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cheers guys. forgot to sat that that was on IM she text me asking to come on and said that, which she'd prepared. we talked for a lil bit but didnt really get anywhere and then she left saying " ah i cant hack this im sorry i have to get up for work in the morn and i need to sleep, i know this is all my fault but i really cant deal with it" feel kinda useless know, not to mention stupid.

After a lil IM convo tonight with my gf of 4 going on 5 months i could see something was wrong but didnt really go there. Then she kinda had a go at me and left. I thought i knew the problem so i texted her applogiesing for my lack of talkativness and got this. It's nothing to do with you in person, you're fine then i'm never happier. its jus I really don't think u care half the time, whenever I see u its coz I suggest it u never suggest it or want to unless I say, I saw u on Monday since then I've texted u several times u replied to one.... and that was with "k np", which is fair enough u were at work, but that's the most I get for days. E.g. u knew how excited I was about the stones hell I even texted u on the way back, even if we weren't together wouldn't it just be polite to reply?! Or ask about it or anything, yeah my first sess at the voluntary work today went fine thanks, seriously if I didn't tell u stuff u wouldn't know coz u don't particularly want to. I wouldn't mind that at all but I missed u and I wanted to talk 2 u and I got erm when I told u that? All it would take is in 1 of your replies jus 1 time maybe say how was your day or something.... I ask u stuff like that coz I genuinely want to know and I do actually care about it, I dunno, I know your not talkative but seriously you'd think you would wanna talk to me more than on once a week n not need forcing, but don't start doing it jus coz i'm moaning, that'd be silly lol. n scrap all that, that would be fine but do u have any idea how much it hurts when I snap and have a go at u and openly ask u to talk to me, and u reply with "erm", then I act like a completely different person on msn and u don't even notice? So I have another go and u don't even get it then? What did u think I was joking? I know u jus said "even I can tell there's something wrong" but do u not realise that for you to realise that it took me having a go at u twice both of which I guess u took as a joke or something, me acting completely differently from normal, u might not talk much on msn but u know I do, and I sure as hell don't normally reply to stuff like that, and yet u didn't notice…. I jus really don't think u care at all, I have friends who notice when something is wrong when i'm acting like i'm fine and denying anything's wrong, so how is it that you can't tell when I'm acting completely out of character? How does that make any sense at all? Sorry, i'm just being a stroppy oversensitive * * * * *, i'm moaning for no reason and most people wouldn't even think about it. Sorry. Ignore it. And btw, how's that for an essay?

Hi First off im not a self consisos person at all so im not being paranoid. But i have a fairly big backside. I have to buy big trousers and take the legs up on them. The rest of me in in pretty good shape. not far off a six pack. i dont do that much exercise but im a keen walker and just recently did nijmegen(100 miles over 4 days) and have been walking at least 25 miles in day once every months as training for it. Also i have a fast metabalisim(sp). Soooo what can i do get it's size down?

well turns out shes didnt get the txts 4 a while and that was why she didnt reply but wen she did she jus said wait till after her hol so she can wait which is fair enough. However this other girl is troubling me, we've bin txting quite a lot recently and it aint stopped. wot to do?

Heya, for those with extremly gd memories you will notice ive got over my ex yay!!!! Well anyhoo for the past week ive bin on camp and well me n this girl got togther. At first i just thought it was a camp romance, u know bit of fun but would go no further after camp. However as the week progressed we got a bit closer and my mind started changing. and on the 9 and a half hour coach jouney back was made a lot more interesting During this journey we got onot the subjects of bf/gfs and niether of of had one. and i was kinda trying to ask her out very very subtly then 'are you gonna be my girl' by jet came on. Which was gd timing to say the least. So i asked her that and she said wait until the next line of the song or somthing like that. But this next line never came. So when i got back i txted her for clarification and she said so clear as mud i txt her back basically asking again but she aint replyed to that. She goes on hol tomorrow i think and dont get back till the end of the month. Also 2 further complicate things there is this other girl which ive bin 'working on' how do i let her know? (if girl 1 does want to carry on) shes in a completely different circle of friends. Cheers james

around here its other way around with msn names/mobile numbers people give out thier MSN to everyone its no big deal. i cant imagine it being that differnt where u live so jus ask. if sh fone u then she must like in some way

well she didnt turn up in the end and there ended up bein just 3 of us. and we basically just chatted about everything and the subject of ex's came up. and well the mutal friend jus said that they were really happy together which still kinda confused me but i dunno wot 2 do its gonna b really bad next year cos i'll c her almost every day. what 2 do?

well today would have been our one year anniversary. i'm meeting her tommmow with a bunch of other mates. I'll report back on how she behaves and hopefully find out if there is any hope, [-o

Unfortuneiatly sum of us dont. It would of been our 1 year anniversary on the 3rd of june. - i really shouldnt remember that.

