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  1. hitek_rednek
    I know you would try to make ammends if he called tomorow, but you are doing the right thing by keeping busy, and you are right, the work it took, and the stuff you had to deal with with his arrogance is not worth the trouble. There are plenty of us out there that are understanding and compassionate enough to deal with lifes little roller coaster...and deal with it with a partner, the right way it should be done. Keep going hun, you are on the right track. Best of luck to ya. -Hitek_Rednek-
  2. hitek_rednek
    Well, glad to hear you had a decent weekend. Yes, I am very analytical as well, so we very well must have bumped heads on this, especially both being Taurus's. Anywho...I don't think reciprocating the pain and frustration is the best bet, it is simply lowering yourself to his level, which you are above. I would say to give him no information at all. If you must write back to that email, simply thank him for sending it, congratulate him on his successes, and wish him the best. Keep it short and simple, with absolutely no emotion whatsoever. Making him double think his actions is only going to get you hurt again in the long run, simply because he may actually decide to get back with you, and then 3 months or so down the road, it's the exact same story. Let hiim find himself, choose his path, and live his life. If it were truly meant to be, once he has accomplished this, and got the "play" out of his system, you very well may end up knowing a totally different him, one you may or may not like, and it may work out at that time. As it stands right now, you are setting yourself up for disaster again. I would definitely just say to keep it short and cold with him, and don't even let him think or know that you give a damn about what he's doing or who he's doing it with, and most of all, keep your private life totally out of his head. -Hitek_Rednek-
  3. hitek_rednek
    Cassiana, I'm not angry with you, and I wasn't when I wrote that post either. I understand you are hurt, but it just seemed like every idea I through at you, you shot down. No, obviously I don't know 100% of the situation, all I know is what you have written, and I did my best to come up with possible starter solutions for you, and you seemed to disregard them all. You are right, I definitely could have worded my post differently, in a kinder manner, and I should have, but I didn't, so that's now dust in the wind. You say you get up, make yourself look good and go on with the "happy facade". That is exactly what you need to do, all day, every day, and eventually, it will become routine, and before you know it, it will no longer be a facade. I wish you the best of luck on your dates, let me know how they turn out. If I wasn't very happily engaged, and lived anywhere near you, I'd take you out for a drink and tell you stupid jokes all night to make you laugh and have a good time, not because I was looking to get anything out of it, or even start a relationship, simply because I have a soft spot for upset women. I was raised that women should be cherished, honored, and respected, and I just don't like to see any female cry or hurt. Again, I wish you the best, and let me know how it all turns out. -Hitek_Rednek-
  4. hitek_rednek
    Hey man, I feel ya, seriously. However, tonight isn't the night for me to post a good reply to you. I'm having too much of a hard time with life myself right at this moment, and think I'll just finish this beer and head to bed. But I will get up with you tomorrow morning, that's for sure. There is a lot I want to say, but now just isn't the time to say it. -Hitek_Rednek- ***Sometimes I think it's God's destiny just to kick you in the *** over and over again, just to have a good time with it***
  5. hitek_rednek
    It's real simple, you are 15 years old, you don't need to be in a "real" relationship anyway. You are at that have fun time of your life, don't screw it up by being with some guy, be with all the guys, just not sexually of course, but have fun, enjoy life, because before you know it, those days are long gone. -Hitek_Rednek-
  6. hitek_rednek
    OK, first and foremost, go buy some condoms and keep them with you at all times, but not in your wallet, bad things happen to condoms in wallets, trust me on that one. Secondly, when the making out starts to get hot and heavy, don't get nervous, just let your hands do the walking, don't be aggressive, be sensual about it, if she wants you to stop, she'll let you know. Thirdly, don't be shy, let nature take its course, and always, above anything else, be a gentleman about it. She is nervous and you are nervous, but hell it's the birds and the bees, so buzz on over there and have a good time. -Hitek_Rednek-
  7. hitek_rednek
    Damn, somewhere I have heard those words before StarrieMarie!!! Good girl, I'm proud of ya!. Anyway, to lpink78, you got played, she got played, but you came out the stronger person, because you are done with him (you are done with him right?). Like Starr said, your life will be better now, you just have to allow your heart and mind to believe that. Look at it like this, liars and cheats are a dime a dozen, who needs that when it can come so freely, find yourself someone that will be true and honest. You sound like a good person, so good things will come to you. -Hitek_Rednek-
