BreArna

I would probably say so .. Because by saying ' be yourself' it means on the inside, ur emotians , the way you treat ppl etc.. Wearing a pushup bra is usually jus to help fill out clothes alittle better, and also with some people for extra confidence. So in my opinion they are different

Ask her out to the movies or something like that.. Try and get a feel for what she wants, like whether or not she seems ready to have a boyfriend again

From what i read it looks like he doesnt want to get back together, but not because he doesnt love and care for you.. it looks like he does love you and care about you but believes that breaking up is in both of your best interests, almost like he believes yous arent good together for some reason.. or good for eachother.

Sounds like she wants to have you around for her benifit, thats why she doesnt like the idea of you getting a girlfriend. She probably does just want to be friends, and she probably does love you..as a friend. It looks like she wants you to be waiting there for her always while she can go out and have bfs etc, and its working because she acts like she wants you again everytime she hears of you being with another girl. She has control over you because of your feelings for her, and she knows it and knows how to play it for all its worth

Hey, If nothing has happened to change things between you then its sorta hard to figure out whats happening. If yous are still joking around and acting all friendly and stuff still then that is a good sign. Maybe he is going through a stage, which i think everyone does at some point in a long term relationship, or like you said maybe he does want out but cant bring it up himself even when you ask him. Id suggest to sit down with him and ask him whats up, say he has been abit distant recently and listen to what he says and more importantly watch his body language and anything he might hint at. I doubt the wieght is an issue, guys see us awhole lot differently to the way we see ourselves and 20 pounds isnt alot at all. You could also try and tell him that you love him and are happy with the life you have with him but understand that peoples feelings change and just want him to be happy so if he needs to have a break then he needs to tell you , BUT you need to make sure he hears the bit about u loving him and not wanting things to change or else he might think you want out . Basically if he wants to leave the relationship and is finding it hard to tell you then you need to make it as easy as possible for him to do so or it will go on for a long time and you will just get hurt , but i think it might just be a stage hes going through. With the sex bit.. do you initiate it at all ? maybe thats an idea, and make it fun. Like lay in bed and hug and kiss and all that stuff and dont let him go any further until you say so, like get him all excited first, so its not just sex and its over. And with dinner and all , maybe you could ask him out on a date and plan it all, write him little love letters for him to find while hes brushing his teeth or something, call him at work just to say you miss him. It takes alot of work for people to make a relationship work and alot of understanding where the other person is coming from. Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 years ( since i was 15) and we have 3 kids under 5. Things arent always good in all areas but we havent had a fight for 6 years because we talk things through and always know whats going on in eachothers head, of course there are disagreements but we never let it turn into a argurment. I hope you can work out whats going on with him and it all turns out good for you both!

wow umm sounds difficult.. Maybe she did realise that she loves him more then she had previously knew.. or maybe she knew all alone, but the thought of meeting up with an ex from high school was to much fun and excitment for her to ignore, especially because her husband was away. Its really hard to tell whats going on with her because it could be alot of things. Hmm if i was you id probably stop answering her phone calls, or keep them short and stop the msging and seeing her because after alls said and done is she still a married women. If she comes to you after shes told her hubby that its over then thats cool i guess but until then no matter what she says she wants, she is outa bounds. I probably havent helped at all but those r my thuoghts newayz

You cant make someone love you . Sure you love her , but her actions are showing that she does not love you back. I know its hard but you have to realise that its over so you dont get hurt anymore and if oneday down the track things work out then thatd be cool but open your eyes mate and see this for what it really is. Looks like you did your best to provide for your family and are a good man but unfortnatly some people just arent grateful for that. Personally if iwas in your situation and the father ( in ur case mother ) took my kids away so far that it was hard for me to have regular visits with them, then id move closer.. no matter what i was leaving behind.. business etc. THose kids are what matters now, they need their dad close not far away and only talk by phone.

Sounds like she was playing you , sorry to say.. like she was going out having fun with you and all that so she wouldnt be alone then she got a man and was done with you. Id probably cut my losses if i were you, but thats hard when everything is so fresh for you. You shouldnt feel stupid tho cos its not your fault. Hope you feel better soon!

I think he should be allowed to go out with his friends for a drink or whatever, he needs time away from you.... and friends to socialize with or you will push him away. Whats the big deal in the first place that made u say no going out drinking without you ? did u not trust him from the start ?

Hmm its probably best to wait to be invited actually, cos that way atleast you will know if she really wants you to go, but if u basically invite yourself then she jus says yes to be nice to you.. Plus i find it alittle rude if people invite themselves

It was a bad question in the sense that it puts him on the spot.. Its a no win situation from where he stands.. if he said no then you would be upset and it would probably jus lead to more questions and argurments.. but he said yes to avoid the confrontation, he gave you the answer that he believes you want to hear.. If you feel like asking him a question regarding the relationship then dont ask it at the time you think of it , take a few days to think it over and if then you still want to ask then do it in an email that way it doesnt put him on the spot.. after you send the email leave it at that for the time being.. dont bring it up in conversation no matter how hard that is , because more then likely he wont bring it up either.. Give him say a week or two and casually say 'hey by any chance did u receive my email a week or two ago.. and then let him respond to that, dont question him on the answer he gives u.. just say okay or something simple like that. If alot of time goes by and he doesnt respond then maybe thats your answer, unless of course he has said he will reply when you asked him whether or not he received it.

I personally think you texted him and said Happy mothers day because you just wanted some contact with him, which doesnt make u weird, but seriously you dont say happy mothers day to a guy.. But anyway.. Umm with the thing about you two staying friends, he probably said yea lets be friends just ot make you happy, evne tho yous arent going out anymore he must still care about you or he would just cut contact all together but this way by sayin yea lets be friends hes keeping you happy without to much effort, even if truly he doesnt want to be friends.. Guys have this thing about trying to avoid confrontation with women they care about, so they will say anything to avoid a fight or making you feel bad. Anyway i hope it all works out for you