Jadey

Argh guys i need your older wisom Theres a guy im friends with who is interested in me in a romantic way. Ive been spending lots of time with him lately which is cool, he helps me keep my mind off things for abit. But ive told him where he satnds, i told him im not ready for a romantic relationship and that i still love the ex and wnt him back. He says hes ok with it. So friday night he asked if he could come round. And if he could stay the night as he wouldnt beable to get a lift home and hasnt got enought money for a taxi. So i asked mum and she said he could stay in the spare room. He also said how he didnt want to put too much preassure on me by spending lots of time together as im still in love with EBF. And said that he wouldnt come round if i didnt want. So i text him, "its ok i dont care what he gets up to anymore, im yours for tonight. My mum said you can sleep, hehe. Jadey x0x0x0x PS. dont forget to bring you know what! " ("you know what is not what it sounds like, its nothing sexual, its just a personal joke of ours, and he gets it.) And guess what.. I was thinking of EXBF (no surprise there then!) And i press send, after i realise i sent it to my ****ing ex!!! I cant believe it. Hes gonna think im sleeping with this guy And hes already under the impression i have a new BF. ****. Hes never gonna want me back now, is he?? After i sent it i was panicking and just sent one back to the ex saying "erm, woops wrong person! lmao" I didnt know what else to do. I cant believe this. Is this a really bad thing? I feel so guilty now. Hes never gonna want me. Hes gonna think i am over him. Some people ive talked to about it says it may be a good thing. I dont see how. Grr, need support!

I just want to say i feel for everyone in here. The guy that i adore, love, dumped me 6 weeks ago for reasons unknown and now is with someone else. Rebound girl? i dont know. But he doesnt seem too happy wit her. I have to see him eveyday too My heart is breaking..

Is that wot guys want?! Thats wot it seems like. Seems to me they want challenges. Do we all just want challenges? Do guys just want wot they cant have? And how do you become a challenge exactly? I need tips

Im so sorry about your dad I totally know wot youre going through. Nothing i or anyone else can say will bring him back or heal you from your pain. You just have to hang in there, be strong. remember your dad. Cry, scream, laugh, get active. Wotever it takes. You will never get over it, but with time comes more inner peace. Take care!

^ Good advice. I lost my twin brother a year ago in June. I can tell you the MOST important thing isto not push her to do ANYTHING. She may well not want to talk, she may want to cry, she may want to scream, sleep, stare into space. Ask her if she wants to talk. If she doesnt do not preassure her. I know people think that talking is the best way but honestly somtimes in the early stages its not. let her know oyure here for her when she does want to talk. And when she wants to cry, scream, sleep, be there with her then too. Knowing someone is there and not just to talk is brilliant. Just hold her even if youe both sitting in silence. Let her basically direct YOU not the other way round. Write her a nice little poem or card or soemthing..Thatd be sweet Good Luck!

Let her be. She doesnt want to talk. It may be hard and sound harsh but thats a stage in grieving. I didnt talk to anyone for afew days when my twin died just an occasional grunt here and there. And i know his best friend wos the same. Dont make her feel bad for not talking to you. Just elt her know youre there whenever SHE is ready and just hold on. If she really cares for you she will be calling you when shes ready. It probably wont be too long either. Good luck

Thats very very true. Dont do it just for the first 3 weeks or wotever, keep doing it. To some old "friends" ive become the girl that lost her twin brother and they feel so akward they just avoid me. Thats the worst. Be there for here through it all. Let her cry, scream, laugh, reminise. Wotever shes feeling anf doing let her know its ok and do it with her. When Ross died one of my friends who had only met him twice would spend hours just crying with me and it helped alot. But also please dont push her into talking about huim or crying cos somedays she will feel fine. And if she doesnt want to show the emotions she doesnt have too. Good luck

Hello playfull. Nearly a year ago my twin brother died from a brain hemmorage. I went through a stage of being numb, i think that its shock Ive been through every emotion you could possibly think of..and then some. There is no right or wrong way of grieving. As my brother wos only 15 when he died he wos still in school and wos a very popular guy and i can tell you ive seen many forms of grieving. Dont feel guilty about not crying when seeing his pictures and at the funeral. Cos he wouldnt want you to cry atall, full stop. Hang in there

Ok so heres the story. I have known this guy Joe for a couple of years but before i never really spoke to him he wos just one the guys in my science class. But then one of my best friends started to date one of his friends and we started to all hang out together. After about a week i looked at joe in a different way and fell in lust with him. He seemed like he liked me too and we constantly flirted with one another. I kept it to myself for afew days but then told my 3 best friends and one of them decided to tell all the others in our "group" Before i could blink joe knew i liked him. We continued to flirt and that while our friends tried to get us together. He looked abit frustrated with this. By the end of the next week i asked fot his number and he gave it willingly and asked for mine. That weekend i txt him and we were tcxting allll day and night till like 3 in the morning for 2 days and a night. Things were great. I asked him out and he said hed think about it. So i said ok then. But secretley i wos VERY frustrated and just wanted to know lol The next monday i saw him my friend asked him out for me and he said yeah. Hes a pretty shy/quiet guy and i can be when it comes to things like that so we didnt really do much. Then the next week wos a school holiday and he asked if he wanted to meet up, i said yes. So we hung out everyday for 2 weeks, were having GREAT fun, and i know he wos too. We hung in the mall, he babysat my nephews with me, slept round, the whole lot. He told me how he wos so happy and that he loved me. Then the next week he had to stay at his nans and he wos pissed cos he said hed miss me. We txt eachother most nights that week saying "miss you" "love you" etc. Then the tuesday we ent back to school i could tell something wos up. He wos pratically ignoring me. I didnt ask why instead i got really upset and spoke to my buddies about it while Joe went elsewhere (at lunchtime)Nobody knew why. I didnt bother to txt or call him cos i wos just so hurt with him for ignoring mr. He ignored me for 3 days until my best friend literally got him in a corner and asked why he wos ignoring me. He just looked at me and said "i dont think we should be together anymore" and when i asked why he said its cos he didnt see me for a week. I cried. He walked off. I shouted some mean things. The next day i didnt go to school then that night i rang him and tried to get answers but he just wouldnt cummonicate he said that he just dont think we should be together. Then i said how he said he loved me and missed me when he wos away and he didnt answer. So we just shouted at eachother and i got nowhere. For a couple of weeks afterwards he stayed away but then he started hanging with us again and he kept looking at me, with wot seemed like such love. I couldnt understad it. He wosnt talking but just looking and smiling sometimes. He looked really sad. We wouls talk by txt and it consisted of me telling him i love him and him saying he doesnt know why he dummped me. As i got more and more frustrated over the days we argued more and i started to be nasty to him . Now it has turned into me being totally confused as wots going on. At school he looks at me alot and looks really jealous when im with other guys, but he still wont talk to me properly. Just now i sent him a txt asking if he had my top up card and he said no so i just said "how useless" i didnt even say HE is usless i said IT. And he txt back saying "yeah wotever" so i sent one back "somebodies got a stick up their ass" and he hasnt replied. I just dont know how to be anymore. I dont wanna be walked over but i dont wanna be nasty. I really really badly want him back but dont know how and how to go about doing it. I leave school in 2 months and may not see him again unless i do something about it and FAST! I dont understanfd wot went wrong, Is it something i did? Surely it cant really be cos we had a week apart. Cos now its changed to he doesnt knoe why he did. Please dont just tell me to move on cos i NEED HIM BACK BAD. Wot shall i do? Is no contact really an option? Thanks, sorry for rambeling on Jade xxx