  8. hitek_rednek
    That has to be the sorriest excuse I have ever heard. "It's a joke"??? There wasn't even anything humorous in it. You caught him fair and square, and that was the first thing that came to mind. Now, you have two options here, trust him because his ex is now married, hopefully happily. Or, take it as a warning for the future that he'll leave you for the next one he thinks he has feelings for. You know him better than us, so it's your call. Best of luck with it. -Hitek_Rednek-
  9. hitek_rednek
    OK, on a guys perspective, and I'll preface by saying an immature guys perspective. I for one would have to say that if I EVER had the opportunity to date a celebrity, I could care less if they cheated on me because hey, look at it this way, you will always, for the rest of your life be able to say, "I dated Mr. X, yeah, he cheated on me, but I still dated him" -Hitek_Rednek-
  10. hitek_rednek
    Well it's hard to keep myself busy for that long, seeing as how I see him at Christmas for a week, February for a week, April for a week, then for a month in the summer. I know that isn't that big of a gap, but it seems like forever to me. Guess I gotta come up with long term hobbies, LOL. Yes, my fiancee is very supportive and very helpful with the situation, but it just seems that no matter what, nothing helps. I know it's silly, but it just happens. I just have a hard time thinking about him and not being sad. I tend to agree, I don't think I'm going to "get over it". I guess I'm just going to have to turn the sadness into fonder memories, of the fun things, instead of the fact that he is gone until next time. If only I could talk his hardcore "yankee" momma into moving down south, then I could do every weekend, but she's a born and bred NY'er, so that'll never happen. No offense to any other yankees here. -Hitek_Rednek-
  11. hitek_rednek
    Well I have given you everything I know of and to be honest with you, it doesn't sound like you want advice. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but it seems that you are seeking sympathy rather than ideas. I am out of ideas, so I guess I will leave this to someone else to advise you on. I wish you the best with it and the rest of your life. -Hitek_Rednek-
  12. hitek_rednek
    Wishy washy is no good, you are to mature to deal with that. You know what you want in life...someone to love you for you, and stand by your side no matter what. You DO NOT have that in him, not at all. This guy is not the end of the world, there are a lot of us out there who are exactly what you are looking for. He has no idea what he wants, but he wants to make sure that you are in such a state of turmoil that the minute he snaps his fingers you'll be there. It's a game he's playing, and you are the game piece. Stop being a game piece. If you MUST talk to him, call him or email him and tell him that once and for all, this is what I want, you are who I want it with, can you do that, yes or no. Don't let him give you any BS about it either, it's a simple yes or no question that needs no further explanation. If it is no, then it is no, if it is yes, then you must be the strong person and tell him that this game is over, completely, forever. Tell him that you are not going to be a puppet on a string, and he has to accept that or move along. It's a hard thing to do, I know, but it has to be done. -Hitek_Rednek-
  13. hitek_rednek
    Your best bet is no contact with him at all, just get rid of him completely. Block his emails, don't accept his calls or IM's, and move forward. I know that is easier said than done, and I wish I could physically help you through it. You don't need the frustration, anxiety, and hurt that he is causing you. Life will put you on enough roller coasters without you standing in line for one yourself. -Hitek_Rednek-
  14. hitek_rednek
    I don't do well with doctors, of any sort. Never have believed in them, probably won't start anytime soon. I'd end up lying to the counselor to just tell him what he wanted to hear so he'd leave me alone. Plus, they want to put you on meds for everything nowadays, and while I enjoy the occasional percocet, I don't need drugs to help me deal with my feelings. I just want the hurt to stop, or at least subside a bit. I know it's part of being a parent, but I don't think being a parent should hurt this bad, although I'm starting to think it does in my situation. Oh, and to Computer Guy....yes, IRC is just multiplayer notepad!! -Hitek_Rednek-
  15. hitek_rednek
    OK, well my son lives in NY with his mother, and I live in SC, about 1000 miles apart. I get visitation, and his mother and I are better friends now than when we were married. That's the good news. Bad news is I want to know how to stop being so incredibly down when he goes home from his visitation. My new fiancee has 2 children, and they are here, but for weeks it just seems like my life and this house is so terribly empty. I know it's normal to miss someone you care about, but I'm thinking I'm carrying it a bit far. I mean, certain songs on the radio about father's and son's make me cry, I have a hard time looking at his pictures, and it's totally heartbreaking when I talk to him on the phone. I'm just wondering how to cope/deal/get over this, I guess, obsessiveness about it. -Hitek_Rednek-
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