would have thought this would have been asked before but a quick search didnt bear any fruit. This is all usless to me atm but i can live in hope [-o Anyhoo when your gf come round to your house what do you do. When i have mates over we usually play on the PC or watch TV or build some useless device. but thats not really girl stuff. Other that chat what do people do? Cheers

try and get hold of a copy of little britian. it is the best comedy program its getting a lil overused here. it basically take the micky of britian and what a dump it is but its so funny and if you get the voices just right its brilliant. bbc.co.uk/comedy/littlebritain/

i had this just last week, very unexpected meet up with mine. at first i tryed ignoring her and just said hi. but then she came over to me and well by the end of the day we very both flirting very badly Was it the right thing to do? probably not but it was good being back together even if it was just for one day. [link removed a look at my story here

some_guy282: erm 15ish miles. well the reason she gave was she was not ready for a bf. nut after many nights thinking i realised the true reason was she got bored. cos the distance although not much was enough to mean we could only really see each other at weekends but now i can see that it was my fault. take_the_reins: the problem is she has a bf. we are meeting up in a few weeks with a load of other friends. also ive just relasied in a few days it will be exactly a year ago that we got together.

its been a while since ive been on here because i thought i was over her shes been almostly completely out of my mind and we aint seen eachohter in yonks and dont chat to much. but yesterday i went to a cadet thing and she was there too. at first it was lets try an aviod her but that clearly wasent goin to work. so i jus said hi and went with the rest of my lot. the problem is that this event was althtics and consisted of mostly waiting around until your event was up. so she came over to me and we chatted then dragged me off to meet loads of old mates. Anyhoo this carried on and she was flirting with me big time and i have to admit i was back. and she was sitting on my lap and we hugged a lot etc. at one point we very nearly kissed and she came over to our bus to say goodbye This would all be great if it wernt for the fact she has a bf. so i dont know what shes playing at. previosly i have asked one of her mates what was goin on and they said that "she likes you just not in that way". but she seemed to being more than friends yesterday. Then today i got a text from her not sayin anything special just that she was bored. and as i said we dont contact each other that much and the only contact we dohave is on MSN. So whats goin on? Oh and one last thing shes goin to my college next year(shes currently at a difffernt school hence the lack on contact.)

i dont think annie meant ask them out as in gf but as in go on a date with them and see how you get on. im in a similarish situation (except ones my ex who has a bf) but im just taking it one step at a time. just get to know them more then see what one you like more.

hmm yea i think you might be right. it does kinda make sense. guess it was just me hoping. well ive been texting her this week but she hasent had any credit but when online she always aplogised. i tried to ask her out yesterday but she said she was already goin out. thanks thats cleared things up a bit.

well from 1st kiss 2 almost having sex is very quick so mayb he just wants things to be slower. and i'd assume that he aint had a gf before so mayb he's a bit unsure of 'how it works'

well i kinda did follow that guide but not quite to that degree. i think the problem was that the friend that was trying to set us up and that made her nervous. how about girl1 thou? thats still confusing me. i would say its being friendly but she bever did it before. any ideas?

but i wouldnt do it too much so that you seem like your pestering. i know of one boy who did that and now his nickname is lap dog amoungst the boys at least dunno wot the girls thought of it.

if its your home phone then you could just plug another one into another socket. then you could hear whats going on. and you can probably get tape machine things thats will do it. and if this is your home as well then i cannot see how it can be illegal. otherwise there a a few electronice diagrams on the net for phone buggers but they require you to have some electoice skills. cell - next to impossible and most certainly illegal.

right that's kinda confused me no offence. reading my own post thats kinf confuzzling as well. lets simplyfy. girl1 - my ex, has a bf(since a few days ago), seems like she likes me, going to same college next year. girl2 - think likes me, possibly shy, friends with girl1 i went 2 london with girl2 and a few other ppl but girl1 wasent there. and i dunno about her being bored, this started a few weeks ago and her and her bf are only just goin out. although jealousy at a party girl1 got hold of my fone and read a lot of messages from girl2 and probs saw the the entire inbox was full of messages from girl2 hope that clarifys things a bit

Well two things here. one which i've asked mates but dont really understand. 1) my ex recently has been talking to me a lot more. boefore it would be me starting themsn convo's and stuff but recently shes been doing it a lot. and when the conversation died she randomly said 'guess what, i bought a hat'. so i thought i must be back in again as we are goin to the same college next year(we currently goto diffrent schools and live 15 miles apart). then she tells me she has a bf.(thats the first one since we split up 5 months ago) ah even since then she has contiuned talking to me more. this really confuzzled me. like i said ive asked mates(inc one who is like her best friend) but they just said that she wants 2 b friends. but we never really talked before so why has she started now? also i sent her a letter sayin how i felt basically and im not sure if she got it but if she did then she's ignored it becasue we've talked since but she didnt say anything. 2) there is also one of her friends who ive been texting quite a lot (about 100 msgs in about a week ) and from that i got the impression she like me. but ive never actully met her so on sunday we went up to london with a few of her mates, one of which i know and she is trying to set us up(she didnt it to me last time with the my ex above), but when we were wondering around(shopping for dresses) we didnt really talk much. i've been told shes shy but she didnt seem that shy really. so what should i think? is it because we were out with her friends maybe? i'm gonna try and see if we could go out togehter. i did before and she said yes but her mum wouldnt let her cos she had work to do. so what to do? i think(hope) that im gonna start goin out with the second girl and see how things go. but i dunno wot to do about the first one cos im still in love with her.

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like what's been said above. you've gotta do something other wise you'll stay acquitances. try asking her and her mates go to sumwhere with yours that way you wont be rally in her face all the time but will still get to chat. good luck

yea it was before. well thats alrite but what about the new one knowing about me still liking my ex? i should b goin to brighton with her(on our own) next week and she told her friend about us meetin up. well i dunno that she knows i still like her but to be honest im not very subtle in some ways even if i try to be.