about how it's ganna go. I don't even know her friend and I'm going to her house to do something? I don't really know what I'm talking about anymore;

Well, do you feel happy? Do you want to be with her for Long term relationship? Ask yourself that first. If you don't, just say you want to break it off; and that you two aren't getting along very well, or you can talk the issue over. Im not the one to make your decision

This is the sorts of thing that happened to me in my first relationship man (which was about 3 months ago - we broke up, was together for about 5 months). I also asked myself too, "what kind of girlfriend doesn't give her b/f attention and stuff when the guy does?" We ended up breaking it up; she dumped me because I started to avoid her and stuff. I got over it pretty within a few days. Now, recently I've been going out with another girl (been like 2 weeks now) and she is outgoing like me, and we get along VERY well - we can tell each other basically anything - we connect so well, but then again I'm not here to tell you about my life; I'm here to give you advice. Talk it over with your girlfriend, your insecurities; and yes like you said - it could just be the immaturity because shes 14 and not quite ready for a relationship; just fun. Talk it over with her, if she won't respect and care for you after that, I think your better off without her. Hope I helped.

Your only 14, I think your just falsly assuming that she is the love of your life. At only this age - I would let it go; you still have so much to experiance in life and so many years before you get married etc.

hahaha I like your style lol That could work - if your both really comfortable around each other; go for it; add me if you want email removed on msn I'm too lazy to look up your profile

Uh well, all of those apply really.. like I'm going to go out with this girl this weekend and before all this, she gave me all those signs - we get along very well btw, and we have lots of eye contact; no turning away or anything, both comfortable with it. I donno it sorta depends on person? What you listed there are totally all correct, I can't think of any others they're just not coming to me atm lol

Isn't "Virgil" someone like a very long time ago, like.. something to involve with hell? I don't remember :S