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  1. Sounds like you two don't mesh properly nowadays & that was just the 'honeymoon phase'.... Maybe you be done now?
  2. I suggest you be careful here, cause in ways, you two kinda have a past. And often men & women do not mesh well when it comes to 'friendships'. One often 'expects' more than that. Maybe is best to chat on occasion as you do and expect nothing more. Your lives have changed and still is to this day.
  3. Nope, not cordial and no bond - except from your end, imo. He's a guy, in it for the fun, only! Remember that. ( he's a f*boy). Those ones do NOT get 'feelings'. And also remember this! He's an arrogant male. ( Not all men cheat and women are not H*res fps!). it was only over a 3 month time span. You will get over him.. and remember for next time re: FWB, they do not get emotionally invested, women do. ๐Ÿ˜‰ So, tread carefully.
  4. I agree... He IS odd ๐Ÿ˜• .. And to be talking marriage etc already is out of the norm! Sadly, sounds like she's been taken into a whirlwind romance but is blind to the fact, due to her rose coloured glasses ๐Ÿ˜• . I don't blame you for telling her what you think but if she wants to act this way, that's on her. Keep up with your own thoughts & being honest! Let's hope, in time she comes around and see's WHY you don't like him! Remain as you are.. distant. Could be HE is controlling her/ manipulating etc. Is pretty much up to her to realize this though.
  5. Ahh, well please try not to let that affect you. There are tons of men out there with hair issues. And if you look at some good actors even, they've gone bald and they still look good! ๐Ÿ™‚ . Maybe you can work on your 'self esteem', then if that's an issue, as often sadly, if we're negative, other people can pick up that vibe. You need to go into something feeling good! ๐Ÿ˜‰
  6. Okay, but you said he was over yesterday? So, let things simmer for another few days, since he had a 'gentle reminder' of being around his GF . Maybe, towards then end of the week, you reach out and say you two need to talk.... And that is when you ask him... Are you in this with me, or not? Do you feel we can work things out or not? ( But dont be aggressive - but you do want/need to know whats up with him.) He's either up for trying to work it out with you - where YOU communicate - and no head games and he TRIES harder as well. So either he's in this with you or he's out.
  7. Aww, the anxiety.. yeah ๐Ÿ˜• . Well, this is what you two NEED to do. Communicate. Especially if you want to make things work. Not run off when you're having problems. I suggest you do a read on a book I find interesting. I think even on Kindle. 'Men are from Mars, Women from Venus'. This explains a lot abt how men can 'function'. Eg. man cave, how they show their affection, communication issues, etc. So, how different they can be from us. But yes, communication IS necessary for a relationship to work. ๐Ÿ™‚ So maybe for now, let him have some time on his own. Let the dust settle ( for a few days). And then maybe reach out and ask that he come 'talk' to you. Just do not make yourself look desperate. Be respectful and let him talk and 'Listen'. He NEEDS to do the same. Listen... then reply. ( As you're not quite sure yet IF he's on the outs for good, right?). IF he cares enough , he may agree to try again. So, at that point, you know what you two need to work on.. Respect & Communication. Relationships take work. Good luck, keep us informed. ๐Ÿ™‚
  8. Sex is always the easy part, of course he'd go for that! But, yes, in order for this to work out at all, you two need to figure out the problems.... and fix them. Sadly though, if he has walked out, it shows he's quite frustrated ๐Ÿ˜• . How does he mean he is afraid to have a relationship with you? What's going on? make note: when a couple breaks up, things will NOT work out unless or until what has caused the BU is fixed - which takes time. And do not do this on again/ off again thing. If you're done, you're done. And, if you're broken up now at this time, it may be an idea to refuse him any physical interaction. He's either in or he;s out!
  9. Yup, I would have gone ahead & told him to 'figure it out'. By this time, HE should surely know where to put the foods . Unless, you are VERY specific with everything, to where he feels he may not be adequate enough for you and try to avoid making you upset - if ya get what I mean? And if this is how it's always been, could also be that he's too used to things this way now. So, just leaves it all up to you.... So, maybe just ease into your 'expectations' with him. Give him small things to do and in time ask for more.
  10. You don't want to hurt HIM? He's been hurting you all along ๐Ÿ˜ž . No realtionship should ever go w/out the intimacy. So, HE is the one being neglectful and selfish! And yeah, his 'obsession' has taken over your relationship. And you have already asked him to seek prof help and he hasn't. Then I'd be done, if I were you! Why waste your time & energy with someone like this? Sorry you are being hurt like this with someone who cannot seem to love you properly. ๐Ÿ˜•
  11. YOU should feel a lot more secure than this. IMO, he's quite judgemental & controlling and yes, I feel he IS putting his '2 cents' in a little too much, too often! ๐Ÿ˜• . You;re already beginning to feel overwhelmed with all of this & to the point you do avoid telling him things - so withholding information for the sake of preventing judgement or any kind of argument. Imagine if he was always right there.. beside you? This is one BIG Red Flag ... right? You're feeling you can't be you, right? Nope, I feel this is all going to end up failing, soon enough. Sorry ๐Ÿ˜•
  12. 8 months - time enough to tell if you're into that person or not. She has pulled away & admitted she's not all in this anymore. Then just stop contact. Don't let her lead you on anymore, She's being disrespectful. Be done now, work on accepting and move on.
  13. Umm.... Bates Motel vibes here!! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ As for HER allowing her child at that age to sleep in her bed- is ALL wrong! Sickening really ๐Ÿ˜• . I'd say to contact child services, but he is now 18, so I doubt that'd help matters here. Yup, thats awful.. and shows they BOTH have issues *sigh* . See what she has done to him? ๐Ÿ˜•
  14. Maybe these just aren't YOUR women. If you're there to 'comfort' them. That's not what they're looking for then. ( meaning, what YOU want & what they're looking for is different). Are you maybe missing the 'signs'? Eg. IF she is truly interested, you'll know it. Meaning she WILL reach out, just like you do. Is not all one sided, etc. Also, you will drain yourself if you just go from one woman to the next to whomever will give you some attention ๐Ÿ˜• , then yes, it's going to drag you down. Have you been in a long-term relationship over the yrs or married?
  15. How long together? It's normal on both ends to 'feel' some loss after a BU. But you can't really expect anything more from him. You two are no longer involved, so neither of you owe the other anything. Sounds like he was using you - weaning off you as he worked on accepting the relationship is over . When actually its usually best to be just be totally done! As I said, no expectations. Some ex's even agree to remain 'friends', and often that doesn't last or work out either, due to emotions still being present. Maybe it is time for YOU as well, to work on accepting things are done , part of the mourning process ( grieving). It's normal to be in denial, hurt for a while, go thru anger, etc , But don't expect an ex to comfort you. Lean on friends & family as you work thru it all.
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