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    thank you, still trying to work out in my head how things can go from great to too busy in one day. I hate dating :(

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    He started getting distant and then told me he was too busy with work to pursue anything further

    We haven't talked in about 2 weeks and I hate it.

    -Should you reach out? No. Just walk away.

    You two haven't spoken in 2 weeks.. and he already said he was too busy to persue anything further - says enough.

    IF someone is truly into you, you'll know it.

    Move on

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    Looks like you are seeking any reason to reach out. It is clear that he does not want anything.

    How many times did you see one another?

    I wonder why you would want to settle for someone who told you from the beginning that he would not have time due to work? Are you seeking a relationship, or someone to see occasionally?

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    No, donít reach out.

    You not pushing to see him isnít the reason he called it off. If anyone needed to express interest and try to make it work again, that would be him. Youíre blaming yourself because it gives you some semblance of control over the situation and thinking that if you did something differently, youíd still be together. However, thatís not what happened here.

    This one is on him.

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    Never grovel nor pursue a man after he made it clear to you that he's too busy for you which is another way of telling you to get lost. He's not interested in you nor a relationship with you. I'm sorry.

    You deserve much better and you deserve to be treated with respect. Consider him history and move on.

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    Sorry to hear that. There's nothing to "try again".

    No one is too busy for what they're interested in. It's best to move on with other men you are talking to and meeting who show an interest in communication and dating.

    Unfortunately "busy" just means not interested.
    Originally Posted by sadgirl89
    Hey everyone! I was seeing/talking to someone for the last 3 months. He started getting distant and then told me he was too busy with work to pursue anything further. I always knew he was busy with work and never pushed to hangout, but now I'm worried that made him feel like I wasn't interested. Should I reach out to him and let him know I am into him and don't want things to end? We haven't talked in about 2 weeks and I hate it.

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    Originally Posted by sadgirl89
    thank you, still trying to work out in my head how things can go from great to too busy in one day. I hate dating :(
    Because they often don't - what is "great" is not always what is lasting. Great can be fleeting as a feeling especially in the beginning or a perception on only one side. Great that is lasting most often requires a much longer period of time over which you get to know each other and see each other through different seasons, holidays, illnesses, work deadlines, family and friend gatherings, tornado watches, vacations. Etc. I dated for decades. I hated a lot of it too. The goal of marriage and family was the only thing that made it worth it. There are no guarantees but you gotta be in it to win it. I'm sorry this one didn't work out.

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    Originally Posted by Batya33
    Because they often don't - what is "great" is not always what is lasting. Great can be fleeting as a feeling especially in the beginning or a perception on only one side. Great that is lasting most often requires a much longer period of time over which you get to know each other and see each other through different seasons, holidays, illnesses, work deadlines, family and friend gatherings, tornado watches, vacations. Etc. I dated for decades. I hated a lot of it too. The goal of marriage and family was the only thing that made it worth it. There are no guarantees but you gotta be in it to win it. I'm sorry this one didn't work out.
    thank you, you are right

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Sorry to hear that. There's nothing to "try again".

    No one is too busy for what they're interested in. It's best to move on with other men you are talking to and meeting who show an interest in communication and dating.

    Unfortunately "busy" just means not interested.
    thank you for your reply

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    Never grovel nor pursue a man after he made it clear to you that he's too busy for you which is another way of telling you to get lost. He's not interested in you nor a relationship with you. I'm sorry.

    You deserve much better and you deserve to be treated with respect. Consider him history and move on.
    thank you, I need to work on reading between the lines and not taking what people say at face value

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